LDR ..taurus + taurus HELP !

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by SunTauVenGem on Monday, September 30, 2013 and has 32 replies.
I would appreciate your opinion on this topic to make it easier for me to let go.
Me and my bull hit it off really well a few weeks ago. We known each other for 3 years n always liked each other but never went for it because i was in a relationship and he was too. We reunited again when he visited my city. We had the best week together. He's the sweetest man i have ever dated. He's romantic at heart and have been consistence and persistence. He calls me sweetheart etc and we enjoyed each other's company like no tomorrow.
His family lives in where I am now and he just moved up to another state 10 months ago. He has a job up there and when we spent the time together i chose not to discuss about our situation as i just wanted to go with the flow and enjoy the ride which turned out to be somewhat amazing.
We discussed that we were to be exclusive and let each other know if one was to date another etc. We both do latin dancing and last week end i was out dancing all weekend and he has been the most supportive partner ever. ( Moon in leo?) .. He told me to be good before i went out dancing.. there was alot of TRUST between us and that was probably one of our strength.. We were loyal and consistent to one another and supported each other.
NOw the problem started when i told him i had a holiday for a week and i don't know what to do with it. He suggested i come to see him . I told him i don't wanna stress him out etc. he told me he will take off work and spend it with me and i can stay at his place or we get a hotel somewhere... the next night i spoke to him on the phone and he said this " before you book the flight i just want to say that long distance relationship is extremely difficult and i don't know we can do it. you are welcome to come up and i want to see you but i want to make sure you are on the same page as me..as i don't want to lead you on etc". . i couldn't say much as i was just ...sad and heart broken. He has been in a long distance relationship before me which ended 1 month ago and it turned out to be a disaster. I told him i am not coming up anymore and will see him when he comes around next. ..
I was heart broken today and extremely sad that he decided to give up on me and us coz of the distance.
I know we bulls need affection and LDR may not work out but i don't want to loose him and i trust that we can create something amazing together.
My last text to him kind of said " be good..be safe and lets live"... with no kisses.
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Thoughts on it will be much appreciated...
His chart Taurus sun.......Moon Leo................Venus in aries
My chart Taurus sun.......Moon in aquarius....Venus in gemini..
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awee im sorry to hear that...but i honestly think that hes guarding himself and his feelings. He is trying to play it smart. He might like you a lot or even even have concealed feelings for you but what would be the point if you dont live near each other. You cant sleep over, no random dates, no coffe or lunch...NO QT together. I know im with a Taurus (secretly) and I know when they love hard..they cant stay away. So maybe thats why he did that to save himself in the end! Hope all goes well for you guys.
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Aqua and Leo Moon are bound to annoy each other sooner or later anyway.
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Posted by shan01
awee im sorry to hear that...but i honestly think that hes guarding himself and his feelings. He is trying to play it smart. He might like you a lot or even even have concealed feelings for you but what would be the point if you dont live near each other. You cant sleep over, no random dates, no coffe or lunch...NO QT together. I know im with a Taurus (secretly) and I know when they love hard..they cant stay away. So maybe thats why he did that to save himself in the end! Hope all goes well for you guys.


I strongly appreciate your sympathy...he said this..." remember that you are not coming here not because we have nothing but because it will be too much and thats something to be thankful for. " he said" the one week we had was intense and it wasn't just sex we enjoyed each other a lot and we were so attached already" ... i feel i will leave an imprint of a great memory up there where he is which will be even more difficult in the long term..
I'm trying to let go but its so difficult because i am already in love with him. THe best thing for us to do is to move on and have a second trial when he moves back here? Sad.......mine couldn't stay away from me that week... it was almost..impossible... he was like my twin...he's me in a male version..
it is ridiculous...
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Posted by Theatrum
Aqua and Leo Moon are bound to annoy each other sooner or later anyway.


