Mourning Taurus is extremely sexual?
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by BeaCancer91 on Thursday, September 11, 2014 and has 21 replies.
A person of his intermediate family just passed away about 12 hours ago. It was early in the day when he told me. I gave him my deepest condolences saying "I'm here if you need me, know that." He says "I know. Thank you. I love you." I say "I love you too."
The rest of the day he's been pretty quiet..understood, but now he's on a sex binge saying it would be great if he got some oral right now. I'm just kind going with it, whatever keeps him level headed I guess. He's pretty vulnerable right though. So he may not be as serious as he seems.
Not sure what I'm even asking. Insight I suppose is what I want?
Also I turned his request down. I just don't feel that would be appropriate. Definitely not right now. I'd love to please him, but I feel it would be wrong to do so NOW. I feel my heart kind of being tugged at. I don't want him to feel "rejected" but this is all wrong.
Either he's taking advantage of your sympathy
OR
I have heard it said that death makes some people want to reaffirm the fact that they are alive--
and what better way to do so?
*shrugs*
Something like that-- best I got.
OR
I have heard it said that death makes some people want to reaffirm the fact that they are alive--
and what better way to do so?
*shrugs*
Something like that-- best I got.
@Montgomery either or...maybe? He may just wanna feel better,I guess,but I'm not about to do that.
Posted by BeaCancer91
@Montgomery either or...maybe? He may just wanna feel better,I guess,but I'm not about to do that.
Why not?
It would be different if it was someone in your family-- but it's not.
I thought Cancers were like-- the eternal comforters. :/
hmm
Interesting.
@Montgomery
When my intermediate family member passed. I didn't want to hear nothing, or nobody. So definitely different, and we external comforters. Why not what? Why won't I give him head? I would, if it was another a different circumstance. Wouldn't that just be wrong though? I guess. This is questionable to me. lol
When my intermediate family member passed. I didn't want to hear nothing, or nobody. So definitely different, and we external comforters. Why not what? Why won't I give him head? I would, if it was another a different circumstance. Wouldn't that just be wrong though? I guess. This is questionable to me. lol
No offense intended, I should add.
I thought you meant sex.
And I don't think it's wrong, morally.
But if he's just trying to capitalize on your sympathy, then I would totally get the revulsion. Lol
And I don't think it's wrong, morally.
But if he's just trying to capitalize on your sympathy, then I would totally get the revulsion. Lol
Hmmm, He's kinda egging me on a little too (Or so he thinks) he is saying things like "See told you, you wasn't about that." He's not really "upset" I wont. By the way he's a very attractive male, with several options, so he could easily get another woman to fulfill what he desires.
Also as I type all this to you guys. We are talking about this right now. I'm not sure really how to respond,I don't know... I'm puzzled.
Also as I type all this to you guys. We are talking about this right now. I'm not sure really how to respond,I don't know... I'm puzzled.
I did tell him that
He was once someone romantic about a week or so ago, but up until recently asked if we could be friends at this point. We are not together what so ever though. I kind of feel taken advantage of though, even with the death he is going through, because he does know how strong I feel for him in the first place.
I almost feel like hes kind of using that a little to break my concrete decision.
He was once someone romantic about a week or so ago, but up until recently asked if we could be friends at this point. We are not together what so ever though. I kind of feel taken advantage of though, even with the death he is going through, because he does know how strong I feel for him in the first place.
I almost feel like hes kind of using that a little to break my concrete decision.
Posted by tiziani
I have a similar experience to the second reason Monte gave - only it was with a Scorpio.
They just wanted to feel connected to the world. People deal with loss in strange ways, and over a lengthy period of time.
Sounds better that way.
Posted by BeaCancer91
I did tell him that
He was once someone romantic about a week or so ago, but up until recently asked if we could be friends at this point. We are not together what so ever though. I kind of feel taken advantage of though, even with the death he is going through, because he does know how strong I feel for him in the first place.
I almost feel like hes kind of using that a little to break my concrete decision.
You think?
I didn't realize you weren't together.
Jeeezus.
