I fucked up

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by b3kk_r on Monday, March 21, 2016 and has 42 replies.
I asked to see my Capricorns phone and shit got real.
I'm more curious as to why? It doesn't make it right, but it also makes me think he's hiding something if shit hit the fan..
I didn't find anything but he really didn't let me see it, he was offended AF but he looked like he was deleting shit while.. I told him to take me the fuck home.
It all started when I was looking for my phone while he was driving, this motherfucker pulls out his and I'm thinking he's bout to call Mine but no. So I'm like are you calling my phone he's like oh you want me to call it? Takes like 5 min... So I was like lemme see.... That was so not happening... So I was like why are you acting like that with your phone, he got real defensive, I'm like if you didn't have anything to hide you wouldn't be acting like this. So I got mad & said take me the fuck home. He looked like he was going to give a speech but I'm not hearing it, I got out of the car and left. I don't have the patience y'all, then he texted me and said and I quote "I can't believe you think I'm playing you" I replied "your not open enough". I haven't heard of him since 4.
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That right there is me, I'm done.
Posted by sagiluv
During s conversation I asked my hair dresser what are the rules for dating these days
I share that I hear it's tough to find loyal people, she said her requirement is to switch phones for a day... I thought to myself ..... no one would ever agree to that!!! Lol

I hear that you find out a lot through someone's phone! ðŸ˜ðŸ“±

That's a great idea! Lmao
You're a smart girl.

Capricorn can be really misogynistic cheaters. Completely unapologetic. He might not necessarily be cheating but his inability to show you his phone is no bueno.

Massive red flag.
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bam, there you go.
what is that, like sex with chickens or something?

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Posted by idk
maybe he's embarrassed about all the kinky shit he's got on it.

Lol but if anything I want to know the kink so I can fufill his fantasies. you want to pick me up on the corner and act like you don't know me I'm down, as long as I'm the only bitch. No chickens.
Ahh. I agree he could be deleting his history hehe Big Grin


You sound like my mom...what's your sign? smile


On topic.. IDK.
Posted by b3kk_r
I didn't find anything but he really didn't let me see it, he was offended AF but he looked like he was deleting shit while.. I told him to take me the fuck home.

I would never ask my bf for his phone, nor would i sneek into his messages.
I get that he was offended, it's like you don't trust him enough.
No pigs, dogs, horses, kangaroos, cats, hedgehogs, hamsters, sheeps, ponies, especially no ants... Haha jk but for real though, he just texted me and said "you will never know how much I love you and I know that now"

Leave that bullshit elsewhere because I'm not stupid!

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I didn't find anything but he really didn't let me see it, he was offended AF but he looked like he was deleting shit while.. I told him to take me the fuck home.

I would never ask my bf for his phone, nor would i sneek into his messages.
I get that he was offended, it's like you don't trust him enough.
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It all started when I needed his phone to call my phone, he was like NOOOOOoooooooooooooooooo! That wouldn't ring a bell? I won't check your shit unless I absolutely think you are hiding something.
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Ahh. I agree he could be deleting his history hehe Big Grin


You sound like my mom...what's your sign? smile


On topic.. IDK.

I'm a Taurus
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Posted by ShadowAbsorber
i had the exact situation years ago.

Same behavior.

And he literally straight up refused to give me his phone. I said the same shit "take me the F home."

And you know what he did?

He started deleting shit on his phone before he gave it to me.

like.... how obvious is that??

He made up a bunch of lies and it turned into a big scene.

He told me what he deleted was a friend's text.

So I made him drive me to that friend's place to confirm that text was sent.

While we were driving, he was so nervous, he farted.

When we got there, we asked his friend the question, and his friend was like, "No buddy, I never sent you that text."

Turns out he was cheating on me with 2 girls.

He had Venus in Sagittarius, Mars in Libra, Moon in Aries. lol

To this day, that pain gives me a stomachache.

I'm sorry about that situation.

But I laughed when you said he farted lol
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I did too, surprised me.
Hahaha.
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Posted by ShadowAbsorber
i had the exact situation years ago.