do you think so? it seems like an alright match on the website ! I let him be the centre of attention...it doesn't worry me...
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omg!! trust me...I KNOW... but im goin to be honest....I had to accept that we couldnt be like a official couple...be we are exclusive. 1 week from today EXACTLY he told me that we had to atleast try to "be right" and keep out distance from each other....well guess what...without me telling him I already knew that I had him...Friday evening he texted me...now mind you we agreed to have no communication for as long as we could take it...but i knew he couldnt last long...He texted me and simply said " I cant stay away"! Whenever we are together i make him feel like hes the only and last man in the world!!!! I constantly shower him with affection and words of love. It does effect them...they are sooo guarded..but that why I know without a shadow of a doubt that we are soul mates and that there is no other perfect match and Taurus and Pisces...BE PATIENT!!! NO MATTER WHAT! and tell him that every chance you get....he wont believe you at first...he will watch you and hold you to what you say...but its soo worth it..
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^^^ ... I have not expressed to him
How I feel but I called him sweetheart n all that ... Telling him
How I feel will only put more pressure om him because we are not living in the same city... I don't want to let go of him either so I'm stuck in the middle... He told me he misses me just this weekend .. I am going to keep my distance I guess n if he has strong feelings for me he should come around ... Sad thoughts?
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yes!! thats what i mean when i say you have to be patient no matter what!! If he really does miss you he wont be able to stay away!!! everything will work out!!
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Posted by shan01
yes!! thats what i mean when i say you have to be patient no matter what!! If he really does miss you he wont be able to stay away!!! everything will work out!!

^^ aww thank you I hope so. !!!
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Thoughts??? do I fight for love or let it go.......
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Posted by SunTauVenGem
Thoughts??? do I fight for love or let it go.......


Follow your gut.
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Oh I got a little pain in my heart reading your story. My bull has Moon in Leo and Venus in Aries also.... He would not handle an LDR at all as his need for closeness is extremely high, neither would I.
I wouldn't take what he said as giving up on you and "us".
He has been here before and knows the difficulties and is making you aware of them with a pre-warning that it may not work out but not because he doesn't want it too, he hasn't said this at all. He sounds like he is being practical and over-ruling that Leo/Aries stuff smile Why not continue to go with the flow, go see him and see how things go, once/if he falls he I could imagine he will begin to engineer a solution to get you two closer together. He hasn't said he doesn't want you nor that he doesn't want to continue to be involved with you, just that he thinks you should both be on the same page where LDR's are concerned, i.e. they have a high chance of failure. If he is going to be moving back to where you live then why not see each other occassionally and wait for that time.
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Posted by shortii
Posted by soultalk
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Thoughts??? do I fight for love or let it go.......


Follow your gut.


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thank you !!! Totally agreed !! my gut is telling me to be patience as he's definately worth waiting for Winking
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Posted by celticlioness
Oh I got a little pain in my heart reading your story. My bull has Moon in Leo and Venus in Aries also.... He would not handle an LDR at all as his need for closeness is extremely high, neither would I.
I wouldn't take what he said as giving up on you and "us".
He has been here before and knows the difficulties and is making you aware of them with a pre-warning that it may not work out but not because he doesn't want it too, he hasn't said this at all. He sounds like he is being practical and over-ruling that Leo/Aries stuff smile Why not continue to go with the flow, go see him and see how things go, once/if he falls he I could imagine he will begin to engineer a solution to get you two closer together. He hasn't said he doesn't want you nor that he doesn't want to continue to be involved with you, just that he thinks you should both be on the same page where LDR's are concerned, i.e. they have a high chance of failure. If he is going to be moving back to where you live then why not see each other occassionally and wait for that time.

thank you ! You are right. I have decided to wait for him here in my city as that's where our memories are and his family r here. I don't want to go n imprint myself up there because I know it will be even harder for us when I leave... I know he will move back here sooner or later n if it's meant to be it will be... We still talk everyday and we r both very busy with our lives now. I don't think neither of us is interested in seeing anyone else at the moment so I am going to take it slowwwwwwwww smile
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gah im always rooting for taurus / taurus couples!
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Posted by Vainth
gah im always rooting for taurus / taurus couples!

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>< naww thanks...but i'm too happy i am getting fat !!!!!
Theres are many things we have in common ..it's like i'm dating myself in a male version
1) THE LOVE OF FOOD fine and dine
2) THE LOVE OF MUSIC ( we dance together)
3) THE LOVE OF SEX
4) THE LOVE OF CUDDLING AND TOUCHING EACH OTHER
Thank goodness i have many air in my chart and he's full of fire...they keep us fit ..adventurous and fun....and wanting our own spaces..we are no where near possessed of one another but i can see us exploring all different kind of restaurants and get fat together !!!!!! too happy i think...

