How will Taurus react?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by libra21 on Wednesday, December 14, 2011 and has 27 replies.
Thinking about telling the bull that I want to start dating other people. We're 10 months in and I still don't know how to define it. Yeah, he says he loves me. He's entrusted me to handle personal business. He brings his daughter around me, and he's comforatable with me, but we're not having sex regularly and I'm over it. I think he's become way too comfortable and taking me for granted.
Any thoughts? Feedback will be greatly appreciated.
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If hes anything like my Taurus mom, or the ex I dated briefly, he will be hurt, pretend he isnt, and cut you OFF. He could be dying inside but you will never know it. So think twice.

If you're just looking for a reaction that is not the way to go; you could lose him permanently. But if you're over it, then who cares how he will react? Which leads me to believe you just want to scare him in to stepping up. If thats the case why not just be a grown up and tell him straight up that hes taking you for granted and you are seriously considering ending the relationship.
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Alright, my Libra Sister. Dont let lack of sex fool you. Really, sex in physical form is not what we are generally all about, we are usually more into the intellectual side. Also, remember..that we feel that we are giving a lot. Nobody really asked us to do that, we smile and accept. He is comfortable with you..then you must get comfortable with him. I am finding that there is a long probationary period with the bulls. Let if flow. Take a cold shower..get a sex toy. He is not going to tell you all the things that you long to hear. He is not going to show you what you want to see. You have to back off and analyze his actions to see his care. Trust me. Going through this with a friend or two now. You want more sex...bring it. He may be waiting and trying to match your rhythm as they usually are too much for the average woman when they decide to be. So, dont ask for more than you really can handle in all areas of this relationship. Go slow. Then slow some more. These bulls love watching freaking paint dry.
JMHO
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Thanks ladies! No, he's not married. I actually feel like he's moved me into that "wife" position. Taking care of things while he's away on business, but no loving when he's here. I know he's preoccupied with finances and that seems to play a big part in the lives of bulls (from what I've read). He is sweet, and I have spoken to him on a few occasions - He's accomodating for a while, then back to the same routine.
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Better be prepared for it to REALLY be over,once you tell him that.
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It's just so frustrating. I've tried breaking it off on 3 different occasions. It's as if what I say goes in one ear and out the other. I do care for him immensely, but I'm not sure if I'll be able to stand his test of time.
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Posted by libra21
He's accomodating for a while, then back to the same routine.


I know that feeling. My ex hubby was the same way. Hed step up for a few weeks then slide right back into old habits. Fuck that.
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Posted by intellectualbrat
Posted by libra21
It's just so frustrating. I've tried breaking it off on 3 different occasions. It's as if what I say goes in one ear and out the other. I do care for him immensely, but I'm not sure if I'll be able to stand his test of time.



Yes you must be ready for the test of time and the test of fire...I was in your situation at one point..I left after 3 yrs...Its like they get comfortable and they want you to just be there for them...I will never be able to say WHAT IF...I tried..till this day he calls me SPOILED just because he says I want things when I want them..Hell I waited 3 yrs!!!
But yet I don't learn.. Taurus are not an easy task..I don't consider myself easy but males are even more difficult. Follow your heart.
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Yes! He's very selfish with me - doesn't want me mingling (so to speak) with other people. Hell... he doesn't want me playing "Words with Friends" with anyone but him! Lol.
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I've had this same problem with my taurus for a while...wanted to leave...he came to my house and wanted me back, said he would change and just went back to the same way and then i wanted to leave again and I said our sexual style s are different but he kept telling me he "does" want it all the time yet would never really show it. Now he's gotten better, always waiting for me in bed...naked & hard ^_^. sometimes i don't notice & when i do we both start laughing like crazy. He is such a friggin goof! but it took forever for him to be more sexual with him like he was in the first 2 months we were intimate.
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try talking to him about it first before u decide to leave...they respond very well to people who are calm & sweet smile
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Posted by delishhh
try talking to him about it first before u decide to leave...they respond very well to people who are calm & sweet smile



This....
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Will do. Can't help but think though, if he's not screwing me, then who is he screwing?
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Night before last I told him "make me a priority and then we'll talk". We'll see how long me being a "priority" will last.
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Posted by libra21
Thinking about telling the bull that I want to start dating other people. We're 10 months in and I still don't know how to define it. Yeah, he says he loves me. He's entrusted me to handle personal business. He brings his daughter around me, and he's comforatable with me, but we're not having sex regularly and I'm over it. I think he's become way too comfortable and taking me for granted.
Any thoughts? Feedback will be greatly appreciated.



if he's a mature bull, he will miss you but will be thankful that you're gone.
if you're not 100% in it, BE OUT!
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If you should know the basics of Taurus is that they move slow really really slow like a slug in the mud. But they do this to make sure that they are are willing to get into whatever it is 200% . The fact that he involves you in his life and kids is a huge sign he wants to keep you.
Taurus sex drive depends on what is happening around them. Good times= go bad times= stop. If you rush a Taurus to bed it will most likely not be the best experience for you. I realize that you want to get into bed and for some people speed really matters. But if it is only that which is an issue ask yourself is the wait really that bad? Also if you want to test thing as others have said do it just not with a Taurus.
Ask yourself : Would you run a puppy over with a car? Probably not. A Taurus is like a puppy.
Did you try and initiate a night between the sheets with him? Cause if you haven't try it that may be the key?
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Posted by emeralddream
If you should know the basics of Taurus is that they move slow really really slow like a slug in the mud. But they do this to make sure that they are are willing to get into whatever it is 200% . The fact that he involves you in his life and kids is a huge sign he wants to keep you.
Taurus sex drive depends on what is happening around them. Good times= go bad times= stop. If you rush a Taurus to bed it will most likely not be the best experience for you. I realize that you want to get into bed and for some people speed really matters. But if it is only that which is an issue ask yourself is the wait really that bad? Also if you want to test thing as others have said do it just not with a Taurus.



