Lack of Communication?

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Is it normal for a taurus man to not communicate on a regular basis? I see him on the weekends but I don't hear from him during the week. Is this typical behavior?
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typical behavior
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So your telling me I have nothing to worry about? I don't want to bug the guy. Do you think I should text/call him from time to time during the week or should I just mirror his actions and stay quiet as well.
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If he's making the time and effort to see you regularly, I wouldn't think you have anything to worry about. Tauruses are independent and are pretty good at balancing time for themselves/friends/family/work etc. as well as their romantic interests/SO's.
If you miss him and want to say hi, don't feel shy about doing it. No need to hold back on your own impulses, let them flow naturally. He'll appreciate you reaching out and thinking of him, even if he doesn't have the time to properly talk or hang out.
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He's forever on his social media.. Posting things but I don't dare comment on them. I don't want to seem stalkerish. I just see them on my news feed and I wonder why he don't send me a quick hey what's up text etc.. Would be nice. I just wonder if he thinks of me like I think of him. I don't want to be the only one reaching out..
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One other thing. I've been sick with a cold and he was with me this whole past weekend just being lazy around the house was great. He took care of me. But he has not once called or text to check in on me to see how I was feeling. I know people are different but if your seeing somebody wouldn't you be curious about that?
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From what I've seen Tauruses aren't big on small talk. If you're trying to arrange a date or have something specific to share or talk about they're happy to engage. Otherwise just shooting the breeze over texts isn't really their thing.
My Bull checks in with me a lot; how I'm doing, what I've been up to in the day, how I'm feeling (if I've been sick), what are my plans for the day/week. He likes knowing all the ins and outs of my day/life, a lot more than I'm used to. But in our case I initiate contact with him most.
He's very self-conscious about imposing on other people's time and feels more at ease if other people (read: everyone in his life lol) contact him first. That way he knows they're free, that they want to talk to him, rather than feeling obligated to because he was the one to initiate.
Since being told that I've no problem poking him when I feel like and he's always quick to respond, even if I poke him every day. And if I've left contacting him too long he'll give me a shout instead.

Hopefully that helps, it could just be his communication style /prefs are different than what you're used to, not that that he doesn't care. And considering he took care of you while you were sick, it seems like he does smile
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@untamedleo
Maybe your right. Maybe his communication is different from what I am use to. I know when we first started he would always ask me how my day was, how I was doing etc. that only lasted for about 2 weeks. I think I will wait it out and see how long he takes to reach out to me. I'll give him his space.
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Posted by Leyla699
Is it normal for a taurus man to not communicate on a regular basis? I see him on the weekends but I don't hear from him during the week. Is this typical behavior?


Absolutely for me....unless i have some reason to be jealous or distrustful. Then i will be checking on you all the time....lol
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Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Posted by Leyla699
Is it normal for a taurus man to not communicate on a regular basis? I see him on the weekends but I don't hear from him during the week. Is this typical behavior?


Absolutely for me....unless i have some reason to be jealous or distrustful. Then i will be checking on you all the time....lol
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Oh dear... Lol
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Yes it is totally normal as a taurus I can recognize myself in such behavior. But I would recommend you don't give him that much space, because we don't really like feeling ignored or neglected, and don't be afraid to initiate things with him, He would tell you honestly if it's bothering him or not.
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100% normal. My ex didn't text me much. He only texted me when he wanted to make plans or if he had a question about something. Very rarely did he text me good morning or good night texts. He has a few Gemini placements, but still isn't really big on communicating daily. Now in person he'll talk your ear off lol he's just not the type to make small talk all day long everyday. If he's making time to see you then you have nothing to worry about. When a taurus man does the disappearing act is when you need to worry lol
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I just tried calling him rang three times and went to Voice mail Sad. He put me to VM
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Posted by UntamedLeo
From what I've seen Tauruses aren't big on small talk. If you're trying to arrange a date or have something specific to share or talk about they're happy to engage. Otherwise just shooting the breeze over texts isn't really their thing.
My Bull checks in with me a lot; how I'm doing, what I've been up to in the day, how I'm feeling (if I've been sick), what are my plans for the day/week. He likes knowing all the ins and outs of my day/life, a lot more than I'm used to. But in our case I initiate contact with him most.
He's very self-conscious about imposing on other people's time and feels more at ease if other people (read: everyone in his life lol) contact him first. That way he knows they're free, that they want to talk to him, rather than feeling obligated to because he was the one to initiate.
Since being told that I've no problem poking him when I feel like and he's always quick to respond, even if I poke him every day. And if I've left contacting him too long he'll give me a shout instead.

