im giving him the silent treatment....

so my Taurus has been a little outta touch lately .

texting me but next responding back, basically just giving me little validating texts hes alive

but not engaging in any conversation that im trying to get answers too.

it was starting to really annoy me to have conversation with my self for 2 days

so last night i was like, "cool ttyl" and went full on silent treatment

no good morning text

no good morning snap chats

no response to his 1am text, but the read is on proving I checked it.

im just annoyed.

am i being a brat.

im not like mad at him and im not interested in a fight with him

but i am a little annoyed and it leaves me without any words to say.

i have nothing to say. its not worth bring up with is bothering me

so im just kinda giving him a taste of his own medicine so he knows how it feels.

thoughts.

Posted by sagittariusxo
so my Taurus has been a little outta touch lately .

texting me but next responding back, basically just giving me little validating texts hes alive

but not engaging in any conversation that im trying to get answers too.

it was starting to really annoy me to have conversation with my self for 2 days

so last night i was like, "cool ttyl" and went full on silent treatment

no good morning text

no good morning snap chats

no response to his 1am text, but the read is on proving I checked it.

im just annoyed.

am i being a brat.

im not like mad at him and im not interested in a fight with him

but i am a little annoyed and it leaves me without any words to say.

i have nothing to say. its not worth bring up with is bothering me

so im just kinda giving him a taste of his own medicine so he knows how it feels.

thoughts.

He's been out of touch so your response is to cut off communication entirely? Yeah, makes sense.

Posted by aflyingarrow
What are his placements?

My experience with 2 taurus is the total opposite.. ?

Sun and Moon in Taurus

Mercury and aries

Venus and Mars in Cancer

im still trying to understand placements and all that jazz.

Posted by blvckphase

Posted by sagittariusxo
so my Taurus has been a little outta touch lately .

texting me but next responding back, basically just giving me little validating texts hes alive

but not engaging in any conversation that im trying to get answers too.

it was starting to really annoy me to have conversation with my self for 2 days

so last night i was like, "cool ttyl" and went full on silent treatment

no good morning text

no good morning snap chats

no response to his 1am text, but the read is on proving I checked it.

im just annoyed.

am i being a brat.

im not like mad at him and im not interested in a fight with him

but i am a little annoyed and it leaves me without any words to say.

i have nothing to say. its not worth bring up with is bothering me

so im just kinda giving him a taste of his own medicine so he knows how it feels.

thoughts.

What are you trying to get answers to?

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insight, validation, understand, second point of view

im not trying to be one sided

why are you so.....meh.

It's because of the retrograde darlin.

im a sag and i am feeling a little insecure, or maybe just like MASSIVLY Overthinking things which is probably my greatest struggle.



I recently found out more about my Taurus birth chart and it said something along the lines of...

"He may have secret love affairs." - im freaking myself out

because he goes silent and hasn't really been talking to me.

Posted by jeane

Posted by sagittariusxo
so my Taurus has been a little outta touch lately .

texting me but next responding back, basically just giving me little validating texts hes alive

but not engaging in any conversation that im trying to get answers too.

it was starting to really annoy me to have conversation with my self for 2 days

so last night i was like, "cool ttyl" and went full on silent treatment

no good morning text

no good morning snap chats

no response to his 1am text, but the read is on proving I checked it.

im just annoyed.

am i being a brat.

im not like mad at him and im not interested in a fight with him

but i am a little annoyed and it leaves me without any words to say.

i have nothing to say. its not worth bring up with is bothering me

so im just kinda giving him a taste of his own medicine so he knows how it feels.

thoughts.

He's been out of touch so your response is to cut off communication entirely? Yeah, makes sense.

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i just don't know what to say

its like he leaves me in my head to think so negatively

and now im just really annoyed.

but im not going to bring it up and fight about it, im not going to tell him im feeling all these negative things about him, im not going to start a fight... so all i wanna do is kinda hide under a rock until i kinda get over my upset.

why does he do that?

why do they make you feel like they want all your attention, even can be upset when they don't get it

but then they can go silent themselves for days?

