Libra loves taurus but confused

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ok so from my other posts you got the messege of our problems..I met up with my Taurus friend today...we were suppose to meet the day before which got cancelled because I couldn't go...she didn't understand and was a little disappointed I guess..we ended up meeting anyway....but its sooo weird...I haven't seen her for a few days...not that long I know...and I got to the diner first..i waited for her and she was a little late not by much and apologized..it didn't bother me at all..I was soo happy to see her and was excited..i think I smiled the biggest smile when she walked in...she smiled back and ordered something...then from that moment on we just talked for hours...didnt even notice the time..we didn't even do much just ate had coffee and talked..toward the end I think she noticed the time and we got to that point where we were quiet...we went outside and talked a little more and then we both said bye went our separate ways.....I mean I see her in a few days at work...thing is I cant explain it...been trying to figure this out...and im still not sure what she actually thinks of me...we have a good time and then during this she will "shut-off" a little..not in a bad way just more like she s all of a sudden busy kind of thing...idk..she usually then sets up another time to meet or will mention it..any insight? I like different perpectives as sometimes being in a situation causes you to be a little blind to the obvious...
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its not even her that made me stubborn...ive always been that..she taught me more in terms of like if I overthought on the future she was more about the here and now...if I thought about drowning she was more don't swim..either you like it or you don't..things like that..just saw life in a simple yet stable form that I could also see when she described it...it ended up making more sense..still does...I just didnt get why I overthink when it comes to her personally...
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My sister is a Libra, Airfive....

Don't feel bad, she also over-thinks everything and works herself up to a frenzy sometimes.

But Libras are cool people. Just relax and chill...take a break from acting 'ill.'

I read your other threads...

What exactly do you want from the Taurus woman?

It is very important to be clear about your intentions.

I read your previous threads in relations to this topic, and I will be honest, you were all over the place. I couldn't comment...because I could not decipher anything.
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Yeah, all over the place Libra is not fun, especially when they turn into nowhere Libra. This has happened with me and a Libra woman who appeared interested, but something is holding her back it seems, which is too bad for her because if she wants something, she's not the only woman interested in me and she is not the only one I'm interested in anymore. You also have to take initiative some time. It's kind of odd if she's the one asking you out all the time because if it were me, I'd think you're not very interested since I'm the one making all the plans. Also, if you want to know what she thinks of you, first of all, you're going to have to be involved with each other more so she can decide that and second of all, once you've hung out enough, you must ask her how she feels because only she can answer that.
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My sister is a Libra, Airfive....

Don't feel bad, she also over-thinks everything and works herself up to a frenzy sometimes.

But Libras are cool people. Just relax and chill...take a break from acting 'ill.'

I read your other threads...

What exactly do you want from the Taurus woman?

It is very important to be clear about your intentions.

I read your previous threads in relations to this topic, and I will be honest, you were all over the place. I couldn't comment...because I could not decipher anything.




I had to smile when I read this...that's the Taurus logic I love...that its all good attitude...its soothing and the only stable things in my life were/are Taurus...and I wish I didn't overthink...I really HATE this about myself with a passion....what do I want from her? Its hard to explain cause im not sure how to describe it.when im around her I never want to leave her side...its like a magnet...i want to be there for her...I do things for her like helpful things..if she needs something im the first to help or offer...I guess its just all this crap with the other girl I felt pushed aside..which has caused problems for me..i have tried to talk to her about it but she usually changes the subject or gets defensive...so I just avoid it..i feel like shes pushing me away and that's what hurts the most..I love her and ill always be there for her but I don't know if she sees that...
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Your wanting to help AND your desire for her is the 6-8 relationship that exists between us. The whole magnet thing is also something repeated often by Libras in a relationship with a Taurus and people say that it's most likely a result of Venus being both signs' ruler(for now, because Taurus is adopted).

