Leo loving Taurus man long-distance
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Dani_Mac on Monday, June 19, 2017 and has 29 replies.
Hi all.. I am in love with a Taurus man and unfortunately he lives about an hour from me. We have been texting for about two and half months and have met once for an awesome 7 hour marathon love-making session at a hotel in his town. He has a son that he gets on the weekends and is a farmer so this time of year is super hard time wise. But he is a Taurus and getting him to stop and take time away from his home and farm is next to impossible it seems. I think that the only reason we were able to finally meet up is because it took place in the middle of the night basically. I know there isn't a wife or other girlfriend...one of the first times I have ever felt confident in that with a man. We text a bit every day. Usually he asks how I'm doing.. I tell him I'm great.. we talk a little bit about our day. We have talked on the phone once.. he likes to talk.. not so much in text, but we never talk on the phone...not sure why.... is it too personal? I am not sure where I stand with him and I don't want to ask and appear to be needy or not confident. He is so very private and we never talk about feelings.. which I think is probably a Taurus male thing. But I also know if they want something they do go after it. I want more.. or at least know where I fit in his life. I guess my question is .. as a Taurus male, if he wanted more.. would he be more persistent? How do I get him to stop for a day and spend some time with me? I have offered many times to come to him again, but he just drops out of the conversation when I bring it up. He says he wants to come my way but then when he has the time he doesn't.. For instance.. yesterday.. he had time.. wasn't doing anything and his son was not there with him... There was a significant issue that came up on Wednesday of last week and he didn't even mention it to me.. is this typical of a Taurus? Just keep everything close to the vest? How do I break through? I just need answers because my heart is getting involved ...
In my defense.. we had texted and talked for over a month before we ever met. Not sure if that constitutes to fast in this day and age.
I think two and a half months of knowing each other is a bit quick to have clear idea where a person fits in your life and especially as you have only met the once.
They are slow but if you want to speak on the phone, why don't you call him?
To be fair I think I have spoken with my partner on only about 5 times on the phone. I don't know why. It feels weird when we do. Then again, we live very close to each other. It makes more sense just to speak in person.
The way he is behaving does seem typical to me. I had a number of issues with his pace when we first started. We would argue quite a lot about it but I learned I would just have to go at his speed and go with the flow. It wasn't going to change. With that said, we were in a relationship so our situation is a little different to yours.
If you can, try to control your emotions. You don't really know this guy. 3 months ago you had never heard of him. He has made no commitment to you. What you are getting your heart set on is the fantasy of the potential. None of that is real at the moment. Just see the reality of what it is. I know its hard when you are in the stage of things but keep the rational mind in control until you have something more concrete.
They are slow but if you want to speak on the phone, why don't you call him?
To be fair I think I have spoken with my partner on only about 5 times on the phone. I don't know why. It feels weird when we do. Then again, we live very close to each other. It makes more sense just to speak in person.
The way he is behaving does seem typical to me. I had a number of issues with his pace when we first started. We would argue quite a lot about it but I learned I would just have to go at his speed and go with the flow. It wasn't going to change. With that said, we were in a relationship so our situation is a little different to yours.
If you can, try to control your emotions. You don't really know this guy. 3 months ago you had never heard of him. He has made no commitment to you. What you are getting your heart set on is the fantasy of the potential. None of that is real at the moment. Just see the reality of what it is. I know its hard when you are in the stage of things but keep the rational mind in control until you have something more concrete.
Is it just me or are half the replies in this thread missing?
I appreciate all of your comments..!!! Thank you for the insight... I don't feel like an hour or an hour and a half is long distance either, which is why I am a little confounded. I also know and realize that a Taurus man moves at his own pace and I also know that he is less likely to be attracted to a woman that isn't emotionally strong. I feel like there are a lot of things that he follows as a typical Taurus male. Did I give up the goods too soon? I thought that a couple of months into it was a decent amount of time. We chat everyday and sex was definitely not a primary topic of conversation for us...but with him being a farmer, I thought and still do think that he wanted to meet because it would be a long time before we had an opportunity to meet again due to his crops.. (he grows hay and once it's all cut and put up..he has to start all over again..it's a never ending process) Or maybe that's just the part of him that is always finding something to do to keep busy.
I don't have any clear idea of where he fits into my life @Jeane or where I fit into his.. The reason I am here is to figure out if I should ask.. or just be happy with getting texts from him until he is ready to either take it to the next level or let me go. Phone calls.. I am not sure why we don't talk on the phone.. I know he loves to talk.. LOL! My thought on this was that it would be to intimate? Maybe he is happier keeping me at arms length? Which I mean is fine, it's just that it seems like a mixed signal when he texts me everyday to see how my day is going and what I am doing.. I am perfectly fine going at the speed of a Taurus.. just so I know that the speed is moving forward and not just stagnating.
I don't have any clear idea of where he fits into my life @Jeane or where I fit into his.. The reason I am here is to figure out if I should ask.. or just be happy with getting texts from him until he is ready to either take it to the next level or let me go. Phone calls.. I am not sure why we don't talk on the phone.. I know he loves to talk.. LOL! My thought on this was that it would be to intimate? Maybe he is happier keeping me at arms length? Which I mean is fine, it's just that it seems like a mixed signal when he texts me everyday to see how my day is going and what I am doing.. I am perfectly fine going at the speed of a Taurus.. just so I know that the speed is moving forward and not just stagnating.
Posted by Dani_Mac
I appreciate all of your comments..!!! Thank you for the insight... I don't feel like an hour or an hour and a half is long distance either, which is why I am a little confounded. I also know and realize that a Taurus man moves at his own pace and I also know that he is less likely to be attracted to a woman that isn't emotionally strong. I feel like there are a lot of things that he follows as a typical Taurus male. Did I give up the goods too soon? I thought that a couple of months into it was a decent amount of time. We chat everyday and sex was definitely not a primary topic of conversation for us...but with him being a farmer, I thought and still do think that he wanted to meet because it would be a long time before we had an opportunity to meet again due to his crops.. (he grows hay and once it's all cut and put up..he has to start all over again..it's a never ending process) Or maybe that's just the part of him that is always finding something to do to keep busy.
I don't have any clear idea of where he fits into my life @Jeane or where I fit into his.. The reason I am here is to figure out if I should ask.. or just be happy with getting texts from him until he is ready to either take it to the next level or let me go. Phone calls.. I am not sure why we don't talk on the phone.. I know he loves to talk.. LOL! My thought on this was that it would be to intimate? Maybe he is happier keeping me at arms length? Which I mean is fine, it's just that it seems like a mixed signal when he texts me everyday to see how my day is going and what I am doing.. I am perfectly fine going at the speed of a Taurus.. just so I know that the speed is moving forward and not just stagnating.
My own method would be to give it and him and you some time. Give yourself a limit eg I'll give it x number of months and then see where you are.
You're putting a great deal of pressure on getting something from a person you have met once. Meet again, keep getting to know one another and then see how you feel. What is the rush? If it is good then taking it slow won't hurt.
In the meantime, live your life like you were before you met him. Don't allow this to be the all consuming centre of your world. Relationships are meant to compliment our lives not become our lives.
Posted by KoniuchaaI was thinking the same when I read that!
I don't think I'd consider one hour long distance
Posted by Scorpio123LOL @Scopio123 .. I appreciate your candor! Life is meant to be lived.. I know some of the replies that are missing in here mentioned that I shouldn't have slept with him so quickly. I feel like two months is a long time to talk to someone... and we do everyday ...before sleeping with them... but maybe I am not as old fashioned as some. Anyway.. thank you for your reply. It helped a lot more than being told that I messed up and shouldn't have been such an "eager beaver".. lol.
Honey, don't listen to the trolls, you're freaking 48, you can have sex whenever the heck you wish, if you felt like it was the right time, then it was! Don't owe anyone or even him an explanation, it's not like you're both are 16 and don't know how to use a condom ?
