How to Un-mute a Taurus?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by SagLib on Wednesday, November 21, 2018 and has 17 replies.
Ended my romantic relationship with a Taurus and decided to just be friends. We have not been communicating as much, as I have moved out of the country to start working overseas. Every once in awhile we send little check-in "hellos" and "how are yous" and leave it at that; all this via messaging. Recently I sensed that something was wrong with him and asked him if he was alright. He skirted around the issue at first and never answered. I made one final attempt to ask him if he was alright, by telling him that I could sense something was wrong and that I wanted to be a supportive friend. He then replies with "I am not alright". So I ask him what is wrong and he replies with "what I have to say needs to be said face to face". Now he knows I am not in the same country so its not like I can drive over. I call, he doesn't answer and he replies with "when I see you we can talk".

Now I have been sitting here for 2 days going what the fuck? He won't answer my calls or any questions surrounding what could be wrong with him. I don't get it. I don't know if I should be concerned or not. If I say I am not concerned that would be a lie, keep thinking the worst.... it's almost got me wanting to buy a plane ticket to go and see what's wrong with him.

Why won't he just say what is wrong without all this face to face nonsense? How do I get him to speak!?
did you do anything during the relationship that would anger him if he found out now?
Posted by jeane

did you do anything during the relationship that would anger him if he found out now?
No. And things also ended well.
he’s keeping hold of you. emotionally

if it was that important he would just say - but u might not give a fuck and that means real goodbye

*imo*
if it was bad, he could say it without face to face so maybe he totally realizes now how much he wants you
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Crazy part is, that was one of my thoughts. I was envisioning walking in the room. The lights cut out and it’s pitch black. Then my mouth gets muffled and I pass out. When I wake up... he is standing over me, passport in hand and rips it apart.

Then I am trapped!

I should have been a writer. 🙂
Posted by tctaap

if it was bad, he could say it without face to face so maybe he totally realizes now how much he wants you
Thanks for your response. He is quite vocal about things he doesn’t like. But this silence and withholding info is not what I am use to and I don’t get it.

Is there a way to get him to say it without me having to travel out there to see him?
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Posted by tctaap

if it was bad, he could say it without face to face so maybe he totally realizes now how much he wants you
Thanks for your response. He is quite vocal about things he doesn’t like. But this silence and withholding info is not what I am use to and I don’t get it.

Is there a way to get him to say it without me having to travel out there to see him?
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Probably not, but why do you feel you have to rush to him to find out. Giving it time may soften things a bit. He seems a tad overemotional right now. Just relax and focus on taking good care of yourself. If your relationship is real, time and distance will not change the way you feel about each other.

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Posted by SagLib

Posted by tctaap

if it was bad, he could say it without face to face so maybe he totally realizes now how much he wants you
Thanks for your response. He is quite vocal about things he doesn’t like. But this silence and withholding info is not what I am use to and I don’t get it.

Is there a way to get him to say it without me having to travel out there to see him?
Probably not, but why do you feel you have to rush to him to find out. Giving it time may soften things a bit. He seems a tad overemotional right now. Just relax and focus on taking good care of yourself. If your relationship is real, time and distance will not change the way you feel about each other.


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Thanks... this is sensible. I was just fearing that there is something really wrong, like a sickness or something traumatic, and it doesn’t help that he is not saying what it is.

I just hope that he is just being emotional and there is nothing wrong with him.
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Posted by tctaap

if it was bad, he could say it without face to face so maybe he totally realizes now how much he wants you
Thanks for your response. He is quite vocal about things he doesn’t like. But this silence and withholding info is not what I am use to and I don’t get it.

Is there a way to get him to say it without me having to travel out there to see him?
Probably not, but why do you feel you have to rush to him to find out. Giving it time may soften things a bit. He seems a tad overemotional right now. Just relax and focus on taking good care of yourself. If your relationship is real, time and distance will not change the way you feel about each other.


Thanks... this is sensible. I was just fearing that there is something really wrong, like a sickness or something traumatic, and it doesn’t help that he is not saying what it is.

I just hope that he is just being emotional and there is nothing wrong with him.
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I'm pretty sure it's emotional - IMO that is the most difficult thing for Taurus - which I must say that does get better the older one gets
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Crazy part is, that was one of my thoughts. I was envisioning walking in the room. The lights cut out and it’s pitch black. Then my mouth gets muffled and I pass out. When I wake up... he is standing over me, passport in hand and rips it apart.

Then I am trapped!