Now I will tell you a bit about my situation with "my" Libra because this may be why Vanessa has a problem with your comment. My best friend is a Taurus. He hates Libra. He seems to hate a lot of Libras. 😆 I'm a Taurus, so I don't give a shit what he thinks about any of the ones I associate with because in my case, I will wait for them to give me a reason to dislike them instead of acting based on his feelings. Whatever problem he has with people are his own. Unless some type of discrimination or rudeness is going on, I will not join him in his hatred of others. At the same time, if I were involved with Libra, I won't abandon him just because of how he feels. I won't tolerate neither saying negative things about each other, though. They don't need to like each other but must accept that they are both part of my life, and if either expects me to abandon one for the other, I will be with neither. There are people Libra hangs with who I don't particularly like, but I will never tell her to not hang out with them. I just ignore them altogether as I do now. If she were to ask for an in depth explanation of my feelings towards them, THEN I will say how I feel, but that's just me and my circumstances with that particular person. I don't expect people to change for me, though.

I don't know if you've read about how we are, but people say we have WTF friends. Upon reflecting on this, I realized that I suppose to other people, it would seem like that. 😆 I don't think most of us are as judgmental as Libras are and in my case, I like to justify what I say and do before the words come out of my mouth and before I take action. If Virgo is doing something wrong to Vanessa and you can prove it to her with some type of evidence, then you should do that because words are not enough. They might make her be more observant, but she could also just ignore them. I also stand by what I said: you need to ask her to hang out with you/go on a date.
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I had to smile when I read this...that's the Taurus logic I love...that its all good attitude...its soothing and the only stable things in my life were/are Taurus...and I wish I didn't overthink...I really HATE this about myself with a passion....what do I want from her? Its hard to explain cause im not sure how to describe it.when im around her I never want to leave her side...its like a magnet...i want to be there for her...I do things for her like helpful things..if she needs something im the first to help or offer...



If you're indecisive...then there is no investment for a long term relationship with this Bull.
She will be obstinate, and you will be friend zoned...and this other Virgo woman would have already secured a permanent fixture in this Bull's life.

Not to alarm you 🙂...just presenting you with a possible realistic outcome.

Airfive, ask yourself this question....
1) What type of relationship would you like to have with this Bull?

a. Friendship
b. FWB
c. Relationship
d. Gradual Courtship

Because you're uncertain about where it's headed... but you're absolutely positive about how you feel about her, I think option "d" will be your best choice.

Tell her how you feel about her. You're interested in spending some time with her. The two of you will see where it leads. You're a Libra, you're romantic, I'm sure the courting process should be interesting.😉

Some Bulls hate to be rushed into making decisions prematurely. This may be a win/win situation for the both of you.
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You also have to take initiative some time. It's kind of odd if she's the one asking you out all the time because if it were me, I'd think you're not very interested since I'm the one making all the plans.



This ^^^^^

You told her that you were in love with her.

But for Bulls...You have to truly "walk the walk."
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I thought I wrote this down but I see now I wasn't clear..lol..Its true in the beginning she was the one inviting me places...but for the last two years I have been the one who invites her places...even our last visit I asked if she wanted to hang out and she gave the place and location...I had to unfortunately cancel that one day because of my car but still Im inviting her constantly...she however has stopped...she doesn't really initiate it.I mean she goes when I invite and we always have a good time...the most of an invite ill get is if I say ill be in town..she'll usually say when she'll be at a certain park on that day...but I have to really state when ill be there and if she wants too..
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oh and news from last night..that other girl at work started saying something was all Vanessa fault and storming around the office like a two yr old...but all Vanessa did was look down...she didn't defend herself...she just ignored it...but even though she seemed to be ignoring it she looked really upset..me and Vanessa share a mutual work buddy...he started picking on the other girl saying "ur mad at the world and now me...etc..but again Vanessa said nothing about this other girl only gave "looks" to our guy friend...and when she looked kind of sad I told her"don't let it bother you" and she looked at me and said" do you really think im bothered by this?"...I just dropped the subject...the more the other girl bashed Vanessa the more I wanted to just blow...the girl was telling each person in the office crap about Vanessa...a couple of people in the office believed her too..

