Is this a sign that Taurus Man is Falling for Me?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by LolaRed on Thursday, April 13, 2017 and has 16 replies.
While there's been a lot of push and pull during the first six months of this "relationship"... I think my Taurus may be coming around.

I spent the last few days kind of blowing him off a bit and genuinely throwing in the towel i get random messages from him asking where I am, what im doing, who am I with... Sometimes I'd tell him sometimes I'd be pretty vague.

So the.last night he messaged asking if I'm free to call. I was busy so I told him I'll call him when I get done in about an hour. So we talk on the phone for almost an hour...our phone conversations never seem to be able to last under 40 mins. While talking I tell him about a business idea I have and he loves the idea. He tells me to write up the business plan and he'll fund it. (He has the ability to easily do so). Then he reminds me that his bday is coming up in two weeks so I ask him what he's doing. He tells me he has nothing planned so I ask if I can do something for his bday. He says sure! Then says me, you, and Paris sounds perfect for my birthday. Will you come with me? I try to contain the excitement in my voice as we talk about minor details. But by the end i get control it and let all of my excitement show and then he gets really excited about how excited I am. But then he says while laughing, "but you're not going to fall in love with me in Paris, right". Then he tells me we should discuss the details over dinner on Friday and that I should pick any restaurant that I want to go to...

Is this a sign that he's coming around? And possibly over the age difference?Thus far, he has not shown much generosity. Outside of taking me to nice dinners or ordering in expensive meals (which is what he would've ate whether I was there or not) he hasn't spent any money on or given me any gifts. So do you think he's coming around and finally falling for me?
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by LolaRed
While there's been a lot of push and pull during the first six months of this "relationship"... I think my Taurus may be coming around.

I spent the last few days kind of blowing him off a bit and genuinely throwing in the towel i get random messages from him asking where I am, what im doing, who am I with... Sometimes I'd tell him sometimes I'd be pretty vague.

So the.last night he messaged asking if I'm free to call. I was busy so I told him I'll call him when I get done in about an hour. So we talk on the phone for almost an hour...our phone conversations never seem to be able to last under 40 mins. While talking I tell him about a business idea I have and he loves the idea. He tells me to write up the business plan and he'll fund it. (He has the ability to easily do so). Then he reminds me that his bday is coming up in two weeks so I ask him what he's doing. He tells me he has nothing planned so I ask if I can do something for his bday. He says sure! Then says me, you, and Paris sounds perfect for my birthday. Will you come with me? I try to contain the excitement in my voice as we talk about minor details. But by the end i get control it and let all of my excitement show and then he gets really excited about how excited I am. But then he says while laughing, "but you're not going to fall in love with me in Paris, right". Then he tells me we should discuss the details over dinner on Friday and that I should pick any restaurant that I want to go to...

Is this a sign that he's coming around? And possibly over the age difference?Thus far, he has not shown much generosity. Outside of taking me to nice dinners or ordering in expensive meals (which is what he would've ate whether I was there or not) he hasn't spent any money on or given me any gifts. So do you think he's coming around and finally falling for me?
Are you interested in because of his money and what "gifts" you can get out of him?
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No, I'm not interested in because of what "gifts i can get out of him". Which I thought would be obvious since I said there has never been gifts exchanged between us except for the Xmas gift I got for HIM.

I only mentioned gifts Bc I've heard that it's a sign that a Taurus man is seriously into you if he starts giving gifts.

Just Bc someone in a relationship has financial means doesn't mean that a gold digging theme needs to be applied...just saying

it sounds like he is enjoying your company. Stop sweating the small stuff. Live in the moment. Enjoy the time you spend with each other without having to deconstruct everything.

You'll make yourself neurotic.
He wants to take you to Paris. Assuming he will pay. He will take you to any restaurant etc. Assuming he will pay. If he's serious about it then go with it. The holding back is an issue. As Baptist said, some people are generous and some are tight. My Taurus is a good level of generous but not frivolous. Certainly not right.

Not keen on Paris. Bit of a shit hole and stinks of piss. It's got worse apparently. Friend of mine has just returned from Paris and Rome and both places are overrun now. Rome was lovely. Barcelona was nice.

That said, I'd accept his offer. Start planning/booking it. Enjoy it. Stop worrying so much.
Posted by LolaRed
While there's been a lot of push and pull during the first six months of this "relationship"... I think my Taurus may be coming around.

I spent the last few days kind of blowing him off a bit and genuinely throwing in the towel i get random messages from him asking where I am, what im doing, who am I with... Sometimes I'd tell him sometimes I'd be pretty vague.

So the.last night he messaged asking if I'm free to call. I was busy so I told him I'll call him when I get done in about an hour. So we talk on the phone for almost an hour...our phone conversations never seem to be able to last under 40 mins. While talking I tell him about a business idea I have and he loves the idea. He tells me to write up the business plan and he'll fund it. (He has the ability to easily do so). Then he reminds me that his bday is coming up in two weeks so I ask him what he's doing. He tells me he has nothing planned so I ask if I can do something for his bday. He says sure! Then says me, you, and Paris sounds perfect for my birthday. Will you come with me? I try to contain the excitement in my voice as we talk about minor details. But by the end i get control it and let all of my excitement show and then he gets really excited about how excited I am. But then he says while laughing, "but you're not going to fall in love with me in Paris, right". Then he tells me we should discuss the details over dinner on Friday and that I should pick any restaurant that I want to go to...