Posted by jeaneThank you Jeane.. you are correct in that I am putting too much pressure on this situation.. and exactly why I didn't want to talk to him but seek advice .. I know that I can "overthink" and clearly I just need to kick back and enjoy .. do what I have been doing and enjoy the time when we have it.Posted by Dani_Mac
I appreciate all of your comments..!!! Thank you for the insight... I don't feel like an hour or an hour and a half is long distance either, which is why I am a little confounded. I also know and realize that a Taurus man moves at his own pace and I also know that he is less likely to be attracted to a woman that isn't emotionally strong. I feel like there are a lot of things that he follows as a typical Taurus male. Did I give up the goods too soon? I thought that a couple of months into it was a decent amount of time. We chat everyday and sex was definitely not a primary topic of conversation for us...but with him being a farmer, I thought and still do think that he wanted to meet because it would be a long time before we had an opportunity to meet again due to his crops.. (he grows hay and once it's all cut and put up..he has to start all over again..it's a never ending process) Or maybe that's just the part of him that is always finding something to do to keep busy.
I don't have any clear idea of where he fits into my life @Jeane or where I fit into his.. The reason I am here is to figure out if I should ask.. or just be happy with getting texts from him until he is ready to either take it to the next level or let me go. Phone calls.. I am not sure why we don't talk on the phone.. I know he loves to talk.. LOL! My thought on this was that it would be to intimate? Maybe he is happier keeping me at arms length? Which I mean is fine, it's just that it seems like a mixed signal when he texts me everyday to see how my day is going and what I am doing.. I am perfectly fine going at the speed of a Taurus.. just so I know that the speed is moving forward and not just stagnating.
My own method would be to give it and him and you some time. Give yourself a limit eg I'll give it x number of months and then see where you are.
You're putting a great deal of pressure on getting something from a person you have met once. Meet again, keep getting to know one another and then see how you feel. What is the rush? If it is good then taking it slow won't hurt.
In the meantime, live your life like you were before you met him. Don't allow this to be the all consuming centre of your world. Relationships are meant to compliment our lives not become our lives.click to expand
OP, please take some time to consider exactly what it is you are looking for at this stage in your life. Is it a friend, dating, sex, relationship?
Once you know and are clear with what you want then, and only then, can you go about finding someone who matches what you're looking for.
It's no different to wanting to buy a TV but you go into a shoe shop instead. It's not a match so it's not going to work.
I feel you're focusing far too much on what he wants and what he thinks but haven't sorted that out for yourself yet.
I also find it amusing that you were entirely unabashed at opening your legs for a seven hour sex session with him yet feel it inappropriate to ask him a simple question such as what he's looking for in his life or from you.
The other thing that really stands out from your post is the almost endless list of excuses you make up for him on his behalf to justify what he either is or is not doing. From him being a farmer, his work, making his hay, having a kid, just being busy etc. I don't think this is helpful to you.
Why be afraid to ask for what you want?
The Taurus folk on here will often say they appreciate a person who knows their own mind and who isn't afraid to be upfront with their needs. My Taurus fella liked that I knew exactly what I was looking for and acted accordingly. I wasn't wishy washy and I wouldn't put up with crap. I wasn't always like that and it took a lot to really think about what I wanted but it worked. It meant I no longer wasted time on people who were not looking for me.
It's hard to tell if this fella likes you or just fancied a fuck as it was convenient for him. He's not exactly banging your door down but then he might be feeling that you're aloof and ok with something casual.
How old are you guys? What are your charts?
Once you know and are clear with what you want then, and only then, can you go about finding someone who matches what you're looking for.
It's no different to wanting to buy a TV but you go into a shoe shop instead. It's not a match so it's not going to work.
I feel you're focusing far too much on what he wants and what he thinks but haven't sorted that out for yourself yet.
I also find it amusing that you were entirely unabashed at opening your legs for a seven hour sex session with him yet feel it inappropriate to ask him a simple question such as what he's looking for in his life or from you.
The other thing that really stands out from your post is the almost endless list of excuses you make up for him on his behalf to justify what he either is or is not doing. From him being a farmer, his work, making his hay, having a kid, just being busy etc. I don't think this is helpful to you.
Why be afraid to ask for what you want?
The Taurus folk on here will often say they appreciate a person who knows their own mind and who isn't afraid to be upfront with their needs. My Taurus fella liked that I knew exactly what I was looking for and acted accordingly. I wasn't wishy washy and I wouldn't put up with crap. I wasn't always like that and it took a lot to really think about what I wanted but it worked. It meant I no longer wasted time on people who were not looking for me.
It's hard to tell if this fella likes you or just fancied a fuck as it was convenient for him. He's not exactly banging your door down but then he might be feeling that you're aloof and ok with something casual.
How old are you guys? What are your charts?
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-super-busy-the-modern-lame-excuse-for-managing-down-your-expectations/
I found this link helpful with addressing the 'busy' scenario.
I found this link helpful with addressing the 'busy' scenario.
Posted by AgentP911@AgentP911 - You make some very valid observations and these are the observations that I fail to make on my own behalf. I think I become a victim of hearing only what I want to hear.. You are right. I am making excuses for him and he IS NOT banging down my door to get with me, but does tell me how much he wants me almost nightly. I think he really does just fancy a fuck and maybe since he is a Taurus, he doesn't like to look around constantly for one but rather would prefer something steady.... FWB?? He is attentive via text, asking how my day was and what my plans are, but there is not much engagement into my life beyond that. He recently received some bad news about the visitation with one of his kids over the Fathers Day holiday, and never told me about it until it came up on Saturday night. These are all clear indicators to me that he is keeping me at a distance...don't you agree? It's not that I feel it is inappropriate to ask him anything...I think I just don't want to know the answer. Thanks again for the advice. It really is helping me understand .. I'm not a total idiot although it may seem so on here... I haven't been with men for over 19 years..
OP, please take some time to consider exactly what it is you are looking for at this stage in your life. Is it a friend, dating, sex, relationship?
Once you know and are clear with what you want then, and only then, can you go about finding someone who matches what you're looking for.
It's no different to wanting to buy a TV but you go into a shoe shop instead. It's not a match so it's not going to work.
I feel you're focusing far too much on what he wants and what he thinks but haven't sorted that out for yourself yet.
I also find it amusing that you were entirely unabashed at opening your legs for a seven hour sex session with him yet feel it inappropriate to ask him a simple question such as what he's looking for in his life or from you.
The other thing that really stands out from your post is the almost endless list of excuses you make up for him on his behalf to justify what he either is or is not doing. From him being a farmer, his work, making his hay, having a kid, just being busy etc. I don't think this is helpful to you.
Why be afraid to ask for what you want?
The Taurus folk on here will often say they appreciate a person who knows their own mind and who isn't afraid to be upfront with their needs. My Taurus fella liked that I knew exactly what I was looking for and acted accordingly. I wasn't wishy washy and I wouldn't put up with crap. I wasn't always like that and it took a lot to really think about what I wanted but it worked. It meant I no longer wasted time on people who were not looking for me.
It's hard to tell if this fella likes you or just fancied a fuck as it was convenient for him. He's not exactly banging your door down but then he might be feeling that you're aloof and ok with something casual.
How old are you guys? What are your charts?
Posted by AgentP911Wow! I feel really dumb right now..
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-super-busy-the-modern-lame-excuse-for-managing-down-your-expectations/
I found this link helpful with addressing the 'busy' scenario.
I should have seen all this..
Posted by Dani_Macto be far, i think it takes them a while to let the walls come down and share their problems with their partner. i used to think it was keeping me at a distance but a lot of the time it was i just don't want to burden you or preferring to deal with it himself.Posted by AgentP911@AgentP911 - You make some very valid observations and these are the observations that I fail to make on my own behalf. I think I become a victim of hearing only what I want to hear.. You are right. I am making excuses for him and he IS NOT banging down my door to get with me, but does tell me how much he wants me almost nightly. I think he really does just fancy a fuck and maybe since he is a Taurus, he doesn't like to look around constantly for one but rather would prefer something steady.... FWB?? He is attentive via text, asking how my day was and what my plans are, but there is not much engagement into my life beyond that. He recently received some bad news about the visitation with one of his kids over the Fathers Day holiday, and never told me about it until it came up on Saturday night. These are all clear indicators to me that he is keeping me at a distance...don't you agree? It's not that I feel it is inappropriate to ask him anything...I think I just don't want to know the answer. Thanks again for the advice. It really is helping me understand .. I'm not a total idiot although it may seem so on here... I haven't been with men for over 19 years..
OP, please take some time to consider exactly what it is you are looking for at this stage in your life. Is it a friend, dating, sex, relationship?