Hopefully that helps, it could just be his communication style /prefs are different than what you're used to, not that that he doesn't care. And considering he took care of you while you were sick, it seems like he does smile


Yes, ALL of this. Once in a while a Leo woman comes through here that just really gets us (or me at least). I've read a bunch of your comments and they really resonate with me - very level-headed and wise.
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Awww ty that's appreciated, no less because my Bull also shares your Moon, Merc & Venus smile
Wish my understanding came naturally but it didn't, not initially. There was a lot of banging-head-on-brick-wall and growing pains to get there (mostly my own butter). Worth every moment to be where I am now though, and really nice to have my understanding affirmed with words for once haha
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Still no call back from him and it's been hours. I'm starting to get worried.
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Leyla699,
Yes that is normal for just taking a chance. But an interested taurus man that is not normal..
He will send you a msg everyday. e-mailing everyday.
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Posted by Leyla699
Still no call back from him and it's been hours. I'm starting to get worried.



I think you are more in love... have time for yourself.
I don't believe a taurus man when interested, he is just going to work,sleep and just eat without asking your day. I must say.. learn to love but don't be a fool.
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Posted by M143
Leyla699,
Yes that is normal for just taking a chance. But an interested taurus man that is not normal..
He will send you a msg everyday. e-mailing everyday.


yes, this the very least. Everyday in person contact is the norm with Tauruses, in person or telephone. Emailing, online and texting doesn't count that's fake relationships even if they call you "wifey" easy to game thru electronics. Consistency is important for them if they care about you they will hit you up ALOT, Taurus men are not shy about it. Don't continue to chase him, pull back now both emotionally and in your return contact. Taurus men don't like to be pushed.
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though they may set you up to chase, don't fall for it or they'll move along and call you crazy stalker. Ive seen that over and over with girls my brother used to date who where chasing him. The ones that he really liked (and the one hes with now) maybe bossy but never chase. She didn't initiate first contact until after they where exclusive.
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Maybe I am more in love than he is. What is so bad about showing that. I know how to maintain it. you know right after the call I made went to VM I txt him stating " I probably caught you at a bad time, call me later when you get a minute. I don't mind how late it is," He never called me and didn't even get a text or anything. Nothing mentioning that he may be busy, or even I will call you tomorrow etc.. Maybe I am overreacting. I can do that sometimes. I've been burnt in the past and I get worried that this is where it is heading. I am keeping my cool and the ball is in his court. If I don't hear from him by the end of this week then I know for sure that he's not that into me. Bummer Sad what does anybody advise that I do when he does contact me? should I ask him why he didn't call?
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Leyla699, I sent you a pm.
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one other thing he was on his instagram posting pics and stuff, but yet doesn't have the decency to give me a buzz.
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Still nothing.. No call no text. What should I do now just wait him out and see how many days it takes for him to return my call or just be done with him. I mean he can't be that busy to return a phone call
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honey, I made some rec's for you. You have no idea if you'll hear from him again soon or not, I know you will hear from him again. Do something nice for yourself take a bath and listen to some music or watch a movie you love, be gentle with yourself, pamper yourself and take your mind off of this its not fair but theres nothing you can do except be pissed at his poor behavior.
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The chasing makes us look desperate but we really not desparate especially when he is the one telling you sweet things you want to hear. No more chasing .. funny bull shit it is.
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Oh I have Taurus in mars. And daily communication is important. I want to talk and no matter how busy I am. I will either initiate conversations with you first or or wait forever.. I don't like bugging people either. Can go with out communicating.. a simple hi I give and respect the same if were friends.
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I am going to let this one go. It isn't fair and I gave him no reason for him to be completely ignoring me. only one thing comes to mind. He's messing around and I know that may be my insecurity speaking, but its what I think when shit like this happens.
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I think you're right and that's probably the best option for you; just let it go, do you and enjoy your life. It seems as though you've been overthinking and stressing yourself out a lot over this, which is never fun nor ever really helps.
Without more details on your situation (did you ever mention your own sign?) it's a challenge to give better insight. It's impossible to know if this is part of his personality, if life happened, if this is simply where you're at in your interactions (as in early stages, still getting a feel for you so there's more distance) or if he's just not into you. Could be any one of the above or something else entirely.
But what does shine through in your posts is your insecurity, and if I can see it odds are he can too and that's likely also playing a part. What I learned for myself was that insecurity is more about being unable to trust yourself, and if you can't trust yourself how can anyone else trust you? I don't mean that as any kind of insult, but an acknowledgement from someone who's been in that headspace far too many times before (with a Taurus as well).
Having respect for yourself to not be played and uphold your own boundaries is important and it's good you're choosing that. And I think it's just as important to realize how awesome you are, innately, flaws and all. Realize the things about yourself that attracted him in the first place, the same things that'll inevitably attract someone else, and OWN it!
Be comfortable in your own skin, don't be afraid to be yourself and let people see you, no need to stress if you're just being yourself and following the flow. Because the right people are the ones who won't just be drawn to you, but will stay because of it. Trust yourself that you can tell the difference and that you'll be okay regardless because you're awesome Winking