Same behavior.

And he literally straight up refused to give me his phone. I said the same shit "take me the F home."

And you know what he did?

He started deleting shit on his phone before he gave it to me.

like.... how obvious is that??

He made up a bunch of lies and it turned into a big scene.

He told me what he deleted was a friend's text.

So I made him drive me to that friend's place to confirm that text was sent.

While we were driving, he was so nervous, he farted.

When we got there, we asked his friend the question, and his friend was like, "No buddy, I never sent you that text."

Turns out he was cheating on me with 2 girls.

He had Venus in Sagittarius, Mars in Libra, Moon in Aries. lol

To this day, that pain gives me a stomachache.

I'm sorry about that situation.

But I laughed when you said he farted lol
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I did too, surprised me.
Hahaha.
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or maybe he really does have chicken porn or whatever on his phone, or worse

But seriously what's worse then chicken porn?
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IDK what to tell him.
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Posted by b3kk_r
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or maybe he really does have chicken porn or whatever on his phone, or worse

But seriously what's worse then chicken porn?
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*SHOCKED* didn't think you were the type
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This is what I found in his phone! Lol jk. Hey I like it, lmao.
I tend to disappear on people.. Is that fucked up?
What if I told you, they always deserve it.?
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Posted by b3kk_r
IDK what to tell him.

Just be honest. 'Look, I thought it was weird how you behaved with your phone. It made me uncomfortable, etc..

You can't accuse him of stuff. Make it about how you feel.

whoa, this is super smart.

I'm always going to come to Koniucha for advice from now on
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Yeah I'm going to tell him this before I disappear, seriously.
Because it's not a relationship if I can't trust him
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I'd knock someone out for trying to look through my phone. It's like stealing my diary.

You don't share your phone with your husband?

No we trust each other and we don't believe in invading each other's privacy. If I felt insecure about something and asked to see, he'd let me, but I've never felt curious.

He used to like reading my phone when I was on dxp until he couldn't handle how fucking psycho a lot of ppl seem on here.



My gf and I know each other's passwords.

Not from telling each other but just unlocking our phones hundreds of times when next to each other. She often accesses my phone.
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I agree that 2 people in a relationship/married should be able to use each other's phones - I mean there shouldn't be anything to hide. I got in trouble once when I was browsing my (x) husband's email looking for some directions to somewhere we were going and found emails between him and my friend of 40 years who we knew her and her husband well - they were talking negatively about me and when I confronted them both they got angry at me ? saying I was snooping and invaded their privacy - hello ? I had his password and he knew I was looking for the directions - they were flakey about it all - maybe due to the fact that they got caught. They turned it around on me and said I did that with her husband too but she never said anything - no I never did that. What a big mess all that was. I asked them both to not do that because it was hurting me and to talk to me if they had a problem. Of course they just continued talking to each other. He would say oh I talked to so and so the other day. Then when I asked him why he was still talking to her when I asked him not too he would get mad at me again. He was certifiable. A nut job for sure. Both of them. It was apparently so much more interesting to bash me behind my back. I ended up divorcing him and my friend of 40 years is no longer needed in my life. And I am much happier.
Lmao, I fucked up because I told him that that was not something I was going to do to him but what I didn't tell him is that was the last thing I would do... But I originally didn't want to go through it I just wanted to find my shit and he was acting stupid and suspicious as fuck...
right - yes we were married - turned out he was just plain 'damaged goods" like you said and so was my friend - I supported her for 25 years with her husband but when I was having trouble she took my husband's side and wasn't hearing what I had to say - I kept telling her yes, he's charming but you don't live with him - there's a big difference people present to the outside world - he got me and I married him and then .... well - long sad story ...

that was a bitch of her - really!
After parking, I would bite my BF on the cheek for using his phone while driving!

But, yeah, I always lose my phone, and he just hands me his to dial mine. He's even asked me to read his texts aloud if he's contacted while driving and he's asked me to reply on his behalf. He knows I don't approve of phone use while driving.

