Im with a taurus woman

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by lamish on Thursday, September 22, 2016 and has 30 replies.
Posted by lamish
We are both 21. I'm male leo, she is taurus and HER DAD IS TAurus too if that matters!
Soooo you go out but you don't want her to go out?
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She goes out, I dont.
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Posted by lamish
She goes out, I dont.
go out with her??
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Well,I have never seen her out and ive just got a bad feeling for all this going out shit because ive seen my freinds what they do when they are out,... yes it doesnt mean that everyone is shit that goes out but still, im so fuckin worried as leo...

and i know that some guys are like going forward to girls, and when i imagine if some guy would tap on my girl or just fuckin put a finger on her or talk to her i would go fuckin insane to be honest, yes i fuckin rage as a leo but srsly... ?? give me tips how to try to not make her go out so much?

if i would go out more often, would she do it too?

if i would sit home when she is out, would she start think or what?
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If you don't fix your jealousy issues, this thing ain't gonna last.
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Damn and damn.
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Posted by lamish
She does invintes me to places when she goes for example with her friends, its not like she is hiding smth...

I dont have insecurities but only when she goes out because its hard for me to belivie in people and it is not something that she have done, its something i had grew up with because ive been thru much bulshit
here's the deal, if she does invite you out, it's your responsibility to be on your best behavior to say thanks for including me. If you spend your time sulking because you don't want to be there, she will notice and eventually stop asking you to go out. stop me if this is not the case I've just seen it before. talk to her about it when you're ready to compromise with her. it's the only thing that will fix this. as someone said, you both are young so let her be young and get it out of her system, and it will in time. either go with her and enjoy yourself, stay home and let her have her fun, or find someone who's life style meshes with yours better. best of luck! try to lighten up! trust will also go a long way which you sound like you re trying to do. shows a lot of love.
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@OP, Dude, here's a suggestion for you. If she is not the one for you, you will know soon. Stop worrying alright ?? Chill and take the centre spot. Enjoy living. Life will give you what you need, stop worrying. It may be this girl or next or 1000's later. Be assured you will get your lover. Worrying will leave you no where.

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Posted by lamish
No no no, I really want to go out with her if we are both togetehr and im not sad when we are out, also we have never been out together lol? u misunderstood me.
then sit her aside in private and TELL HER "babe I wanna go out and have fun sometimes too but I don't have a lot of friends inviting me out right now so can I go out sometime with you when you go out? please?! l will be on my best behavior and it will be so fun!" *smooch*

see what she says.
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Posted by lamish
Okay, so is there anything I could do that taurus woman loves? do you love to chase someone or etc
hush. she loves you. you just have to figure out your compromise. this isnt the end of your relationship and certainly not the world. pull your strong Leo self together and go show her how much fun you can be!
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You don't trust her because you and your friends are the kinda dudes who roofie drunk girls at the club.

You want to control her actions. You want her to stop going to events that are for her work.

You want to possess her completely.

Your insecure.

Thing is the tighter you hold onto something the more it will try to get loose.
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Posted by lamish
Please give me some tips how to make her want me more?
Women want confidence from their men. Are you confident in yourself?
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Posted by lamish
Hi, I'm new here and I'm looking for advices, please do not comment something like "you have issues", okay so:

I want my Taurus woman to stop go out on the nights and I am wondering what the hell could I do to make her stop that? because I love her very much but I kinda wanna leave her when she does things that doesnt fit to me... and I have accepted many things that she does but I cant and dont want to be with a woman who goes out,

for example the previous year, she didnt go out, just once on the whole year, but this year she have been out like 3-4 times already and yeah it may not sound so much but please, I dont ike when she goes out and sometimes drink so how should i explain to her?

She is like; you can go out its okay, I belivie you etc etc but I just want us to leave that party night shit world....

I have tried to give her some hints and spoke about it but she seems so natural about it like, its normal and let people do what they want, i kinda know how taurus are a bit but help please?

and please give me some tips what can I do to make her want me more?

for example, if i dont answer so often how do you taurus woman react etc?

