Libra Womam & Taurus Man

I’ve dated a taurus (male) for a year and 7 months. in the beginning it was beautiful and perfect but somehow was not happy in the relationship. he initiated everything. I wanted to take things slow before getting into a relationship with him because he was moving too fast. he found out that I cheated on him with a guy (Leo male) I was involved with before. We didn’t break up. The relationship seemed to have gotten better after we fought. Then it went downhill after some months. I got in contact with the Leo male again but only as friends and my ex boyfriend (Taurus) didn’t like the idea at all. We ended up breaking up because he thought i cheated again. After the breakup he told me we’ll never be a couple again and then turned around saying maybe in time. We still text everyday and see each other almost every week because I have a great relationship with his mom. I love him so much and want him back but I don’t think I’ll ever have him back. What can I do—

I think it's done. You cheated on him, he let it slide, you spoke to that leo guy again, the wound reopened.

I don't know why would you want to reconnect with a guy you cheated your partner on with? You may think I'm mean when I say it but didn't the guilt of cheating 'your love' keep you away from the leo for good?

I am not very sure if you're really sincere in saying you love him. Think about it now. Because if you believe you really do then now you'll have to do a lot, literally ALOT to gain his trust back and in the end there isn't even a surety that he'll get back to you. Once the trust is gone, it's gone. So you really need to think if you're ready to invest a lot with 0.01% probability of succeeding.

That's my 2 cents as a Taurean.

^ This.

mistakes happen bruh...he seems forgiving though, even if he can't handle being with you bc he's too damaged from it....wait it out....rebuild as friends....if you're dating others and he's jealous, just keep it to your self....he can't help that given the wounds incurred, but with time he'll heal and probably be fine....from what I know of taurus men, they love libra energy in general....even if it can't be romance, which is unlikely w/no trust now, no reason not to have him in your life....he's obviously open to that so just have a venusian bromance, enjoy the good life together....love is love and doesn't always have to take the form of romance....bulls love women and many will keep their harem well-fed and watered.....and honestly, if you're with a taurus and you feel sexually attracted to or pulled away by others ever, you should take it as a sign, and spare the dude....even slight wounds around perceived unfaithfulness of any sort can be crippling to them, and really alter the dynamic so bad that even if he takes you back, its just too different....now he's paranoid, controlling, not the person he was....relationship slowly fades out....waste of everyone's time....

i think you have to pay your penance - in whatever form that might take.

you have to take him at his word that you need to rebuild trust and that is going to take time with no guarantee that you'll ever get back together again.

space or no space, ultimately i don't think either option decides the outcome.

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i think you have to pay your penance - in whatever form that might take.

you have to take him at his word that you need to rebuild trust and that is going to take time with no guarantee that you'll ever get back together again.

space or no space, ultimately i don't think either option decides the outcome.

thank you. It’s tough being friends but that’s the option and I believe it’s best. But is it rare for a taurus guy or guy in general to come back after something like this?

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taurus guy? i think the odds are stacked against you to be honest.

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i think you have to pay your penance - in whatever form that might take.

you have to take him at his word that you need to rebuild trust and that is going to take time with no guarantee that you'll ever get back together again.

space or no space, ultimately i don't think either option decides the outcome.

thank you. It’s tough being friends but that’s the option and I believe it’s best. But is it rare for a taurus guy or guy in general to come back after something like this?

taurus guy? i think the odds are stacked against you to be honest.

so it is best to move on and did the idea of getting back together?

also what are ways to rebuild trust with him?

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it depends on what you want. do you want to hold out for him? how long are you prepared to wait? what if it never happens, what then?

ways to build trust - show that you are trustworthy. be there for him when he needs you. be respectful. value the friendship. respect his pace. respect his wishes. be honest even when it is not in your favour to do so. say what you mean and mean what you say. be kind without ulterior motive. show him you are a better person than the person you were before. you do that by having integrity, character and morals.

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thank you. I am now accepting that I may not have him back and not focusing too much on our friendship cause I know in time it can get better. So you’re saying if we were ever to get back together, it wouldn’t be best?

I wouldn't give that sort of advice...no one (including the bull IMO) and nothing but the experience can tell you that for sure. Its a distinct possibility though, and I would say more probable than not....I just don't think you should be the "all or nothing" type, but that's on you....if there's something in the relationship worth preserving, I've always felt you should do what you can to do that, even if its not in the form you like....could be a really supportive friendship for life...sometimes if you try to push too hard towards a type of relationship that really isn't working - is resulting in distrust, pain/heartbreak - you're just destroying what you actually love most about the connection, for the sake of some other category that really was never on solid ground between you two anyway (wandering hearts, minds, eyes, and bodies signal this for me)....either way though, I'm sure you both will be fine....both seem somewhat mature....that's a key component IMO to any sort of relationship....for instance, you don't seem like you're trying to manipulate the dude with petty bullshit & games....that has zero chance of success with a bull IMO and would just lose his respect....they see right through it, and really mainly seem to be moved by sincerity/love....

best of luck....

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Posted by jeane
i think you have to pay your penance - in whatever form that might take.

you have to take him at his word that you need to rebuild trust and that is going to take time with no guarantee that you'll ever get back together again.

space or no space, ultimately i don't think either option decides the outcome.

thank you. It’s tough being friends but that’s the option and I believe it’s best. But is it rare for a taurus guy or guy in general to come back after something like this?

taurus guy? i think the odds are stacked against you to be honest.

so it is best to move on and did the idea of getting back together?

also what are ways to rebuild trust with him?

it depends on what you want. do you want to hold out for him? how long are you prepared to wait? what if it never happens, what then?

ways to build trust - show that you are trustworthy. be there for him when he needs you. be respectful. value the friendship. respect his pace. respect his wishes. be honest even when it is not in your favour to do so. say what you mean and mean what you say. be kind without ulterior motive. show him you are a better person than the person you were before. you do that by having integrity, character and morals.

I’m not necessarily holding out for him but I do plan on not being with anyone for a while because I still want to be with him. We call each other “bff” now. I’m working on myself to be a better person for myself and life in general. I’m always offering to help him and giving him solutions to his problems. I’m working on being more open and honest so that my communication is better.

I did give him a card for new years and a little gift for valentine’s day which I won’t do anymore so he won’t get the impression of me trying to buy him back or persuade him in any way.

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the libra thing of being helpful and buying gifts is not going to work here. it needs time. you have to show calm steady patience.

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wow ya'll giving this ho actual advice

people make mistakes. i’m not perfect and you are not either. have a great day and love yourself✨