Just this morning, he and I got into an argument over whether or not parasitism was a form of symbiosis*, and I asked if he wanted to google it. He said yes and grabbed my phone. He couldn't get in and asked me for the passcode and I just gave it to him.

I don't know; I've heard it's a thing that once you reach a certain point in your relationship, phones are exchanged. My BF and I both agreed that it's an odd ritual and the intent alone is offensive. *shrug*

As for you, it seems that the troubles go beyond this mere incident with the phone. I also get the feeling that you've made up your mind as to what you are going to do.

*He was right, it is indeed a form of symbiotic relationship, but in the end we both agreed "commensalism" was the more appropriate term.
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I'd knock someone out for trying to look through my phone. It's like stealing my diary.

You don't share your phone with your husband?

No we trust each other and we don't believe in invading each other's privacy. If I felt insecure about something and asked to see, he'd let me, but I've never felt curious.

He used to like reading my phone when I was on dxp until he couldn't handle how fucking psycho a lot of ppl seem on here.



My gf and I know each other's passwords.

Not from telling each other but just unlocking our phones hundreds of times when next to each other. She often accesses my phone.

Ya I was like that with my first scorpio bf.

We had each other's emails, msn messenger, and icq accounts.

It created chaos after a while. Some things get taken out of context and exaggerated.
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Why did you feel the need to exchange access to all of that, Arielle?
Posted by b3kk_r
Lmao, I fucked up because I told him that that was not something I was going to do to him but what I didn't tell him is that was the last thing I would do... But I originally didn't want to go through it I just wanted to find my shit and he was acting stupid and suspicious as fuck...


You fucked up because you jumped to conclusions, freaked out and shut down on him.

It is his phone and there are many reasons he may have not wanted you to see what is on there that DON'T envolved cheating.

For all you know he is hiding his browsing history for booking a trip for you two...

Thing is you bailed on him without asking more questions. I would've told him how insecure and suspicious hiding his phone makes me feel. See if he's gonna produce more red flags on his behavior...
Posted by ShadowAbsorber
i had the exact situation years ago.

Same behavior.

And he literally straight up refused to give me his phone. I said the same shit "take me the F home."

And you know what he did?

He started deleting shit on his phone before he gave it to me.

like.... how obvious is that??

He made up a bunch of lies and it turned into a big scene.

He told me what he deleted was a friend's text.

So I made him drive me to that friend's place to confirm that text was sent.

While we were driving, he was so nervous, he farted.

When we got there, we asked his friend the question, and his friend was like, "No buddy, I never sent you that text."

Turns out he was cheating on me with 2 girls.

He had Venus in Sagittarius, Mars in Libra, Moon in Aries. lol

To this day, that pain gives me a stomachache.

Im pretty sure the mood was already bad enough without him making you smell his fart.
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lol about the farting - I do that when I'm nervous but I'm monogamous so it's not about the phone thing ...

my bb's friend just recently caught on that his wife has been cheating and it happened because she freaked out over him picking up her phone ...he is a really good man and works hard to give her everything and it turns out she's a dirty bird - so sad ...
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I'd knock someone out for trying to look through my phone. It's like stealing my diary.

You don't share your phone with your husband?

No we trust each other and we don't believe in invading each other's privacy. If I felt insecure about something and asked to see, he'd let me, but I've never felt curious.

He used to like reading my phone when I was on dxp until he couldn't handle how fucking psycho a lot of ppl seem on here.



My gf and I know each other's passwords.

Not from telling each other but just unlocking our phones hundreds of times when next to each other. She often accesses my phone.

Ya I was like that with my first scorpio bf.

We had each other's emails, msn messenger, and icq accounts.

It created chaos after a while. Some things get taken out of context and exaggerated.

Why did you feel the need to exchange access to all of that, Arielle?

We were 18 and 19 and wanted to know everything about each other. It was obsessive love.
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ah yes, so young and when you are sooo obsessive things are often taken out of context ...
he was a Pisces and she was a Libra ...
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I'd knock someone out for trying to look through my phone. It's like stealing my diary.

You don't share your phone with your husband?