Once you know and are clear with what you want then, and only then, can you go about finding someone who matches what you're looking for.
It's no different to wanting to buy a TV but you go into a shoe shop instead. It's not a match so it's not going to work.
I feel you're focusing far too much on what he wants and what he thinks but haven't sorted that out for yourself yet.
I also find it amusing that you were entirely unabashed at opening your legs for a seven hour sex session with him yet feel it inappropriate to ask him a simple question such as what he's looking for in his life or from you.
The other thing that really stands out from your post is the almost endless list of excuses you make up for him on his behalf to justify what he either is or is not doing. From him being a farmer, his work, making his hay, having a kid, just being busy etc. I don't think this is helpful to you.
Why be afraid to ask for what you want?
The Taurus folk on here will often say they appreciate a person who knows their own mind and who isn't afraid to be upfront with their needs. My Taurus fella liked that I knew exactly what I was looking for and acted accordingly. I wasn't wishy washy and I wouldn't put up with crap. I wasn't always like that and it took a lot to really think about what I wanted but it worked. It meant I no longer wasted time on people who were not looking for me.
It's hard to tell if this fella likes you or just fancied a fuck as it was convenient for him. He's not exactly banging your door down but then he might be feeling that you're aloof and ok with something casual.
How old are you guys? What are your charts?click to expand
with that said, he should be banging down your door. there does seem to be a sub section of taurus men that are all gob.
Posted by Dani_MacDon't feel dumb. I nicked that link from another thread by another member of the forum ages ago. It was a good but simple eye opener. I hoped it helped. It helped me a lot and put things into perspective with some things I was dealing with/past things. It's easy to excuse or accept crap behaviour from anyone. Not just blokes. I think the comment about being busy running a small country was the one I recall the most. I thought even the Prime Minister/President running the country makes time for the shit they want to make time for so don't let this chump tell you he's too damn busy/not making time etc. You're a Leo remember - have a roar, lick the small wound it made, and then dust your paws off, throw your mane back over your shoulders and get your pride back ???Posted by AgentP911Wow! I feel really dumb right now..
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-super-busy-the-modern-lame-excuse-for-managing-down-your-expectations/
I found this link helpful with addressing the 'busy' scenario.
I should have seen all this..click to expand
Posted by AgentP911It did help me to see that I was putting way to much into this when he clearly wasn't / isn't. I think that I am looking for so much more than he is willing to give and I need to make a decision on whether that is ok or not. I suppose I already knew this.. thank you for your invaluable help!Posted by Dani_MacDon't feel dumb. I nicked that link from another thread by another member of the forum ages ago. It was a good but simple eye opener. I hoped it helped. It helped me a lot and put things into perspective with some things I was dealing with/past things. It's easy to excuse or accept crap behaviour from anyone. Not just blokes. I think the comment about being busy running a small country was the one I recall the most. I thought even the Prime Minister/President running the country makes time for the shit they want to make time for so don't let this chump tell you he's too damn busy/not making time etc. You're a Leo remember - have a roar, lick the small wound it made, and then dust your paws off, throw your mane back over your shoulders and get your pride back ???Posted by AgentP911Wow! I feel really dumb right now..
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-super-busy-the-modern-lame-excuse-for-managing-down-your-expectations/
I found this link helpful with addressing the 'busy' scenario.
I should have seen all this..click to expand
Posted by Dani_MacThose Taurus do like their routines and putting others on the back burner or in their harem for a later date. That said, if he was using you for sex then he's not exactly using much of you! He might have you on a rotation or he might just have stuff going on. It's easy to speculate and come up with a million different reasons... none of which are really relevant here.Posted by AgentP911@AgentP911 - You make some very valid observations and these are the observations that I fail to make on my own behalf. I think I become a victim of hearing only what I want to hear.. You are right. I am making excuses for him and he IS NOT banging down my door to get with me, but does tell me how much he wants me almost nightly. I think he really does just fancy a fuck and maybe since he is a Taurus, he doesn't like to look around constantly for one but rather would prefer something steady.... FWB?? He is attentive via text, asking how my day was and what my plans are, but there is not much engagement into my life beyond that. He recently received some bad news about the visitation with one of his kids over the Fathers Day holiday, and never told me about it until it came up on Saturday night. These are all clear indicators to me that he is keeping me at a distance...don't you agree? It's not that I feel it is inappropriate to ask him anything...I think I just don't want to know the answer. Thanks again for the advice. It really is helping me understand .. I'm not a total idiot although it may seem so on here... I haven't been with men for over 19 years..
OP, please take some time to consider exactly what it is you are looking for at this stage in your life. Is it a friend, dating, sex, relationship?
Once you know and are clear with what you want then, and only then, can you go about finding someone who matches what you're looking for.
It's no different to wanting to buy a TV but you go into a shoe shop instead. It's not a match so it's not going to work.
I feel you're focusing far too much on what he wants and what he thinks but haven't sorted that out for yourself yet.
I also find it amusing that you were entirely unabashed at opening your legs for a seven hour sex session with him yet feel it inappropriate to ask him a simple question such as what he's looking for in his life or from you.
The other thing that really stands out from your post is the almost endless list of excuses you make up for him on his behalf to justify what he either is or is not doing. From him being a farmer, his work, making his hay, having a kid, just being busy etc. I don't think this is helpful to you.
Why be afraid to ask for what you want?
The Taurus folk on here will often say they appreciate a person who knows their own mind and who isn't afraid to be upfront with their needs. My Taurus fella liked that I knew exactly what I was looking for and acted accordingly. I wasn't wishy washy and I wouldn't put up with crap. I wasn't always like that and it took a lot to really think about what I wanted but it worked. It meant I no longer wasted time on people who were not looking for me.
It's hard to tell if this fella likes you or just fancied a fuck as it was convenient for him. He's not exactly banging your door down but then he might be feeling that you're aloof and ok with something casual.
How old are you guys? What are your charts?click to expand
Frankly, it's easy to be attentive on text. His 'other job' is clearly being a Keyboard Warrior from the comfort of his armchair! It's easy and it's non-committal. All you can go on are his actions rather than his words. He's giving you a lot of words but my concern here is the lack of action. There's a huge amount of time that has passed and you've physically seen each other once (I think?) and that was for sex. It struck me that the meeting was pretty much geared for sex too rather than a date.
I'm inclined to put this one down to experience and call it a day. An experience where the erm cobwebs have been blown off (perhaps!) and it was a good shag, and it's got you into a position where you can now think on what you want from life/in life in general right now.
I don't know the best course of action for you to take right now. Some would say to ignore him and see what he does but that's a little manipulative and not right. You could block him, cut him and your losses off but I guess that depends on if you can do that and not go back on it. Alternatively, if you really want to ask him what he's looking for from you then be direct. Perhaps state what you're looking for/offering and ask him if it's a match. I'm not convinced it is but what's the worst that could happen? He ignores or blocks you - well that's your answer. He makes up excuses about no time in his life etc - great, then no need to waste time with someone who isn't in a position to give you time back. He might even come up with something credible but if that's the case then he'd need to show you and if he's not asked you out to dinner, in your city, without sex, within the next week then I'd call it a day.
Lots of options here. Hopefully some other members can help out.
Posted by KoniuchaaMe neither. I was seeing one guy who lived in a different country ... 10 hour flight and another one who was two planes, a train and car ride away.
I don't think I'd consider one hour long distance
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Hi all.. I am in love with a Taurus man and unfortunately he lives about an hour from me. We have been texting for about two and half months and have met once for an awesome 7 hour marathon love-making session at a hotel in his town. He has a son that he gets on the weekends and is a farmer so this time of year is super hard time wise. But he is a Taurus and getting him to stop and take time away from his home and farm is next to impossible it seems. I think that the only reason we were able to finally meet up is because it took place in the middle of the night basically. I know there isn't a wife or other girlfriend...one of the first times I have ever felt confident in that with a man. We text a bit every day. Usually he asks how I'm doing.. I tell him I'm great.. we talk a little bit about our day. We have talked on the phone once.. he likes to talk.. not so much in text, but we never talk on the phone...not sure why.... is it too personal? I am not sure where I stand with him and I don't want to ask and appear to be needy or not confident. He is so very private and we never talk about feelings.. which I think is probably a Taurus male thing. But I also know if they want something they do go after it. I want more.. or at least know where I fit in his life. I guess my question is .. as a Taurus male, if he wanted more.. would he be more persistent? How do I get him to stop for a day and spend some time with me? I have offered many times to come to him again, but he just drops out of the conversation when I bring it up. He says he wants to come my way but then when he has the time he doesn't.. For instance.. yesterday.. he had time.. wasn't doing anything and his son was not there with him... There was a significant issue that came up on Wednesday of last week and he didn't even mention it to me.. is this typical of a Taurus? Just keep everything close to the vest? How do I break through? I just need answers because my heart is getting involved ...
