I tried to move on BUT..........I just can't...

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by SunTauVenGem on Saturday, November 30, 2013 and has 51 replies.
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I will quickly sum up my stories with this bull...we known each other for 3 years and i always wanted him as my boyfriend but i was taken all those years... It is important to highlight the best week of my life with him in my city. He's originally from this city but moved to another city 10 months ago. He came to visit home 2 months ago and thats when we shared the most memorable time together ..something i never experienced before and yes it was the best week of my life.. fast forward 1 month and a half month after we met at another city... he was stubborn and refused to retrieve everything we had because he insisted it would only get harder and harder for both of us as we have two different lives. He mentioned the distance about 20 million times. Me being a bull and very good at observing people i know he still feels for me exactly the way he did back in my city 2 months ago. He dropped me off and i managed to get 10 mins with him. We held hands and just patched each other on the lips for a good 20 seconds... when i departed i texted him saying " i will detach myself from now on....and will not contact him again"..... i left it like that for a week and regret it after.. as i didn't realise i may have hurt his feelings since he's so god damn sensitive.. (double standard i know).... i tried to communicate with him but ofcoz silent treatment is his strength. i finally said sorry in the email and sent him a recorded song ( close) by Westlife...( clinchy i know) ..I also said that i have something written for him which i would like to give to him in person... when he comes down to my city next .....
n e how... I sent him a fb message of a photo called " MR STUBBORN" and told him its his new nick name...thats when i finally got a response..
He said that he's not contacting me as he's encouraging me to move on as he has.. he said i am a sweet girl but i am wasting my time and emotion on him... I then responded this " I'm glad you have moved on and i am happy you are happy with a girl you are seeing. I am not going to stand in the way of your happiness... all the best ".
BTW: when i saw him in another city he told me he joined a dating website and will have his first date with this girl in his city...i guess things are going ok with them i don't know..so i assumed when he said he has moved on i assumed thats what he meant.
I know for a fact that he misses this city as its his home and all his friends are here...everything is here and he's tr
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I know for a fact that he misses this city as its his home and all his friends are here...everything is here and he's trying his best to live his life in the other city .. he is very lonely up there... its a city for work but i know he wishes nothing but to come back here and live here again...
now... my problem is... he's coming back to this city in 2 weeks... hes shown himself clearly in FB and even tagged himself at the airport...
My gut is telling me to be quiet and to stay cool....but i know in my heart that when i know he's here i will want to see his face...and be with him again....
but my aim is to get him to move back here ASAP so we can stop this non-sense! i know he's stubborn so telling him what to do wouldn't get my anywhere...
My question is...do I
1) act cool...no contacts...nothing...pretend that i am moving on... or
2) try to contact him again...and be sincere that i truly just want to see him....and we don't have to retrieve everything we had....

Sorry its so long....and please don't tell me to move on and that he hasn't got anything for me because i have proven myself right twice now...every time i see him his action speaks OTHERWISE...i know he still feels for me that way...its just the distance ..and he's being super stubborn about it... which i can totally understand because we get deeply attached to one another..and he was in pain as much as i was when he had to leave the first time... he told me so...and he said many times if he could go back and do it all over again he would as it was an amazing week for him too ...
Its been a week now since my last message " all the best"....should I leave it as that...
ps: unfortunately i can't move on because he's the " one" for me....so its killing me...this whole situation has been horrible.. i have been living in hell for the last two months as he is " the one"...the one that makes me feel like the happiest and the luckiest girl in the world... so i can only wait.... as i have no other option...my heart is stopping me from moving on because i honestly don't want to.. Sad


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I really feel for you. BUT as you say you are judging him on his actions, the problem is you are judging him on the actions of one week and another short time you spent together, the actions you should be judging him on are the actions he displayed over the entire 10 months. Happily however I'm positive you will move on from this in time and be able to look back and laugh at your own actions and responses. It's your stubbornness you need to look at not his.
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Posted by celticlioness
I really feel for you. BUT as you say you are judging him on his actions, the problem is you are judging him on the actions of one week and another short time you spent together, the actions you should be judging him on are the actions he displayed over the entire 10 months. Happily however I'm positive you will move on from this in time and be able to look back and laugh at your own actions and responses. It's your stubbornness you need to look at not his.

We spent the week together 2.5 months ago not 10 months ago. we only had 1 week that's why it wasn't any longer. His action after he left was still consistent. .. Maybe you are right. My stubbornness is something I need to work on. When I finally had him( after 3 years) of us liking each other (crush) kind of way... I knew at that moment he was a definition of perfect and I don't want to EVER loose him!!! 2.5 months passed and I still feel and think the same way. So yes being a solid bull once I made my mind about something it's very very hard to budge Sad
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Posted by sunnyvirgo83
Trust your gut!...serious!

