My jealous Taurus Sister in Law
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I am a Pisces married to a Capricorn man. He has a 3 years younger sister who is a taurus. Her age is 28.
She is always jealous of me and the way I dress, do my hair, copies my selections and decision, the way I talk, etc. She hates when I do something, but ends up doing it herself, behind my back. I have been trying to ignore it for the past 3 years I have been married to her brother, because I have been thinking she might feel this way because she might have had a close relationship to her brother (my husband). But my husband confirmed to me that they never had a close relationship and she has a tendency to always be the center of attention, even with her close friends.
He advised me to take it positive and be happy I'm "trendsetting", LOL. But come on, I am so tired of her making a fuss and drama out of everything I do and tries to stop me. Then goes behind my back and does it herself. She is making it so difficult for me!
My question: What shall I do about this? What might be her problem? What causes a taurus woman to be this way? Aren´t taurus woman strong, independent and stable ladies. How can I put her in place? She´s also super stubborn.
She is always jealous of me and the way I dress, do my hair, copies my selections and decision, the way I talk, etc. She hates when I do something, but ends up doing it herself, behind my back. I have been trying to ignore it for the past 3 years I have been married to her brother, because I have been thinking she might feel this way because she might have had a close relationship to her brother (my husband). But my husband confirmed to me that they never had a close relationship and she has a tendency to always be the center of attention, even with her close friends.
He advised me to take it positive and be happy I'm "trendsetting", LOL. But come on, I am so tired of her making a fuss and drama out of everything I do and tries to stop me. Then goes behind my back and does it herself. She is making it so difficult for me!
My question: What shall I do about this? What might be her problem? What causes a taurus woman to be this way? Aren´t taurus woman strong, independent and stable ladies. How can I put her in place? She´s also super stubborn.
I see.
Thank for getting back to me.
Well I can do that, but the thing is that family is important to me and I have tried my best to be sincere, honest and giving towards her, because I have been afraid of making her uncomfortable or upset, but deep inside me I have been so annoyed and angry at her for not letting me be alone and do my thing. She ruined a lot of important moments in my life, just so that she can be the one and only in the family to have it that certain way, which I was doing in the first place. I have had it now and I have decided to do something about this, because she's crossing a limit. And I am going crazy.
But can anyone answer me what makes a taurus woman behave like this except for her placements? I am trying to understand her. My taurus friends are all quite independent, stable with lot of self-respect. They are all original, never seen any of them copy anyone. They have their own way of doing things and quite stubborn about it.
Thank for getting back to me.
Well I can do that, but the thing is that family is important to me and I have tried my best to be sincere, honest and giving towards her, because I have been afraid of making her uncomfortable or upset, but deep inside me I have been so annoyed and angry at her for not letting me be alone and do my thing. She ruined a lot of important moments in my life, just so that she can be the one and only in the family to have it that certain way, which I was doing in the first place. I have had it now and I have decided to do something about this, because she's crossing a limit. And I am going crazy.
But can anyone answer me what makes a taurus woman behave like this except for her placements? I am trying to understand her. My taurus friends are all quite independent, stable with lot of self-respect. They are all original, never seen any of them copy anyone. They have their own way of doing things and quite stubborn about it.
Gosh. Imagine how rock solid your relationship would be if you invested the time your spending on this bs drama on your marriage instead.
Posted by LadyNeptuneNow we didn’t marry before our relationship were more than rock solid, both on a mental and physical level. So I am not worried about my marriage, did I mention that?
Gosh. Imagine how rock solid your relationship would be if you invested the time your spending on this bs drama on your marriage instead.
I didn’t marry my sister-in-law along with my man, so I am trying to understand her character. She is family, and my cap husband is all about family. Showing I am taking interest in understanding his sister would only give me points and not her, again boost my marriage
Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornrather than "trying to put her in her place", why don't you actually befriend her? she probably doesn't feel like you are a particularly nice person and given the focus of this thread, i would say you give her good reason to.
I am a Pisces married to a Capricorn man. He has a 3 years younger sister who is a taurus. Her age is 28.
She is always jealous of me and the way I dress, do my hair, copies my selections and decision, the way I talk, etc. She hates when I do something, but ends up doing it herself, behind my back. I have been trying to ignore it for the past 3 years I have been married to her brother, because I have been thinking she might feel this way because she might have had a close relationship to her brother (my husband). But my husband confirmed to me that they never had a close relationship and she has a tendency to always be the center of attention, even with her close friends.
