Last night..

So last night she had a blow up of frustration and was yelling. Just plain defeated it seemed like. I didn't say anything about it. Just kept my mouth shut and waited for her to come to bed.. I rubbed her legs and feet while we watched a new movie and she passed out. This morning I made her breakfast and she was still stressed beyond belief.. what do I do when she is in these moods? I have learned that if I stay quiet she doesn't direct her anger towards me. But I feel this isn't the right thing to do and I'm not helping her get passed it. The massage last night prob relaxed her so she could calm down and go to sleep but I want to make her feel better and be able to balance her out again. I just don't know how when studying for tests is the majority of what is stressing her out.. Just continue to keep the house clean and cook for her??

Posted by Ace2009
So last night she had a blow up of frustration and was yelling. Just plain defeated it seemed like. I didn't say anything about it. Just kept my mouth shut and waited for her to come to bed.. I rubbed her legs and feet while we watched a new movie and she passed out. This morning I made her breakfast and she was still stressed beyond belief.. what do I do when she is in these moods? I have learned that if I stay quiet she doesn't direct her anger towards me. But I feel this isn't the right thing to do and I'm not helping her get passed it. The massage last night prob relaxed her so she could calm down and go to sleep but I want to make her feel better and be able to balance her out again. I just don't know how when studying for tests is the majority of what is stressing her out.. Just continue to keep the house clean and cook for her??

yes - just provide support and stay in the background and let her work it out - it's out of your control

Posted by blvckphase
On a more serious note.. It sounds like you are doing more than most men would. Maybe some of the Taur gals here have some helpful advice to offer cause to me it sounds like you are doing everything right.

Ohh don't women just love the sound of a man walking on eggshells

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Posted by blvckphase
On a more serious note.. It sounds like you are doing more than most men would. Maybe some of the Taur gals here have some helpful advice to offer cause to me it sounds like you are doing everything right.

Ohh don't women just love the sound of a man walking on eggshells

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Posted by Ace2009
So last night she had a blow up of frustration and was yelling. Just plain defeated it seemed like. I didn't say anything about it. Just kept my mouth shut and waited for her to come to bed.. I rubbed her legs and feet while we watched a new movie and she passed out. This morning I made her breakfast and she was still stressed beyond belief.. what do I do when she is in these moods? I have learned that if I stay quiet she doesn't direct her anger towards me. But I feel this isn't the right thing to do and I'm not helping her get passed it. The massage last night prob relaxed her so she could calm down and go to sleep but I want to make her feel better and be able to balance her out again. I just don't know how when studying for tests is the majority of what is stressing her out.. Just continue to keep the house clean and cook for her??

yes - just provide support and stay in the background and let her work it out - it's out of your control

Hahahaha.. you posted right when I tagged you 😛

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lol - actually I didn't even realize it was in the Taurus Forum - but I guess my comment was just coming from a Taurus perspective - lol - I'm losing track of who these people are - lol

I am not at all saying that she's ungrateful for what I do for her. She always takes a second to calmly tell me thank you for this or that. Always. It's just hard to sit back and watch her battle her demons sometimes and not knowing what to do anymore. Even though she broke my heart and left me... I also broke hers 2 years ago and I don't think she has ever gotten over it. I've hurt her very badly. She's a good person and she deserves more than what I have given her in the past.

She's different. She loved me so much. I constantly have flashbacks of the way I treated her , even as simple as asking me how my day was. She was always happy to see me. It's hard to explain. But these thoughts break my heart now just remembering how I was towards her. And she was always so good to me even though I didn't deserve it. It was too much of a perfect thing in so many ways that it scared me and I ran. But I'm not running anymore. Things haven't been the same in a really long time.. She fell put of love with me.. And I've never felt so much pain in my life. I decided to change because she deserves someone better than me 100% . And I want nothing more than to be the one she deserves and deserve to have her in return. I want better for us. I just don't know if I've done too much damage...

She tried so hard to get me to come back when I left but I was stubborn and made her wait 3 months.. And I did come back.. And things were good for awhile then I reverted back to old ways of taking everything out on her and she just gave up on me and made up her mind about who I was. She now doesn't believe that I can change cause I have been this way for 2 years and promised to change but never did. Now I've lost her.

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Posted by blvckphase
On a more serious note.. It sounds like you are doing more than most men would. Maybe some of the Taur gals here have some helpful advice to offer cause to me it sounds like you are doing everything right.

Ohh don't women just love the sound of a man walking on eggshells

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No!

When her anger is directed at me I stay calm and tell her nicely that I don't like how she is talking to me. I used make things worse by yelling at getting mad at her. So I dont know if I am letting her walk all over me when I try to be nice about it or if I'm doing it right.

Posted by Ace2009
She tried so hard to get me to come back when I left but I was stubborn and made her wait 3 months.. And I did come back.. And things were good for awhile then I reverted back to old ways of taking everything out on her and she just gave up on me and made up her mind about who I was. She now doesn't believe that I can change cause I have been this way for 2 years and promised to change but never did. Now I've lost her.

This last one done it!

Bullshit of a cryman. Story for morons!

I know.