I take out my girl for dinner, im doing a lot of stuffs to her but sometimes it feels like it will maybe turn around and she will take advantage of it like most of the girls do (no offense), but ive heard so many stories about girls that gets spoiled or some shit and then they like get tired of the guy?.. so please give me all kind of tips.
I get you, I really do. You love this girl and god forbid someone else tries to move in on her; I get it. Alright, I shall try my best to give you some helpful advice.

So let's start off with the basics. Taurus X Leo : Equivalent to being 2-0 down in a football game. Easy to overcome if you've got Cristiano on LW and Leo on RW, let's be serious, though.

So, you DO NOT want to tell her what she can and cannot do. Unless you want that inner bull out. So she goes out a few times, sounds to me like she wants to let that inner spirit of hers roam free. Taurus DOES NOT like to be suffocated -- sometimes you just gotta let us go -- we'll be back. If a Taurus loves you and I mean REALLY loves you, she only has her eyes on the prize (You in this case, lel) she WONT cheat.

She's young, she might be looking to play the game a while longer before she decides to settle with her "one and only", if you catch my drift.

You cannot force anything upon her, like making her 'want you more', this must come naturally; woe to the fool who incurs the wrath of a Taurean woman.

Basically, let her do her thing. Let her soar and if she loves you, she'll be back after the freedom phase.

You should also know about the Taurus curse -- We are always looking to better ourselves, always looking for something better -- sometimes to the detriment of our relationship.

I wish you well.
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Posted by lamish

I take out my girl for dinner, im doing a lot of stuffs to her but sometimes it feels like it will maybe turn around and she will take advantage of it like most of the girls do (no offense), but ive heard so many stories about girls that gets spoiled or some shit and then they like get tired of the guy?.. so please give me all kind of tips.
If you were to ask your Taurus girlfirend what is it that she loves about you...how do you think she would answer that question?

Would the response be based on who you were as person...or what you were willing to offer her or bring to the table?

Something tells me your insecurities are triggered by something.

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Posted by MiZLeo
Good luck bro. The harder a man tries to control me.... the more I want to run away......usually while laughing at the fact that he thought he could control me.
Priceless....

And then MzLeo drops the mic....

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You are controlling. You want to control what kind of response you receive and now you want this board to help you control her?
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Posted by TishTosh
Well...not trying to be funny but you wanted honest. I really think you need to work on whatever it is in you that makes you feel that way. The fact that you don't want her to go out at all is telling. You can express to her how you feel about her outings but chances are she will respond in kind with the fact that she invites you and you decline. Bottom line is this, if she decides to appease you because some of us Taurus girls are people pleasers and never get out and about she may very well start to feel like a beautiful cages bird and resentment will set in. I know that's how I would feel.
the resentment is real lol avoid creating it as much as possibleLaughing
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Posted by lamish
I am not insecure with it comes to myself and for example, to achivie goals in life. I've got a strong will inside of me and spriit and I always keep fighting. Some of you are hating on me, some of you misunderstood me. Let me make it more clear,

I am not trying to control her at all, I wouldnt like to do that because I want an independant woman that can take care of herself. I can go out also and have fun, and I dont sit at home nagging on her dont do this or that, it is just that i keep everything that irritates me for myself so I kinda wanna speak out some shit here but y'all just throwing shit at me, (thanks in advance). I havent even took it up with her like dont go out, I let her do whatever she likes. But Im trying to somehow give her a sign that - dont do it too often, Im about to drop 3-4 years with this girl because of this.

And someone asked what she likes when she goes out: Being with friends, music, socializing but I got no idea how she is when she is out.

and I dont know how it is in your religion, country etc. just because you go out party so much doesnt mean that other people do, you forget to think and ask about my personal life how it is and so on, the circumstances... I dont except y'all to understand but dont fucking sit here and call me for this and that, we can discuss normally and if you feel like giving me advice do it in a kind way. Anyway, I can also mention that I was living perfect single before that and was in a great shape muscular before I met her lol...