/possibly cheesy but sincere Leo pep talk LOL
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@untamedleo
Thank you so much for your words. I know I have to work on my insecurities. I doubt if he sees them in me because I don't show it to him. I am a cancer and we have been seeing eachother since mid August. In the begining I didn't take him so seriously. It wasn't until about October where we started to see eachother more and on an every weekend basis. It wasn't until then that i started to really put more effort and time into him. i have always given him his space and it always got me wondering why he never contacts me during the week. so I gave it a shot this week and see if he would answer my call he didn't.
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Posted by Leyla699
Is it normal for a taurus man to not communicate on a regular basis? I see him on the weekends but I don't hear from him during the week. Is this typical behavior?


How long have the two of you been dating?
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So he called me last night we talked very briefly. I asked him how his week was he didn't say much. I told him that I tried calling but it went straight to voicemail and he was like " yea I saw that" like it wasn't no big deal. No explanation of any kind not even telling me that he was busy. He said he was going out for a drink didn't say with who nor did he invite me. Said he had to go and he would call me back .. Guess what no call back.. I texted him today stating we should talk and I would like for us to talk in person and not in text. He never replied to my text or anything no acknowledgement at all. So that's my update.
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Aaaghhh..
Your idea to let him go sounds like a good idea. At least you got to see the full extent of his carelessness during and after your conversation.
(((Big Hugs)))
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Who raises these males to be like this? Their parents should be ashamed of their sons! I keep reading about the shabby behaviour of many guys and it makes me wonder. I'm sure woman are just as bad sometimes but I guess you don't read about the 'good' guys!
Feeling your pain Leyla. Clearly this guy doesn't give a shit. Been there done that. It usually doesn't get any better.
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So it turned out that I was not the only one he's been dating. Turns out he went to a sporting event with another woman. An event which we talked about going together. I'm so heart broken. I don't understand taurus men at all. I've dated three in the past and they all did me wrong. All of them had some other female they were creeping with. I sent him a text staring he was a cruel man and had texted back asking what my problem was. I stated the obvious and he was giving excuses like he did no wrong, like he was not at fault here. I'm done with this aassshole!!
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That's just fucking insensitive! To talk about going to an event and then to go with someone else. On the other hand, others might say he's fully entitled to do this if you're not exclusive etc.
Personally, his attitude and manners stink especially regarding the missed phone call. If someone calls you it is common decency to return their call or at least message at the next convenient moment. He just didn't think it important enough and he didn't give a shit. You can see that by his 'yeah well, whatever' reply when you asked him. That's just rude.
Best to know what he's like now than further down the line. Typical that he'd turn it around on you but clearly he's doing nothing wrong in his head. Like I said, who is raising these males to become arseholes??
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if I'm interested in someone I find it very hard not to communicate with the person. If I could I would communicate everyday. maybe it's because I'm a taurus/gemini cusp. Communication plays a big part ad that allows me to connect with her on a deeper level.
as irritating as it might sound, yes I do pull the disappearing act as a way to gauge her interest but and the end of the day I will always come back and trust me, the time required to come back doesn't take too long if the Taurean is really, really interested. Anything that's 'too long' you can safely assume that he's not interested or of low interest.
Let him go Leyla699. It might not be something you'd like to hear at this time but to prevent you from being hurt it is better for you to let go now before its too late.
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SMDH, sorry to hear that
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Oh communication is a big part. I am a Taurus with Aquarius moon female. So I have to have some conversations with you daily. I can talk oddly about things(lol) or be serious, you pick. I'll discuss anything with you. Let's debate too. If you want to make bets I will compete. If you call me, I'll get back to you soon. If I call you pick up please. I hate to be ignored or silent treatment. My patience are thin sometimes. It depends though.