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I disagree with agent p about what your next steps should be. I would continue to date this guy but don't put all your eggs in one basket. See others, go out, don't be committed to a guy who isn't committed to you. Keep enjoying your life.
You like him, you get on, you have good chemistry. I see no reason to suddenly cut off all ties because he is going at his pace.
I repeat, don't let it stop you. No waiting around, waiting for him to call or make plans. If he offers and you are free and you want to see him then go for it but if you have a better offer, do that instead. You've lost nothing then.
I would mirror his level of activity with you. Then again, I'm a libra, we mirror others behaviour. I guessing as a Leo that sort of thing won't do for you.
Then after a period of time you can see by his actions what kind of guy he is. Allow yourself to assess and form a full picture of him as a person based over time. form some kind of history. He might surprise you and start to change his ways with getting to know you more and you becoming a fixture in his life. Or he could be full of shit. But over that time, you can figure out what you want. You're not rushing in one direction or another. You're getting the lay of the land and then making a move based on all the information.
You like him, you get on, you have good chemistry. I see no reason to suddenly cut off all ties because he is going at his pace.
I repeat, don't let it stop you. No waiting around, waiting for him to call or make plans. If he offers and you are free and you want to see him then go for it but if you have a better offer, do that instead. You've lost nothing then.
I would mirror his level of activity with you. Then again, I'm a libra, we mirror others behaviour. I guessing as a Leo that sort of thing won't do for you.
Then after a period of time you can see by his actions what kind of guy he is. Allow yourself to assess and form a full picture of him as a person based over time. form some kind of history. He might surprise you and start to change his ways with getting to know you more and you becoming a fixture in his life. Or he could be full of shit. But over that time, you can figure out what you want. You're not rushing in one direction or another. You're getting the lay of the land and then making a move based on all the information.
No, no, no, no, no Jeane! Have you lost your mind?? Me thinks you have gone soft in your old age. Where's Busy when you need her to give an arse whooping!
I respect we disagree with each other here but I'll pull out the bits from the OP's first post which gave me alarm bells.
1. I am in love with a Taurus man
***Rose tinted already so not seeing things clearly.
2. We have been texting for about two and half months
***That's a fucking long time to text for, even for the keenest of armchair keyboard warriors!
3. have met once
***Once? In two and a half months? This is NOT dating. She can't continue to date someone she's not actually dating in the first place.
4. for an awesome 7 hour marathon love-making session
***This is definitely NOT dating. Again, see no5. This is a guy who wanted sex and only sex.
5. at a hotel
***Why not at his place or her place? Why a hotel? Hardly romantic. Again, I don't see this as dating.
6. in his town.
***Convenient for him so he's not far from home. Lazy shit!
7. I think that the only reason we were able to finally meet up is because it took place in the middle of the night basically
***In the middle of the night? Again, who arranges a date like this if they genuinely want to date someone with a view to starting a relationship? Actions of someone who wanted sex.
8. I know there isn't a wife or other girlfriend...
***No, she doesn't know. Not for sure. Unless she's stalked him, 24/7 surveillance, Private Investigation, hacked his emails etc...
9. one of the first times I have ever felt confident in that with a man
***Subjective. She's already in 'love' with a man she met once for a fuck. The rest is text wars. It's impossible to be sufficiently confident about anyone in this scenario.
10. We text a bit every day. Usually he asks how I'm doing.. I tell him I'm great.. we talk a little bit about our day.
***That's nice of him. He hasn't asked her out though, has he?
11. We have talked on the phone once.. he likes to talk.. not so much in text, but we never talk on the phone...not sure why.... is it too personal?
***Once? Granted, my fella isn't keen on talking on the phone but in order to date me he was on that phone without any problem. This fella is not exhibiting the signs of someone who can talk easily. I say this as I'm putting everything else in perspective and this doesn't stand alone.
12. I am not sure where I stand with him
***If he liked you enough AND was looking for a relationship then he would not leave you in any doubt about his intentions. Someone who is not clear and/or leaves you in limbo may well not match you.
13. He is so very private
***Someone who wants to be with you would want to share themselves with you, within reason. People like their own privacy but again, if you're dating then you need to share.
14. we never talk about feelings.. which I think is probably a Taurus male thing.
***he may not have any as he has not had enough investment to form any. He may not be emotionally available.
15. But I also know if they want something they do go after it.
***Yes, this is true of Taurus and most men/people. He's not going after OP...
16. I have offered many times to come to him again, but he just drops out of the conversation when I bring it up.
***thats because he's avoiding that subject and he's avoiding you.
17. He says he wants to come my way but then when he has the time he doesn't
***no, he doesn't because he's not serious about OP. How can you date someone who, in reality, doesn't make the effort to meet you. Let's just say they did meet but only once every few weeks, bearing in mind the OP said she wanted more, and she's a Leo, what kind of relationship is this going to be? Not one she would want, I'm sure.
18. There was a significant issue that came up on Wednesday of last week and he didn't even mention it to me.. is this typical of a Taurus?
***no, he doesn't need to share his life with you because he doesn't see you as important.
I don't mean to cause OP discomfort but I have been here before many years ago and if I can assist OP in re-looking at the situation then that is good.
This is why I don't think they are dating and that it's pointless to continue with this guy since he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message each night.
I respect we disagree with each other here but I'll pull out the bits from the OP's first post which gave me alarm bells.
1. I am in love with a Taurus man
***Rose tinted already so not seeing things clearly.
2. We have been texting for about two and half months
***That's a fucking long time to text for, even for the keenest of armchair keyboard warriors!
3. have met once
***Once? In two and a half months? This is NOT dating. She can't continue to date someone she's not actually dating in the first place.
4. for an awesome 7 hour marathon love-making session
***This is definitely NOT dating. Again, see no5. This is a guy who wanted sex and only sex.
5. at a hotel
***Why not at his place or her place? Why a hotel? Hardly romantic. Again, I don't see this as dating.
6. in his town.
***Convenient for him so he's not far from home. Lazy shit!
7. I think that the only reason we were able to finally meet up is because it took place in the middle of the night basically
***In the middle of the night? Again, who arranges a date like this if they genuinely want to date someone with a view to starting a relationship? Actions of someone who wanted sex.
8. I know there isn't a wife or other girlfriend...
***No, she doesn't know. Not for sure. Unless she's stalked him, 24/7 surveillance, Private Investigation, hacked his emails etc...
9. one of the first times I have ever felt confident in that with a man
***Subjective. She's already in 'love' with a man she met once for a fuck. The rest is text wars. It's impossible to be sufficiently confident about anyone in this scenario.
10. We text a bit every day. Usually he asks how I'm doing.. I tell him I'm great.. we talk a little bit about our day.
***That's nice of him. He hasn't asked her out though, has he?
11. We have talked on the phone once.. he likes to talk.. not so much in text, but we never talk on the phone...not sure why.... is it too personal?
***Once? Granted, my fella isn't keen on talking on the phone but in order to date me he was on that phone without any problem. This fella is not exhibiting the signs of someone who can talk easily. I say this as I'm putting everything else in perspective and this doesn't stand alone.
12. I am not sure where I stand with him
***If he liked you enough AND was looking for a relationship then he would not leave you in any doubt about his intentions. Someone who is not clear and/or leaves you in limbo may well not match you.
13. He is so very private
***Someone who wants to be with you would want to share themselves with you, within reason. People like their own privacy but again, if you're dating then you need to share.
14. we never talk about feelings.. which I think is probably a Taurus male thing.