He advised me to take it positive and be happy I'm "trendsetting", LOL. But come on, I am so tired of her making a fuss and drama out of everything I do and tries to stop me. Then goes behind my back and does it herself. She is making it so difficult for me!
My question: What shall I do about this? What might be her problem? What causes a taurus woman to be this way? Aren´t taurus woman strong, independent and stable ladies. How can I put her in place? She´s also super stubborn.
Her brother was likely to be a provider of many things for her, and that providence is no more.
Taurus is about resources, and Taurus admire beauty, resources, money and all such, and Capricorn can produce all that.
What he seen in you, must be a question in her head all the way.
The only solution is to find her another provider lol
Taurus is about resources, and Taurus admire beauty, resources, money and all such, and Capricorn can produce all that.
What he seen in you, must be a question in her head all the way.
The only solution is to find her another provider lol
Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornYour spending a lot of energy competing with your sister in law. I don’t understand why her wearing the same style s of clothes/hair as you = her being jealous. Your not the first person to rock those looks. Trends and fashion is spoon fed to the masses.Posted by LadyNeptune
Gosh. Imagine how rock solid your relationship would be if you invested the time your spending on this bs drama on your marriage instead.
Now we didn’t marry before our relationship were more than rock solid, both on a mental and physical level. So I am not worried about my marriage, did I mention that?
I didn’t marry my sister-in-law along with my man, so I am trying to understand her character. She is family, and my cap husband is all about family. Showing I am taking interest in understanding his sister would only give me points and not her, again boost my marriage
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Sorry but there’s nothing original about you, me, or anyone else under the sun 🤷♀️
You should be trying to develop a relationship with your sister in law instead of talking up a rivalry that doesn’t exist. But do what you want...
U need to ask her why she behave the way she does. Than you will know what is willy going on. U think its jarlouse but u haven't spoke to her about this jet. So u don't know why she behave the way she does. If you talk to her. You will no for real. Whats in her mind.
Posted by exsqueezemeShe has her own husband she can be possessive over. She NEVER had a good relationship with her brother (according to her own cap brother), so immediately when I enter his life, she gets all jelly?Posted by kitten_
All fixed sign women are jealous at Pisces, because apparently Pisces women are the only sign Capricorn man can love.
She probably wants her own brother click to expandclick to expand
She tries to copy me, for what?
Posted by jeaneIt´s funny you are mentioning that. I am a Pisces with a father who is Cap and husband who is Cap, so I know Capricorns quite well. I know the way to their heart is through family, so trust me when I say I genuinely did a lot of attempts to be friends with her. Before and after we even got married, I actually involved her in so many ways. I am actually friends with her friends, and all of them are super cool, we get along very well.Posted by MrsPiscesCapricorn
I am a Pisces married to a Capricorn man. He has a 3 years younger sister who is a taurus. Her age is 28.
She is always jealous of me and the way I dress, do my hair, copies my selections and decision, the way I talk, etc. She hates when I do something, but ends up doing it herself, behind my back. I have been trying to ignore it for the past 3 years I have been married to her brother, because I have been thinking she might feel this way because she might have had a close relationship to her brother (my husband). But my husband confirmed to me that they never had a close relationship and she has a tendency to always be the center of attention, even with her close friends.
He advised me to take it positive and be happy I'm "trendsetting", LOL. But come on, I am so tired of her making a fuss and drama out of everything I do and tries to stop me. Then goes behind my back and does it herself. She is making it so difficult for me!
My question: What shall I do about this? What might be her problem? What causes a taurus woman to be this way? Aren´t taurus woman strong, independent and stable ladies. How can I put her in place? She´s also super stubborn.
rather than "trying to put her in her place", why don't you actually befriend her? she probably doesn't feel like you are a particularly nice person and given the focus of this thread, i would say you give her good reason to. click to expandclick to expand
I am a year younger than her, so there is no big age gap between us either. So I dont understand what her problem is.
I invited her several times over for dinner, to go shopping, I even invited her to get her opinion for my wedding dress, I bought her gifts, I wish her for her birthday and much much more. I showed her I value her and that she means something to me. All in all, I really tried to include her in every parts of our lives, but she refuses, but still she goes on copying everything I do, from clothing to decorating the house, to how I interact with people to how I am with my husband. Its like: When I wear a dress a certain way, she would say I look trashy, even thought I looked decent. Then I see pictures of her somewhere, with the exact same dress, worn the exact same way and suddenly it´s fine? How is this right? This has happened so many times. She finds out where I got the dress, just within a few months or even weeks, I can now bet she does the same thing.