My gut has always been my secret best friend!!! When I was dating a Virgo something always tell me he's not the guy but I pulled through anyway!!! 2.5 years I wasted dating him when I could have had the bull!!! He liked me at the time but I was taken! now my gut is telling me to hold on and just wait!! It's very strong with this bull so i truly hope it's right smile I just don't know what to do when he comes down for a visit! My gut is telling me to stay calm and act cool! He needs to move back down here and me being silent might do the trick! I don't know though >
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if i were him i would want to know exactly how u felt.....If there is chemistry there, knowing that a person is that into me just makes them so much more attractive....
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Posted by sunnyvirgo83
Let him come to you. Or be like, just send him a quick text and be cool about it...like, hey lets meet up for tea or coffee...you guys are young. If it doesn't work out, oh well plenty of fish in the sea...

The thing is when he messaged me he said " plz don't contact me as "it" will disappoint you even further" I know he meant the distance thing. So I left it as that. I don't know if he was just mirroring my behavior as I said to him I won't contact him again after he dropped me off but ofcoz I didn't keep my words. Hes very big on keeping in touch with all the girls he's seen (Leo moon) n he told me he still likes to maintain contacts even if things don't work out so that's why I believe he's still mad at me for hurting his feelings and way too stubborn to admit it.
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Posted by soultalk
He may still have his heart on you, but he could really be dating girls there. It's weird how being with someone else so soon is normal for men. I don't get it and then maybe come back later and downplay the dates like they meant nothing? Like casual is okay. But then again we tolerate this behavior making an excuse for them that but he had his heart on me. He came back to me.. SMH at our behavior here.

I do believe that he joined the dating website right after we stopped seeing each other cause after he left we still had a great exclusive relationship. You know making each other happy and all that. He's lonely up there and it's so rare how fast he jumped to seeing someone. I don't know how they are going to be honest as there's absolutely nothing shown on social media.
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Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
if i were him i would want to know exactly how u felt.....If there is chemistry there, knowing that a person is that into me just makes them so much more attractive....

I know right! I wanted to give him a letter ! A sincere love letter ... Telling him he's " the one" for me... When I see him next... I never thought I would ever say this word to any guy ever... I know how the distance plays a big part in this whole thing. During our LDR...episode things went sour as his ex was in the picture and I got anxious for the first time in my life. I told him about it and ever since then he hated making me feel that way. it was causing him the same amount of pain and worries... Long distance is way too difficult that was why I wanted to let him know I was willing to wait.. Again do you think if it's meant to be we will find each other in the end anyway?. I believe so... N for some odd wired reasons I knew we are meant to be hence why I can't move on cause I honest don't want to !! So thoughts do I contact him while he's here or do I give him the cold shoulder SadSadSad!
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Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
if i were him i would want to know exactly how u felt.....If there is chemistry there, knowing that a person is that into me just makes them so much more attractive....

I agreed strongly with your statement here. I was always honest about my feelings for him. I have not exactly said the L word yet. I wanted to but I though it wasn't the right time. When he departed I wrote him a beautiful letter telling him what I truly felt ... How I felt we were sweethearts which we were.. And how happy he made me feel. It was beautiful. He knows what I want which is a serious relationship with him. I thought we were heading somewhere serious hence why I was intimated with him... Now that he knows what I truly want from us.. I do believe his feelings grown from seeing each other casually to ---> serious ... Meaning lots of time needed but at the same time he's put me into a potential and not just casual/fling....it might be pushing him away a bit now cause of the distance but at least he knows I am not here to play games and for that he sees me differently.. I am talking real love business . smile I also like someone telling me he's serious about me as well.. It increases me hormone level and put me on the safe zone!
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You're blinded by what you want and clearly not listening to him! Most men don't say these things outright because they don't feel it necessary to hurt someone but he has told you numerous times to quote "move on" probably because he knows already that you won't let go. If he wants you he will take the steps to be with you. Leave him alone, no contact at all. It'll make the healing process easier and maybe you will be open to love again. This guy is not your one... Only in your imagination!
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Posted by soultalk
He may still have his heart on you, but he could really be dating girls there. It's weird how being with someone else so soon is normal for men. I don't get it and then maybe come back later and downplay the dates like they meant nothing? Like casual is okay. But then again we tolerate this behavior making an excuse for them that but he had his heart on me. He came back to me.. SMH at our behavior here.