I love her so much, it feels like I am loving her nconditional but thats not the way taurus are looking at it


So sick of controlling your feelings, you want to control her behaviour to make you less irritated.

You shouldn't have to "let" her do anything. If you don't mesh well with the person you are with, you end the relationship. You don't try to change them. Accept that perhaps you are not compatible. Consider that your thoughts and feelings as to how women should behave might be outmoded and that trying to find a woman who fits your ideal may be difficult.

And we can fucking sit here and do whatever we like. You can't control our reactions either. Don't like it? Then fuck off.

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@OP, i'm a Taurus female and deep down I like my man to be protective and not want me to go out. Unfortunately, i do like to go out and have a drink once in a while. But it would bother me if he didn't show concern for my safety and loyalty.

You should take her out to satisfy her need for fun nights out. Or, when she goes out you can text her because deep down she's probably going to like that you're checking up on her.

And if she has Venus in Taurus, she is probably loyal af. i'm sure she feels connected to you and won't mess around. I read that you trust her and it's more that you don't trust others - and it's good that you feel protective like that - again, just text her to make her feel checked on.

There's a difference between protection and respect. That's what I've learned with a recent relationship I got out of. You can be protective of her, but don't disrespect her.

Emotions are dear to a Taurus, male or female. So express how you feel, and she will be smitten deep down, trust me. I'm sure she wants to please you, especially if you're taking care of her and stuff. I don't think she'll take advantage. Being taken care of is a given and expected from a Taurus female.
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"woe to the fool who incurs the wrath of a Taurean woman"

truuuuuuuuu lmaooo damn

Oh, that reminds me, OP, do not make her repeat herself if she has clearly told you how she feels. The best way to approach it - and here comes REAL advice because you're really asking - is to seem sad and worried. That's the best you can do. And not in a fake way. I think if I saw my man be sincerely sad and worried, it would invoke the reassuring, loving side out of me.

Lack of logic and/or insincerity will piss a Taurus off. If, instead of sincerely concerned and worried (which is cute), you come off as selfish and/or domineering, you will lose her. Taurus women can't be controlled. Like, lol... it's laughable to even try. Their minds are very clear. They have a radar for true emotion and/or manipulative behavior.
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true emotion vs. manipulative behavior*
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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
So you planning on this by coming here before ruining it wise choice. You haven't seen her yet???? but your mind is racing on alot of things and alot of people are telling to slow your roll and drop the high controlling behavior you spew of.
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Posted by lamish
I could do it but

1, sometimes I cant because she goes for example with her work, or some special birthday freind party so i cant always be with her there?

2, I dont want her to go out at all Sad

You want her to be stuck in a prison with you?!
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Posted by lamish
Maybe I'm just unlucky loving someone ... dunno

This is my first serious relationship and I just wanna build a safe and good future together with her, I dont wnana play some fucking games or be unserious or shit... but I was also doing totally fine when i was single, was in better shape etc... less worried but dunno maybe all this is a part of it
Good relationships make you both better not worse, if you are not feeling that way, then perhaps you need to take some space and think about if this is a healthy relationship for you.
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I do feel what helps a relationship stay long term is normal everyday routines. I was in a relationship with someone 15 years, what really hurt us in the end was that our priorities were different. Our everyday/weekend routines wedged a big crack in our relationship.

When one is the type who wants to be at home and just be serious, being around the family or has religious reasons for it, while the other wants to go out and spend more time with friends, it becomes difficult to bear for at least one of the sides. It's just like if one person is extremely clingy vs. one who is super independent. If one can care less about going to sleep with you at night or eating dinner with you while the other wishes for that. One spends too much money, while the other likes to save. These little, everyday things are what causes relationships to eventually end without some huge event having to happen. At least these days anyway. And what ends up happening is that one person who doesn't like how the other is when it comes to these small things ends up trying to voice their concerns, but because they are then asking for that person to just be "more like them" you are in turn trying to control someone else. That or you end up compromising so much that you end up losing yourself.