I should have been a writer. 🙂
Meh,

More like:

After you realized of what he needs the most, you blindfully decided to go back. You gathered the stuff for a short trip. a mobile, passport, essentially needed clothes in case it'll get worse, make up and most but least important is that a jewel box, your ex gave it to you. You remembered that it was in a central park at the afternoon. It was warm breezy day that made you snooze, after you leaned on your bf shoulder, suddenly he was busy grabbing inside his jeans pocket as you annoyingly went away to wonder what he's doing. He pulled out a box and open up that it contains a butterfly necklace with green, pink and white jewels inside that wings. It was beautiful and never felt the joyful through my heart as he put his necklace around your neck and gave you a kiss on your cheek.

After you returned to the real world, you grab that box too since you forgot to give it back as he's an ex for good darn reason. You have all the stuff inside a suitcase and went out of your house. Grabbed a cab to go to the airport, it was short ride anyway, paid it off and went in the airport. While after you got the tickets and hadled the suitcase for going back to the place where he lives, you checked on your phone and reread his message. Your gut feeling has been feeling bothered after you recieved his message. But there was no going back, as you played your mind for possibly death going on but you digress.

The airplane was landed, you grabbed my stuff and went out to find the cab and straight to his house. No matter how poor you'll get for getting all the exspensive travel transport, at least you'll arrived at in front of his door. Somehow it feels eery, but I digress as I ring his doorbell and not for long he opened it and he was suprised but inmediately went neutral.

"I never though you'll came" he smirked.

He let for you to come inside his house and once you are inside his house. Suddenly you felt a heavy blunt back on your head as you went black out.

Your eyes went open slowly and soon realized in horror of where you at. You where tied up in naked at the room full of torture of medival and once you realized after looking carefully a pink combined with red stuff over it that its a bdsm machine, but why red covered? Unfortunately you can't focus the thoughs as the fragrance smells old, mold but disgustingly rotten like an expired meat made you distracted. You turned around to wonder where that smell came from. What you noticed in full horror is that theres pile of corpse at rlthe corner. You turned in around full as you where panicked mode but breaths in as he was already there, smiling in insanity at you while his knife on his left side, wearing his bdsm outfit (even his dick are out in hard).

It's totally a trapped.


Now wheres my writing title.
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Oh my!!!! What the?!?!? Oh shit.... I will give you the title. That’s some dark ass shit! Wow ... hahahahaha
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Crazy part is, that was one of my thoughts. I was envisioning walking in the room. The lights cut out and it’s pitch black. Then my mouth gets muffled and I pass out. When I wake up... he is standing over me, passport in hand and rips it apart.

Then I am trapped!

I should have been a writer. 🙂
Meh,

More like:

After you realized of what he needs the most, you blindfully decided to go back. You gathered the stuff for a short trip. a mobile, passport, essentially needed clothes in case it'll get worse, make up and most but least important is that a jewel box, your ex gave it to you. You remembered that it was in a central park at the afternoon. It was warm breezy day that made you snooze, after you leaned on your bf shoulder, suddenly he was busy grabbing inside his jeans pocket as you annoyingly went away to wonder what he's doing. He pulled out a box and open up that it contains a butterfly necklace with green, pink and white jewels inside that wings. It was beautiful and never felt the joyful through my heart as he put his necklace around your neck and gave you a kiss on your cheek.

After you returned to the real world, you grab that box too since you forgot to give it back as he's an ex for good darn reason. You have all the stuff inside a suitcase and went out of your house. Grabbed a cab to go to the airport, it was short ride anyway, paid it off and went in the airport. While after you got the tickets and hadled the suitcase for going back to the place where he lives, you checked on your phone and reread his message. Your gut feeling has been feeling bothered after you recieved his message. But there was no going back, as you played your mind for possibly death going on but you digress.

The airplane was landed, you grabbed your stuff and went out to find the cab and straight to his house. No matter how poor you'll get for getting all the exspensive travel transport, at least you'll arrived at in front of his door. Somehow it feels eery, but I digress as I ring his doorbell and not for long he opened it and he was suprised but inmediately went neutral.

"I never though you'll came" he smirked.

He let for you to come inside his house and once you are inside his house. Suddenly you felt a heavy blunt back on your head as you went black out.

Your eyes went open slowly and soon realized in horror of where you at. You where tied up in naked at the room full of torture of medival and once you realized after looking carefully a pink combined with red stuff over it that its a bdsm machine, but why red covered? Unfortunately you can't focus the thoughs as the fragrance smells old, mold but disgustingly rotten like an expired meat made you distracted. You turned around to wonder where that smell came from. What you noticed in full horror is that theres pile of corpse at rlthe corner. You turned in around full as you where panicked mode but breaths in as he was already there, smiling in insanity at you while his knife on his left side, wearing his bdsm outfit (even his dick are out in hard).

It's totally a trapped.


Now wheres my writing title.
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inspired by shawn grate?
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Probably still wants to be with you and feels like he should tell you to your face.