then the other girl is all fine with Vanessa an hour later and has someone take a picture of the both of them..then continues her bash session after..I left work early before she got me involved..and gave a quick goodbye to Vanessa...mainly because if I didn't I would of probably told that girl a thing or two..but I realized Vanessa seemed confused about my behavior..and I don't know how to explain it to her...If I say why I was mad shell most likely say "it has nothing to do with you so why are you mad" I know cause she has said this to me in the past...so I try to stay out of it...and I try to not let it bother me but come on...Vanessa has done a lot for that girl and it even has hindered our friendship...and yet this girl is constantly finding excuses to not pay Vanessa back because Vanessa is "using" her and exploiting her and she needs to be saved bull crap.. blah blah...im sorry...it makes my blood boil...but only out of respect for Vanessa do I refrain from getting involved..i mean why does Vanessa put up with this?..shes better than that..and she acts like nothings wrong but I know she can feel somethings wrong.
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You also have to take initiative some time. It's kind of odd if she's the one asking you out all the time because if it were me, I'd think you're not very interested since I'm the one making all the plans.



This ^^^^^

You told her that you were in love with her.

But for Bulls...You have to truly "walk the walk."
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Its true that in the beginning she was the one who invited me places..that was in in the first year I met her...but it seems like im the only one inviting her now...I know I said at the end of our visit at the diner that Vanessa usually will set up another time...but its more like ill say we should do something next time and shell say ok how bout when ever...or ill ask what are you doing next week...shell say nothing and ill then ask if she wants to do something..she then will set date and time... but if I were to ask "what are you doing next week" she answer "nothing" and then i say no more she wont invite me to do anything...itll stay like that..she always says yes when I ask if she wants to go out but she wont just invite me for an outing or say you want to just go do whatever..I try to visit her often...even though she lives an hour away I make time..
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Ugh!! And the disappearing threads!! airfive, "my" Libra decided to show up yesterday, and my reaction was to not care. I still adore her, but her lack of trying is responsible for my being interested in another as well. For me, it's not enough for her to just show up in my area to look at me as she goes on her way to wherever. I initiated after months of observation on both our parts, and now I expect her to reciprocate if she actually wants me because I won't embarrass myself over someone who doesn't know how she feels. You people need more confidence. Shyness is fine, but I feel I've done enough for her to put some effort as well especially because other women are doing so.
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Ugh!! And the disappearing threads!! airfive, "my" Libra decided to show up yesterday, and my reaction was to not care. I still adore her, but her lack of trying is responsible for my being interested in another as well. For me, it's not enough for her to just show up in my area to look at me as she goes on her way to wherever. I initiated after months of observation on both our parts, and now I expect her to reciprocate if she actually wants me because I won't embarrass myself over someone who doesn't know how she feels. You people need more confidence. Shyness is fine, but I feel I've done enough for her to put some effort as well especially because other women are doing so.




I guess the thing I m mainly confused about with Vanessa is how she is with this other girl...I mean ok we still go out she still talks to me...even today at work I caught her staring at me but...she just wont invite me anywhere...for example...her cousin is coming from Europe and this girl is going with them somewhere...I don't get it..im so confused..after reading u and Taurusbull1977 posts it has helped me c things a little differently and calmed me down from doubting...I looked up Vanessa's chart...although im not sure what it means completely it might explain why I get confused with her....she has a
Sun in Taurus
Moon in Sagittarius
Rising Aquarius
Venus/mars Aries...
2N3R have u looked up your libra's chart? she might have a lot of water in her chart which might make her more passive/aggressive...like me...
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LULZ, I also have le Sagi moon. 😆

Anyway, I practically have Libra's chart memorized, AND THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO WATER. As I previously stated elsewhere, her Venus is the problem. It's in worrywart Virgo. She has Virgo somewhere else, but otherwise, the woman is a bunch of Air and some Fire with only her two Virgo placements there bearing with the madness. Anyway, as much as I love talking about her, that has nothing to do with you.