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I'm so jealous!
The love of cuddling and touching is truly a Taurus' trait, I can't imagine how great that must be for both parties. I've been with non-taurus' and both times they were very un-PDA and un-cuddly/touching.....
Need to find another Taurus!!!!
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Posted by Vainth
I'm so jealous!
The love of cuddling and touching is truly a Taurus' trait, I can't imagine how great that must be for both parties. I've been with non-taurus' and both times they were very un-PDA and un-cuddly/touching.....
Need to find another Taurus!!!!


Are bulls super PDA? I was a bit scared that he's anti PDA and that I'd be too much. .always wanting to hold his hand snd hug him and just be held by him.
The thought of just laying in his arms on a couch or watching tv... makes me smile so hard. That slow but solid security. .delicious.
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hould give master classes in PDA. Be very prepared to have the world and it's mother know who owns you when you're in public - and to top it all they continue it in private smile
Posted by shortii
Posted by Vainth
I'm so jealous!
The love of cuddling and touching is truly a Taurus' trait, I can't imagine how great that must be for both parties. I've been with non-taurus' and both times they were very un-PDA and un-cuddly/touching.....
Need to find another Taurus!!!!


Are bulls super PDA? I was a bit scared that he's anti PDA and that I'd be too much. .always wanting to hold his hand snd hug him and just be held by him.
The thought of just laying in his arms on a couch or watching tv... makes me smile so hard. That slow but solid security. .delicious.
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Posted by celticlioness
Taurus men should give master classes in PDA. Be very prepared to have the world and it's mother know who owns you when you're in public - and to top it all they continue it in private smile
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Posted by Vainth
I'm so jealous!
The love of cuddling and touching is truly a Taurus' trait, I can't imagine how great that must be for both parties. I've been with non-taurus' and both times they were very un-PDA and un-cuddly/touching.....
Need to find another Taurus!!!!


Are bulls super PDA? I was a bit scared that he's anti PDA and that I'd be too much. .always wanting to hold his hand snd hug him and just be held by him.
The thought of just laying in his arms on a couch or watching tv... makes me smile so hard. That slow but solid security. .delicious.


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he's master of PDA! Rest assure of that... I will give you two examples ..1) he was singing pretty woman to me... Dedicated to me while holdin me hand infront me 10 other girls watching us... I was all red... The others were....saying ( awwwwww so cuteeeeee .. You guys are the cutest couple ever)..... Another occasion when we went out dancing together... We were hugging. Kissing each other on the dance floor... One dance we patched each other on the lips about 10 times... That's how we fall in love !!! So if you want to seduce one n make him love you forever? Touch... him n kiss him.... Any part of his body..... Or just wrap around him from the back unexpectedly ... He would love that too ! The more the better !!!!!
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Posted by Vainth
I'm so jealous!
The love of cuddling and touching is truly a Taurus' trait, I can't imagine how great that must be for both parties. I've been with non-taurus' and both times they were very un-PDA and un-cuddly/touching.....
Need to find another Taurus!!!!

I can't agree with you more on that one... find a Taurus and Persue him..... It will be worth while !! Its like being in paradise while laying down in bed ... No need for any words... Just two people sharing the love of touching one another.. That is all..... Oh n he loves the cuddle after sex too !!!! bonus !!
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Posted by SunTauVenGem
Posted by celticlioness
Taurus men should give master classes in PDA. Be very prepared to have the world and it's mother know who owns you when you're in public - and to top it all they continue it in private smile
Posted by shortii
Posted by Vainth
I'm so jealous!
The love of cuddling and touching is truly a Taurus' trait, I can't imagine how great that must be for both parties. I've been with non-taurus' and both times they were very un-PDA and un-cuddly/touching.....
Need to find another Taurus!!!!


