So I'm a virgin (23) Scorpio woman...I met a Taurus man (28) on POF (dating site) over a month ago and, we hit it off, and exchanged numbers after a week. He is in the army so it took us a while to meet up, but when we did it was amazing. He is damn there to perfect to be true- he has two jobs, smart, funny, and in school working on he's degrees just like me. The only thing I see so fa that's bad about him is that ego. We both take time out of our days to make sure that the other is doing good. Anyways on our third date I decided to come clean with him and tell him that I was a virgin because I saw things were getting a little hot. He assured me that it was okay, and told me that he wanted me but he wanted me to want him the same way. Our fifth date we almost had sex but he stopped while we were in bed because I looked uncomfortable. I thought he was going to kick me out, because we didn't have sex and I felt I was making things so difficult for him. He assured me once again that we would do it when I was ready "No Rush" which I appreciated and we just relaxed on the sofa and watched a movie with him begging me to stay longer- which I did and he walked me out. Three days afterwards though he stopped everything- we typically talk on the phone and text on a regular basis, and he is always sending me good morning text, good night text, and other things just to show me that he is thinking about me and I do the same everyday all of that has stopped and it's like he just went POOF! I went over everything in my head over and over, and I just cannot understand why he stopped contacting me out of blue when everything was going so well and I was just starting to trust him.
I have tried to text him twice already. The first he claimed he never got my message so I let that go, and then the second I asked him straight up "is everything okay?" He said yes and hasn't contacted me since. I just don't get it and all of this is really confusing and I don't anything wrong sooooo I really NEEEEEED HEEEELP because I'm starting to question if he was even interested in me at all in the first place...
Advice Please!
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Oct 07, 2016Comments: 0 · Posts: 557 · Topics: 34
Don't second guess yourself. You're a 23 year old virgin. That's a major plus. Never feel bad about that or let anyone make you feel bad about it.
You deserve to give your virginity to someone who is worth it. And in our society people give their bodies away like it's nothing when it's the most valuable thing.
Plenty of Fish isn't going to give you what you're looking for.
Invest your free time into a hobby and meet someone there. Form a friendship and bond and allow that to grow. Allow someone to truly get to know YOU so that when moment has come, it will be worth it. Virgin or no virgin, allow time for a man to show and prove to you who he is, what he's about, and how genuine he and his intentions are when it comes to you.
Stand your ground. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. Fuck how they feel about it.
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
He's not interested any more.
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Jun 21, 2016Comments: 130 · Posts: 1963 · Topics: 39
He's backing off and re-evaluating, but if he doesn't come back into the picture a week or two down the road than he's no longer interested. I'd advise just calling him.