Do you think she has a psychological issue?
SHE does not want to be my friend, but still she's doing this, and its so annoying! Thats why I have decided I can't be friends with her, because I have tried it all. Still I want to be in good terms with her, that why I am trying to understand her. If I find out she is doing this just to annoy me, I want to "put her in place" as I mentioned earlier, because she can´t keep doing this. And I would´t feel guilty about it at all! Thats how much she's tried to ruin for me.
Posted by ImpulsvWhat types of vibes are you referring to?Posted by jeanePosted by MrsPiscesCapricorn
I am a Pisces married to a Capricorn man. He has a 3 years younger sister who is a taurus. Her age is 28.
She is always jealous of me and the way I dress, do my hair, copies my selections and decision, the way I talk, etc. She hates when I do something, but ends up doing it herself, behind my back. I have been trying to ignore it for the past 3 years I have been married to her brother, because I have been thinking she might feel this way because she might have had a close relationship to her brother (my husband). But my husband confirmed to me that they never had a close relationship and she has a tendency to always be the center of attention, even with her close friends.
He advised me to take it positive and be happy I'm "trendsetting", LOL. But come on, I am so tired of her making a fuss and drama out of everything I do and tries to stop me. Then goes behind my back and does it herself. She is making it so difficult for me!
My question: What shall I do about this? What might be her problem? What causes a taurus woman to be this way? Aren´t taurus woman strong, independent and stable ladies. How can I put her in place? She´s also super stubborn.
rather than "trying to put her in her place", why don't you actually befriend her? she probably doesn't feel like you are a particularly nice person and given the focus of this thread, i would say you give her good reason to. click to expand
Right sounds , childish to be concerned about her copying you
You must be giving some vibes click to expandclick to expand
Why are you so concerned with her opinion tho. Who cares if she thinks your dress looks trashy?! Your husbands opinion is the one that matters.
Stop being so extra. Tone it down. It’s a huge turn off for cap energy.
You should probably not repeat what your saying on this thread. Calling her psycho just makes you look more wack. Don’t do that to yourself.
Stop being so extra. Tone it down. It’s a huge turn off for cap energy.
You should probably not repeat what your saying on this thread. Calling her psycho just makes you look more wack. Don’t do that to yourself.
Posted by MrsPiscesCapricorni guess for me, i can't see why you are so het up about it. both of you sound petty.Posted by jeanePosted by MrsPiscesCapricorn
I am a Pisces married to a Capricorn man. He has a 3 years younger sister who is a taurus. Her age is 28.
She is always jealous of me and the way I dress, do my hair, copies my selections and decision, the way I talk, etc. She hates when I do something, but ends up doing it herself, behind my back. I have been trying to ignore it for the past 3 years I have been married to her brother, because I have been thinking she might feel this way because she might have had a close relationship to her brother (my husband). But my husband confirmed to me that they never had a close relationship and she has a tendency to always be the center of attention, even with her close friends.
He advised me to take it positive and be happy I'm "trendsetting", LOL. But come on, I am so tired of her making a fuss and drama out of everything I do and tries to stop me. Then goes behind my back and does it herself. She is making it so difficult for me!
My question: What shall I do about this? What might be her problem? What causes a taurus woman to be this way? Aren´t taurus woman strong, independent and stable ladies. How can I put her in place? She´s also super stubborn.
rather than "trying to put her in her place", why don't you actually befriend her? she probably doesn't feel like you are a particularly nice person and given the focus of this thread, i would say you give her good reason to. click to expand
It´s funny you are mentioning that. I am a Pisces with a father who is Cap and husband who is Cap, so I know Capricorns quite well. I know the way to their heart is through family, so trust me when I say I genuinely did a lot of attempts to be friends with her. Before and after we even got married, I actually involved her in so many ways. I am actually friends with her friends, and all of them are super cool, we get along very well.
I am a year younger than her, so there is no big age gap between us either. So I dont understand what her problem is.