Are bulls super PDA? I was a bit scared that he's anti PDA and that I'd be too much. .always wanting to hold his hand snd hug him and just be held by him.
The thought of just laying in his arms on a couch or watching tv... makes me smile so hard. That slow but solid security. .delicious.



he's master of PDA! Rest assure of that... I will give you two examples ..1) he was singing pretty woman to me... Dedicated to me while holdin me hand infront me 10 other girls watching us... I was all red... The others were....saying ( awwwwww so cuteeeeee .. You guys are the cutest couple ever)..... Another occasion when we went out dancing together... We were hugging. Kissing each other on the dance floor... One dance we patched each other on the lips about 10 times... That's how we fall in love !!! So if you want to seduce one n make him love you forever? Touch... him n kiss him.... Any part of his body..... Or just wrap around him from the back unexpectedly ... He would love that too ! The more the better !!!!!
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I have NO problem letting others know who I belong to in public. .just as long. .as you have said. . It continues in private. I'm about that all day. Hell. I'll be putty in his hands. Lol. That's heaven to me.
As weird as it sounds... I'm looking forward to the slow progression.. solid friendship that turns into stable love m nothing rushed nothing fake all genuine. I'm perfectly fine with that.
I will love the pda's. Lol. Our kids might want to puke (lol) but ill enjoy it. Have me really optimistic and excited about the future.
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^^^ Ohhh trust me it's sickening... But we can't help showing our loved ones how much we adore them in public... No one else matter... " just you"
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That will truly be amazing
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Hi, i hope it works out for you both. Good luck
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Posted by SunTauVenGem
Posted by Theatrum
Aqua and Leo Moon are bound to annoy each other sooner or later anyway.


do you think so? it seems like an alright match on the website ! I let him be the centre of attention...it doesn't worry me...
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This:
Moon Aquarius-Moon Leo
Leo has an inner desire to be special and important, to shine and be the center of attention, to direct or lead rather than follow. Leo wants to stand out from the crowd in some way, and is generally not a team player. Aquarius, on the other hand, needs to be part of a group or community. The fellowship, the togetherness, and the group solidarity are very satisfying and meaningful to Aquarius, whether or not Aquarius is the focus of attention.
Leo wants to be in control and can be very authoritarian (in a magnanimous sort of way, as in a "benign dictatorship"), but Aquarius has a rather rebellious, freedom-loving nature and resists Authority. Though having no desire to be on top, Aquarius will not be compliant or domesticated either.
Also, Leo is loyal, intensely personal, and rather narcissistic, while Aquarius can be rather cool and impartially fair. Leo sometimes feels hurt by being treated "just like everyone else"!
For me it's a difficult one. If you can handle it, awesome.
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Where did you find that ^^^^^^
Thanks
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cafeastrology
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Posted by Theatrum
Posted by SunTauVenGem
Posted by Theatrum
Aqua and Leo Moon are bound to annoy each other sooner or later anyway.


do you think so? it seems like an alright match on the website ! I let him be the centre of attention...it doesn't worry me...


This:
Moon Aquarius-Moon Leo
Leo has an inner desire to be special and important, to shine and be the center of attention, to direct or lead rather than follow. Leo wants to stand out from the crowd in some way, and is generally not a team player. Aquarius, on the other hand, needs to be part of a group or community. The fellowship, the togetherness, and the group solidarity are very satisfying and meaningful to Aquarius, whether or not Aquarius is the focus of attention.
Leo wants to be in control and can be very authoritarian (in a magnanimous sort of way, as in a "benign dictatorship"), but Aquarius has a rather rebellious, freedom-loving nature and resists Authority. Though having no desire to be on top, Aquarius will not be compliant or domesticated either.
Also, Leo is loyal, intensely personal, and rather narcissistic, while Aquarius can be rather cool and impartially fair. Leo sometimes feels hurt by being treated "just like everyone else"!
For me it's a difficult one. If you can handle it, awesome.
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to be honest i do notice our moon clashing a little when we spent time together. His leo moon " wanting to be centre of attention" was shining through and he also likes to be a leader meanwhile me being aquarius just let him shine. I personally don't care that much knowing its his personality. I tend to follow him with things as i do find his leo moon interesting and exciting. I do treat everyone equally and i know deep down he feels hurt but i try my very best to show him he's the only ONE person i care about and want. This could be our main problem but i'm doing my best to balance it out...when its just me and him...everything runs smoothly.. smile fingers crossed to us
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Posted by Sam515
Hi, i hope it works out for you both. Good luck


Thanks Sam ! I hope so too !!!
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Posted by Theatrum
cafeastrology


Thank you.
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