Otherwise some personal emotional issue. It’s hard for us to open up and ask for help.
Thanks ... appreciate the response.
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Posted by SagLib

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Probably still wants to be with you and feels like he should tell you to your face.

Otherwise some personal emotional issue. It’s hard for us to open up and ask for help.
Thanks ... appreciate the response.
I think you could call him out on it too. Tell him you’re really worried and ask if there is anything you can do. Perhaps offer Skype or FaceTime?
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That was actually the first thing I tried. He remained unresponsive. That’s why I started to get worried. And when I would call he wouldn’t pick up. Few days passed and he replied with “wasn’t in the mood”.

I will give it a bit of time and remain open.

Thanks again. It’s nice to get a Taurus response to a Taurus problem.... beginning to understand how different we are. I am vocal about everything so it’s hard for me to understand when someone goes silent or holds back.

Thanks!
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Crazy part is, that was one of my thoughts. I was envisioning walking in the room. The lights cut out and it’s pitch black. Then my mouth gets muffled and I pass out. When I wake up... he is standing over me, passport in hand and rips it apart.

Then I am trapped!

I should have been a writer. 🙂
Meh,

More like:

After you realized of what he needs the most, you blindfully decided to go back. You gathered the stuff for a short trip. a mobile, passport, essentially needed clothes in case it'll get worse, make up and most but least important is that a jewel box, your ex gave it to you. You remembered that it was in a central park at the afternoon. It was warm breezy day that made you snooze, after you leaned on your bf shoulder, suddenly he was busy grabbing inside his jeans pocket as you annoyingly went away to wonder what he's doing. He pulled out a box and open up that it contains a butterfly necklace with green, pink and white jewels inside that wings. It was beautiful and never felt the joyful through my heart as he put his necklace around your neck and gave you a kiss on your cheek.

After you returned to the real world, you grab that box too since you forgot to give it back as he's an ex for good darn reason. You have all the stuff inside a suitcase and went out of your house. Grabbed a cab to go to the airport, it was short ride anyway, paid it off and went in the airport. While after you got the tickets and hadled the suitcase for going back to the place where he lives, you checked on your phone and reread his message. Your gut feeling has been feeling bothered after you recieved his message. But there was no going back, as you played your mind for possibly death going on but you digress.

The airplane was landed, you grabbed your stuff and went out to find the cab and straight to his house. No matter how poor you'll get for getting all the exspensive travel transport, at least you'll arrived at in front of his door. Somehow it feels eery, but I digress as I ring his doorbell and not for long he opened it and he was suprised but inmediately went neutral.

"I never though you'll came" he smirked.

He let for you to come inside his house and once you are inside his house. Suddenly you felt a heavy blunt back on your head as you went black out.

Your eyes went open slowly and soon realized in horror of where you at. You where tied up in naked at the room full of torture of medival and once you realized after looking carefully a pink combined with red stuff over it that its a bdsm machine, but why red covered? Unfortunately you can't focus the thoughs as the fragrance smells old, mold but disgustingly rotten like an expired meat made you distracted. You turned around to wonder where that smell came from. What you noticed in full horror is that theres pile of corpse at rlthe corner. You turned in around full as you where panicked mode but breaths in as he was already there, smiling in insanity at you while his knife on his left side, wearing his bdsm outfit (even his dick are out in hard).

It's totally a trapped.


Now wheres my writing title.


inspired by shawn grate?
I don't know who that is, but I feel inspired to write it down.
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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Posted by SagLib

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Posted by SagLib

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Probably still wants to be with you and feels like he should tell you to your face.

Otherwise some personal emotional issue. It’s hard for us to open up and ask for help.
Thanks ... appreciate the response.
I think you could call him out on it too. Tell him you’re really worried and ask if there is anything you can do. Perhaps offer Skype or FaceTime?
That was actually the first thing I tried. He remained unresponsive. That’s why I started to get worried. And when I would call he wouldn’t pick up. Few days passed and he replied with “wasn’t in the mood”.

I will give it a bit of time and remain open.

Thanks again. It’s nice to get a Taurus response to a Taurus problem.... beginning to understand how different we are. I am vocal about everything so it’s hard for me to understand when someone goes silent or holds back.

Thanks!
Yeah, it’s not necessarily bad when we go silent. Most likely we will be thinking something through before acting or speaking. Different communication style s as you say.
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So true. I can be silent but meanwhile thinking and about what I want to say. I need to use the correct words so I don't "regret" it. I sometimes even write something in an empty notepad on phone before sending my text message just to be sure lol.

Im a Taurus too and AnotherTaurusGuyReturns describes exactly me.
I cut my Taurus bd off he was pleading and begging me not to. I only communicate with him bout our daughter nothing else really to be said on my side.