That's a good start for a new thread soul talk!
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Ok, sorry got the timing wrong, BUT 2.5 weeks out of 2.5 months is still only reading 10% of his actions, pay attention to the other 90% which are screaming at you to leave him alone. You have been told here to tell him how you feel, BUT you have already done that and you got your response. He got mixed up with his ex while you thought he was in a relationship with you, he has been dating in the last 2.5 months and he has told you to not contact him as "it" will disappoint you even further. These actions and words are what he is feeling, you however are taking everything he does and says, including the above, and putting your own spin on it.
Taurus sun/Leo moon, can you get more fixed that that? Add in Venus in Aries and he is a fast mover. With that combination if he was fixed on you you would know about it because he would be the unstoppable force moving immovable objects to claim you.
You have got to let this go. If the only way of doing so is to declare yourself to him (face to face) and see what he says and does then then that is what you should probably do - either way you will have your answer, as long as you listen to what he really says at that moment and not try and re-word it so that is means something entirely differet.
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Ok, sorry got the timing wrong, BUT 2.5 weeks out of 2.5 months is still only reading 10% of his actions, pay attention to the other 90% which are screaming at you to leave him alone. You have been told here to tell him how you feel, BUT you have already done that and you got your response. He got mixed up with his ex while you thought he was in a relationship with you, he has been dating in the last 2.5 months and he has told you to not contact him as "it" will disappoint you even further. These actions and words are what he is feeling, you however are taking everything he does and says, including the above, and putting your own spin on it.
Taurus sun/Leo moon, can you get more fixed that that? Add in Venus in Aries and he is a fast mover. With that combination if he was fixed on you you would know about it because he would be the unstoppable force moving immovable objects to claim you.
You have got to let this go. If the only way of doing so is to declare yourself to him (face to face) and see what he says and does then then that is what you should probably do - either way you will have your answer, as long as you listen to what he really says at that moment and not try and re-word it so that is means something entirely differet.

He was exactly what you described... Coming at me full force ..hence why I am left confused. I truly appreciate all your responses. I truly do. Maybe I am left blinded by what I want and not seeing the real picture... I am trying. I am a bull and I don't often day dream or live in a la la land. I stick to facts and logic. somehow somewhere or something is telling me to wait... I am trying to budge...I will remain silence while he is here to prove my point... n if he makes no effort to even bother to see me then I know I mean absolutely nothing ... Sad
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Posted by thescepter
when something about a girl makes me not want her anymore i become indifferent. was going to make a thread on this but meh lol.

So you are saying it's done.. and it's over? ... Completely? Do you tell them straight it's over or do you just Dissapear... Like a bull kind of way. Well he did tell me to move on so I guess I will have to believe his words......
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Posted by sweethearts
You're blinded by what you want and clearly not listening to him! Most men don't say these things outright because they don't feel it necessary to hurt someone but he has told you numerous times to quote "move on" probably because he knows already that you won't let go. If he wants you he will take the steps to be with you. Leave him alone, no contact at all. It'll make the healing process easier and maybe you will be open to love again. This guy is not your one... Only in your imagination!

He told me to move on with the most recent message so I will take his words for it. I will leave him alone now...... Maybe u r right... Maybe it is my imagination.....and I refuse to see the truth... Or I'm too stubborn to see it..... I would love for him to say it to me face to face! I need to hear him tell me face to face he doesn't feel the same way towards me!!!! Then I know it's me being obsessed over my own thoughts! I tried to get it out of him last time... Me" what do you feel about me" him " the distance plays a big part in what I feel about you"... It was a very clear response ... Not! But thanks a lot for your responssssss
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Posted by thescepter
when something about a girl makes me not want her anymore i become indifferent. was going to make a thread on this but meh lol.


+1 this so hard. It all becomes whatever when what I've felt starts toning down. I'll be neither left or right. In my head I've been describing this as "treating them as just a regular acquaintance" but indifference is the right word.