Posted by aflyingarrow
Is he mad at you and pulling some passive agressive thing? Mars in cancer likes to bottle up feelings A LOT..

maybe

i was suppose to stay over on Tuesday

but some plans got cancelled and i forgot a bag for work the next day

so instead i just went home and told him i would come over Wednesday

i communicated everything, i was sad about it but he should understand shit happens

Posted by sagittariusxo

Posted by jeane

Posted by sagittariusxo
so my Taurus has been a little outta touch lately .

texting me but next responding back, basically just giving me little validating texts hes alive

but not engaging in any conversation that im trying to get answers too.

it was starting to really annoy me to have conversation with my self for 2 days

so last night i was like, "cool ttyl" and went full on silent treatment

no good morning text

no good morning snap chats

no response to his 1am text, but the read is on proving I checked it.

im just annoyed.

am i being a brat.

im not like mad at him and im not interested in a fight with him

but i am a little annoyed and it leaves me without any words to say.

i have nothing to say. its not worth bring up with is bothering me

so im just kinda giving him a taste of his own medicine so he knows how it feels.

thoughts.

He's been out of touch so your response is to cut off communication entirely? Yeah, makes sense.

i just don't know what to say

its like he leaves me in my head to think so negatively

and now im just really annoyed.

but im not going to bring it up and fight about it, im not going to tell him im feeling all these negative things about him, im not going to start a fight... so all i wanna do is kinda hide under a rock until i kinda get over my upset.

why does he do that?

why do they make you feel like they want all your attention, even can be upset when they don't get it

but then they can go silent themselves for days?

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He doesn't leave you to think negatively. You think negatively - take ownership over your reactions.

There are several ways to deal with this. One, like you are doing. Stirring yourself up into a frenzy, have a good pout in the corner with him no wiser as to what suddenly brought this on.

Or you could behave like an adult and communicate with him. You could say, I feel x. I'm wondering if everything is okay with you. Seems you are out of sorts and dealing with something. I'm going to give you some space. Hit me up when you want. And then you stay consistent and constant.

And when he texts you are 1am, instead of ignoring it like a pre-teen, answer it. These things are called bids. Want a long lasting relationship? Respond the your partner's attempts to get your attention.

https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-sound-relationship-house-turn-towards-instead-of-away/

Posted by Nevermore

Posted by sagittariusxo
im a sag and i am feeling a little insecure, or maybe just like MASSIVLY Overthinking things which is probably my greatest struggle.



I recently found out more about my Taurus birth chart and it said something along the lines of...

"He may have secret love affairs." - im freaking myself out

because he goes silent and hasn't really been talking to me.

So that's where it all started of your insecurity part, no wonder with all those paranoia threads from you.

Okay, so tell me. How many times did he goes silents throughout whole relationship?

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i have no chill.

How long have yall been together? Did it just start?

Sorry to hear this 😢

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Posted by aflyingarrow

Posted by sagittariusxo

Posted by aflyingarrow
Is he mad at you and pulling some passive agressive thing? Mars in cancer likes to bottle up feelings A LOT..

maybe

i was suppose to stay over on Tuesday

but some plans got cancelled and i forgot a bag for work the next day

so instead i just went home and told him i would come over Wednesday

i communicated everything, i was sad about it but he should understand shit happens

Have you apologised?

I always forget to apologize, if i think it's not a big deal turned out it's a big deal for him.. im working on it ?

taurus moon cancer venus are soooo sensitive and dont like fall out plans..

Like: "i was looking forward to it and hv prepared and you cancel just like that?"

?

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that might have been what happen.

i feel like he got upset with me because i forgot my bad.



but its like i would have had to wait around for him for 3 hours in my uncomfortable work clothes

with my kid who has nothing packed for entertainment.

i feel like he was treating me like that on purpose.

because i called him and i text and no response

and when i finally gave him an emotion, "annoying face bitmoji"

then he wants to ask me why. like that was dumb question, you know why"

like he says, things don't always need to be said.

so at 1am he finally texts me. like really. that's frustrates me.

and yes im insecure too. i need validation too.

my boyfriend is so damn attractive and such a beautiful person internally

and me im not always confident in my appearance im under a lot of stress and gaining

and not feeling pretty and he's over here ignoring me.

ugh - i feel like i don't get the same focus he requires me to give him.