@Montgomery
That's how I feel most of the time, He's very distant with me (I understand this may because of his issues though.) I'm just kind of patient, giving him space. This is the first time we've talked since the first of this month, and once I turned him down, he said that last thing," Told you, you weren't about it." Then he stopped responding... Must be looking for some one else to fulfill his wishes.
@Tiziani
Nope we are not together. He's just a friend "at this point"
Before his family member passed he'd already going through a financial issue, and wanted to keep focus on that. So I was put of the side if that is what you'd call it.
We have not at all had sex yet. We've given oral to each other about three times though.
That's how I feel most of the time, He's very distant with me (I understand this may because of his issues though.) I'm just kind of patient, giving him space. This is the first time we've talked since the first of this month, and once I turned him down, he said that last thing," Told you, you weren't about it." Then he stopped responding... Must be looking for some one else to fulfill his wishes.
@Tiziani
Nope we are not together. He's just a friend "at this point"
Before his family member passed he'd already going through a financial issue, and wanted to keep focus on that. So I was put of the side if that is what you'd call it.
We have not at all had sex yet. We've given oral to each other about three times though.
To say I'm a hurt by this is an understatement. Why would he be a manipulator now when a death is in the family? I'm more of an easy target, because I do love him, and would do a lot for him, and he knows that :/
@tizani
OKay, and I wont. It is very odd.
OKay, and I wont. It is very odd.
Posted by Infinite8Posted by BeaCancer91
@Montgomery
That's how I feel most of the time, He's very distant with me (I understand this may because of his issues though.) I'm just kind of patient, giving him space. This is the first time we've talked since the first of this month, and once I turned him down, he said that last thing," Told you, you weren't about it." Then he stopped responding... Must be looking for some one else to fulfill his wishes.
He is a major red flag. Protect yourself and don't allow his teasing to change your mind. From what you said, he sounds like he totally wants an easy lay. Trust your gut and stay with it. You are doing the right thingclick to expand
THIS ^^
Dear Bea... had I understood the situation, I would NEVER have suggested you compromise yourself.
Do not entertain this person who is callously playing with your heart and mind.
Kick his ass to the curb where it belongs.
Thank you all, and this is definitely noted
@jynjay
Giving him oral is not an issue. Its just the situation. I'm not cool with it because he just lost his dad.
Hes been telling me he loves me for the past 4months, and he was the first one who felt it, and said it..i just up until recently felt intensely for him. Sometimes I do feel like he manipulates or plays with my head.
IE as soon as I turned him down for oral he stopped speaking with me. I mean its also possible that he is busy with his family, but.. he does a lot of things like this though. Dissapper when he doesn't like something I say..or just for no explanation to me.
I once confronted him asking him if he was playing with me and he told me no. I'm not really certain...though I feel like he is sometimes..
Giving him oral is not an issue. Its just the situation. I'm not cool with it because he just lost his dad.
Hes been telling me he loves me for the past 4months, and he was the first one who felt it, and said it..i just up until recently felt intensely for him. Sometimes I do feel like he manipulates or plays with my head.
IE as soon as I turned him down for oral he stopped speaking with me. I mean its also possible that he is busy with his family, but.. he does a lot of things like this though. Dissapper when he doesn't like something I say..or just for no explanation to me.
I once confronted him asking him if he was playing with me and he told me no. I'm not really certain...though I feel like he is sometimes..
He's trying to get away from reality.
Posted by Infinite8Posted by rockport424
He's trying to get away from reality.
Yes. And in order to do that, he will use ANYONE to satisfy that need.click to expand
Totally agree. He may be trying to deal with the stress through having sex and to use someone for that is not fair. You're not his sex toy or stress ball.
Posted by BeaCancer91
Also I turned his request down. I just don't feel that would be appropriate. Definitely not right now. I'd love to please him, but I feel it would be wrong to do so NOW. I feel my heart kind of being tugged at. I don't want him to feel "rejected" but this is all wrong.
Who are you to decide what is inappropriate for him? He's telling you what he wants from you to comfort him. Men don't operate like we do. Now wouldn't be the best time to reject him..just my opinion...
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