I invited her several times over for dinner, to go shopping, I even invited her to get her opinion for my wedding dress, I bought her gifts, I wish her for her birthday and much much more. I showed her I value her and that she means something to me. All in all, I really tried to include her in every parts of our lives, but she refuses, but still she goes on copying everything I do, from clothing to decorating the house, to how I interact with people to how I am with my husband. Its like: When I wear a dress a certain way, she would say I look trashy, even thought I looked decent. Then I see pictures of her somewhere, with the exact same dress, worn the exact same way and suddenly it´s fine? How is this right? This has happened so many times. She finds out where I got the dress, just within a few months or even weeks, I can now bet she does the same thing.
Do you think she has a psychological issue?
SHE does not want to be my friend, but still she's doing this, and its so annoying! Thats why I have decided I can't be friends with her, because I have tried it all. Still I want to be in good terms with her, that why I am trying to understand her. If I find out she is doing this just to annoy me, I want to "put her in place" as I mentioned earlier, because she can´t keep doing this. And I would´t feel guilty about it at all! Thats how much she's tried to ruin for me.
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Do you trash talk her like this in front of people irl? Be honest with yourself. I have a feeling her behavior is a reaction. You said you’ve befriended her friends. People talk and will repeat what they hear.
Posted by greylaternI hear you. Thank you for getting back to me regarding my issue.
Talk to her. You have nothing to lose at this point that you are not slowely losing already. The anger and resentment will build.
I'll take the high road and toss 2 possibilities I'vr seen around my life.
1. She wants to be close to her brother and sees you as a threat OR a model.
2. Jealously/envy of the relationship dynamic you guys have.
Instead of taking it personal since there is zero info that would make me think that is so, it maybe impersonal but have a negative effect on you. Your passive aggressiveness actually makes what she is doing possible. In human behavioral psychology lose respect. Try to really understand that last point.
Either way TALK to her, LEARN her, UNDERSTAND her. Find away to do so without tripping her defenses and she digs in her hooves. BEFRIENDED her.
I have never been aggressive towards her directly, I am quite soft spoken, I have never disrespected her like she has disrespected me. I have broken into tears many times, because the issue has gotten far more serious that I can explain. She makes my life miserable so that she can have a better life, better image, better everything than me. I have never compared myself to her, and I never will. I am happy with who I am and everything I have achieved in life this far. I am not jealous of her at all, so why is she jelly of me?
If she has a good life, I would be beyond happy. I would be thinking: "Finally, she's doing her own thing now". Now some peace. But why isn't she making her own choices?
Well I understand your position that you’re bothered by her hypocrisy and insults especially after attempting to build a genuine relationship with her. But i think best is to ignore it ? Or try not to be at the same places which is super hard given that she’s family. Because if you be negative then it makes you look like a bad person. Blood is thicker than water so to Say.
Ignore. Try not to be at the same place. Or do the backhand compliment where you’re getting under her skin but on the outside it looks innocent so you don’t come out looking like the bad guy.
I’ve never noticed Taurus women to be jealous and that boisterous so don’t know what’s up with her.
Ignore. Try not to be at the same place. Or do the backhand compliment where you’re getting under her skin but on the outside it looks innocent so you don’t come out looking like the bad guy.
I’ve never noticed Taurus women to be jealous and that boisterous so don’t know what’s up with her.
Also bring it to her attention in a nice way?
Like hey remember you told me that dress looked trashy and that was pretty insulting but I couldn’t help notice that you got one just like it. Im just taking a but personal because you said it was trashy for me... is it something specific about me that you don’t like? Because I’ve been making every effort to build a friendship with you and I’m not sure what’s not working between us.
Like hey remember you told me that dress looked trashy and that was pretty insulting but I couldn’t help notice that you got one just like it. Im just taking a but personal because you said it was trashy for me... is it something specific about me that you don’t like? Because I’ve been making every effort to build a friendship with you and I’m not sure what’s not working between us.
Posted by ImpulsvIt is super annoying. And I want to know why she is doing it? This is not a typical behavior from a taurus as far as I know. My taurus friends as so independent and original. They are so easy-going, down to earth and friendly people.Posted by MrsPiscesCapricorn
I am a Pisces married to a Capricorn man. He has a 3 years younger sister who is a taurus. Her age is 28.
She is always jealous of me and the way I dress, do my hair, copies my selections and decision, the way I talk, etc. She hates when I do something, but ends up doing it herself, behind my back. I have been trying to ignore it for the past 3 years I have been married to her brother, because I have been thinking she might feel this way because she might have had a close relationship to her brother (my husband). But my husband confirmed to me that they never had a close relationship and she has a tendency to always be the center of attention, even with her close friends.