Posted by earlorg16
How long have yall been together? Did it just start?

we have been together for 9 months

and this happens ever couple months.

like first it was always i was playing video games

he never pics up his phone?

he is with his friends, and its like ok tell me that, why do i have to feel like your just avoiding me.

but i think he does act like a jerk when he is upset with me. with my personality. with me doing what i want.

like having to cancel plans, regardless if my reasoning is valid. being upset if i don't have set plans with him but assumed plans with him in his mind and instead i hang with friends. he will ignore me for a couple days. and i know it.



and a couple time people would post snapchats of him putting him self in really compromising situation

with people while under the influence and i would see it in snapchats.

so there is always a little worry with trust.

i want to pre-protect myself from pain

because he has a huge ability to hurt me

I feel you girl! Whatever youve said in the post, tell him that. Communicate your needs , if he loves you he'll do what needs to be done. Dont dwell on these frustrations youre having just talk it out. Its better than thinking over it by yourself.

Posted by sagittariusxo
so my Taurus has been a little outta touch lately .

texting me but next responding back, basically just giving me little validating texts hes alive

but not engaging in any conversation that im trying to get answers too.

it was starting to really annoy me to have conversation with my self for 2 days

so last night i was like, "cool ttyl" and went full on silent treatment

no good morning text

no good morning snap chats

no response to his 1am text, but the read is on proving I checked it.

im just annoyed.

am i being a brat.

im not like mad at him and im not interested in a fight with him

but i am a little annoyed and it leaves me without any words to say.

i have nothing to say. its not worth bring up with is bothering me

so im just kinda giving him a taste of his own medicine so he knows how it feels.

thoughts.

Why not just ask him? You're not a mind reader.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by jeane

Posted by sagittariusxo

Posted by jeane

Posted by sagittariusxo
so my Taurus has been a little outta touch lately .

texting me but next responding back, basically just giving me little validating texts hes alive

but not engaging in any conversation that im trying to get answers too.

it was starting to really annoy me to have conversation with my self for 2 days

so last night i was like, "cool ttyl" and went full on silent treatment

no good morning text

no good morning snap chats

no response to his 1am text, but the read is on proving I checked it.

im just annoyed.

am i being a brat.

im not like mad at him and im not interested in a fight with him

but i am a little annoyed and it leaves me without any words to say.

i have nothing to say. its not worth bring up with is bothering me

so im just kinda giving him a taste of his own medicine so he knows how it feels.

thoughts.

He's been out of touch so your response is to cut off communication entirely? Yeah, makes sense.

i just don't know what to say

its like he leaves me in my head to think so negatively

and now im just really annoyed.

but im not going to bring it up and fight about it, im not going to tell him im feeling all these negative things about him, im not going to start a fight... so all i wanna do is kinda hide under a rock until i kinda get over my upset.

why does he do that?

why do they make you feel like they want all your attention, even can be upset when they don't get it

but then they can go silent themselves for days?

He doesn't leave you to think negatively. You think negatively - take ownership over your reactions.

There are several ways to deal with this. One, like you are doing. Stirring yourself up into a frenzy, have a good pout in the corner with him no wiser as to what suddenly brought this on.

Or you could behave like an adult and communicate with him. You could say, I feel x. I'm wondering if everything is okay with you. Seems you are out of sorts and dealing with something. I'm going to give you some space. Hit me up when you want. And then you stay consistent and constant.

And when he texts you are 1am, instead of ignoring it like a pre-teen, answer it. These things are called bids. Want a long lasting relationship? Respond the your partner's attempts to get your attention.

https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-sound-relationship-house-turn-towards-instead-of-away/

I love the Gottmans.

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Me too. I'm truly indebted.

Posted by sagittariusxo
im a sag and i am feeling a little insecure, or maybe just like MASSIVLY Overthinking things which is probably my greatest struggle.



I recently found out more about my Taurus birth chart and it said something along the lines of...

"He may have secret love affairs." - im freaking myself out

because he goes silent and hasn't really been talking to me.

You're an idiot.

How you managed to make it in life thus far is beyond me. By all counts you should be in the Darwin Awards Hall Of Fame

Btw: http://www.compatible-astrology.com/taurus-man-sagittarius-woman.html

Posted by Mered1th
Btw: http://www.compatible-astrology.com/taurus-man-sagittarius-woman.html

see this is why im so insecure.

because these compatibility websites all say that we are not compatible

and because he is a Taurus sun and mom im so afraid of it ending.

Posted by sagittariusxo

Posted by Mered1th
Btw: http://www.compatible-astrology.com/taurus-man-sagittarius-woman.html

see this is why im so insecure.

because these compatibility websites all say that we are not compatible

and because he is a Taurus sun and mom im so afraid of it ending.

