I had sex with my Taurus man, But disappeared ???
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by TicaLinda on Monday, November 11, 2013 and has 20 replies.
I finally got to have sex with my Taurus man. it had been like 3 months since the last time. I ask my Taurus friends why is this? He clearly doesn't want a relationship in his life right he told me. We hang out with each other like friends. It's like when we have sex and he disappears and comes back I don't even ask why were you gone so long but instead I receive him happy to see him and never ask why? I tend to only listen to him but sometimes offer advice. I never act jealous. I try to be his friend. He has confidence in himself, sometimes he could mean to me, but I think he means well. or he wouldn't care. There's times he says he don't care about me but why does he help so much with things. ( housework, changing my oil to my car) how can I keep him happy and come around more than every 3 months for sex.
TicaLinda,
No relationship at all. He clearly stated that why are you so hoping more than he can give?
that's just a FWB thing.
I am living with a Taurus man he give me everything. Money and all I need, he even wanted me to
quit my job which I refused 'cause I love what I am doing.
He even washed the clothes and do cooking.
Try read Taurus forum their great advice: Avoid friend zone and fwb. lol.
Posted by sunnyvirgo83
Because he's an asshole and feels guilty...and is trying to buy your kitty more or less with gifts and sweet jestures. Tauruses are fakes, liars, and cheaters. He's gonna love you up tell you the worlds end and give you everything. Then few weeks you wont hear from him. Then when he's having a "dry spell" he'll come knocking at your door because he knows you'll give in. And then he feels guilty and showers you with gifts. If a man says I don't want a relationship, then why are you giving him sex? Unless that's what you want and your cool with it. But don't give him sex tell him to fuck off. He's a dick really...I don't like Tauruses at all.
Me either.
Why do you keep rewarding him with sex when he comes back?
Posted by TicaLinda
There's times he says he don't care about me but why does he help so much with things. ( housework, changing my oil to my car) how can I keep him happy and come around more than every 3 months for sex.
You entered an agreement.
There is no ambiguity.
He's a Bull, showing kindness is in his innate trait.
Stating that he does not care about you is simply reminding you to play your position.
There's nothing you can't do at this current time.
I can't stress this enough.
We are living in the Modern Age of Aquarius.
Traditional Bulls are now considered the 'Outsiders.'
Introducing the prospect of a relationship after attempting to promote your status from FWB to a Full blown relationship creates confusion and gray areas. This may be a win-win for other zodiac signs, but not so simple for a 'fixed' Bull.
Start out how you're going to keep out.
I know this message above appears rigid, constrained, insensitive, and a little too righteously orthodox, but nonetheless, staying true to who you are and what you really want may allow things to move a little more smoothly with your Bull.
Posted by sunnyvirgo83
Because he's an asshole and feels guilty...and is trying to buy your kitty more or less with gifts and sweet jestures. Tauruses are fakes, liars, and cheaters. He's gonna love you up tell you the worlds end and give you everything. Then few weeks you wont hear from him. Then when he's having a "dry spell" he'll come knocking at your door because he knows you'll give in. And then he feels guilty and showers you with gifts. If a man says I don't want a relationship, then why are you giving him sex? Unless that's what you want and your cool with it. But don't give him sex tell him to fuck off. He's a dick really...I don't like Tauruses at all.
Sunny - I'm sorry your bull cheated on you. Truly. Shouldn't have to say it, but people from all signs can be fake, lie, cheat, etc.; I know quite a few Virgos who have done this (my mother for starters). Obviously you are still hurt but you need to get to a place where you realize you are better off for knowing his true colors. I was cheated on by an ex, and lost half of my time with my daughter because of it. Hardest thing I ever went through in my life. I was so crippled by the depression, I *almost* made the decision to leave the state I was in (I had no family there), and go back across the country, where I would see my/our daughter only during the summer. I came home, after a week with my family, to see my daughter. It was father's day and she was just an infant at that time, and really only normally responsive to her mom. She was so responsive to me, it was almost miraculous. I made the decision to stay and raise her with 50% custody, and tough out some of the darkest years of my life. I felt like I was actually losing my sanity during some of it.