And STVG, I've promised myself not to give people relationship advice anymore but I see you post stories on here week after week and torturing yourself over something that's not going anywhere. celticlioness told you everything. You're focusing on the little bits and pieces of these interactions between you two and completely ignoring the big picture. I understand you as tend to do this as well, it's much easier to put all your faith in the positives regardless of how small they might be, they keep you going. Please stop torturing yourself and allow some time to pass. You'll see things more clearly. I believe you when you say you're a good people observer, and even if his actions can't help it when he sees you, in his mind he's made a decision to move on. It's painfully obvious. I'm not telling you to move on but you need to stay cool and free your mind from all this, at least for a while, for yourself. Don't give in. Go out there and be with people, a part of a community as an Aqua Moon should. It will do wonders for your emotional state.
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@ theatrum. I thank you so much for your response. My aqua moon and my Venus in Gemini does wonder. I still meet people.. Socialize.. Dancing like no tomorrow. I don't sit here and cry every mins of the day no. I moved out a week ago and it's been great not being around the memories. I know he made a decision and he's not going to budge. i truly don't know what goes behind close door or whether he still feel or not feel for me. His decision is clear that he decided to move on and he has so now it is my job to do the same. you are right we are going no where at all with this. I am going to stay put and stay strong and I will leave him completely alone now and move on with my life. It is for the best...atleast for now ... Once again thank you for taking the time to response and given me some advice! Truly appreciate it
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I truly believe that you've made the right decision. All the best to you and do keep dancing like there's no tomorrow Winking
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@STVG whats his venus?
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when something about a girl makes me not want her anymore i become indifferent. was going to make a thread on this but meh lol.

So you are saying it's done.. and it's over? ... Completely? Do you tell them straight it's over or do you just Dissapear... Like a bull kind of way. Well he did tell me to move on so I guess I will have to believe his words......


i can't tell them straight, i've become indifferent. i don't care enough to. :/ i'd go about my normal day. i suppose others think i disappear but i don't. i do exactly what i do everyday. i do my routine but ur not on my mind anymore.
it's not love or hate it's on neutral and i want it to stay on neutral. i can't say if it's over coz his signals do seem mixed. kissing and holding hands and pushing away. sounds like aries venus but i don't have much experience with females let alone males of this sign. sounds like me too when i don't want to be bothered or i've given up.


i want to be like this. sounds relaxing.
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Haha@ soultalk. It does sound peaceful doesn't it. .. If only I could function that way... He's taken half of my day in my head and it needs to stop!
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when something about a girl makes me not want her anymore i become indifferent. was going to make a thread on this but meh lol.

So you are saying it's done.. and it's over? ... Completely? Do you tell them straight it's over or do you just Dissapear... Like a bull kind of way. Well he did tell me to move on so I guess I will have to believe his words......


i can't tell them straight, i've become indifferent. i don't care enough to. :/ i'd go about my normal day. i suppose others think i disappear but i don't. i do exactly what i do everyday. i do my routine but ur not on my mind anymore.
it's not love or hate it's on neutral and i want it to stay on neutral. i can't say if it's over coz his signals do seem mixed. kissing and holding hands and pushing away. sounds like aries venus but i don't have much experience with females let alone males of this sign. sounds like me too when i don't want to be bothered or i've given up.
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his signals are mixed. His action is also mixed. I can't work him out anymore. If a guy doesn't feel for me or just simply not interested I am great at seeing the truth.. In action.. But with him it's different. . The whole event all we talked about was the distance... He cared enough to discuss all these with me.. And followed me out the door when he realised I wasn't very happy with the fact I couldt be with him... His words " I'm doing this for us. I'm doing this for you.. I'm doing this for me... Trust me on this it's for the best" how is that supposed to help me move on... I'm trying though .... I guess when he's here and I hear nothing.. That's probably when I can move on... Wish me luck Winking
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@STVG whats his venus?

Venus in Aries...
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Now that you have mentioned venus in Aries...His mixed signals are making sense... They love braking up to make up and will stir things up when things run too smoothly.. making no contacts at all will drive him wild... my venus in Gemini will serve him right Big Grin ... maybe that's why I'm so hooked on him.. Maybe he knows the way to keep my interested !! I do dancing socially and he didn't really enjoy watching me dancing close with the other guys on our last encounter.. My other guy friend told me he was watching me like " he was in love with me". then he went and bought a DVD of my favorite dance instructor to learn it. He showed me ..coz I told him before how much I love that type dancing even though he's not a fan.. I wish I can just believe it is all in my head .. I am pretty good to distinguish between truth or lies.. This time is different.. it is indeed 2 bulls dilemma.. I secretly believe he likes the dilemma n the drama though.. Oh that's a Leo moon thing smilesmilesmile why doesn't he want to keep me as one of his harems :p he's got tons of them... N he maintains contacts to everyone of them... Except his ex who he deleted off Facebook :p
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when something about a girl makes me not want her anymore i become indifferent. was going to make a thread on this but meh lol.