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Don't be a moron. It's only astrology. Who gives a fuck what the websites say? What's important is the relationship you in and no one can say if it's working or not besides the two people in it.

You're insecure because of issues you have to deal with. You're pointing the finger at everyone else but yourself. It's him or its a website or the receipt that I got at the supermarket had his birthday on it so that means his is sleeping with a person he read about in the newspaper this morning.

No one will ever do enough to reassure you. He could be perfect but it sounds like even then, you would still be convinced that it's all going to fall apart.

This becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. The more you push him away, the more you fail to connect with him, the more likely of this running into the ditch.

Posted by aflyingarrow

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Posted by sagittariusxo

Posted by aflyingarrow
Is he mad at you and pulling some passive agressive thing? Mars in cancer likes to bottle up feelings A LOT..

maybe

i was suppose to stay over on Tuesday

but some plans got cancelled and i forgot a bag for work the next day

so instead i just went home and told him i would come over Wednesday

i communicated everything, i was sad about it but he should understand shit happens

Have you apologised?

I always forget to apologize, if i think it's not a big deal turned out it's a big deal for him.. im working on it ?

taurus moon cancer venus are soooo sensitive and dont like fall out plans..

Like: "i was looking forward to it and hv prepared and you cancel just like that?"

?

that might have been what happen.

i feel like he got upset with me because i forgot my bad.



but its like i would have had to wait around for him for 3 hours in my uncomfortable work clothes

with my kid who has nothing packed for entertainment.

i feel like he was treating me like that on purpose.

because i called him and i text and no response

and when i finally gave him an emotion, "annoying face bitmoji"

then he wants to ask me why. like that was dumb question, you know why"

like he says, things don't always need to be said.

so at 1am he finally texts me. like really. that's frustrates me.

and yes im insecure too. i need validation too.

my boyfriend is so damn attractive and such a beautiful person internally

and me im not always confident in my appearance im under a lot of stress and gaining

and not feeling pretty and he's over here ignoring me.

ugh - i feel like i don't get the same focus he requires me to give him.

Nah.. dont be insecure.. cancer venus are loyal af.. trust me on that ?

The taurus moon in him is very well prepared with things he couldnt understand why werent you prepared if it means a lot to you.. so that might be the reason for his disappointment, regardless of your lengthy explanation.

Just come to his house.. bring his fav food, act mushy2 and cuddly.. cater him, spoil him and then say what you need to say.. NOT with angry and insecure notes.. more like :"sorry yaa if i disappointed you... i didnt prepare enough for... i was looking forward to it but yeah.... bla bla bla" and bring also the reason about your child and how your child will be a headache for him if your child doesnt have any entertainment.. and he def wont enjoy the night if this happens...

And promise you will work on your preparation skill better so he wont be disappointed..

Cancer venus like someone they see as a good mother figure.. he'll def understand..

I dont know how long he will still hold it. Im lucky that mine has gem sun.. he get over it pretty quickly as long as i know im wrong, i apologised and i promised not to repeat it again...

this method always work... the whole.. damn... time ?

Im a taurus moon/cancer venus and unfortunately I can be passive agressive. I will give hints on what hurts me if someone doesnt pick up on it I will retreat. Sometimes because i get sick and tired of the same behaviour over and over again.

I dont want to overreact as I want to stay calm and collected and I hate drama. Retreating gives off a signal that somethings up. If the behaviour that irritates me doesn stop I will retreat even more. Especially if the other person acts like its not a big deal. In my mind its translated as you just dont care (about me). Taurus moon makes very stubborn and cancer venus very sensitive.

Im not proud of it by the way.

"Especially if the other person acts like its not a big deal. In my mind its translated as you just dont care (about me)"



Oh boy... this sounds sooooo familiar ?

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I care.

I look forward to the moments we get time to spend with eachother.

we don't live together and currently live in different cities.

i wake up at 4am to leave by 530a with my son to drive to his side of town (where i now work)

i just left my bag at the door. i was in a rush. its hard to be alive that early lol

im a sag. and i can be very unemotional toward things. if i cant change things i chuck it up and keep pushing forward. i makes lots of mistake. im never going to act perfect because i know this. but will he understand me, will he get used to all my differences.

like my inability to pick up on hints, i don't know what he is feeling unless he says it.

i can only assume the way he is treating me is all the validation.

but when he ignores me, im like WTF

Ok, Im confused, did you talk to him about this and then he continued those actions, so you chose this route?