Perhaps the reason Vanessa is so endeared to this woman is.... well, if she likes her and I don't mean in the romantic sense, remember that Virgo is also an Earth sign. Have you noticed how people of the same element tend to gravitate towards each other? That is what happened here. The fact that they are going to do something with her cousin means that Virgo probably suggested they go somewhere she feels Vanessa's cousin would like and Vanessa agreed to go. If Virgo was the initiator, since you know how she feels about you, it makes no sense to expect to be invited. Also, realize that Vanessa is doing the same she did with tou, which is accept someone's invitation.

Virgo and cousin probably have something in common, and I remember when I was in primary school, whenever someone new I took a liking to showed up, I would almost immediately involve them with my friends so that if one day I was absent, or when they were in a different class, or they decided they don't like me, they'd still have people to hang out with. There was always a place for them as long as they weren't rude. Another of the things I would immediately do is show them where everything was because obviously, they are in an unfamiliar place. This is probably what's happening with Virgo and Vanessa's cousin. They might also have something in common and Vanessa thinks they'd get along, but it really probably isn't the catastrophe you seem to be thinking it is.

Also, if she's into astrology, she knows you're a Libra and has Googled Libra and found out that Libra likes space from time to time, or at least that's what other people say about those born under this sign and she has chosen to believe it and readjust herself so you won't feel smothered. Also take into consideration her behavior when you are together. Remember what I also said about Taurus & Friends, and stop paying attention to what Virgo is doing!! It should not be about her!! You should be focusing on yourself and Vanessa!!
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LULZ, I also have le Sagi moon. 😆

Anyway, I practically have Libra's chart memorized, AND THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO WATER. As I previously stated elsewhere, her Venus is the problem. It's in worrywart Virgo. She has Virgo somewhere else, but otherwise, the woman is a bunch of Air and some Fire with only her two Virgo placements there bearing with the madness. Anyway, as much as I love talking about her, that has nothing to do with you.

Perhaps the reason Vanessa is so endeared to this woman is.... well, if she likes her and I don't mean in the romantic sense, remember that Virgo is also an Earth sign. Have you noticed how people of the same element tend to gravitate towards each other? That is what happened here. The fact that they are going to do something with her cousin means that Virgo probably suggested they go somewhere she feels Vanessa's cousin would like and Vanessa agreed to go. If Virgo was the initiator, since you know how she feels about you, it makes no sense to expect to be invited. Also, realize that Vanessa is doing the same she did with tou, which is accept someone's invitation.

Virgo and cousin probably have something in common, and I remember when I was in primary school, whenever someone new I took a liking to showed up, I would almost immediately involve them with my friends so that if one day I was absent, or when they were in a different class, or they decided they don't like me, they'd still have people to hang out with. There was always a place for them as long as they weren't rude. Another of the things I would immediately do is show them where everything was because obviously, they are in an unfamiliar place. This is probably what's happening with Virgo and Vanessa's cousin. They might also have something in common and Vanessa thinks they'd get along, but it really probably isn't the catastrophe you seem to be thinking it is.

Also, if she's into astrology, she knows you're a Libra and has Googled Libra and found out that Libra likes space from time to time, or at least that's what other people say about those born under this sign and she has chosen to believe it and readjust herself so you won't feel smothered. Also take into consideration her behavior when you are together. Remember what I also said about Taurus & Friends, and stop paying attention to what Virgo is doing!! It should not be about her!! You should be focusing on yourse
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That makes sense that you have a Sagittarius moon...your responses are a lot like Vanessa's...I know your libra has nothing to do with me... I was just thinking I might be able to relate to her a little if she was a little like my chart...but alas I have too much water...well actually the rest of my chart is as followed
Sun Libra
Ascendant Leo
Moon Cancer
Mercury Libra
Venus Scorpio
Mars Libra
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Midheaven Taurus
Lilith Libra
Asc node Aquarius