So you are saying it's done.. and it's over? ... Completely? Do you tell them straight it's over or do you just Dissapear... Like a bull kind of way. Well he did tell me to move on so I guess I will have to believe his words......


i can't tell them straight, i've become indifferent. i don't care enough to. :/ i'd go about my normal day. i suppose others think i disappear but i don't. i do exactly what i do everyday. i do my routine but ur not on my mind anymore.
it's not love or hate it's on neutral and i want it to stay on neutral. i can't say if it's over coz his signals do seem mixed. kissing and holding hands and pushing away. sounds like aries venus but i don't have much experience with females let alone males of this sign. sounds like me too when i don't want to be bothered or i've given up.


how to distinguish between disappeared vs done?


I DON'T KNOW LOL.
looks the same from the outside. inside it's always on my mind or indifferent.
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Do you keep in touch with all the girls you used to date?
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Posted by SunTauVenGem
Now that you have mentioned venus in Aries...His mixed signals are making sense... They love braking up to make up and will stir things up when things run too smoothly.. making no contacts at all will drive him wild... my venus in Gemini will serve him right Big Grin ... maybe that's why I'm so hooked on him.. Maybe he knows the way to keep my interested !! I do dancing socially and he didn't really enjoy watching me dancing close with the other guys on our last encounter.. My other guy friend told me he was watching me like " he was in love with me". then he went and bought a DVD of my favorite dance instructor to learn it. He showed me ..coz I told him before how much I love that type dancing even though he's not a fan.. I wish I can just believe it is all in my head .. I am pretty good to distinguish between truth or lies.. This time is different.. it is indeed 2 bulls dilemma.. I secretly believe he likes the dilemma n the drama though.. Oh that's a Leo moon thing smilesmilesmile why doesn't he want to keep me as one of his harems :p he's got tons of them... N he maintains contacts to everyone of them... Except his ex who he deleted off Facebook :p


I have venus in aries tooo lol
We have a knack for drama since we tend to get bored easily (eventually the fire burns out) you nailed it here, he probably likes it. For venus aries drama is the spice of life w/o it u might as well be dead Tongue and since when do bulls like being put in a harem?!?! Its always been the other way aroung......Am i missing something? *genuinely clueless*
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when something about a girl makes me not want her anymore i become indifferent. was going to make a thread on this but meh lol.

So you are saying it's done.. and it's over? ... Completely? Do you tell them straight it's over or do you just Dissapear... Like a bull kind of way. Well he did tell me to move on so I guess I will have to believe his words......


i can't tell them straight, i've become indifferent. i don't care enough to. :/ i'd go about my normal day. i suppose others think i disappear but i don't. i do exactly what i do everyday. i do my routine but ur not on my mind anymore.
it's not love or hate it's on neutral and i want it to stay on neutral. i can't say if it's over coz his signals do seem mixed. kissing and holding hands and pushing away. sounds like aries venus but i don't have much experience with females let alone males of this sign. sounds like me too when i don't want to be bothered or i've given up.


how to distinguish between disappeared vs done?


I DON'T KNOW LOL.
looks the same from the outside. inside it's always on my mind or indifferent.

Do you keep in touch with all the girls you used to date?


no lol they don't talk to me coz i stopped talking to them. :/
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Really? :p that's what I call dissapearing then. and hell you do love drama! No offense to Leo moon or anything but some of his girlfriends (harem?) are full of drama:p he told me he just like being in a girls company because he loves all of their gossips >sigh< such a woman lol
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Now that you have mentioned venus in Aries...His mixed signals are making sense... They love braking up to make up and will stir things up when things run too smoothly.. making no contacts at all will drive him wild... my venus in Gemini will serve him right Big Grin ... maybe that's why I'm so hooked on him.. Maybe he knows the way to keep my interested !! I do dancing socially and he didn't really enjoy watching me dancing close with the other guys on our last encounter.. My other guy friend told me he was watching me like " he was in love with me". then he went and bought a DVD of my favorite dance instructor to learn it. He showed me ..coz I told him before how much I love that type dancing even though he's not a fan.. I wish I can just believe it is all in my head .. I am pretty good to distinguish between truth or lies.. This time is different.. it is indeed 2 bulls dilemma.. I secretly believe he likes the dilemma n the drama though.. Oh that's a Leo moon thing smilesmilesmile why doesn't he want to keep me as one of his harems :p he's got tons of them... N he maintains contacts to everyone of them... Except his ex who he deleted off Facebook :p