Either way, if you want silent treatment, Im an expert, so once I saw that read receipt, you wouldn't hear from me again. Balls in your court to reach out, is my opinion.

Posted by beautifulsoul74

Posted by sagittariusxo
so my Taurus has been a little outta touch lately .

texting me but next responding back, basically just giving me little validating texts hes alive

but not engaging in any conversation that im trying to get answers too.

it was starting to really annoy me to have conversation with my self for 2 days

so last night i was like, "cool ttyl" and went full on silent treatment

no good morning text

no good morning snap chats

no response to his 1am text, but the read is on proving I checked it.

im just annoyed.

am i being a brat.

im not like mad at him and im not interested in a fight with him

but i am a little annoyed and it leaves me without any words to say.

i have nothing to say. its not worth bring up with is bothering me

so im just kinda giving him a taste of his own medicine so he knows how it feels.

thoughts.

Why not just ask him? You're not a mind reader.

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its not worth it to me.

DONT TWIST THAT.

im just an observant person. actions speak louder.

i rather suffer through to see if the outcome changes, or gets worse.

i just don't want to act insecure even tho i am a little.

fake it until you make it.

Posted by Arielle83
He'll probably welcome the silence. You sound like an over texter

RUDE

Posted by lesenfantterribles

Posted by tiziani

Posted by lesenfantterribles
at least you know you have no chill ??‍♀️

That's half the battle, right there.

right? i think thats a foot on the right path.

now... if only she can gain some confidence & stop playing games ?

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its a joke with us that i get really anxious sometimes.

i tell him he has all the chill and i have none of the chill.



im pretty chill.

until it comes to hurt, pain or fear.

then i worry and rationalize everything

its a coping thing i think so i can talk myself through whatever is messing with me.

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by sagittariusxo

Posted by Arielle83
He'll probably welcome the silence. You sound like an over texter

RUDE

Wow a sagittarian that cant handle honesty.

A man doesn't want to check in with you all the time.

A man doesn't give a fuvk about morning texts.

A man doesn't need your constant attention.

Now you're going to play some game to TEST him.

You're an over texter and busy people weren't put in this planet to help with your need for validation.

Grow the fuvk up you needy idiot.

You're embarrassing yourself.

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calm down.

i said one word.

and it was rude. so i let you know. don't get carried away.

its was one word.

I told my Gem I loved getting his good morning texts. That it puts a stupid grin on my face.

He texts me every morning and evening without fail.

Op have you tried asking him to step up the communication? You can't expect him to read your mind, especially if you ghost him.

(crickets chirping).

I'm SURE they talked.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Update:



well I stayed over there last night.

he was really reserved and quiet.

we had a basic conversation about work and stuff and he told me that he was going to hang out with his friend.... an older man Thursday. I was under the un discussed assumption I was going to stay over but I guess not.

I basically shut down. I might be in my head and I know that I over think. but it makes me feel weird.

I hadn't really talked to him the last couple days

Then he ignores me is what it felt like because he never responded back, I didn't even know he was busy, (if i know your busy i wont bug you, but if I assume you are doing what you always do, which is chill at home. I wonder why the hell are you not answering?) then I stayed over yesterday and I feel totally uncomfortable with silence, he's hardly talking - he was slightly affectionate but way way below what he normal is and it seemed like it was because he could tell something was bothering me - this is why communication is key, sometimes it can feel like your giving me what you think I need, but we question if its really what you want? - and he blew off plans for the next day to hang with some coworker guy - then he asked me about my friends, if I have talked to them, seen them and wondered why we hadn't hung out. (my 2 best friends work and travel a lot so its been tough to connect lately but we talk all the time)

and i was like why would he ask that?

so I took most of your advised tried to ease into a conversation.

