I get along with Taurus men I have never really had a strong relationship with a Taurus female. No Reasons. I have a new boss she is a Taurus how do I win her over. The Do's and Don'ts . Honestly Please. Oh yeah there is this one female Taurus but she only calls to complain to me how screwed up her life is. Any how Help!
I am a Libra? Please tell me that this is not going to be trouble. I am a balanced Libra and I have great emotional intelligence, if that helps. Keep in mind I am trying to win her over not kiss up.
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May 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 4843 · Topics: 30
well - libras like to be social and they think everything should be fair....the trouble spots I would look out for if I were you would be, being a little TOO social - i.e. slacking off....and not learning the difference between work and play....the biggest problemI've always had as a manager is that people thin that if you are their friend you should let them get away with ANYTHING....there have been times when I've had to put my foot down and tell someone they weren't getting their job done - because we were friends they were offended because they thought I would keep letting it slide - then after getting the hard part over with and just being friendly as usual they have an attitude like "what do you think you're doing ? we're not friends anymore - you just told me I wasn't getting ym job done"there is a balance....work is work and play is play and if you can keep the two seperate your boss will appreciate it.
So do me a favor and dig deep. I have the work ethics down pack, but sometimes I watch her go through mood swings is this common?
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May 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 4843 · Topics: 30
what kind of mood swings? first of all our emotions tend to register physically - if we're in a bad mod no matter how hard we try to smile we can't hide it. Second as I said there is a difference between work and play - what some view as mood swings is imply us shifting gears - I may get into an argument with someone about something to do with work - but that doesn't mean I'm mad at them personally or that I'm going to take it out on everyone around me - I may be stressed about a particular work issue but enjoy nice a chat with a co-worker, and then when I'm back to dealing with that issue feel stressed again. Is any of that the sort of thing you are talking about ?
Pretty, much. I can say that she has not directed any of those mood swings with me personally, I do however hear her sometimes excusing herself for distance throughout the day. Which is no problem to me I somewhat like it like that? I actually like her as a boss so far, I am curious because I had such a bad experience at my past place of employment. I have recently started employment there, I'm also handling an intern on the side, and I have a date in the near future that I will have to leave a bit early. What do you think will she be ok with that? I am a great worker always on time barely take full lunch.
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May 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 4843 · Topics: 30
depends on how early and how long you've been at the job. if say you've been there at least a month and ask if you can leave an hour early for a personal obligation, odds are she won't pry and she'll be okay with it. Thought personally I would never dream of leaving early for a date - unless it was a special occasion like a birthday or anniversary - we can be very understadning of other people's personal needs and situations - but if she doesn't ask there is no need to explain that you have to leave early for a date - just tell her you have a personal matter to attend to - saying you need to leave for a date may give her the wrong idea - that being that you don't take work seriously and can't seperate your work life from your personal life - even if she realizes it's for a date - at the least she will appreciate you being professional by not stating the fact.
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May 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 4843 · Topics: 30
also - what part of jersey are you from ? and did you grow up there?
Oh I apologize, when I said date I was not talking about a personal date. I have a date with a conference with my Intern that I have committed myself to prior to accepting this position. It is strictly business not a date with a person. I have to attend a conference. I'm from NY but I reside in Bloomfield, NJ
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May 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 4843 · Topics: 30
well then I don't see a problem if it is work related. [yes I understand that it is not related to the job we are talking about - but I simply mean that it is related in any way to some form of work obligation]
I don't know which part of jersey bloomfield is in...if it is in the north you shouldn't have a problem - but if it closer to the south - I will warn you that we southerner's [south jersey that is] have an accent - not like you would think, it's very subtle anbd can make us sound cold and candascending to people not from the area - so don't take it personally if that is the case.
I've been in california for seven years now and am starting to notice the difference, for a long time I couldn't understand why people got offended by the harmless things I said and they would always tell me it wasn't WHAT I said, but the WAY I said it. so that may be something to watch out for as well if you're not used to the accent.
Yes it is North Jersey 25 min from NY. I just want to please her and I know this sounds like a duck up but this women is given me a huge break in my career change.
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May 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 4843 · Topics: 30
hey, wanting to get along with your boss is never a bad thing - and since you have to work under her it's good to know how she likes things done.
You are amazing! I appreciate your honesty I will keep you posted on this Taurus
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May 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 4843 · Topics: 30
amazing? wow... now I feel special... we can't have that !
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it's ironic you should say that.....it was a nickname that I had for my ex [pisces] - I neede a screen name so I started using angelfish [this was a while back] and since it is too common a word and I don't like adding numbers at the end - I put x's around it so it's not likely to be used already......
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May 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 4843 · Topics: 30
see merc? we taurus are not all as selfish and narcississtic as people think....
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that is why virgos get a bad rap......
considering I AM a tuarus female AND a boss don't you think that my advice might be better suited to this situation ? no one is telling her to try to scheme.... I am simply telling her how her boss would appreciate her working.... be professional, and don't take things too personally..... that's not ass kissing or being fake or whatever.....
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May 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 4843 · Topics: 30
the way you say win her over you make it sound as though she is tryinf to trick her boss into liking her.... I don't think that is how she intended it.....
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May 25, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 4843 · Topics: 30
not a single thing wrong with that
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"A few of my coworkers couldn't understand why our friend/new boss was harsh with the orders"
ha ha....rule with a strong mind - love with a soft heart ;0)