Wise words you've got there... Seems you know a bit about Taur's.. That said, I wouldn't worry to much about helping this one out...
I've got a really strong feeling she's already wrote him off......
She's just sticking around long enough to make sure it's his fault.... haha.. Winking
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I've got a really strong feeling she's already wrote him off......
She's just sticking around long enough to make sure it's his fault.... haha.. Winking
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Posted by TaurGuy


Wise words you've got there... Seems you know a bit about Taur's.. That said, I wouldn't worry to much about helping this one out...
I've got a really strong feeling she's already wrote him off......
She's just sticking around long enough to make sure it's his fault.... haha.. Winking


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If the last is true that's the truth that is just horrible!
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No, it's not true... When I'm tired (really tired) he'll be completely written off and I won't need to consult these boards.
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Posted by emeralddream
If you should know the basics of Taurus is that they move slow really really slow like a slug in the mud. But they do this to make sure that they are are willing to get into whatever it is 200% . The fact that he involves you in his life and kids is a huge sign he wants to keep you.
Taurus sex drive depends on what is happening around them. Good times= go bad times= stop. If you rush a Taurus to bed it will most likely not be the best experience for you. I realize that you want to get into bed and for some people speed really matters. But if it is only that which is an issue ask yourself is the wait really that bad? Also if you want to test thing as others have said do it just not with a Taurus.
Ask yourself : Would you run a puppy over with a car? Probably not. A Taurus is like a puppy.
Did you try and initiate a night between the sheets with him? Cause if you haven't try it that may be the key?


Rush Taurus to bed?? It's been 10 months.... My GOD!!!!
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Time is different for people. For some 10 months is a minute for others 10 months is a millennium. Just depends on the person. There is no right or wrong here. If it doesn't work for you then you should change your life, as you are doing libra21.
But never under any circumstance play with people's minds or feelings. I am not pointing fingers or assuming, just a general comment.
As for me I completely understand the no rush thing. Sometimes when you hang out, and then get to that point, the point of knowing the person really well and them you, understanding the ins and outs, and being as comfortable with them as you are with yourself, then when you get to that point your head will explode with some fireworks oozing out of every pore of your body. Then you will say Hella worth the wait. If you can mutter something at that point that is. Tongue
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Posted by libra21

Rush Taurus to bed?? It's been 10 months.... My GOD!!!!


Looks like a complete opposite to me? Taurus are crazy about Sex. I think he got bored with you?
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BTW Libra Girl,
You may want to read this.
http://aphroditeastrology.com/2007/09/experiences-with-taurian-male.html
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Thanks for the site, I read it a while back. Relevent history here is that he is a recovering alcoholic with a boatload of problems as a result. Guess that was the "dark side" as described in the article. Fear of failure seems to be his great preoccupation as both his parents are professionals and very well off. It's as if he's a five year old child who tries to gain his mother's approval to no avail. I think that I represent stability to him, hell at times I feel like his mother! It's sad because I don't think he'll ever be with anyone (grown woman) who'll put up with his crap.

c0mrade - You said that he probably got bored... Well, I was bored 5 months ago. Not all related to the no sex thing, just him period.
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If you tell him you want to see other people, you'll lose him. The fact that you're thinking about seeing other people reflects your unhappiness in the relationship, so just move on. If you were bored 5 months ago not related to the sex, then why are you still around? He sounds like he does care for you and wants it to work. As a Taurus woman, I personally have a strong sex drive when I'm in a relationship. You mentioned he's a recovering alcoholic and problems resulted from it, maybe he has a problem with keeping it hard and it's effecting his desire to perform. It's a serious problem for men who drink or have drank excessively. Wish you the best.
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Posted by thehealer
Posted by libra21
Thinking about telling the bull that I want to start dating other people. We're 10 months in and I still don't know how to define it. Yeah, he says he loves me. He's entrusted me to handle personal business. He brings his daughter around me, and he's comforatable with me, but we're not having sex regularly and I'm over it. I think he's become way too comfortable and taking me for granted.
Any thoughts? Feedback will be greatly appreciated.


what you want to do is called abuse and sexual harassment.
it's wrong to tell people you want to date other men, you are a fucking twat, that's so darn wrong u are fucked up crazy bitch!
abusive cunt slut of a whure.
if you are over it then just fuck off, don't get abusive. he could take action against you for that, you can be sued and end up in jail for emotional and sexual abuse. just leave without saying a word. shut that hole for once in your life, stop being a dick.

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Please spare me the aberrant rant. You are in no way a "healer" quite the opposite as you've dipicted so obstreperously.
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Posted by thehealer
@libra: JUST FUCK SLUT GET A FUCKING LIFE GROW UP AND STOP RUINING PEOPLES LIVES BECAUSE OF YOU NEVER ARE HAPPY WITH UR OWN FUCKING SELF. UR SO FUCKED UP U NEED TO STOP ACTING LIKE AN IDIOT!!! LEAVE THE GUY ALONE, U CRAZY BITCH STOP HARASSING PEOPLE LIKE THAT, FUCK ANOTHER BASTARD LIKE URSELF. I HATE YOU AND HATE ALL ABUSIVE LIBRAS.


Get over your pathetic self! If a libra hurt you in the past you've clearly let it affect you in a major way. Get counseling moron... You need it!!!
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