No we trust each other and we don't believe in invading each other's privacy. If I felt insecure about something and asked to see, he'd let me, but I've never felt curious.

He used to like reading my phone when I was on dxp until he couldn't handle how fucking psycho a lot of ppl seem on here.



My gf and I know each other's passwords.

Not from telling each other but just unlocking our phones hundreds of times when next to each other. She often accesses my phone.

I agree that 2 people in a relationship/married should be able to use each other's phones - I mean there shouldn't be anything to hide. I got in trouble once when I was browsing my (x) husband's email looking for some directions to somewhere we were going and found emails between him and my friend of 40 years who we knew her and her husband well - they were talking negatively about me and when I confronted them both they got angry at me ? saying I was snooping and invaded their privacy - hello ? I had his password and he knew I was looking for the directions - they were flakey about it all - maybe due to the fact that they got caught. They turned it around on me and said I did that with her husband too but she never said anything - no I never did that. What a big mess all that was. I asked them both to not do that because it was hurting me and to talk to me if they had a problem. Of course they just continued talking to each other. He would say oh I talked to so and so the other day. Then when I asked him why he was still talking to her when I asked him not too he would get mad at me again. He was certifiable. A nut job for sure. Both of them. It was apparently so much more interesting to bash me behind my back. I ended up divorcing him and my friend of 40 years is no longer needed in my life. And I am much happier.

Terrible husband and terrible friend.

What are their signs?
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he was pisces and she was libra - he was bi-polar and would go off his meds and was just plain crazy to live with - he was so wrong for me and I should have known it from the beginning - but to the outside world he was such
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@tcta

Lesson learned. Feel better.


thanks! I do feel much better. It's been a few years and I'm so much more stable - no more drama and stress for me ...

Funny thing is that I'm now dating a Libra for about a year now - of course everyone is different - but on another note I lost a Gemini and Libra friend in my life for different reasons but then years later I met another Gemini and Libra - different people of course but same sign ... I have no interest in having a Pisces male friend EVER again - I should have known because prior to that for years I kept meeting Pisces men and hated them but then ended up marrying one - just doesn't make sense to me - how stupid !

makes me think we can be attracted to certain signs in our lives or on our life path or not !
Posted by Arielle83
I can't trust pisces dudes.


trust ? ha - right o there ... I can't even figure him out much less trust him with anything that was important to me - he's in his own little world. We even went to counseling and he sure charmed the therapist - until the very end when he finally showed his true colors - she was very surprised and asked me if I would be ok - duh - I'm a Taurus - of course I will - I should have called her a dumb ass because I was trying to tell her but she wasn't listening - maybe she was a Pisces ...
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@tcta

Lesson learned. Feel better.


thanks! I do feel much better. It's been a few years and I'm so much more stable - no more drama and stress for me ...

Funny thing is that I'm now dating a Libra for about a year now - of course everyone is different - but on another note I lost a Gemini and Libra friend in my life for different reasons but then years later I met another Gemini and Libra - different people of course but same sign ... I have no interest in having a Pisces male friend EVER again - I should have known because prior to that for years I kept meeting Pisces men and hated them but then ended up marrying one - just doesn't make sense to me - how stupid !

makes me think we can be attracted to certain signs in our lives or on our life path or not !

Well - I hope your current relationship works out.

Libras know how to have a good time.
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thank you I hope so too - we get along well - "Libra's know how to have a good time" - I guess so; he is very sociable and a talker and I'm a listener and a helper so it's all good - the good thing is that we are both monogamous people ... I actually just recently told him that story and he doesn't get it - he says all the time how normal and smart I am - nobody understands how bad it really was but he says it just doesn't make sense with me being so logical and willing to work things out with others that I would be treated that way ... oh well, I am in a better place now - maybe that was supposed to happen or had to happen or something so I would get out of the bad relationships.
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If my SO switched phones with me, she'd be getting a lot of texts from my mom. Jokes on you SO.

That's hysterical because I was just thinking the same thing- he would give it back before lunch I'm sure of it!!
@Arielle83 - Hahahaha cuckold porn. Lawd, he nasty.