I forgive my ex though, and mostly just feel bad for her. She can't really fathom what she did to me or what I went through. And she really did hurt herself the most. The whole situation freed me up to find someone I'm more compatible with. Holding a grudge, as clich? as it sounds, really only hurts you. You need to let it go, and try to just forgive him so *you* can move on without the resentment in your heart. You're just propagating negativity here on our board because you're hurt, and still feel the need to lash out at him. You're generalizing to members of his sun sign, looking for any link to him - as vague as it may be - to establish a target. I underst
I understand. Everyone does this a little. I don't think anyone here really takes it personally. But its just not good to stay in that spot for too long. It only perpetuates the damage to your self and others.
Posted by sunnyvirgo83
Tauruses are fakes, liars, and cheaters.
This would be non-applicable for an arrangement/agreement entered by both parties thereon.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
Start out how you're going to keep out.
yup yup.
I really do appreciate your answers, I come to you guys for advice, I have learned and still more learning to do. I have always been sincere with him. I guess he is seeing other girls and the both of us getting out of long marriages, he wants to not settle down. we've both have been single for the last 4yrs. our paths crossed and so far this is where we are at. I guess I will get hurt in the end. (something I don't want to go thur) Take the good for the good and the bad for the bad. Once again everyone thank you for the advice.
tru-cap because I guess the truth I'm not seeing no one else. Plus I really like him. I get the butterflies when he is near me. when I know he is coming over I try to look my best and have my hair and makeup done, I put on my favorite perfume, dress my cutest and act normal, but inside my heart beats a hundred miles a hour. I have his favorite beer in the fridge. I try to make him feel as comfortable as possible. When he comes over unannounced and catches me in my pj's and no make up & hair pulled up. He acts normal like it didnt trip him out to see me that way. so I feel comfortable with him.
Posted by TicaLinda
I finally got to have sex with my Taurus man. it had been like 3 months since the last time. I ask my Taurus friends why is this? .
Because he wanted sex and knew where to get it. If he wants it next week he knows where to get it, if he doesn't want it for another 3 months he will wait until then and then come and get it. It's not rocket science.
Posted by TicaLinda
There's times he says he don't care about me but why does he help so much with things. ( housework, changing my oil to my car)
It's just a Taurus thing, they like to do things for others, sometimes too much - don't take it personally either way.
Posted by TicaLinda
how can I keep him happyclick to expand
Don't worry about it - he's happy so why change things when keeping him happy is your goal?
If you want him to come around more than every 3 months though, in order to make you happy, that's not going to happen - he knows he doesn't have to work for you as you have made it way too easy for him, he also won't change even if you stop being an easy lay because the category you are now in can't change in his head despite what you might now do to try to change it - he's happy as things are when you try to change the dynamics he will just disappear.
" There's times he says he don't care about me but why does he help so much with things. "
I would be done right then and there.
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I would be done right then and there.
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Posted by size zero superheroPosted by sunnyvirgo83Posted by size zero superhero
At least he's trying to give back. LOL. Sorry, I *had* to.
You've made yourself too available & convenient, basically. His timezone isn't compatible with yours, so why pretend otherwise?
There's no reason you should continue tolerating his chronological challenges if the inconsistency is too much to bear.
My advice is, either explicitly bring this up to him & try to discuss, or tell him to f off next time he's looking to score.
+1111111111111111111 but, Taurauns will turn the water works on and boohoo and weasel their way back in, best to tell him to fuck off. He'll try and convince you but be strong and stad firm...your better then that and don't need that sort of relationship...in the long run your only hurting yourself
Yeah.
As much as I hate to put it like this; many Taurus men require S/Os who will put them in their place if need be. If their partner isn't comfortable with calling shots here & there...prepare for disappointment.
Explains why Scorpio/Cap & Taurus fare well as couples--Capricorn & Scorpio are no-nonsense signs, unlikely to make exceptions--not even for the most beautiful, charming or ambitious Taurus out there.
Sunny V, it appears you have a great deal of air & fire in your chart therefore you may not click with the average Taurus--or not to the extent a typical Virgo & Taurus naturally relate to each other.click to expand
SO TRUE> They definitely need someone to call them on their bs . Then they sulk for two days, then come back even stronger...