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I'm big on communication. I personally don't need to talk to my SO every day , but if I call or text I would like a response at least in a timely matter. Doesn't have to be within seconds or minutes, even couple hours. At least I hear from you within that day. I don't even think that's a lot to ask. He just didn't have the balls to tell me to get lost. I would have respected that more than just playing these damn games. I got burnt again, poor me. I will get over this and move on I'll be alright. If only these men walked around with writing on their forehead saying SINGLE NOT LOOKING TO PLAY GAMES LOL. Thank you all for your advice. Helped me a lot.
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Were you two an official couple? Was there a clear agreement on exclusivity or was it assumed?
Regardless of the answer I agree it's common courtesy to call someone back within a reasonable amount of time, and his talking with you about doing something and then doing it with someone else... honestly it just seems like a huge lack of care or respect. Biggest turnoff.
You'll definitely be alright, hopefully the next one's better than a throwaway Winking
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Yes we were a couple. We established exclusivity after we stared to sleep together. It took him a while Before he agreed that we would be seeing and sleeping with only eachother. I just gave him his space because I know how important that is to men. I trusted him. It just made me wonder why no contact during the week and now I know. I honestly hope I do meet a nice man.
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He can resurface, but I wont take him back. Its over between us. I rather be with a man that's better than him. I don't put up with cheaters.. I blocked him from my phone and I'm moving on and taking care of me.
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***harem***
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Posted by AgentP911
Who raises these males to be like this? Their parents should be ashamed of their sons! I keep reading about the shabby behaviour of many guys and it makes me wonder. I'm sure woman are just as bad sometimes but I guess you don't read about the 'good' guys!
Feeling your pain Leyla. Clearly this guy doesn't give a shit. Been there done that. It usually doesn't get any better.



YES!!!!!! X 100,000,000.
Even if they didn't have spoken relationship he should have been considerate of her feelings as a person.. at the very least.
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Posted by Leyla699
Yes we were a couple. We established exclusivity after we stared to sleep together. It took him a while Before he agreed that we would be seeing and sleeping with only eachother. I just gave him his space because I know how important that is to men. I trusted him. It just made me wonder why no contact during the week and now I know. I honestly hope I do meet a nice man.



so you pushed for exclusivity and he agreed?
Im going to get reamed here but this may be why. My brother is very traditional with women (typical Taurus)... Hes gotta be the one asking for a commitment and not the other way around if hes IN emotionally,if his heart is there he is the one asking.
Leyla ultimately it doesn't matter though because he turned out to be an big butthole and I cant stress hard enough how you will look back and see this. You sound super smart, intuitive and sweet and hopefully next one will be worthy of you.
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@cocokat thank you for your asvice and reading recommendations they helped me.
I understand the pressure he may have felt. After we started to sleep together (3 times to be exact) I had to make it clear that I'm not willing to share him. I told him I wanted to hold off on the sex and take it a little slower if he was unable to handle being exclusive with me. I know it was an ultimatum, but I had to set some bounderies. I had to speak up. I gave him the option to walk away if he felt he couldn't be exclusive with me and that I would totally understand. At the time he said I meant too much to him to lose me. So gave him time to think about it and we just talked about it again and he just agreed. Either way I learned my lesson with him and I won't put up with a man who thinks he can have his cake and eat it too. I don't deal with BS like that.
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yes even if he's really interested!
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Yea it's normal. Especially in the beginning...they show their love more than they verbalize it.
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Posted by M143
Leyla699,
Yes that is normal for just taking a chance. But an interested taurus man that is not normal..
He will send you a msg everyday. e-mailing everyday.

not true
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