Is it just a disappearing act or is he done?

Met a taurus guy two weekends ago. We had a great time the first time we met and he told me he liked me. Then we hung out a second time and also had a great time. He texted me later that day to which I replied. Then the following day I sent a text to him with a reply. Since then I have heard nothing. I have dated a Taurus in the past and I remember after we were physical it took him 4 days to get in touch!! I thought for sure it was done then.

Best thing to do is ask him.

Last time I asked a guy something like that it scared him off. I have learned my lesson.
I have read that Taurus men take a while to get back in touch.
it has been two days now since any communication. I think I will wait another 3 days. If nothing than I guess sadly I will have to let it go.
I dont think its a good idea to ask him when he was the one pursuing me?

I'm a taurus talking to a taurus and it's helped me realize how I appear to others with my disappearing acts. It's completely normal and 80% of the time we mean nothing from it. We're hermits lol We value our alone time and that sometimes includes alone time even from loved ones just so that we don't start to forget who we are, since we tend to live through our partners. It's also a time to gather thoughts and solidify our actions and plans. That's just me though lol

Thanks for the insight kupochan. I sure hope youre right!

Posted by uwkn6543
Last time I asked a guy something like that it scared him off. I have learned my lesson.
I have read that Taurus men take a while to get back in touch.
it has been two days now since any communication. I think I will wait another 3 days. If nothing than I guess sadly I will have to let it go.
I dont think its a good idea to ask him when he was the one pursuing me?

Ah - so you didn't like actually hook up with this guy, just hung out a couple times? Yeah, asking him if he likes you that early might be a little forward...lol. Anyway, why not just reach out to him and see if he wants to hang? Bulls like to be pursued. kupochan is right, at least in my case; I need alot of alone time and I often assume everyone is just like me; needing lots of space, busy with stuff, etc.

Oh no i definitely DID hook up with him. And it was amazing in every way!
He told me I was fun and I know he had a good time.... So im a bit shocked why the sudden distance. He was contacting me more before this.
Plus I dont want to text him as I was the last one to text him first and the last one to text in general.
He even texted me after we parted ways. However now it is the weekend and I havent heard a peep! I feel like if it was good for him he would be wanting to see me again 😢 Its really been eating away at me. I was beginning to like him a lot.

"He told me I was fun "

That's not necessarily good. Fun equals to loose, give it up to any guy IMHO. After he gets it, the fleeting thought is how many guys did she give up so quickly too. Good time girl, someone I can have fun, sex with but not much more than that.

If he's already conquered you he really won't have the urge to follow up as in give you a relationship type energy.

Don't worry though, if the sex was good he'll be back in a few weeks, I hate to say this but be patient. Don't worry.

To be clear, I don't have an issue with women having sex on the first day or the 200th day, sex is just sex but men (some of them) are programmed to think a certain type of way about a woman in regards to how she display and demonstrate her sexuality, it's stupid but it's a reality.

Yea I totally agree with you on this on Tiki33. When I first hooked up with him it was just fun and games for me. I didnt even like him that much but after getting to know him more I started to.

I mean granted the way he told me i was fun was really wonderful. But definitely a contrast from the first time we met where it was "I really like you" so you're probably right.

This definitely made me feel better at least that you say I will hear from him. Not so sure I can steer it back in the other direction of him being "interested" again however. I could see him thinking about how many guys Ive been so quick with etc. Sadly Im pretty picky but he will never know!

I will say this though, he did contact me the day after (on his b day) to ask me about my day. I didnt think after sleeping with him I would hear from him like that. But since then its been pretty dismal. A reply to a question of mine and that is all.

"Not so sure I can steer it back in the other direction of him being "interested

Don't give him sex again until he's demonstrated to you he's not going anywhere but don't tease him either (don't be a tease). He's demonstrated to you he can't handle too much intimacy which is fine because a lot of men are that way.

For the most part I' not going to revolve your whole situation with him around the sex. Men know (the experienced ones) know women want a relationship after having sex so they disappear to RESET things back to the beginning when it was fun and lacked expectations.

He'll be back but don't be so eager to get dropped again. Have class and show respect for yourself by not allowing him to dip in and out of your life, you deserve more than that.

Posted by kupochan
I'm a taurus talking to a taurus and it's helped me realize how I appear to others with my disappearing acts. It's completely normal and 80% of the time we mean nothing from it. We're hermits lol We value our alone time and that sometimes includes alone time even from loved ones just so that we don't start to forget who we are, since we tend to live through our partners. It's also a time to gather thoughts and solidify our actions and plans. That's just me though lol

Isn't it odd?
I am currently having this dilemma with a Virgo.
We're so much alike...it's crazy....
Needing our alone time....

It does give you a clearer perception on how we're perceived by others....
His disappearing acts drive me crazy sometimes, but in a weird way...I understand it....

When I go into my 'disappearing acts' mode, he wonders why I do not contact him either..

Go figure.

Yep still no word.

I'm in shock