***he may not have any as he has not had enough investment to form any. He may not be emotionally available.
15. But I also know if they want something they do go after it.
***Yes, this is true of Taurus and most men/people. He's not going after OP...
16. I have offered many times to come to him again, but he just drops out of the conversation when I bring it up.
***thats because he's avoiding that subject and he's avoiding you.
17. He says he wants to come my way but then when he has the time he doesn't
***no, he doesn't because he's not serious about OP. How can you date someone who, in reality, doesn't make the effort to meet you. Let's just say they did meet but only once every few weeks, bearing in mind the OP said she wanted more, and she's a Leo, what kind of relationship is this going to be? Not one she would want, I'm sure.
18. There was a significant issue that came up on Wednesday of last week and he didn't even mention it to me.. is this typical of a Taurus?
***no, he doesn't need to share his life with you because he doesn't see you as important.
I don't mean to cause OP discomfort but I have been here before many years ago and if I can assist OP in re-looking at the situation then that is good.
This is why I don't think they are dating and that it's pointless to continue with this guy since he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message each night.
Posted by AgentP911ha! i agree with all of that! however, i would still sit back and see. the biggest problem i see with op is that she isn't in control of her emotions. that is where she will fall down.
No, no, no, no, no Jeane! Have you lost your mind?? Me thinks you have gone soft in your old age. Where's Busy when you need her to give an arse whooping!
I respect we disagree with each other here but I'll pull out the bits from the OP's first post which gave me alarm bells.
1. I am in love with a Taurus man
***Rose tinted already so not seeing things clearly.
2. We have been texting for about two and half months
***That's a fucking long time to text for, even for the keenest of armchair keyboard warriors!
3. have met once
***Once? In two and a half months? This is NOT dating. She can't continue to date someone she's not actually dating in the first place.
4. for an awesome 7 hour marathon love-making session
***This is definitely NOT dating. Again, see no5. This is a guy who wanted sex and only sex.
5. at a hotel
***Why not at his place or her place? Why a hotel? Hardly romantic. Again, I don't see this as dating.
6. in his town.
***Convenient for him so he's not far from home. Lazy shit!
7. I think that the only reason we were able to finally meet up is because it took place in the middle of the night basically
***In the middle of the night? Again, who arranges a date like this if they genuinely want to date someone with a view to starting a relationship? Actions of someone who wanted sex.
8. I know there isn't a wife or other girlfriend...
***No, she doesn't know. Not for sure. Unless she's stalked him, 24/7 surveillance, Private Investigation, hacked his emails etc...
9. one of the first times I have ever felt confident in that with a man
***Subjective. She's already in 'love' with a man she met once for a fuck. The rest is text wars. It's impossible to be sufficiently confident about anyone in this scenario.
10. We text a bit every day. Usually he asks how I'm doing.. I tell him I'm great.. we talk a little bit about our day.
***That's nice of him. He hasn't asked her out though, has he?
11. We have talked on the phone once.. he likes to talk.. not so much in text, but we never talk on the phone...not sure why.... is it too personal?
***Once? Granted, my fella isn't keen on talking on the phone but in order to date me he was on that phone without any problem. This fella is not exhibiting the signs of someone who can talk easily. I say this as I'm putting everything else in perspective and this doesn't stand alone.
12. I am not sure where I stand with him
***If he liked you enough AND was looking for a relationship then he would not leave you in any doubt about his intentions. Someone who is not clear and/or leaves you in limbo may well not match you.
13. He is so very private
***Someone who wants to be with you would want to share themselves with you, within reason. People like their own privacy but again, if you're dating then you need to share.
14. we never talk about feelings.. which I think is probably a Taurus male thing.
***he may not have any as he has not had enough investment to form any. He may not be emotionally available.
15. But I also know if they want something they do go after it.
***Yes, this is true of Taurus and most men/people. He's not going after OP...
16. I have offered many times to come to him again, but he just drops out of the conversation when I bring it up.
***thats because he's avoiding that subject and he's avoiding you.
17. He says he wants to come my way but then when he has the time he doesn't
***no, he doesn't because he's not serious about OP. How can you date someone who, in reality, doesn't make the effort to meet you. Let's just say they did meet but only once every few weeks, bearing in mind the OP said she wanted more, and she's a Leo, what kind of relationship is this going to be? Not one she would want, I'm sure.
18. There was a significant issue that came up on Wednesday of last week and he didn't even mention it to me.. is this typical of a Taurus?
***no, he doesn't need to share his life with you because he doesn't see you as important.
I don't mean to cause OP discomfort but I have been here before many years ago and if I can assist OP in re-looking at the situation then that is good.
This is why I don't think they are dating and that it's pointless to continue with this guy since he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message each night.
yeah, this guy might be full of it. i don't think 2 months of texting is all that long. i'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt that he has a full schedule with career, ex wife and kids to juggle, that he is a slow taurus, that they are both of a certain age where the rush of yoof may be long past.
i would start to play the long game. he knows where to find her. she's interested in him. he needs to catch up and start putting some effort in. i would give him a chance to do so with her demonstrating her standards starting now. like going on a date, like not having sex in a hotel, like not meeting in the middle of the night, like knowing what he is looking for - relationship, fwb, fuck buddies.
i think it's harsh to say that he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message. they obviously have a lot in common and she enjoys his companionship. i just wouldn't be too hasty in tossing that aside if there is a chance things could turn around. of course, there is a time limit to this and that's for her to decide when.
like i said, i don't think she should wait on him, i don't think she should consider to entertain thoughts like love. that's just silly but if she can get control of her senses and see this is the possible start of something and nothing more then why not give it a little longer. what has she got to lose, except a few minutes chatting over text?
and i bow down to your experience in this dept. i always rate your advice highly.
Posted by jeanePosted by AgentP911ha! i agree with all of that! however, i would still sit back and see. the biggest problem i see with op is that she isn't in control of her emotions. that is where she will fall down.
No, no, no, no, no Jeane! Have you lost your mind?? Me thinks you have gone soft in your old age. Where's Busy when you need her to give an arse whooping!
I respect we disagree with each other here but I'll pull out the bits from the OP's first post which gave me alarm bells.
1. I am in love with a Taurus man
***Rose tinted already so not seeing things clearly.
2. We have been texting for about two and half months
***That's a fucking long time to text for, even for the keenest of armchair keyboard warriors!
3. have met once
***Once? In two and a half months? This is NOT dating. She can't continue to date someone she's not actually dating in the first place.
4. for an awesome 7 hour marathon love-making session
***This is definitely NOT dating. Again, see no5. This is a guy who wanted sex and only sex.
5. at a hotel
***Why not at his place or her place? Why a hotel? Hardly romantic. Again, I don't see this as dating.
6. in his town.
***Convenient for him so he's not far from home. Lazy shit!
7. I think that the only reason we were able to finally meet up is because it took place in the middle of the night basically
***In the middle of the night? Again, who arranges a date like this if they genuinely want to date someone with a view to starting a relationship? Actions of someone who wanted sex.
8. I know there isn't a wife or other girlfriend...
***No, she doesn't know. Not for sure. Unless she's stalked him, 24/7 surveillance, Private Investigation, hacked his emails etc...
9. one of the first times I have ever felt confident in that with a man
***Subjective. She's already in 'love' with a man she met once for a fuck. The rest is text wars. It's impossible to be sufficiently confident about anyone in this scenario.
10. We text a bit every day. Usually he asks how I'm doing.. I tell him I'm great.. we talk a little bit about our day.
***That's nice of him. He hasn't asked her out though, has he?
11. We have talked on the phone once.. he likes to talk.. not so much in text, but we never talk on the phone...not sure why.... is it too personal?
***Once? Granted, my fella isn't keen on talking on the phone but in order to date me he was on that phone without any problem. This fella is not exhibiting the signs of someone who can talk easily. I say this as I'm putting everything else in perspective and this doesn't stand alone.
12. I am not sure where I stand with him
***If he liked you enough AND was looking for a relationship then he would not leave you in any doubt about his intentions. Someone who is not clear and/or leaves you in limbo may well not match you.
13. He is so very private
***Someone who wants to be with you would want to share themselves with you, within reason. People like their own privacy but again, if you're dating then you need to share.
14. we never talk about feelings.. which I think is probably a Taurus male thing.