He advised me to take it positive and be happy I'm "trendsetting", LOL. But come on, I am so tired of her making a fuss and drama out of everything I do and tries to stop me. Then goes behind my back and does it herself. She is making it so difficult for me!
My question: What shall I do about this? What might be her problem? What causes a taurus woman to be this way? Aren´t taurus woman strong, independent and stable ladies. How can I put her in place? She´s also super stubborn.
Like why do You even care if she copies you ! click to expandclick to expand
What makes a taurus woman go out of her way and copy another person? Trauma? Psychological issues? Jealously? But can taurus women get jealous?
Posted by LadyNeptuneOmg.
Do you trash talk her like this in front of people irl? Be honest with yourself. I have a feeling her behavior is a reaction. You said you’ve befriended her friends. People talk and will repeat what they hear.
NO, I have never talked bad about her to anyone, not even my husband. All I am saying I am annoyed by her, but since she is family, I want to understand her, what the root of her problem is, so that I can be at peace and not feel she's doing this on purpose.
You are saying her behavior is a reaction - but a reaction for what?
I have never spoken about her behind her back to her friends. Would never do that. They are HER friends. But they like me and I like them, and we get a long when we speak. We dont gossip.
Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornHow is she not making her own choices tho? You say she is getting better things/image that you. That’s not copying you, that’s one upping you. Tbh you sound like the jealous one...Posted by greylatern
Talk to her. You have nothing to lose at this point that you are not slowely losing already. The anger and resentment will build.
I'll take the high road and toss 2 possibilities I'vr seen around my life.
1. She wants to be close to her brother and sees you as a threat OR a model.
2. Jealously/envy of the relationship dynamic you guys have.
Instead of taking it personal since there is zero info that would make me think that is so, it maybe impersonal but have a negative effect on you. Your passive aggressiveness actually makes what she is doing possible. In human behavioral psychology lose respect. Try to really understand that last point.
Either way TALK to her, LEARN her, UNDERSTAND her. Find away to do so without tripping her defenses and she digs in her hooves. BEFRIENDED her.
I hear you. Thank you for getting back to me regarding my issue.
I have never been aggressive towards her directly, I am quite soft spoken, I have never disrespected her like she has disrespected me. I have broken into tears many times, because the issue has gotten far more serious that I can explain. She makes my life miserable so that she can have a better life, better image, better everything than me. I have never compared myself to her, and I never will. I am happy with who I am and everything I have achieved in life this far. I am not jealous of her at all, so why is she jelly of me?
If she has a good life, I would be beyond happy. I would be thinking: "Finally, she's doing her own thing now". Now some peace. But why isn't she making her own choices? click to expandclick to expand
Posted by UnusualVaginalDischargeYour reply is so sweet. Thank you.Posted by MrsPiscesCapricorn
I see.
Thank for getting back to me.
Well I can do that, but the thing is that family is important to me and I have tried my best to be sincere, honest and giving towards her, because I have been afraid of making her uncomfortable or upset, but deep inside me I have been so annoyed and angry at her for not letting me be alone and do my thing. She ruined a lot of important moments in my life, just so that she can be the one and only in the family to have it that certain way, which I was doing in the first place. I have had it now and I have decided to do something about this, because she's crossing a limit. And I am going crazy.
But can anyone answer me what makes a taurus woman behave like this except for her placements? I am trying to understand her. My taurus friends are all quite independent, stable with lot of self-respect. They are all original, never seen any of them copy anyone. They have their own way of doing things and quite stubborn about it.
You shouldn’t care about how this narcissistic cookiemonster feels. Don’t walk on eggshells for her, she doesn’t deserve it
Do you know the rest of her placements? click to expandclick to expand
Her placements:
Sun - Taurus
Moon - Taurus
Mercury - Taurus
Venus - Pisces
Mars - Pisces
Jupiter - Cancer
Saturn - Capricorn
Uranus - Capricorn
Neptune - Capricorn
Pluto - Scorpio
Lilith - Scorpio
Asc node - Aquarious
Posted by The_Mad_H8RIm from Norway, we dont have target here.
Have your clothes custom made... problem solved.. Target sells thousands of the same damn dress, you're not the only one at any given moment wearing something.
Are you jealous she pulls it off better?
