Kinky, Falling in love with a Taurus and scared

Hi there,
So ive been dating this Taurus female, Im a Scorpio. I met her at a fetish event. We have been spending pretty much every weekend together. I like hanging out with her and we have amazing chemistry. I want to take it to the next level but i know how Taurus's like there space and freedom. Which im willing to give her. I just dont want to ruin what we have now.
We have sort of an alternative sexual thing going on. She is a very beautiful Dominatrix and i am a Submissive. When im away she tells me she misses me but the other weekend she went to vegas and posted all these photos with her and other guys. I didnt say anything and dont plan on it. But it did make me jealous. I feel like i get mixed messages from her sometime though. She gets very mad very fast and can be a little mean. ME being the sensitive scorp gets a litte effected by it. So sometimes i think she likes me a lot and others i feel like she is looking for something better. So im a little confused She is very kinky and says she wants to hook up with other guys. Im down with whatever really, but want to feel safe and protected as to feel like she isnt going to go off looking for someone else. I want to feel secure knowing if that happened she would stay with me. I dont mind mixing things up sexually i just want to be the one she goes home with in the end.... EEEHHHHKKKK. Anyway we talked a while ago when we started dating and she asked me what my expectations were, i said i dont have any. Side note, she and her long term BF just broke up a few months ago. Maybe like 5 or so.
I want her to be my gf but im afraid of asking and smothering her. How do i know if i should pull the trigger or not ?
Anyone out there can shed any light on this i'd greatly appreciate it.

yeah, I hate when I do that. seriously. My ex, the majestic love we had, i don't know where she is, how she is, it's nice have a closure get together months to a year after the split, i knew she told me when we got together about what she had, I blindly stomped the shit outta those promises.

I could see her alone. I don't think about how much I miss her anymore.

THanks everyone for the fast responses.

A little update.

We were playing phone tag last night and texting back and forth. She is calling me honey and babe/baby all the time now. She said she was going to call me at 1145 today. I was unable to answer as i was unloading from this weekends event. I know how Taurus's like punctuality but it was out of my control to not answer.
She has been having a tough time at work lately and is a little stressed at her job.. I want to help ease the stress should i send her flowers ? I just bought her a bunch of sexy cloths and also some non sexy stuff too and cant wait to give it to her.

Taurus bag, i dont mind getting and doing nice things for her. I actually enjoy it.. And the rewards are nice too. For example i run a cafe and we set up at a music fest. I went shopping for her and bought her a bunch of nice things. And i couldnt stop. I love it. And money isnt really an issue here. I also know they are takers but if im giving and they are taking but im getting to see her in the things i bought so is that bad ? or if im not expecting things in return. Just doing it cause i like too ?

DJ, at the time i didnt have any expectations. We were just playing and honestly i didnt want a gf. But through being with her i realize that i like her more then i wanted to. So now its not that i have expectations i just want to know how she really feels, I guess i dont even need to be her boyfriend i just want to feel security in knowing she cares about me. And not worry if i see her with photos of other guys on fb. You know ? Really id love to be her bf but if what we have now is going to continue im fine with that too.. I just want to know where i stand. and am a little afraid of how to approach it.

Not sure of the rest of her chart i can find out though.

We are playing with precautions and though we push limits im fine with that.. I love the pleasure she gets its almost as much for me as her.. WEIRD I know.. Never really asked to be like this just happened. And im done pretending im somone else who doesnt enjoy some kinkyness.
I never really asked for this lol. I love being with her and the time we spend just wish my scorpio mind would settle down and just be in the moment and not worry so much.. I feel like things are probably great in her eyes. Im trying to be cautious and be mindful of the seductive taurus ways.

Again thanks so much everyone.
I appreciate your help

Also dont know if this helps but i was

THanks everyone for the fast responses.

A little update.

We were playing phone tag last night and texting back and forth. She is calling me honey and babe/baby all the time now. She said she was going to call me at 1145 today. I was unable to answer as i was unloading from this weekends event. I know how Taurus's like punctuality but it was out of my control to not answer.
She has been having a tough time at work lately and is a little stressed at her job.. I want to help ease the stress should i send her flowers ? I just bought her a bunch of sexy cloths and also some non sexy stuff too and cant wait to give it to her.

Taurus bag, i dont mind getting and doing nice things for her. I actually enjoy it.. And the rewards are nice too. For example i run a cafe and we set up at a music fest. I went shopping for her and bought her a bunch of nice things. And i couldnt stop. I love it. And money isnt really an issue here. I also know they are takers but if im giving and they are taking but im getting to see her in the things i bought so is that bad ? or if im not expecting things in return. Just doing it cause i like too ?

DJ, at the time i didnt have any expectations. We were just playing and honestly i didnt want a gf. But through being with her i realize that i like her more then i wanted to. So now its not that i have expectations i just want to know how she really feels, I guess i dont even need to be her boyfriend i just want to feel security in knowing she cares about me. And not worry if i see her with photos of other guys on fb. You know ? Really id love to be her bf but if what we have now is going to continue im fine with that too.. I just want to know where i stand. and am a little afraid of how to approach it.

Not sure of the rest of her chart i can find out though.

We are playing with precautions and though we push limits im fine with that.. I love the pleasure she gets its almost as much for me as her.. WEIRD I know.. Never really asked to be like this just happened. And im done pretending im somone else who doesnt enjoy some kinkyness.
I never really asked for this lol. I love being with her and the time we spend just wish my scorpio mind would settle down and just be in the moment and not worry so much.. I feel like things are probably great in her eyes. Im trying to be cautious and be mindful of the seductive taurus ways.