***he may not have any as he has not had enough investment to form any. He may not be emotionally available.
15. But I also know if they want something they do go after it.
***Yes, this is true of Taurus and most men/people. He's not going after OP...
16. I have offered many times to come to him again, but he just drops out of the conversation when I bring it up.
***thats because he's avoiding that subject and he's avoiding you.
17. He says he wants to come my way but then when he has the time he doesn't
***no, he doesn't because he's not serious about OP. How can you date someone who, in reality, doesn't make the effort to meet you. Let's just say they did meet but only once every few weeks, bearing in mind the OP said she wanted more, and she's a Leo, what kind of relationship is this going to be? Not one she would want, I'm sure.
18. There was a significant issue that came up on Wednesday of last week and he didn't even mention it to me.. is this typical of a Taurus?
***no, he doesn't need to share his life with you because he doesn't see you as important.
I don't mean to cause OP discomfort but I have been here before many years ago and if I can assist OP in re-looking at the situation then that is good.
This is why I don't think they are dating and that it's pointless to continue with this guy since he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message each night.
yeah, this guy might be full of it. i don't think 2 months of texting is all that long. i'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt that he has a full schedule with career, ex wife and kids to juggle, that he is a slow taurus, that they are both of a certain age where the rush of yoof may be long past.
i would start to play the long game. he knows where to find her. she's interested in him. he needs to catch up and start putting some effort in. i would give him a chance to do so with her demonstrating her standards starting now. like going on a date, like not having sex in a hotel, like not meeting in the middle of the night, like knowing what he is looking for - relationship, fwb, fuck buddies.
i think it's harsh to say that he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message. they obviously have a lot in common and she enjoys his companionship. i just wouldn't be too hasty in tossing that aside if there is a chance things could turn around. of course, there is a time limit to this and that's for her to decide when.
like i said, i don't think she should wait on him, i don't think she should consider to entertain thoughts like love. that's just silly but if she can get control of her senses and see this is the possible start of something and nothing more then why not give it a little longer. what has she got to lose, except a few minutes chatting over text?
and i bow down to your experience in this dept. i always rate your advice highly.click to expand
I'm no expert!!
What's she got to lose? The possibility of another, much better, more suitable man who IS interested in her and who WANTS to take her out and be with her.
Is this the best she can get? I don't think so but OP might think it is.
Posted by AgentP911which is why i said to continue meeting and going out with other men. at no point do i think she should settle and be content with this level of effort.Posted by jeanePosted by AgentP911ha! i agree with all of that! however, i would still sit back and see. the biggest problem i see with op is that she isn't in control of her emotions. that is where she will fall down.
No, no, no, no, no Jeane! Have you lost your mind?? Me thinks you have gone soft in your old age. Where's Busy when you need her to give an arse whooping!
I respect we disagree with each other here but I'll pull out the bits from the OP's first post which gave me alarm bells.
1. I am in love with a Taurus man
***Rose tinted already so not seeing things clearly.
2. We have been texting for about two and half months
***That's a fucking long time to text for, even for the keenest of armchair keyboard warriors!
3. have met once
***Once? In two and a half months? This is NOT dating. She can't continue to date someone she's not actually dating in the first place.
4. for an awesome 7 hour marathon love-making session
***This is definitely NOT dating. Again, see no5. This is a guy who wanted sex and only sex.
5. at a hotel
***Why not at his place or her place? Why a hotel? Hardly romantic. Again, I don't see this as dating.
6. in his town.
***Convenient for him so he's not far from home. Lazy shit!
7. I think that the only reason we were able to finally meet up is because it took place in the middle of the night basically
***In the middle of the night? Again, who arranges a date like this if they genuinely want to date someone with a view to starting a relationship? Actions of someone who wanted sex.
8. I know there isn't a wife or other girlfriend...
***No, she doesn't know. Not for sure. Unless she's stalked him, 24/7 surveillance, Private Investigation, hacked his emails etc...
9. one of the first times I have ever felt confident in that with a man
***Subjective. She's already in 'love' with a man she met once for a fuck. The rest is text wars. It's impossible to be sufficiently confident about anyone in this scenario.
10. We text a bit every day. Usually he asks how I'm doing.. I tell him I'm great.. we talk a little bit about our day.
***That's nice of him. He hasn't asked her out though, has he?
11. We have talked on the phone once.. he likes to talk.. not so much in text, but we never talk on the phone...not sure why.... is it too personal?
***Once? Granted, my fella isn't keen on talking on the phone but in order to date me he was on that phone without any problem. This fella is not exhibiting the signs of someone who can talk easily. I say this as I'm putting everything else in perspective and this doesn't stand alone.
12. I am not sure where I stand with him
***If he liked you enough AND was looking for a relationship then he would not leave you in any doubt about his intentions. Someone who is not clear and/or leaves you in limbo may well not match you.
13. He is so very private
***Someone who wants to be with you would want to share themselves with you, within reason. People like their own privacy but again, if you're dating then you need to share.
14. we never talk about feelings.. which I think is probably a Taurus male thing.
***he may not have any as he has not had enough investment to form any. He may not be emotionally available.
15. But I also know if they want something they do go after it.
***Yes, this is true of Taurus and most men/people. He's not going after OP...
16. I have offered many times to come to him again, but he just drops out of the conversation when I bring it up.
***thats because he's avoiding that subject and he's avoiding you.
17. He says he wants to come my way but then when he has the time he doesn't
***no, he doesn't because he's not serious about OP. How can you date someone who, in reality, doesn't make the effort to meet you. Let's just say they did meet but only once every few weeks, bearing in mind the OP said she wanted more, and she's a Leo, what kind of relationship is this going to be? Not one she would want, I'm sure.
18. There was a significant issue that came up on Wednesday of last week and he didn't even mention it to me.. is this typical of a Taurus?
***no, he doesn't need to share his life with you because he doesn't see you as important.
I don't mean to cause OP discomfort but I have been here before many years ago and if I can assist OP in re-looking at the situation then that is good.
This is why I don't think they are dating and that it's pointless to continue with this guy since he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message each night.
yeah, this guy might be full of it. i don't think 2 months of texting is all that long. i'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt that he has a full schedule with career, ex wife and kids to juggle, that he is a slow taurus, that they are both of a certain age where the rush of yoof may be long past.
i would start to play the long game. he knows where to find her. she's interested in him. he needs to catch up and start putting some effort in. i would give him a chance to do so with her demonstrating her standards starting now. like going on a date, like not having sex in a hotel, like not meeting in the middle of the night, like knowing what he is looking for - relationship, fwb, fuck buddies.
i think it's harsh to say that he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message. they obviously have a lot in common and she enjoys his companionship. i just wouldn't be too hasty in tossing that aside if there is a chance things could turn around. of course, there is a time limit to this and that's for her to decide when.
like i said, i don't think she should wait on him, i don't think she should consider to entertain thoughts like love. that's just silly but if she can get control of her senses and see this is the possible start of something and nothing more then why not give it a little longer. what has she got to lose, except a few minutes chatting over text?
and i bow down to your experience in this dept. i always rate your advice highly.
I'm no expert!!
What's she got to lose? The possibility of another, much better, more suitable man who IS interested in her and who WANTS to take her out and be with her.
Is this the best she can get? I don't think so but OP might think it is.click to expand
Posted by jeanePosted by AgentP911which is why i said to continue meeting and going out with other men. at no point do i think she should settle and be content with this level of effort.Posted by jeanePosted by AgentP911ha! i agree with all of that! however, i would still sit back and see. the biggest problem i see with op is that she isn't in control of her emotions. that is where she will fall down.
No, no, no, no, no Jeane! Have you lost your mind?? Me thinks you have gone soft in your old age. Where's Busy when you need her to give an arse whooping!
I respect we disagree with each other here but I'll pull out the bits from the OP's first post which gave me alarm bells.
1. I am in love with a Taurus man
***Rose tinted already so not seeing things clearly.
2. We have been texting for about two and half months
***That's a fucking long time to text for, even for the keenest of armchair keyboard warriors!
3. have met once
***Once? In two and a half months? This is NOT dating. She can't continue to date someone she's not actually dating in the first place.
4. for an awesome 7 hour marathon love-making session
***This is definitely NOT dating. Again, see no5. This is a guy who wanted sex and only sex.
5. at a hotel
***Why not at his place or her place? Why a hotel? Hardly romantic. Again, I don't see this as dating.
6. in his town.
***Convenient for him so he's not far from home. Lazy shit!
7. I think that the only reason we were able to finally meet up is because it took place in the middle of the night basically
***In the middle of the night? Again, who arranges a date like this if they genuinely want to date someone with a view to starting a relationship? Actions of someone who wanted sex.