Things shouldn't be this hard to make work.

I am trying to be a better person. She makes me want to be a better person. There's more to get out of this than just wanting my ex back.. I want to be better. Whether I get her back or not.. I want to be a better person and change my flaws into more positive qualities. I want to change.

Posted by Ace2009
I am trying to be a better person. She makes me want to be a better person. There's more to get out of this than just wanting my ex back.. I want to be better. Whether I get her back or not.. I want to be a better person and change my flaws into more positive qualities. I want to change.

I think you are flogging a dead horse.

You want to change not for yourself but to please her. So your world and your personality revolves around her. That's really not a admirable quality. It's certainly not one that many women respect.

My advice would be to move out. Be independent. Become the person you want to be and then you might be compatible together. At the moment you are chasing a shadow and becoming a sap in the process.

Maybe you guys are right. This morning I felt like she was back but she stopped herself. She even went out of her way to text me today while I was at work. But tonight.. She's off again.. It's like she feels herself slipping back to me and she runs away and is distant.

I'm scorpio

Posted by Ace2009
I am trying to be a better person. She makes me want to be a better person. There's more to get out of this than just wanting my ex back.. I want to be better. Whether I get her back or not.. I want to be a better person and change my flaws into more positive qualities. I want to change.

Change what?

And I have told her all of this.

Change my outlook on life. Be more positive in my mind. Be better for me. Everything

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Posted by Ace2009
I am trying to be a better person. She makes me want to be a better person. There's more to get out of this than just wanting my ex back.. I want to be better. Whether I get her back or not.. I want to be a better person and change my flaws into more positive qualities. I want to change.

I think you are flogging a dead horse.

You want to change not for yourself but to please her. So your world and your personality revolves around her. That's really not a admirable quality. It's certainly not one that many women respect.

My advice would be to move out. Be independent. Become the person you want to be and then you might be compatible together. At the moment you are chasing a shadow and becoming a sap in the process.

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It's so nice I want to vomit! ?

Posted by Arielle83
You're like a puppy.

It's cute, but she's a bytch set on emasculation.

Don't let some princess walk all over you even if you feel some guilt she made you feel

But you want it and nothing happens, right?

Posted by Impulsv

Posted by Ace2009
I am trying to be a better person. She makes me want to be a better person. There's more to get out of this than just wanting my ex back.. I want to be better. Whether I get her back or not.. I want to be a better person and change my flaws into more positive qualities. I want to change.

TEll her this!

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Whom are you kidding?

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Arielle83
You're like a puppy.

It's cute, but she's a bytch set on emasculation.

Don't let some princess walk all over you even if you feel some guilt she made you feel

But you want it and nothing happens, right?

Quit projecting you big old bully

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Old is your mother!

Learn how to love your less than pretty family moron!

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Arielle83
You're like a puppy.

It's cute, but she's a bytch set on emasculation.

Don't let some princess walk all over you even if you feel some guilt she made you feel

But you want it and nothing happens, right?

Quit projecting you big old bully

Old is your mother!

Learn how to love your less than pretty family moron!

My family isn't a bunch of overweight chain smokers, thirsting for married cock, so GET.

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Get what?

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Arielle83
You're like a puppy.

It's cute, but she's a bytch set on emasculation.

Don't let some princess walk all over you even if you feel some guilt she made you feel

But you want it and nothing happens, right?

Quit projecting you big old bully

Old is your mother!

Learn how to love your less than pretty family moron!

My family isn't a bunch of overweight chain smokers, thirsting for married cock, so GET.

Get what?

Get away. You're annoying.

Go be a grandma or something. Go knit something for your grandkids. Do something nice for someone besides taking out your dentures to suck a smooth suck on a married man's dick.

Or go make your husband happy. I'm sure he's busy getting his divk wet while you're on here trying to troll like a spastic geriatric on diet pills.

Just GET.

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I am sorry for your momma!

She must be really old and ugly...

And the rear of your crew family!

That figures why you are on drugs...

Posted by blvckphase


Where do I find one of you? Placements please... 😆

I agree! Wow, rubbing her feet?? I would love you for that.

Posted by Ace2009
She tried so hard to get me to come back when I left but I was stubborn and made her wait 3 months.. And I did come back.. And things were good for awhile then I reverted back to old ways of taking everything out on her and she just gave up on me and made up her mind about who I was. She now doesn't believe that I can change cause I have been this way for 2 years and promised to change but never did. Now I've lost her.

im crying for you

My advice to you would be to be supportive but not a placemat. Do not let her walk all over you even if you feel bad like you should allow it. Respect is Respect. Sounds like you both are living in the past, if she took you back after everything you put her through then the slate should be wiped clean and you both move forward. She can't hold it against you anymore because she has accepted you past that, she took you back so she needs to quit acting a brat. You too, stop dwelling on how you did her, you did her like that and now you are changing for the better. Be positive and bring positivity into the relationship, not guilt.

Romance works for me at any time any day. Buy her flowers, write her letters, sing her songs, IDK! do things for her to make her happy, to bring NEW memories and let go of the old ones. The old is the past, LET IT GO. Stop living there.

Thank you!!!!