I have venus in aries tooo lol
We have a knack for drama since we tend to get bored easily (eventually the fire burns out) you nailed it here, he probably likes it. For venus aries drama is the spice of life w/o it u might as well be dead Tongue and since when do bulls like being put in a harem?!?! Its always been the other way aroung......Am i missing something? *genuinely clueless*
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Spice of life.! Imao you sound like my bull... I do like it here and there.. but he loves it and that's the different! I try to keep peace (bull) and aqua moon.. But him being mostly Fire signs like to generate drama or conflicts.. I love being with him though. It keeps my Gemini venus n airy placements in check. I don't get bored at all.. There's so much to talk about. We agreed on so many things.. Jus about life in general.. fire+air have a good blend.. However I believe his placements r way too much for him (and me) they are all very self -centered signs! What did I get myself Into! U know I read somewhere that male wih venus in aries don't like their woman passve. They like aggressive women! N I also have two sides of me.. Passive an
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And aggressive ! N maybe he's trying to stir things up (on purpose) to bring out my aggressive sides! And trust me I have them... :p .. They are just kept fully hidden with my bull at the moment.. I have been way too passive with this all thing maybe it's time to fight back!!!!!! Just what he was after this whole time lol I need to keep my middle ground with his placements! They are hard to handle! Venus in aries fall way too fast and burn out just as quickly. I need to make sure I'm not out of the picture completely.. and have him guessing!!! I am getting somewhere lol!
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Posted by soultalk
What if while he is "away" from you the girls around him hit on him and he hits on them too. How seriously would he take them?

To be honest, I don't think he will take them seriously. First off his life is where I am. He's only there for work and he does not like it up there. I strongly believe it's the convenient thing n ofcoz he likes having someone there. I know for a fact it takes him a long time to ask a girl to be his girlfriend. I honesty don't know if he's even dating anyone at the moment. A girl he was seeing (who I know) for a good 6 months ended because he didnt want anything more than just casual n she wanted a relationship. I didn't think they were good together at all... He was just seeing her.. Nothing special n now they are just friends.... so I do think Taurus make in general just enjoy the harem .. Doesn't mean they are fully committed ... commitment is a long thoughtful process...
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After my Taurus friend told me he didnt see us working longterm and that I needed someone older he inched closer to me on the couch. I very well understand the mixed signals. He'll tell me he doesnt want this/that but when I try to break it off he gets upset.
I believe in believeing what people say, but I wonder all the time if his words were spoken out of insecurity/fear, and he just wanted me to fight for him or us. Who knows.
If you think something is still there it probably is, but also keep in mind that with some earth signs its easier to let the mind control things....meaning he could still feel but have his mind made up on how far he wants things to go.
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What if while he is "away" from you the girls around him hit on him and he hits on them too. How seriously would he take them?


And what if one girl is hitting more than the other. Will he take notice of that girl and automatically take notice of her, or it won't make a difference even if she is pretty obvious?
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What's your story soul talk? bull r double standard really.. I flirt a lot... But if I'm in public with a guy I'm really into and he's flirting with me n her at the same time... To me that's a threat! I wouldn't put him into my serious zone... we love being smothered in public.. N by that I mean to us only!!!!!! That's how he won me over completely!!!! So my answer is he might think she is attractive if she is but he probably wouldn't date her.
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After my Taurus friend told me he didnt see us working longterm and that I needed someone older he inched closer to me on the couch. I very well understand the mixed signals. He'll tell me he doesnt want this/that but when I try to break it off he gets upset.
I believe in believeing what people say, but I wonder all the time if his words were spoken out of insecurity/fear, and he just wanted me to fight for him or us. Who knows.
If you think something is still there it probably is, but also keep in mind that with some earth signs its easier to let the mind control things....meaning he could still feel but have his mind made up on how far he wants things to go.