Posted by LadyNeptuneSweety, are you even reading what I am writing? I have repeated myself a lot of times now of whats going on.Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by greylatern
Talk to her. You have nothing to lose at this point that you are not slowely losing already. The anger and resentment will build.
I'll take the high road and toss 2 possibilities I'vr seen around my life.
1. She wants to be close to her brother and sees you as a threat OR a model.
2. Jealously/envy of the relationship dynamic you guys have.
Instead of taking it personal since there is zero info that would make me think that is so, it maybe impersonal but have a negative effect on you. Your passive aggressiveness actually makes what she is doing possible. In human behavioral psychology lose respect. Try to really understand that last point.
Either way TALK to her, LEARN her, UNDERSTAND her. Find away to do so without tripping her defenses and she digs in her hooves. BEFRIENDED her.
I hear you. Thank you for getting back to me regarding my issue.
I have never been aggressive towards her directly, I am quite soft spoken, I have never disrespected her like she has disrespected me. I have broken into tears many times, because the issue has gotten far more serious that I can explain. She makes my life miserable so that she can have a better life, better image, better everything than me. I have never compared myself to her, and I never will. I am happy with who I am and everything I have achieved in life this far. I am not jealous of her at all, so why is she jelly of me?
If she has a good life, I would be beyond happy. I would be thinking: "Finally, she's doing her own thing now". Now some peace. But why isn't she making her own choices? click to expand
How is she not making her own choices tho? You say she is getting better things/image that you. That’s not copying you, that’s one upping you. Tbh you sound like the jealous one... click to expandclick to expand
I will let you know:
1. My husband and I got wedding rings with 2 circles that has a special meaning to us. She commented saying who would have circles on their wedding rings. And that is looks so hilarious. She got married 6 months after, and she had asked her husband in front of our nose to get rings with the same type of circles of their wedding rings. Why throw a harsh comment in my moment? but when she has her moment its all fine?
2. I was thinking about booking a venue for my husband birthday, but she made a fuss about there is not enough room for all he guests. So my mother in law told me to book another one, even though I had paid the deposit. I booked another venue, and we had a great party. 1 year later she books that same venue I had to cancel, and throws her husbands party with even more guests. Why would she do that? Why did she make a fuss when I booked it?
Posted by The_Mad_H8ROkay I will clear it for you. I am waaaaay more creative than her in every way, I have known her for the last 13 years. Lets say I have a different way of wearing that t-shirt from H&M or that ordinary mass produced belt from Zara that a million people have already. A way she couldn't have imagined wearing. And how come she always wears it just few months after me and not the other way around?Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by The_Mad_H8R
Have your clothes custom made... problem solved.. Target sells thousands of the same damn dress, you're not the only one at any given moment wearing something.
Are you jealous she pulls it off better?
Im from Norway, we dont have target here. click to expand
Okay, well, I'll narrow it down even more then: there are very few mass producers of textiles in the world. All of those producers send their products to retail outlets all over the world.. the chances of someone having your same dress got even higher..
Factor in local fashion and it's even higher.
Have custom clothes made and eliminate the issue. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by ImpulsvDont think you have much family, do you? But I see your standards of how you would do things, and sorry I am not interested in doing it that way, because I do care about my SIL and my MIL and I want to understand them. I believe understanding is the key to a family bond.Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by greylatern
Talk to her. You have nothing to lose at this point that you are not slowely losing already. The anger and resentment will build.
I'll take the high road and toss 2 possibilities I'vr seen around my life.
1. She wants to be close to her brother and sees you as a threat OR a model.
2. Jealously/envy of the relationship dynamic you guys have.
Instead of taking it personal since there is zero info that would make me think that is so, it maybe impersonal but have a negative effect on you. Your passive aggressiveness actually makes what she is doing possible. In human behavioral psychology lose respect. Try to really understand that last point.
Either way TALK to her, LEARN her, UNDERSTAND her. Find away to do so without tripping her defenses and she digs in her hooves. BEFRIENDED her.
I hear you. Thank you for getting back to me regarding my issue.
I have never been aggressive towards her directly, I am quite soft spoken, I have never disrespected her like she has disrespected me. I have broken into tears many times, because the issue has gotten far more serious that I can explain. She makes my life miserable so that she can have a better life, better image, better everything than me. I have never compared myself to her, and I never will. I am happy with who I am and everything I have achieved in life this far. I am not jealous of her at all, so why is she jelly of me?