Is this a sign that he's coming around? And possibly over the age difference?Thus far, he has not shown much generosity. Outside of taking me to nice dinners or ordering in expensive meals (which is what he would've ate whether I was there or not) he hasn't spent any money on or given me any gifts. So do you think he's coming around and finally falling for me?
No, it's a sign he's going in to get in them panties. FYI never mix business with pleasure. Be very careful not to mistake his generosity as sincerity. Don't get hooked on his money but if you do get hooked don't mistake your feelings for love, being in love.

And slow down on the extravagant life because you can easily get controlled and played where you're high high high only to crash and burn. If I were you I would not go to Paris with him. Take your time and don't allow men with power and money manipulate you into loving them through the stuff he gives you.

Have fun but don't fall asleep at the wheel...



But why did he say "you aren't going to fall in love with me, right?" ?

Also last night when we went for dinner, he pretended like we didn't even have the convo about Paris. When I asked him directly, "was he serious when he mentioned us going to Paris" he said "not really, but I should be" before going to the restroom. and that was it. After that I was really confused and a bit hurt. When he came back he started saying that he's going away for the summer with his kids (it's something that they do every year) and he hasn't decided where they should go. So I'm speaking with him about that and tell him about my plans to go to Vancouver for the summer (which until now he didn't know anything about) so he asks how long I'll be gone and I tell him June- August. Then he tells me I'll have a great time and that I should "go to Vancouver and STAY in Vancouver"! It seemed like he was a little upset about me leaving. I just laughed his comment off and said "I can't stay in Vancouver" and he asks me why. I tell him "for starters my whole life is here". We finished a great dinner and went back to his house to drink wine. We talked for hours about everything until we were both exhausted. He wanted me to stay the night, but I had to get home so I left. Oh, and he also told me that I should start bringing comfortable clothes to his house so that I can get comfortable while I'm there.

I'm trying to gauge his level of seriousness about me. Because one minute he seems like he wants to no with me and then the next he's telling me I should stay in Vancouver!
Posted by LolaRed
But why did he say "you aren't going to fall in love with me, right?" ?

Also last night when we went for dinner, he pretended like we didn't even have the convo about Paris. When I asked him directly, "was he serious when he mentioned us going to Paris" he said "not really, but I should be" before going to the restroom. and that was it. After that I was really confused and a bit hurt. When he came back he started saying that he's going away for the summer with his kids (it's something that they do every year) and he hasn't decided where they should go. So I'm speaking with him about that and tell him about my plans to go to Vancouver for the summer (which until now he didn't know anything about) so he asks how long I'll be gone and I tell him June- August. Then he tells me I'll have a great time and that I should "go to Vancouver and STAY in Vancouver"! It seemed like he was a little upset about me leaving. I just laughed his comment off and said "I can't stay in Vancouver" and he asks me why. I tell him "for starters my whole life is here". We finished a great dinner and went back to his house to drink wine. We talked for hours about everything until we were both exhausted. He wanted me to stay the night, but I had to get home so I left. Oh, and he also told me that I should start bringing comfortable clothes to his house so that I can get comfortable while I'm there.

I'm trying to gauge his level of seriousness about me. Because one minute he seems like he wants to no with me and then the next he's telling me I should stay in Vancouver!


You should do something radical like ask him what his thoughts are about a relationship with you.

You say you spoke about "everything" but you didn't talk about your confusion and the mixed messages you are interpreting.

Just be honest with him and yourself.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by LolaRed
But why did he say "you aren't going to fall in love with me, right?" ?

Also last night when we went for dinner, he pretended like we didn't even have the convo about Paris. When I asked him directly, "was he serious when he mentioned us going to Paris" he said "not really, but I should be" before going to the restroom. and that was it. After that I was really confused and a bit hurt. When he came back he started saying that he's going away for the summer with his kids (it's something that they do every year) and he hasn't decided where they should go. So I'm speaking with him about that and tell him about my plans to go to Vancouver for the summer (which until now he didn't know anything about) so he asks how long I'll be gone and I tell him June- August. Then he tells me I'll have a great time and that I should "go to Vancouver and STAY in Vancouver"! It seemed like he was a little upset about me leaving. I just laughed his comment off and said "I can't stay in Vancouver" and he asks me why. I tell him "for starters my whole life is here". We finished a great dinner and went back to his house to drink wine. We talked for hours about everything until we were both exhausted. He wanted me to stay the night, but I had to get home so I left. Oh, and he also told me that I should start bringing comfortable clothes to his house so that I can get comfortable while I'm there.

I'm trying to gauge his level of seriousness about me. Because one minute he seems like he wants to no with me and then the next he's telling me I should stay in Vancouver!
How long have you known this Taurus?
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I've known him for 6 months
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
6 months is like 6 mins in the eyes of a Taurus, OP. I suggest you get to know him and build a solid friendship first...
But is this always the case? He has an aries venus. Also my ex-husband was a taurus and he proposed in 7 months and we were married 8 months later
Does he have a Gemini moon too?

