In LDR with Taurus for 10 months and it's rocky.
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by longlegs4you on Sunday, January 29, 2012 and has 4 replies.
I'm an Aries, and my bull and I been in a relationship for the last 10 months and half of the 5 mos have been long distance. We haven't seen one another going on 6 weeks now. Due to the current situation, my bull is not communicating as often as I would like. I overreacted and hung up on him and didn't speak with him for 2 days. I called on the 3rd day and he was polite but busy....I apologized and promised never to hang up again and he said it would be a while before he could forgive me. Since then, he's been really rude, crude and downright disrespectful.Some days, he's attentive and thoughtful and it's get's icey again..out of of the blue he's mean again. Says he'll "call back" and abruptly ends conversations without calling back or apologizing. I have since, stopped calling as much,...just with for him to call now..giving him his space. I am always the one being patience and forgiving. Yesterday, he did it again.."I'll call you back" (btw, I called him )and he didn't call me back until 11:00pm. Asking me was I busy today, and how I was, and was I going out. And then he's accusing me of wanting to party when he knows he party's every weekend. Which he admitted candidly. I told him I was going to the movies and he started with accusing me of not going to the movies....and again he ended the call with "I'll call you back" and I laughed like knowing he wasn't going to call me. I'm confused, near all my Taureans to weigh in on this!
This has to be really important for him to be totally invested in it. From the sound of it, he isn't and has his doubts considering how you communicate. Long distance doesn't help.
What do you want from this? A serious, long-term committed relationship? Then make that clear so you won't be fighting about petty things. Is he moving back or are you moving to where he is anytime soon? Tell him what you want and need from him in a very serious and straightforward manner. Share with him your vision of the future and let that sink in. Don't get into petty accusatory conversations about what each of is doing while away from each other. What you have should be better than that but if it isn't, maybe what you have isn't strong enough to handle the distance. Either this is something special or it isn't. Discuss that with him and come to a conclusion or move on.
What do you want from this? A serious, long-term committed relationship? Then make that clear so you won't be fighting about petty things. Is he moving back or are you moving to where he is anytime soon? Tell him what you want and need from him in a very serious and straightforward manner. Share with him your vision of the future and let that sink in. Don't get into petty accusatory conversations about what each of is doing while away from each other. What you have should be better than that but if it isn't, maybe what you have isn't strong enough to handle the distance. Either this is something special or it isn't. Discuss that with him and come to a conclusion or move on.
Thanks Mistery. I don't know how to have this conversation by phone. We plan to see each other in late February. I will need some coaching on how to express myself face to face. I don't call anymore, I just wait and I'm not pushing the relationship envelope as much. Seems to be working...not pressure. I still hurt because he spends his weekends in night clubs with friends and has conversations with women...and rarely connects with me when he gets home late....I want to give up. I believe I should move on.
@Mistery, one more thing...the plan is he's moving back in November.
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