If she has a good life, I would be beyond happy. I would be thinking: "Finally, she's doing her own thing now". Now some peace. But why isn't she making her own choices? click to expand
How is she not making her own choices tho? You say she is getting better things/image that you. That’s not copying you, that’s one upping you. Tbh you sound like the jealous one... click to expand
Sweety, are you even reading what I am writing? I have repeated myself a lot of times now of whats going on.
I will let you know:
1. My husband and I got wedding rings with 2 circles that has a special meaning to us. She commented saying who would have circles on their wedding rings. And that is looks so hilarious. She got married 6 months after, and she had asked her husband in front of our nose to get rings with the same type of circles of their wedding rings. Why throw a harsh comment in my moment? but when she has her moment its all fine?
2. I was thinking about booking a venue for my husband birthday, but she made a fuss about there is not enough room for all he guests. So my mother in law told me to book another one, even though I had paid the deposit. I booked another venue, and we had a great party. 1 year later she books that same venue I had to cancel, and throws her husbands party with even more guests. Why would she do that? Why did she make a fuss when I booked it? click to expand
Example number one
No big issue
So she thought it Hilarious at the time
Then maybe she saw actually cute
There there you’re probably the one seeing it with Marris.
Example two
So she uses the other venue. You’re the one that has to kick yourself for following recommendation of others . You could’ve said no I made my deposit this is perfect.
She chose it because she liked it and is not asking for your opinion. Or that off her mothers
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If I want to play by your standards, I could have easily made my Cap cut out his sis, and everybody who is talking against me with no big issues. Very easily, actually. Because my husband is not very fond of his sister, she's been jelly of him too, and thats why they are not on good terms. But I won't cut her off, I am not that kind of woman, I want to try solve this issue another way, a more friendly way.
Posted by LostPiscesI think you just solved my problem, fellow Pisces
Her brother was likely to be a provider of many things for her, and that providence is no more.
Taurus is about resources, and Taurus admire beauty, resources, money and all such, and Capricorn can produce all that.
What he seen in you, must be a question in her head all the way.
The only solution is to find her another provider lol
I think some of y’all are missing the point 🤦🏽♀️
I guess since ur my axis I understand why this bothers you. It’s more of the fact that having someone despise you, especially someone who you believe shouldn’t, unsettles you.
And it’s your HUSBANDS SISTER no less.
Unfortunately my advice is less passive than everyone else. I would just confront her about it and have a real ass talk bc what other ppl aren’t understanding is that as long as Ur husband is apart of ur life, his sister (even if they weren’t close siblings) will always be apart of ur life too.
Y’all think she can just cut the sister out when they apparently have been in a lot of the same settings together 🤦🏽♀️
U don’t want bad blood in a family sis. Trust me
I guess since ur my axis I understand why this bothers you. It’s more of the fact that having someone despise you, especially someone who you believe shouldn’t, unsettles you.
And it’s your HUSBANDS SISTER no less.
Unfortunately my advice is less passive than everyone else. I would just confront her about it and have a real ass talk bc what other ppl aren’t understanding is that as long as Ur husband is apart of ur life, his sister (even if they weren’t close siblings) will always be apart of ur life too.
Y’all think she can just cut the sister out when they apparently have been in a lot of the same settings together 🤦🏽♀️
U don’t want bad blood in a family sis. Trust me
Posted by stillstillwaterI think you are right. I am really tired after trying and trying to have a relationship with her. I am a younger sister myself, and my brother got married recently. I have the most comfortable and understand relationship with my brother´s wife. I wanted to have that with my husband´s sister too, because that bond is so precious to have.
Well I understand your position that you’re bothered by her hypocrisy and insults especially after attempting to build a genuine relationship with her. But i think best is to ignore it ? Or try not to be at the same places which is super hard given that she’s family. Because if you be negative then it makes you look like a bad person. Blood is thicker than water so to Say.
Ignore. Try not to be at the same place. Or do the backhand compliment where you’re getting under her skin but on the outside it looks innocent so you don’t come out looking like the bad guy.
I’ve never noticed Taurus women to be jealous and that boisterous so don’t know what’s up with her.
But I think I should ignore it, hopefully she will get over it? No point in starting to understand her. I see that now. My cap husband has given up on her from their childhood, where she never wished him well, always trying to be better than him and ruining his moments by trying to get all the attention on her.