8. I know there isn't a wife or other girlfriend...
***No, she doesn't know. Not for sure. Unless she's stalked him, 24/7 surveillance, Private Investigation, hacked his emails etc...
9. one of the first times I have ever felt confident in that with a man
***Subjective. She's already in 'love' with a man she met once for a fuck. The rest is text wars. It's impossible to be sufficiently confident about anyone in this scenario.
10. We text a bit every day. Usually he asks how I'm doing.. I tell him I'm great.. we talk a little bit about our day.
***That's nice of him. He hasn't asked her out though, has he?
11. We have talked on the phone once.. he likes to talk.. not so much in text, but we never talk on the phone...not sure why.... is it too personal?
***Once? Granted, my fella isn't keen on talking on the phone but in order to date me he was on that phone without any problem. This fella is not exhibiting the signs of someone who can talk easily. I say this as I'm putting everything else in perspective and this doesn't stand alone.
12. I am not sure where I stand with him
***If he liked you enough AND was looking for a relationship then he would not leave you in any doubt about his intentions. Someone who is not clear and/or leaves you in limbo may well not match you.
13. He is so very private
***Someone who wants to be with you would want to share themselves with you, within reason. People like their own privacy but again, if you're dating then you need to share.
14. we never talk about feelings.. which I think is probably a Taurus male thing.
***he may not have any as he has not had enough investment to form any. He may not be emotionally available.
15. But I also know if they want something they do go after it.
***Yes, this is true of Taurus and most men/people. He's not going after OP...
16. I have offered many times to come to him again, but he just drops out of the conversation when I bring it up.
***thats because he's avoiding that subject and he's avoiding you.
17. He says he wants to come my way but then when he has the time he doesn't
***no, he doesn't because he's not serious about OP. How can you date someone who, in reality, doesn't make the effort to meet you. Let's just say they did meet but only once every few weeks, bearing in mind the OP said she wanted more, and she's a Leo, what kind of relationship is this going to be? Not one she would want, I'm sure.
18. There was a significant issue that came up on Wednesday of last week and he didn't even mention it to me.. is this typical of a Taurus?
***no, he doesn't need to share his life with you because he doesn't see you as important.
I don't mean to cause OP discomfort but I have been here before many years ago and if I can assist OP in re-looking at the situation then that is good.
This is why I don't think they are dating and that it's pointless to continue with this guy since he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message each night.
yeah, this guy might be full of it. i don't think 2 months of texting is all that long. i'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt that he has a full schedule with career, ex wife and kids to juggle, that he is a slow taurus, that they are both of a certain age where the rush of yoof may be long past.
i would start to play the long game. he knows where to find her. she's interested in him. he needs to catch up and start putting some effort in. i would give him a chance to do so with her demonstrating her standards starting now. like going on a date, like not having sex in a hotel, like not meeting in the middle of the night, like knowing what he is looking for - relationship, fwb, fuck buddies.
i think it's harsh to say that he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message. they obviously have a lot in common and she enjoys his companionship. i just wouldn't be too hasty in tossing that aside if there is a chance things could turn around. of course, there is a time limit to this and that's for her to decide when.
like i said, i don't think she should wait on him, i don't think she should consider to entertain thoughts like love. that's just silly but if she can get control of her senses and see this is the possible start of something and nothing more then why not give it a little longer. what has she got to lose, except a few minutes chatting over text?
and i bow down to your experience in this dept. i always rate your advice highly.
I'm no expert!!
What's she got to lose? The possibility of another, much better, more suitable man who IS interested in her and who WANTS to take her out and be with her.
Is this the best she can get? I don't think so but OP might think it is.click to expand
Agreed. Women need to continue having options when dating. It allows us not to get too focussed on giving our all to one fella! Well, that's what I found anyway.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
What's the problem with taking it slow and seeing where it goes and dating other mean in the meantime.
7 hours of sex, i wouldn't give that shit up for nothing
you go girl
I think there's taking it slow and there's not interested. One physical meeting in 2.5 months. That's one day in 75 days that he's bothered to meet her. Not the best ratio for embarking upon a relationship... which is what I think she's aiming for (she said she wanted more from him but it's something she needs to figure out).
Nothing wrong with 7 hours of sex ?
Posted by AgentP911@AgentP911...I read this and I am going to print it because I feel like what you have said has so much truth. When you bullet point everything I see everything so much more clearly. Obviously I have allowed my "fantasies" to take control and cloud my vision. And I know that you aren't trying to cause discomfort! I truly need to hear / see the writing on the wall.. I appreciate your brutal honesty.. that's exactly what I was hoping I would get when I came here for help. I can't thank each and every one of you enough!!
No, no, no, no, no Jeane! Have you lost your mind?? Me thinks you have gone soft in your old age. Where's Busy when you need her to give an arse whooping!
I respect we disagree with each other here but I'll pull out the bits from the OP's first post which gave me alarm bells.
1. I am in love with a Taurus man
***Rose tinted already so not seeing things clearly.
2. We have been texting for about two and half months
***That's a fucking long time to text for, even for the keenest of armchair keyboard warriors!
3. have met once
***Once? In two and a half months? This is NOT dating. She can't continue to date someone she's not actually dating in the first place.
4. for an awesome 7 hour marathon love-making session
***This is definitely NOT dating. Again, see no5. This is a guy who wanted sex and only sex.
5. at a hotel
***Why not at his place or her place? Why a hotel? Hardly romantic. Again, I don't see this as dating.
6. in his town.
***Convenient for him so he's not far from home. Lazy shit!
7. I think that the only reason we were able to finally meet up is because it took place in the middle of the night basically
***In the middle of the night? Again, who arranges a date like this if they genuinely want to date someone with a view to starting a relationship? Actions of someone who wanted sex.
8. I know there isn't a wife or other girlfriend...
***No, she doesn't know. Not for sure. Unless she's stalked him, 24/7 surveillance, Private Investigation, hacked his emails etc...
9. one of the first times I have ever felt confident in that with a man
***Subjective. She's already in 'love' with a man she met once for a fuck. The rest is text wars. It's impossible to be sufficiently confident about anyone in this scenario.
10. We text a bit every day. Usually he asks how I'm doing.. I tell him I'm great.. we talk a little bit about our day.
***That's nice of him. He hasn't asked her out though, has he?
11. We have talked on the phone once.. he likes to talk.. not so much in text, but we never talk on the phone...not sure why.... is it too personal?
***Once? Granted, my fella isn't keen on talking on the phone but in order to date me he was on that phone without any problem. This fella is not exhibiting the signs of someone who can talk easily. I say this as I'm putting everything else in perspective and this doesn't stand alone.
12. I am not sure where I stand with him
***If he liked you enough AND was looking for a relationship then he would not leave you in any doubt about his intentions. Someone who is not clear and/or leaves you in limbo may well not match you.
13. He is so very private
***Someone who wants to be with you would want to share themselves with you, within reason. People like their own privacy but again, if you're dating then you need to share.
14. we never talk about feelings.. which I think is probably a Taurus male thing.
***he may not have any as he has not had enough investment to form any. He may not be emotionally available.
15. But I also know if they want something they do go after it.
***Yes, this is true of Taurus and most men/people. He's not going after OP...
16. I have offered many times to come to him again, but he just drops out of the conversation when I bring it up.
***thats because he's avoiding that subject and he's avoiding you.
17. He says he wants to come my way but then when he has the time he doesn't
***no, he doesn't because he's not serious about OP. How can you date someone who, in reality, doesn't make the effort to meet you. Let's just say they did meet but only once every few weeks, bearing in mind the OP said she wanted more, and she's a Leo, what kind of relationship is this going to be? Not one she would want, I'm sure.
18. There was a significant issue that came up on Wednesday of last week and he didn't even mention it to me.. is this typical of a Taurus?
***no, he doesn't need to share his life with you because he doesn't see you as important.
I don't mean to cause OP discomfort but I have been here before many years ago and if I can assist OP in re-looking at the situation then that is good.
This is why I don't think they are dating and that it's pointless to continue with this guy since he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message each night.