I asked him first if he was ok? he said "yes, why" and I said "because your being really reserved and quiet" and all he said (typical Taurus) "im just chillin"

so then after he asked about my friends, I basically shut down. I felt like he was trying to push me away a little. like "all you wanna do is chill with me, what about your friends" - this is simi true. im a mom so Monday thru Friday im busy with that routine and I have weekend off from that and yes im normally with him, we have a lot of mutual friends, who im always making plans with but we do things with them together as of lately. my personal friends and I have just been busy, we are best friends and I have all be busy with other things, we can go weeks without seeing eachother but communication is always their. anyways. I obviously took that some kind of way. I asked him why he asked and he just said he was just wondering.... BUT WHYYYYYYYYY?

ok

well I wasn't satisfied with that conversation so when he finally asked me what's wrong later. I was like "I feel like I haven't really talked to you in the last couple days, and that's fine, and then you told me you were going to hang out with your coworker tomorrow instead, and that's fine too but then you asked me about my friend and im feeling like something is up, like im being clingy or your wanting space"

and all he said was I think too much and he was just asking.



also you guys mentioned that the bottom line to my spazzzzz thread seems to be that im scared.

and after reflecting on this ugh your right. This relationship is making me a way insecure person.

I can say with pride that prior to the love part of this relationship I was very confident, I was the average sag with no expectations and just wanting to have fun and not taking it too seriously because I love me the most type deal. but now im in love, and now iv gotten to know him on a deeper level and now I know he has things I don't want to lose because well, I know what a shitty relationship is like and I know what douche bags are out there and he has so much to offer and very little to complain about (complaints: communication, transparency, stubborn) but its true. I have a high pain tolerance, but losing him in any way is not something I want to feel. I feel emotional to that thought of how scary and hurt I would be if for some reason this ended.

but I cant manage to be vulnerable enough to tell him this.

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by sagittariusxo
im a sag and i am feeling a little insecure, or maybe just like MASSIVLY Overthinking things which is probably my greatest struggle.



I recently found out more about my Taurus birth chart and it said something along the lines of...

"He may have secret love affairs." - im freaking myself out

because he goes silent and hasn't really been talking to me.

You're an idiot.

How you managed to make it in life thus far is beyond me. By all counts you should be in the Darwin Awards Hall Of Fame

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that was extremely rude.

i rather be all those things, which im confident knowing i am now, regardless of what you think, then be a person who belittles people for their insecure moments.

i have something on my mind and im just asking for some guidance from people with no bias, im aware of my flaws and accept constructive conversations but your just a straight hater.

You my friend are trendy AF with your internet bulling. be better then that.

Boop!

Posted by sagittariusxo

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by sagittariusxo
im a sag and i am feeling a little insecure, or maybe just like MASSIVLY Overthinking things which is probably my greatest struggle.



I recently found out more about my Taurus birth chart and it said something along the lines of...

"He may have secret love affairs." - im freaking myself out

because he goes silent and hasn't really been talking to me.

You're an idiot.

How you managed to make it in life thus far is beyond me. By all counts you should be in the Darwin Awards Hall Of Fame

that was extremely rude.

i rather be all those things, which im confident knowing i am now, regardless of what you think, then be a person who belittles people for their insecure moments.

i have something on my mind and im just asking for some guidance from people with no bias, im aware of my flaws and accept constructive conversations but your just a straight hater.

You my friend are trendy AF with your internet bulling. be better then that.

Boop!

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You just found out your Taurus' birth chart and it said "He may have secret affairs" and you start freaking out?! This sounds too retarded even for a Sag lol.

I'm seriously wondering how you manage life if a broad and general chart of pseudo-scientific nature says a Taurus - any Taurus - 'may have secret affairs' turns your world upside down.

Posted by sagittariusxo
Update:



well I stayed over there last night.

he was really reserved and quiet.

we had a basic conversation about work and stuff and he told me that he was going to hang out with his friend.... an older man Thursday. I was under the un discussed assumption I was going to stay over but I guess not.

I basically shut down. I might be in my head and I know that I over think. but it makes me feel weird.

I hadn't really talked to him the last couple days

Then he ignores me is what it felt like because he never responded back, I didn't even know he was busy, (if i know your busy i wont bug you, but if I assume you are doing what you always do, which is chill at home. I wonder why the hell are you not answering?) then I stayed over yesterday and I feel totally uncomfortable with silence, he's hardly talking - he was slightly affectionate but way way below what he normal is and it seemed like it was because he could tell something was bothering me - this is why communication is key, sometimes it can feel like your giving me what you think I need, but we question if its really what you want? - and he blew off plans for the next day to hang with some coworker guy - then he asked me about my friends, if I have talked to them, seen them and wondered why we hadn't hung out. (my 2 best friends work and travel a lot so its been tough to connect lately but we talk all the time)

and i was like why would he ask that?

so I took most of your advised tried to ease into a conversation.