Wow... It's great to have someone on the same boat!!! I feel for you big time! bulls are full of action.. We show it by that. If we are coming closer .. Or still hold your hands.. Most likely there's something there still.... You r right about mind over hearts... Mine has no water placentas so it's hard to budge regardless of how he might "feel"....
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keep him on his toes Winking good luck
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SanTauVenGem,
Let it go. What's the matter with you?
You are too hard for yourself lady. He rejected you. Just move on and be brave.
You know already my story.. lol. I moved on. My last day with my Taurus man was He saw me dating
a Saggitarius man. lol. and he kept passing by in front of us. lol. so funny.
so then, I don't feel comfortable so I left the Saggi guy I am dating.
My Taurus man took me to his condo and When he drove his car he reminded me how we went that city and
the road he took. lol. and he even smiled and asked about a guy I am dating now. lol.
and finally as I move out from his condo... again he delivered me a message the NO CONTACT thing.
lol. I am used to it. I smiled at him and said, I respect that. it's just 3 days from now I never
contacted him. Before he left He told me to spend a x-mas with him. So I respect that.. that was
already planned.. we are just friends now... It is his plan. So I just give him a nice ride.
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I decided to bring this topic back up again.....I didn't mean to bore every one with my drama...long story short... we MET again...my venus in gemini drove me crazy....I decided to CONFESS my feelings for this bull in the most CALM and HONEST manner... We met up for a drink as I struggled ...had an emotional weekend with the other bull....something happened between me and...my current bull ...it was the weakest moment of my life..i'm not going to go in details....the first person i thought of was obviously....this bull... i never made a call before...but he picked up...and helped me through my problems... he was there for me three times..n e how.. We met up that night for a drink...talked and talked.. i knew i had to TELL him how i feel so i can move forward.. the fact that he was the first person on my mind...in my weakest moment meant everything to me.....so we talked... the tension was there... we were sitting next to the fire..it was romantic inch... i told him that.. i need to get over him.. i need to move on..blabla... He said.. two girls he thinks about is one is dance parter..( whatever)...two ..( a girl he's seeing )... knowing his venus in aries it doesn't surprise me..as he's still chasing them..first he hasn't slept with them yet..but anyway..i know him well enough that he will just see them..n lose interest after a while anyway.. n e how,, i told him..i said you realise i am in love with you this whole time..and the last three months i have been living in hell....so now my job is to move forward...and move on... he said he didn't know i was in love with him..he thought i just liked him... how we ended ...was different..we held hands... we hugged... i hugged him and teared a little saying " i will be sad when you end up with a girl.." and he's like " I won't end up with her.. by that time you will have a boyfriend by then!" ....the sexual tension was very very very very strong..he smelled so good..it was annoying..he was purposely saying " i got to stop myself.." then " he moves closer"...then say NO ...then " kissed me in the forehead" like seriously! he also bit my ears ...He mentioned we are not a perfect match...when we were having a drink..so i asked him to explain that..but he couldn't explain it.....I am trying to take what he says SERIOUSLY... but why was he giving me the affection? is he purposely causing all this drama ? his leo moon is crazy...he wants to be the dominant one and have the POWER alll the time..he even admitted it hims
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POWER alll the time..he even admitted it himself.. I told him.. i know we may not work in the long run anyway..i just don't know why i can't seem to stop thinking about what we had..and about him.... he said...there's emotional imbalance between us and he doesn't want to lead me on. ..so i will take his words for it... was kissing a forehead and hugging me...being there for me...just coz he just cares for me..and nothing else? .. seriously?
Sorry about the long.......story.. i hope it ends for good this time.. Sad
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Posted by thescepter
leo moons lol yeah he likes the drama. sounds like something i would do.
how are you imbalanced? you have aqua moon right?

I have aqua moon. when we have a conversation .. We agreed on many things.. Our moon work perfectly together except when we are in a big group. He likes to be the centre of attention. it could be this he's talking about. Maybe he thinks I don't make him feel special enough.. You are Leo moon maybe u can help me figure this one out ..lol.. he purposely say one thing and act the other.. What's with " no let's not do this" then " hugged me tight. Kissed my forehead. Bit my ears . What is that all about ?!! He likes the power. He admitted that himself. I will tell you anther example. One time I asked him if he could walk to my friend and give my friend the key. He said " no he can come and get it himself.." Then I said " why not? They r dancing on the grass it should be fun! " he said " no I don't feel like it .. Then I found out from my friend later that he did walk to my friend and did have a few dances on the grass. What the heck? It's frustrating lol
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I have a leo moon and my friend has an aqua moon.
My mom is an Aqua and the guy she's in love with is a leo.
I've read either between the sun signs or the moon signs, that both tend to feel extremely rejected by the other.
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Posted by Impulsv
Venus Aries. A scene from mad man where Betty tells don the only mistake she n his current wife made was loving him.
These men lose interest the moment u love em.

Agreed..! I read it somewhere too.. He just like the chase.. it's a bit sad really. He wil never get married.:S
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Posted by lnana04
I have a leo moon and my friend has an aqua moon.
My mom is an Aqua and the guy she's in love with is a leo.
I've read either between the sun signs or the moon signs, that both tend to feel extremely rejected by the other.

Do you feel rejected by your friend? I can understand where you are coming from .
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Posted by thescepter
What's with " no let's not do this" then " hugged me tight. Kissed my forehead. Bit my ears . What is that all about ?!!


LOL i used to do this in college but i was serious and not just saying stuff that i thought sounded good. 1 or 2 times i caught myself BS-ing but not about the "i'm not ready for a relationship" talk. yeah it's a bit drama queen. Tongue
if a leo moon loves you, you will be on a pedestal to them.
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What's with " no let's not do this" then " hugged me tight. Kissed my forehead. Bit my ears . What is that all about ?!!