Again thanks so much everyone.
I appreciate your help

Also dont know if this helps but i was

dont know why that posted twice sorry

okay cool,
Let me maybe shed some light on our relationship.
We are mostly normal in public and when not playing around. We have an understanding and are people above all. We talk like normal and do normal things together. The whole D/S is just in the bedroom and when we attend events etc. I like the feeling of being under her control when the time is right. I also just love being with her despite the D/S situation.

I am just worried about making her feel smothered. BUt i guess i should either except what we have and see where it goes or have the talk.. MAybe she is wondering the same thing i am. If thats the case would it be better to come out and say it ?

Also, is it good to give her some space and not contact her for a day or so ?

Well im trying not to so i dont think i am...
And its not like that. We are normal in relationship land just like you are.. Its only in the bedroom i get punished. And its for anything. LIke looking at her wrong or something stupid like that.

* giggles * i'm on a similar boat with my scorpio..i'm a taurus female by the way..

we match each other sexually like no other signs could. we wanted to do what you do...kinky and experiment things on another level. I guess we will soon but at the moment the time isn't right.

My point of view... one of you have to be honest about where you see the other person... either, you tell her that you see her more than just a kinky partner...( she already knows) but would be nice to hear from you.. tell her that she is very special to you etc.

just be mindful that, taurus and scorpio are the most possessive signs . ..so as long as the kinky stuff..that involves " another person" is just for FUN and at the end of the day she comes back to your bed...then there's no problem.. .. we are jealous and possessive ... and me and my man are still .
.." thinking..deciding" if this is the right thing to do.. you really don't want this " fun " to damage the " trust " you have built within your relationship..
it is not worth it in the end. anyway, i have not tried it yet..still indecisive ! there's the " fun" and there's the " commitment.." as long as i learn to seperate the two ..me and you should be alright... ! haha

saweetz1988 thanks for the insight.
I encourage you to get out and play around with the alternative life style . So we are told you only live once. And if that is true what do you have to loose.

In reaction to my original post. I guess im just afraid of rejection. She is very attractive and very Taurus. She likes to flirt etc. It does make me jealous but when we go out she makes me feel important as im the only one.
On the other hand i find myself wondering what she is doing. And if she doesnt call me if she is out with someone else. And i know that most likely she isnt. Its just my crazy scorp head being weird.
WE are hanging out Sat night/sunday. We usually hang out all weekend. But she said she can only hang out sat and sun. Im guessing she is going sky diving again. And has to wake up early. I want to ask but dont want to seem like im interrogating her. Is it okay to ask ? UHG why am i so damn sensitive.

So you think i should just come out and say that i like her more then just a play partner ? Do Taurus's like that ? I dont want to make her fell pressured because i know you T's dont like that.

Anyway thanks again this forum has been great.

Posted by Universeinme
saweetz1988 thanks for the insight.
I encourage you to get out and play around with the alternative life style . So we are told you only live once. And if that is true what do you have to loose.

In reaction to my original post. I guess im just afraid of rejection. She is very attractive and very Taurus. She likes to flirt etc. It does make me jealous but when we go out she makes me feel important as im the only one.
On the other hand i find myself wondering what she is doing. And if she doesnt call me if she is out with someone else. And i know that most likely she isnt. Its just my crazy scorp head being weird.
WE are hanging out Sat night/sunday. We usually hang out all weekend. But she said she can only hang out sat and sun. Im guessing she is going sky diving again. And has to wake up early. I want to ask but dont want to seem like im interrogating her. Is it okay to ask ? UHG why am i so damn sensitive.

So you think i should just come out and say that i like her more then just a play partner ? Do Taurus's like that ? I dont want to make her fell pressured because i know you T's dont like that.

Anyway thanks again this forum has been great.

I can't speak for all Taurus's but we like stability and like to know where we stand. If you have your guard up then we put our guard up too. She's probably too scared to give you or tell you what you want to hear because she's feeling the same way as you.. don't want to drive you away etc. we are two stubborn people so if one is not willing to compromise then it wouldn't work right ?

since being with a Scorpio, i must say he introduces me to a whole new world...i love how we connect that way in bed ! its so fun and exciting ! sex can be just sex for us Taurus's though where i feel scorpions are more passionate than us..... i feel you should be HONEST with her . you will feel a BIG relieve once you have told her what you feel and where she stands.. it doesn't have to lead to a " title" of any sort.. i feel that when scorpio and taurus comes together..title doesn't matter because we are both dedicated and loyal lovers. just remember that technically she has the right to do stuff with other guys if she wanted to..because you have not CLAIMED her yet ! ...so don't STING her if she does ! ><

try not to be so sensitive. i know you can't help that..try to....enjoy the RIDE

whats her venus.

You have great advice. Thanks !
Not sure what her Venus is or how to find that out.
But you are right i might as well let her know what i am feeling. Maybe i will at the end of weekend. We always have a blast together.

I really appreciate your insight.

You have great advice. Thanks !
Not sure what her Venus is or how to find that out.
But you are right i might as well let her know what i am feeling. Maybe i will at the end of weekend. We always have a blast together.

I really appreciate your insight.

Posted by Universeinme
You have great advice. Thanks !
Not sure what her Venus is or how to find that out.
But you are right i might as well let her know what i am feeling. Maybe i will at the end of weekend. We always have a blast together.

I really appreciate your insight.

🙂 do it ..smoothly though.. my venus is in gemini so i can jump into things quickly.. if her venus is earth sign she will be even slowwwerrr so better you check that out before you let her know how you feel... you can check it if you know her year ....

if you do speak with her, just tell her where she stands and how special she is... nothing more .. she will get the hint to just enjoy the ride..

good luck 🙂

Oh wow,
Now im nervous. Should i should i not ?
9 May 1981