I asked him first if he was ok? he said "yes, why" and I said "because your being really reserved and quiet" and all he said (typical Taurus) "im just chillin"

so then after he asked about my friends, I basically shut down. I felt like he was trying to push me away a little. like "all you wanna do is chill with me, what about your friends" - this is simi true. im a mom so Monday thru Friday im busy with that routine and I have weekend off from that and yes im normally with him, we have a lot of mutual friends, who im always making plans with but we do things with them together as of lately. my personal friends and I have just been busy, we are best friends and I have all be busy with other things, we can go weeks without seeing eachother but communication is always their. anyways. I obviously took that some kind of way. I asked him why he asked and he just said he was just wondering.... BUT WHYYYYYYYYY?

ok

well I wasn't satisfied with that conversation so when he finally asked me what's wrong later. I was like "I feel like I haven't really talked to you in the last couple days, and that's fine, and then you told me you were going to hang out with your coworker tomorrow instead, and that's fine too but then you asked me about my friend and im feeling like something is up, like im being clingy or your wanting space"

and all he said was I think too much and he was just asking.



also you guys mentioned that the bottom line to my spazzzzz thread seems to be that im scared.

and after reflecting on this ugh your right. This relationship is making me a way insecure person.

I can say with pride that prior to the love part of this relationship I was very confident, I was the average sag with no expectations and just wanting to have fun and not taking it too seriously because I love me the most type deal. but now im in love, and now iv gotten to know him on a deeper level and now I know he has things I don't want to lose because well, I know what a shitty relationship is like and I know what douche bags are out there and he has so much to offer and very little to complain about (complaints: communication, transparency, stubborn) but its true. I have a high pain tolerance, but losing him in any way is not something I want to feel. I feel emotional to that thought of how scary and hurt I would be if for some reason this ended.

but I cant manage to be vulnerable enough to tell him this.

You have a settlers mindset although obviously your dynamics is not what you would like from him.

I have a question for you: when was the last time in this life when you had a great time and felt good? This is the type of dynamic you should be looking for.

Think of it this way: if this is all there is are you really gonna settle for this guy?! Obviously he had time to show some of his true colors and being himself. You feel this is enough for you?

Also: what did triggered all this insecurity in you? Can you point that moment in time with him? Were you ever happy and secure with him?



Note: all I've given you are questions that you can privately reply to in your own mind. I gave you things to think about. Do not feel obliged to answer publicly here.

Also: never take actions and decisions from a place of desperation. That's the worse life seal you could do to your life and your future.

Posted by Capmercury87
What is your mercury?

im still trying to understand my chart



Sun Sag

Mon in Capricorn

Mercury and Venus in Scorpio

and Mars in Pisces

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Posted by sagittariusxo

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Posted by sagittariusxo
im a sag and i am feeling a little insecure, or maybe just like MASSIVLY Overthinking things which is probably my greatest struggle.



I recently found out more about my Taurus birth chart and it said something along the lines of...

"He may have secret love affairs." - im freaking myself out

because he goes silent and hasn't really been talking to me.

You're an idiot.

How you managed to make it in life thus far is beyond me. By all counts you should be in the Darwin Awards Hall Of Fame

that was extremely rude.

i rather be all those things, which im confident knowing i am now, regardless of what you think, then be a person who belittles people for their insecure moments.

i have something on my mind and im just asking for some guidance from people with no bias, im aware of my flaws and accept constructive conversations but your just a straight hater.

You my friend are trendy AF with your internet bulling. be better then that.

Boop!

You just found out your Taurus' birth chart and it said "He may have secret affairs" and you start freaking out?! This sounds too retarded even for a Sag lol.

I'm seriously wondering how you manage life if a broad and general chart of pseudo-scientific nature says a Taurus - any Taurus - 'may have secret affairs' turns your world upside down.

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boop!

Sounds more like insecurity is drowning you.

Don't let it!

Let me remind you that we live in a day and age where we expect instant gratification but our lives are still happening outside of our phones. Do not expect him to be clung to you like saran wrap, he has his life... Go have yours.

What I've learned about Taurus is that they like their space, especially when they have something going on. He will come back to you when he's ready. Would you like to have xyz on your mind and finally you clear it, come back to your significant other and they are all freaking out/insecure and ready for drama? NO.

So chill.

He's with you because he wants to be with you. The day he doesn't want to be with you, he won't.

Take from my experience.