So I got a lot of water and quite a bit of Capricorn..i think Saturn has something to with ur generation? or maybe that's pluto...idk..plus if I was born one min before the time posted on my birth certificate id have a virgo rising so Idk which is more accurate..anyway the point of me worrying about Vanessa is that I m not worried that they are friends or hanging out...its the fact that the other girl from the very beginning has been hell bent on keeping me away from Vanessa..like everytime her and Vanessa hang out and I mean EVERYTIME ill hear I was the subject..and that girl even twisted things where I looked like an ass at work..it backfired but the only one who ignored it was Vanessa...this girl bashes everyone and even spread rumours about Vanessa...when her and Vanessa are together they laugh and seem to get along great but the second Vanessa leaves the room she starts...I don't care if their friends but my focus is only on the girl because her focus was on me...and it caused Vanessa to distance herself from me..i don't want to lose Vanessa because of stupid rumors...the girl still owes Vanessa 2.000 $ for the car she bought her...so maybe Vanessa is waiting it out until she gets her money back..but anyway after reading ur posts it makes more sense to not worry about losing Vanessa..me and Vanessa had a gd day today we just talked about silly stuff like tv shows and the like..and when that girl came to work they started talking and I just focused on Vanessa...like I didn't just go in the other room or avoid them like I was doing b4.. I just stayed by her and she was so happy for some reason..
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.Well, that's good. The reason for my saying that my circumstances with my Libra have nothing to do with you is for one, because it doesn't and number two, I don't want to make this about myself.

I'm amazed she gave her such a crazy amount of money!! @_@ I would never!!

Anyway, it's good that you are making an effort for her, and it's possible that she does question what she is being told about you. As I said before, a lot of people have negative opinions about people I get along with just fine, but I don't really pay attention to that. I feel everyone should base how they feel on another on their own experiences with them and not hearsay. I will only be negative when the person gives me a reason to. Your actions will prove others wrong. Others' actions will show who they really are.
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I'm a Taurus was in a relationship with a Libra for 4 years and at the beginning, I'd shut off just to see if he was still interested. I liked him and I loved spending time with him, but I kinda wanted to test him out to see if he was just as interested. So, I wouldn't text him or call him but rather, I'd wait and see what he was going to do. When he would continue to ask me out and pursue me, that let me know that he actually liked me and we ended up being pretty much inseparable for 4 good years.
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I'm amazed she gave her such a crazy amount of money!! @_@ I would never!!


lol...yea Vanessa's like that though...plus in the beginning she did like the other girl a lot...I guess she felt sorry for her because she was so far from home...the girl came from Australia to the states..hey even I liked this girl and wanted to help her too...but after all that went down I cant trust that girl ever again...u know my libra scales for the first five months were up and down trying to give that girl an excuse for her behavior...I came up with everything..maybe shes not feeling good or maybe shes having boyfriend problems and obviously money problems etc..and I didn't take it personally....but when she started this sh-t with Vanessa I stopped feeling sorry for her..i did nothing to provoke this behavior which seemed to stem from me just being friends with Vanessa...I m glad I got a better clearer picture of Vanessa though...Vanessa seems happier with me...well more calm...and your right "Your actions will prove others wrong. Others' actions will show who they really are." and I believe it will..
and you know what? since I shifted my attention away from that girl and only on Vanessa the other girl has all of a sudden shifted her attention to being really nice to me..and trying to bash Vanessa to me, "jokingly" of course, how rude Vanessa is and how she eats disgusting etc...and saying things like "right? shes rude right?" uh no I c thru that one..god her games are so obvious now that I think about it...I mean manipulation takes a lot of work...give it a rest already...geeze..im not rude to anyone but I wont get into any gossip at work..not gonna happen...anyway today I went in the other room when Vanessa and the other girl seemed fine with each other...like talking normal and laughing etc..Vanessa came in the break room and looked a little confused and asked why I was in there...I said I didn't want to stand anymore...she then looked happy again and sat with me and we looked at a magazine..then the other girl came in too and Vanessa went back to talking with her and looked at her magazine...I just stayed indifferent to the situation with Vanessa toward the other girl and that seemed fine...