Posted by Dani_MacPosted by AgentP911@AgentP911...I read this and I am going to print it because I feel like what you have said has so much truth. When you bullet point everything I see everything so much more clearly. Obviously I have allowed my "fantasies" to take control and cloud my vision. And I know that you aren't trying to cause discomfort! I truly need to hear / see the writing on the wall.. I appreciate your brutal honesty.. that's exactly what I was hoping I would get when I came here for help. I can't thank each and every one of you enough!!
No, no, no, no, no Jeane! Have you lost your mind?? Me thinks you have gone soft in your old age. Where's Busy when you need her to give an arse whooping!
I respect we disagree with each other here but I'll pull out the bits from the OP's first post which gave me alarm bells.
1. I am in love with a Taurus man
***Rose tinted already so not seeing things clearly.
2. We have been texting for about two and half months
***That's a fucking long time to text for, even for the keenest of armchair keyboard warriors!
3. have met once
***Once? In two and a half months? This is NOT dating. She can't continue to date someone she's not actually dating in the first place.
4. for an awesome 7 hour marathon love-making session
***This is definitely NOT dating. Again, see no5. This is a guy who wanted sex and only sex.
5. at a hotel
***Why not at his place or her place? Why a hotel? Hardly romantic. Again, I don't see this as dating.
6. in his town.
***Convenient for him so he's not far from home. Lazy shit!
7. I think that the only reason we were able to finally meet up is because it took place in the middle of the night basically
***In the middle of the night? Again, who arranges a date like this if they genuinely want to date someone with a view to starting a relationship? Actions of someone who wanted sex.
8. I know there isn't a wife or other girlfriend...
***No, she doesn't know. Not for sure. Unless she's stalked him, 24/7 surveillance, Private Investigation, hacked his emails etc...
9. one of the first times I have ever felt confident in that with a man
***Subjective. She's already in 'love' with a man she met once for a fuck. The rest is text wars. It's impossible to be sufficiently confident about anyone in this scenario.
10. We text a bit every day. Usually he asks how I'm doing.. I tell him I'm great.. we talk a little bit about our day.
***That's nice of him. He hasn't asked her out though, has he?
11. We have talked on the phone once.. he likes to talk.. not so much in text, but we never talk on the phone...not sure why.... is it too personal?
***Once? Granted, my fella isn't keen on talking on the phone but in order to date me he was on that phone without any problem. This fella is not exhibiting the signs of someone who can talk easily. I say this as I'm putting everything else in perspective and this doesn't stand alone.
12. I am not sure where I stand with him
***If he liked you enough AND was looking for a relationship then he would not leave you in any doubt about his intentions. Someone who is not clear and/or leaves you in limbo may well not match you.
13. He is so very private
***Someone who wants to be with you would want to share themselves with you, within reason. People like their own privacy but again, if you're dating then you need to share.
14. we never talk about feelings.. which I think is probably a Taurus male thing.
***he may not have any as he has not had enough investment to form any. He may not be emotionally available.
15. But I also know if they want something they do go after it.
***Yes, this is true of Taurus and most men/people. He's not going after OP...
16. I have offered many times to come to him again, but he just drops out of the conversation when I bring it up.
***thats because he's avoiding that subject and he's avoiding you.
17. He says he wants to come my way but then when he has the time he doesn't
***no, he doesn't because he's not serious about OP. How can you date someone who, in reality, doesn't make the effort to meet you. Let's just say they did meet but only once every few weeks, bearing in mind the OP said she wanted more, and she's a Leo, what kind of relationship is this going to be? Not one she would want, I'm sure.
18. There was a significant issue that came up on Wednesday of last week and he didn't even mention it to me.. is this typical of a Taurus?
***no, he doesn't need to share his life with you because he doesn't see you as important.
I don't mean to cause OP discomfort but I have been here before many years ago and if I can assist OP in re-looking at the situation then that is good.
This is why I don't think they are dating and that it's pointless to continue with this guy since he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message each night.click to expand
Apologies on that, I got carried away while watching the last programme of Better Call Saul, series 3 last night! I can do brutal honesty. I've not been on the forum for a while as there weren't any interesting stories but I'm glad I could stop by your one and help out!
Posted by AgentP911No apologies necessary. Sometimes we all need a wake up and smell the coffee Gibbs smack in the back of the head!! LOL!Posted by Dani_MacPosted by AgentP911@AgentP911...I read this and I am going to print it because I feel like what you have said has so much truth. When you bullet point everything I see everything so much more clearly. Obviously I have allowed my "fantasies" to take control and cloud my vision. And I know that you aren't trying to cause discomfort! I truly need to hear / see the writing on the wall.. I appreciate your brutal honesty.. that's exactly what I was hoping I would get when I came here for help. I can't thank each and every one of you enough!!
No, no, no, no, no Jeane! Have you lost your mind?? Me thinks you have gone soft in your old age. Where's Busy when you need her to give an arse whooping!
I respect we disagree with each other here but I'll pull out the bits from the OP's first post which gave me alarm bells.
1. I am in love with a Taurus man
***Rose tinted already so not seeing things clearly.
2. We have been texting for about two and half months
***That's a fucking long time to text for, even for the keenest of armchair keyboard warriors!
3. have met once
***Once? In two and a half months? This is NOT dating. She can't continue to date someone she's not actually dating in the first place.
4. for an awesome 7 hour marathon love-making session
***This is definitely NOT dating. Again, see no5. This is a guy who wanted sex and only sex.
5. at a hotel
***Why not at his place or her place? Why a hotel? Hardly romantic. Again, I don't see this as dating.
6. in his town.
***Convenient for him so he's not far from home. Lazy shit!
7. I think that the only reason we were able to finally meet up is because it took place in the middle of the night basically
***In the middle of the night? Again, who arranges a date like this if they genuinely want to date someone with a view to starting a relationship? Actions of someone who wanted sex.
8. I know there isn't a wife or other girlfriend...
***No, she doesn't know. Not for sure. Unless she's stalked him, 24/7 surveillance, Private Investigation, hacked his emails etc...
9. one of the first times I have ever felt confident in that with a man
***Subjective. She's already in 'love' with a man she met once for a fuck. The rest is text wars. It's impossible to be sufficiently confident about anyone in this scenario.
10. We text a bit every day. Usually he asks how I'm doing.. I tell him I'm great.. we talk a little bit about our day.
***That's nice of him. He hasn't asked her out though, has he?
11. We have talked on the phone once.. he likes to talk.. not so much in text, but we never talk on the phone...not sure why.... is it too personal?
***Once? Granted, my fella isn't keen on talking on the phone but in order to date me he was on that phone without any problem. This fella is not exhibiting the signs of someone who can talk easily. I say this as I'm putting everything else in perspective and this doesn't stand alone.
12. I am not sure where I stand with him
***If he liked you enough AND was looking for a relationship then he would not leave you in any doubt about his intentions. Someone who is not clear and/or leaves you in limbo may well not match you.
13. He is so very private
***Someone who wants to be with you would want to share themselves with you, within reason. People like their own privacy but again, if you're dating then you need to share.
14. we never talk about feelings.. which I think is probably a Taurus male thing.
***he may not have any as he has not had enough investment to form any. He may not be emotionally available.
15. But I also know if they want something they do go after it.
***Yes, this is true of Taurus and most men/people. He's not going after OP...
16. I have offered many times to come to him again, but he just drops out of the conversation when I bring it up.
***thats because he's avoiding that subject and he's avoiding you.
17. He says he wants to come my way but then when he has the time he doesn't
***no, he doesn't because he's not serious about OP. How can you date someone who, in reality, doesn't make the effort to meet you. Let's just say they did meet but only once every few weeks, bearing in mind the OP said she wanted more, and she's a Leo, what kind of relationship is this going to be? Not one she would want, I'm sure.
18. There was a significant issue that came up on Wednesday of last week and he didn't even mention it to me.. is this typical of a Taurus?
***no, he doesn't need to share his life with you because he doesn't see you as important.
I don't mean to cause OP discomfort but I have been here before many years ago and if I can assist OP in re-looking at the situation then that is good.
This is why I don't think they are dating and that it's pointless to continue with this guy since he has nothing to offer but a bullshit text message each night.
Apologies on that, I got carried away while watching the last programme of Better Call Saul, series 3 last night! I can do brutal honesty. I've not been on the forum for a while as there weren't any interesting stories but I'm glad I could stop by your one and help out!click to expand
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