LOL i used to do this in college but i was serious and not just saying stuff that i thought sounded good. 1 or 2 times i caught myself BS-ing but not about the "i'm not ready for a relationship" talk. yeah it's a bit drama queen. Tongueif a leo moon loves you, you will be on a pedestal to them
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I thin I was on a pedestal at one point. I shown my deep interest. His venus kicked in and I was kicked out of the pedestal. :p I truly think that once I move on and don't care about him anymore. He will chase again but just for the sake of chasing. :S have you loved the same woman for a long time? Do you usually like the ones that love drama :p
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Posted by SunTauVenGem
I won't end up with her.. by that time you will have a boyfriend by then!"


I HATE HATE HATE IT when someone says we cannot have a future but you will find someone very NICE.. Just say NO and leave me alone already, I will find my mr. RIGHT. you don't have to worry about that. i am not your responsibility if I am not going to be a part of your life. don't try to play the i feel bad for making you sad, it was not my intention to lead you on card. I am really OK with someone saying no. it is a lifetime you are talking about after all. BUT please just say NO and GO, no pity party please. alright, vent over Tongue. i am an aries moon btw
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Exactly!! I hate it as well " it is an honor to have your love and I know how lucky I am.. but I don't think we are a perfect match and I also can't find reasons for it " me " I understand I can not make someone feel something for me when they don't. I can't force feelings .. Him " exactly.. I am lucky that you have those feelings for me! And I am so lucky you are so calm bla bla bla" talking about Not leading me on???? Yeah right let's just end that with a kiss in the forehead and a long ass held hands farewell...!!!! Hahaha
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Posted by soultalk
i don't like this feeling n i don't like exes Tongue

:p .. Neither do I. I'm trying make sense of it all.. trust his words.. Trust his words :p
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Posted by Impulsv
Venus Aries. A scene from mad man where Betty tells don the only mistake she n his current wife made was loving him.
These men lose interest the moment u love em.

Agreed..! I read it somewhere too.. He just like the chase.. it's a bit sad really. He wil never get married.:S
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LOL. Just because someone doesn't like you or isn't involved enough to make a commitment last doesn't mean he cannot do it with someone else.
Wake up from your fantasy. This guy stated several times he liked you..just not enough and you still keep creating scenarios in your mind based on this chemistry you feel near him.
The "I will be sad when you end up with another girl" is fucked up. You've been going in circles trying to date other people, yet you claim you love him. If you truly loved him you'd leave him be and be happy for him.
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Posted by Impulsv
Venus Aries. A scene from mad man where Betty tells don the only mistake she n his current wife made was loving him.
These men lose interest the moment u love em.

Agreed..! I read it somewhere too.. He just like the chase.. it's a bit sad really. He wil never get married.:S


LOL. Just because someone doesn't like you or isn't involved enough to make a commitment last doesn't mean he cannot do it with someone else.
Wake up from your fantasy. This guy stated several times he liked you..just not enough and you still keep creating scenarios in your mind based on this chemistry you feel near him.
The "I will be sad when you end up with another girl" is fucked up. You've been going in circles trying to date other people, yet you claim you love him. If you truly loved him you'd leave him be and be happy for him.
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Being sad doesn't mean I won't be happy for him. I told him I want him to be happy. I wish him the best for Christmas and everything else. Yes I go and date other people. I told him why I did so. the reason why I said he will never get married is because he has a venus in aries and seems to loose interest quickly. I hope he is happy yes. I told him that numerous times. I may be sad but I never will get in between him and another girl. that's just my opinion anyway. I'm still trying to figure whether it's really my fantasy. I don't do well with fantasy. I don't hve any water in my chart. What is it about him that make me feel this way. I don't and never day dream.
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Even if it a fantasy, even if it isn't: It's not doing you any good so STOP. Take time to reach into yourself and understand this need you have for someone loving you. We all have it on some levels but you pour your all into it.
Get back in touch with yourself, don't date for a while and the picture will become clear to you.
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You sure do Tongue
We were talking about regular bulls here ands not Leos in Taurus clothing.
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venus trine pluto here Tongue
~This aspect deepens your response to love, people and life in general. You have the rare quality of seeing the best in everyone, thus helping to bring it out. Beauty, symmetry and goodness are the things you look for in life - and find! Your friends come from all social classes and backgrounds. Your understanding and appreciation of love is instinctive, and you are fully prepared to accept the responsibilities of love as well as the joys. --
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