If you would like to stay with her then you are either 1. Going to have to compromise and just get over it if that is who she is and doesn't want to change (going out.). 2. She will have to compromise and change to make you happy. Do you see what I'm saying? This is difficult for many people. This is why I say don't rush into relationships, see who this person is. People rush into marriage and relationships when they know there are many things they do not like about that person. The rose glasses are on though so they stay and then they marry them and hate it. Hate that they are soooo different when it comes to everyday little things. They complain and eventually it causes more issues.

I don't mean you have to be with someone exactly like you, but stop looking at someone for who they are on the surface and really think about this person on the inside. Do they really mesh well with you? Can YOU change for her? Do you think SHE will change for you? Will you grow together or end up growing apart? If either of those can't happen, then you're going to be here again, venting and asking us what you should do even years later. You should have an honest conversation with her about your feelings, see her for her she is and either accept it (without ever bringing it up again) or leave.
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Nah, I like my man going out with friends sometimes and that is without me. I felt my bull focused his world to me and I dont like it.

I kept saying darling, would you like to go out with friends or colleagues at work without me? He said no, he is fine. He is just contented going out with me sometime..but you know what I mean. We always do. Lol
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Posted by jane84
I do feel what helps a relationship stay long term is normal everyday routines. I was in a relationship with someone 15 years, what really hurt us in the end was that our priorities were different. Our everyday/weekend routines wedged a big crack in our relationship.

When one is the type who wants to be at home and just be serious, being around the family or has religious reasons for it, while the other wants to go out and spend more time with friends, it becomes difficult to bear for at least one of the sides. It's just like if one person is extremely clingy vs. one who is super independent. If one can care less about going to sleep with you at night or eating dinner with you while the other wishes for that. One spends too much money, while the other likes to save. These little, everyday things are what causes relationships to eventually end without some huge event having to happen. At least these days anyway. And what ends up happening is that one person who doesn't like how the other is when it comes to these small things ends up trying to voice their concerns, but because they are then asking for that person to just be "more like them" you are in turn trying to control someone else. That or you end up compromising so much that you end up losing yourself.

If you would like to stay with her then you are either 1. Going to have to compromise and just get over it if that is who she is and doesn't want to change (going out.). 2. She will have to compromise and change to make you happy. Do you see what I'm saying? This is difficult for many people. This is why I say don't rush into relationships, see who this person is. People rush into marriage and relationships when they know there are many things they do not like about that person. The rose glasses are on though so they stay and then they marry them and hate it. Hate that they are soooo different when it comes to everyday little things. They complain and eventually it causes more issues.

I don't mean you have to be with someone exactly like you, but stop looking at someone for who they are on the surface and really think about this person on the inside. Do they really mesh well with you? Can YOU change for her? Do you think SHE will change for you? Will you grow together or end up growing apart? If either of those can't happen, then you're going to be here again, venting and asking us what you should do even years later. You should have an honest conversation with her about your feelings, see her for her she is and either accept it (without ever bringing it up again) or leave.
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I'm a Leo and would hate for my man to say I couldn't see my friends go out and I'm 44 . At 21 u need to go out and be with friends the more you stop someone they will resent u for it . When a man is. Airing about the, when they go out that's different she's not changed she's just young and it is normal to want to see your girls and let loose I appreciate my man more after being out with my friends because u get idiots around and I'm glad I'm not with a idiot . Don't worry she's not gonna run out on you for having fun with her friends she will run out if she doesn't .
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The more u are cool with her going out the more she will appreciate u
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You gotta work on your control issues.

My ex leo was so damn controlling..never wanted me to go out, couldnt drink, etc.etc. i saw so much of our 1 bedroom apt it made me sick.

But him, he was free to do whatever.

I even had to ask him permission to use my.own damn car!

He knew he wasnt a catch. He knee i was better than him. He knew someone would see my worth and treat me better. He knew he was a loser. He just didnt want me meeting other guys and comparing them to him. Then i would see the truth.

She's going to leave you eventually. Shes working on a plan.
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