Aries venus...first warning flag.
Also, he gave me a call last night to chat and tell me that "he had a great time last night and really enjoys my company" He mentioned the fact that we did not sleep together and he wanted me to know that was by design. He said he wanted to prove to me that there is more to our relationship than sex. And to let me know that he also enjoys my mind and my company. We chatted for another 15 mins before I had to go since I was going out to dinner with a friend. I feel like all of this are good signs...
Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Does he have a Gemini moon too?

Aries venus...first warning flag.
He has a libra moon
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
6 months is like 6 mins in the eyes of a Taurus, OP. I suggest you get to know him and build a solid friendship first...

Preach! Preach! She won't see those signs of him being into her or coming around for a long time from now. She needs to take this as just a friendship - it's not a "relationship" like she may think. I'm a Cappy Lady and believe me, you will have to muster up all of the patience in the world. Mine is has finally come around to express his feelings about me and it's been 4 years. Take it as just a friend and have fun. No expectations. 6 months is not long enough.

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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
6 months is like 6 mins in the eyes of a Taurus, OP. I suggest you get to know him and build a solid friendship first...

Preach! Preach! She won't see those signs of him being into her or coming around for a long time from now. She needs to take this as just a friendship - it's not a "relationship" like she may think. I'm a Cappy Lady and believe me, you will have to muster up all of the patience in the world. Mine is has finally come around to express his feelings about me and it's been 4 years. Take it as just a friend and have fun. No expectations. 6 months is not long enough.

4 years!

My goodness... I am a Taurus and even I struggle with the "rope of patience".. It's a long bloody rope but does a Taurus man ever stop to think that they may one day hang themselves with the same rope?! Smh!
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I know! Believe me, he has admitted that he is shocked that I am still here, I am too. But I didn't wait for him. When he would pull away, I would too and go on with my life. I didn't have the title as "gf" so if I was interested in someone else, I would go out (and I don't mean sleep with them) but I enjoy my own company so I am up and out doing my own thing keeping myself busy and didn't think about him. He always came back but when he knew his feelings came to the surface, he would run again. He had a terrible past relationship so the stop and go, hot and cold got on my nerves. We argued a few times and when I told him how I felt & suggested that he needs to go and find him a cookie cutter woman b/c I'm not her, later on he told me that my words really cut without me ever using a curse word. ?

Some of them I don't think that they will hang themselves because they feel the world revolves around them. Only some, not all. They are hurt when that woman moves on for good and can't quite understand what happened. As for me, we Capricorns have a lot of patience. I'm extremely selective especially when it comes to dating. But now, the trust, friendship, like, love, respect, comfort is all there. I give him the space he needs which gives me the space too and let him come back to me. He has already admitted that he hit the jackpot when he met me and how lucky he is. I already knew this but I gave him 4 yrs to finally figure that out. Haha! There are a lot of men that are very slow and methodical movers and just want to be careful when it comes to dating. No one wants to get hurt.


Wow, sounds so romantic; and he will fund the business too! Girl, you hit pay dirt. I agree with Jeane it sounds like he's enjoying your company and yes you should just relax and indulge in the moment it sounds like it's too new for him to be quote falling and I don't think that Earth signs fall too much they're very practical their feelings develop over time.
Posted by LolaRed
But why did he say "you aren't going to fall in love with me, right?" ?

Also last night when we went for dinner, he pretended like we didn't even have the convo about Paris. When I asked him directly, "was he serious when he mentioned us going to Paris" he said "not really, but I should be" before going to the restroom. and that was it. After that I was really confused and a bit hurt. When he came back he started saying that he's going away for the summer with his kids (it's something that they do every year) and he hasn't decided where they should go. So I'm speaking with him about that and tell him about my plans to go to Vancouver for the summer (which until now he didn't know anything about) so he asks how long I'll be gone and I tell him June- August. Then he tells me I'll have a great time and that I should "go to Vancouver and STAY in Vancouver"! It seemed like he was a little upset about me leaving. I just laughed his comment off and said "I can't stay in Vancouver" and he asks me why. I tell him "for starters my whole life is here". We finished a great dinner and went back to his house to drink wine. We talked for hours about everything until we were both exhausted. He wanted me to stay the night, but I had to get home so I left. Oh, and he also told me that I should start bringing comfortable clothes to his house so that I can get comfortable while I'm there.

I'm trying to gauge his level of seriousness about me. Because one minute he seems like he wants to no with me and then the next he's telling me I should stay in Vancouver!


Oh I didn't see this part.

He's displaying a side of him that can be quite hurtful, curt and insensitive. And in regards to Bringing comfortable clothes over I wouldn't even almost think about getting comfortable with someone who has a proclivity to be hurtful and get my hopes up and then turn around out of anger and cut me to shreds.

You might need to back up from this guy and let him prove himself with consistency with his words and actions a little bit longer before you begin to consider him a viable option as a romantic interest. ?

Where is his Mars and Venus?