I can't stop crying! PLZ help?
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Dreamari on Saturday, November 23, 2013 and has 9 replies.
I(pisces) and my boyfriend(taurus) have been together for almost 4 months now and our relationship has been great so far. He used to be my best guy friend up until he cinfessed to me. I helped him through a lot the past year, I was always there when he wanted a shoulder to lean on and I loved him silently, while he kept loving his ex. When he got over her, as he told me he reallized ge loved me all along and that he was just stuck in the memory of his last relationship. Now he tells me that what he felt for his ex was nothing but childish feelings and that I was the one who thaught him what love trully means and that he has never felt something so strong for any of his exes. Anyway he texted me an hour or so ago and told me that he is going out for the night and that he will text me once he returns to his house. I asked him if he was going to hang out with his buddies and said no, someone else, and that he will tell me later. I believe he is going to meet his ex as he was acting kind of weird since the afternoon. His cousin, who comes to our town every weekend or so is best friends with his ex and she sometimes comes too, that's why I think he is going to meet her. I can't stop crying, thinking that he might reallize he still has feelings for her and that I was just someone he tried to forget her with. I don't know what to do. We are 18 by the way. plz give me some advice...
Responded to you on the Pisces board, but oh man....I cannot agree with IS here. You should've told him you'd like to know where he was going and who he was going there with, and that you were feeling insecure. "I will tell you later"??? If you gave him that answer, in a similar circumstance where there had been a lot of drama between you and an ex, that he had been with you through, he would be really upset. He chose to conceal who he was hanging with for whatever reason, even if he was honest about doing it. I'd be pissed.
I didn't freak out while talking to him before he went out. I just said ok let's talk whenever you return, no problem with me. Then the ex idea came to my mind cause we trully went trhough a lot of drama over it during the past year. He was crying for the relationship he ended with her and I was silently crying because of how much it pained me to love him and not be anle to tell him. About a month before we got together ion summer his ex asked for them to become a couple once more but he denied. I just... don't know...
Despite being a pisces (and emotional one) I always have control of my feelings, especially in front of others (I've got a Taurus horoscope). That's why I never cause drama in our relationship and when I don't feel right I always tell him and we talk it through, no drama, no shouts, not anything. Idon't know what got to me tonight. I'm just sad and quiet insecure, yes, but only because he was with his ex for two and a half years and it was so hard to get over her on the first place.
scorched, I agree on not over-reacting and trying to control the paranoia. But if that's her nature bc she's a Pisces (I've never dated one), they have to be on the same page about that. Some people just cannot handle being left to ruminate over some mysterious meet-up all night. I know I couldn't. I know people who can't handle it when you text them with "hey...we need to talk". They freak out and start getting paranoid. When I know they are like that, I just don't do stuff like that to them. This girl is up crying all night over this; they at least need to establish that she can't handle vague/mysterious communication.
It seems "who are you hanging with?" is just such a simple straightforward question, that it shouldn't (under normal conversations) require a conversation later. That it needs one, would make me suspicious. I'd think they were concealing it because they knew I'd have a problem with it.
It seems "who are you hanging with?" is just such a simple straightforward question, that it shouldn't (under normal conversations) require a conversation later. That it needs one, would make me suspicious. I'd think they were concealing it because they knew I'd have a problem with it.
Posted by Dreamari
I(pisces) and my boyfriend(taurus) have been together for almost 4 months now and our relationship has been great so far. He used to be my best guy friend up until he cinfessed to me. I helped him through a lot the past year, I was always there when he wanted a shoulder to lean on and I loved him silently, while he kept loving his ex. When he got over her, as he told me he reallized ge loved me all along and that he was just stuck in the memory of his last relationship. Now he tells me that what he felt for his ex was nothing but childish feelings and that I was the one who thaught him what love trully means and that he has never felt something so strong for any of his exes. Anyway he texted me an hour or so ago and told me that he is going out for the night and that he will text me once he returns to his house. I asked him if he was going to hang out with his buddies and said no, someone else, and that he will tell me later. I believe he is going to meet his ex as he was acting kind of weird since the afternoon. His cousin, who comes to our town every weekend or so is best friends with his ex and she sometimes comes too, that's why I think he is going to meet her. I can't stop crying, thinking that he might reallize he still has feelings for her and that I was just someone he tried to forget her with. I don't know what to do. We are 18 by the way. plz give me some advice...
Trust is important. Trust what he says on face value. He told you he was going out, that he would tell you when he's home and he would tell you who he was with later. Trust that he had a reason for saying that. Re-read the things you wrote that he said to you. Like "he's never felt something so strong for any of his exes." Pretty powerful stuff. Try not to focus on minor details, but instead the big important ones. Try not to be insecure. Try not to write an entire movie script of what he is doing in your head. Instead imagine that he's probably wondering what your doing and who you're with...and if your home...shouldn't be...go out, distract yourself from these thoughts.
wow this is soooo helping me!!! We def over think everything. I always have to remind myself that he wouldn't say it if he didnt mean it...just con't to be patient thats the key! He loves confidence ( its sexy) but not to feel interegated by 1000 questions lol!!
My best advice is to CHILL and BE CONFIDENT. You're over reacting. And if he goes back to his ex that's his loss. Let him go.
Dreamari,
Stand strong. Bull are confuse at this time. Give space.
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