Posted by sunnyvirgo83
Because he's an asshole and feels guilty...and is trying to buy your kitty more or less with gifts and sweet jestures. Tauruses are fakes, liars, and cheaters. He's gonna love you up tell you the worlds end and give you everything. Then few weeks you wont hear from him. Then when he's having a "dry spell" he'll come knocking at your door because he knows you'll give in. And then he feels guilty and showers you with gifts. If a man says I don't want a relationship, then why are you giving him sex? Unless that's what you want and your cool with it. But don't give him sex tell him to fuck off. He's a dick really...I don't like Tauruses at all.
Ok....sounds like you're still hurting.
^+1
TicaLinda,
Just learn from it.
Don't ask a man to give you something he doesn't have. Don't ask or expect a man to give you something that he's ALREADY told you he didn't want to give to you.
When a man tells you that he doesn't want to commit to you, there's usually no LOL behind it. Why? B'c although men may not mean a lot of the other stuff they say, THIS is 1 sentence they usually do mean when they say it.
Of course he comes to you but then disappears again. To him, you're just a piece of azz. And he def. isn't gaining respect for you when he can come back with no questions asked on your part. That's what doormats do. They give all of themselves just to get half in return. And when they realize they're only getting half in return, they not only don't stop being a doormat, but they don't speak up.
If you want a man to respect you, give him something to respect. And no man has ever respected a woman who he felt was not good for anything other than sex. If sex is all you require of him, then sex will always be the only thing you're gonna get.
If you can emotionally afford to have a strictly sexual relationship with him w/o him committing to you or caring for you in return, then go for it! But if you are hurt & can't handle his disappearance every single time afterwards, then it's up to YOU to put a stop to it, not him!
Most people would rob a bank if they knew they'd get away with it. He's taking everything you've got &
not giving you anything but a penis in return! So it's not shame on him, it's shame on YOU!
When a man tells you that he doesn't want to commit to you, there's usually no LOL behind it. Why? B'c although men may not mean a lot of the other stuff they say, THIS is 1 sentence they usually do mean when they say it.
Of course he comes to you but then disappears again. To him, you're just a piece of azz. And he def. isn't gaining respect for you when he can come back with no questions asked on your part. That's what doormats do. They give all of themselves just to get half in return. And when they realize they're only getting half in return, they not only don't stop being a doormat, but they don't speak up.
If you want a man to respect you, give him something to respect. And no man has ever respected a woman who he felt was not good for anything other than sex. If sex is all you require of him, then sex will always be the only thing you're gonna get.
If you can emotionally afford to have a strictly sexual relationship with him w/o him committing to you or caring for you in return, then go for it! But if you are hurt & can't handle his disappearance every single time afterwards, then it's up to YOU to put a stop to it, not him!
Most people would rob a bank if they knew they'd get away with it. He's taking everything you've got &
not giving you anything but a penis in return! So it's not shame on him, it's shame on YOU!
I get it. It may not be your fault that he had the opportunity to hurt you the 1st time. But if he has an opportunity the second time, that's on YOU!
Don't wait on a man to stop robbing your bank b/c he won't as long as there are benefits involved. YOU have to put a stop to this. YOU have to want better for yourself. YOU have to make the decision to stop settling!
Some women expect for a man to suddenly have an attack of conscious & say, "I'm so sorry baby, I shouldn't be having sex with you. I'm gonna stop myself right now b/c you don't deserve it." If you're waiting on him to say something like this, you'll be waiting for a lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng time honey
Don't wait on a man to stop robbing your bank b/c he won't as long as there are benefits involved. YOU have to put a stop to this. YOU have to want better for yourself. YOU have to make the decision to stop settling!
Some women expect for a man to suddenly have an attack of conscious & say, "I'm so sorry baby, I shouldn't be having sex with you. I'm gonna stop myself right now b/c you don't deserve it." If you're waiting on him to say something like this, you'll be waiting for a lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng time honey
Taurus people act like a rebel teenager, is ridiculous!
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