I tried because I wanted to give her a chance. I fresh start, a second chance, and my husband supported me. But she is like this with me too. She is like this with her youngest sister too, who is just the kid!
I dont know why she is like this, because all my taurus friends are so amazing! so calm and down to earth. But my SIL is so different.
Posted by SunsetvirgoI hear you.
I think some of y’all are missing the point 🤦🏽♀️
I guess since ur my axis I understand why this bothers you. It’s more of the fact that having someone despise you, especially someone who you believe shouldn’t, unsettles you.
And it’s your HUSBANDS SISTER no less.
Unfortunately my advice is less passive than everyone else. I would just confront her about it and have a real ass talk bc what other ppl aren’t understanding is that as long as Ur husband is apart of ur life, his sister (even if they weren’t close siblings) will always be apart of ur life too.
Y’all think she can just cut the sister out when they apparently have been in a lot of the same settings together 🤦🏽♀️
U don’t want bad blood in a family sis. Trust me
But I dont know how to confront her. I know my husband has tried all these years, without success. He told me she would start screaming and leave the room when she is confronted.
I freeze when someone shouts at me, I just dont shout back. I would just keep calm and back off not wanting the drama to escalate.
So I think I should just ignore, and hope the problem will go away?
Confronting her scares me a little because of her shouting!
Posted by ImpulsvTo be honest, I dont know how I can set boundaries to a taurus woman?
I’ve been trying to tell her passivity is fueling it
All She has to do is put her in her place in a respectful way in that moment Setting boundaries. No need to cut off people that’s just extreme.
Pisces are just martyr
Just like op knows caps I know Pisces
Any suggestions? Clues?
Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornMaybe she got dropped on her head as a kid couple of times.Posted by stillstillwater
Well I understand your position that you’re bothered by her hypocrisy and insults especially after attempting to build a genuine relationship with her. But i think best is to ignore it ? Or try not to be at the same places which is super hard given that she’s family. Because if you be negative then it makes you look like a bad person. Blood is thicker than water so to Say.
Ignore. Try not to be at the same place. Or do the backhand compliment where you’re getting under her skin but on the outside it looks innocent so you don’t come out looking like the bad guy.
I’ve never noticed Taurus women to be jealous and that boisterous so don’t know what’s up with her.
I think you are right. I am really tired after trying and trying to have a relationship with her. I am a younger sister myself, and my brother got married recently. I have the most comfortable and understand relationship with my brother´s wife. I wanted to have that with my husband´s sister too, because that bond is so precious to have.
But I think I should ignore it, hopefully she will get over it? No point in starting to understand her. I see that now. My cap husband has given up on her from their childhood, where she never wished him well, always trying to be better than him and ruining his moments by trying to get all the attention on her.
I tried because I wanted to give her a chance. I fresh start, a second chance, and my husband supported me. But she is like this with me too. She is like this with her youngest sister too, who is just the kid!
I dont know why she is like this, because all my taurus friends are so amazing! so calm and down to earth. But my SIL is so different. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneDo you honestly think I made a thread about my taurus SIL because she copies my clothing style ? You do understand there are more serious matters that I have chosen not to write about? I am giving you some of the simplest things she's done so that you can understand how she behaves. The point I am making is that she is copying, she like to make her self the center of attention. If someone else does or makes it better than her, she turn in to Cruella De Ville. Makes everybody miserable, gives harsh comments.Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by LadyNeptune
Gosh. Imagine how rock solid your relationship would be if you invested the time your spending on this bs drama on your marriage instead.
Now we didn’t marry before our relationship were more than rock solid, both on a mental and physical level. So I am not worried about my marriage, did I mention that?
I didn’t marry my sister-in-law along with my man, so I am trying to understand her character. She is family, and my cap husband is all about family. Showing I am taking interest in understanding his sister would only give me points and not her, again boost my marriage
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Your spending a lot of energy competing with your sister in law. I don’t understand why her wearing the same style s of clothes/hair as you = her being jealous. Your not the first person to rock those looks. Trends and fashion is spoon fed to the masses.
Sorry but there’s nothing original about you, me, or anyone else under the sun 🤷♀️
You should be trying to develop a relationship with your sister in law instead of talking up a rivalry that doesn’t exist. But do what you want... click to expandclick to expand
All I am asking is why would a taurus copy someone, when their sign is so damn original and independent?
What do you think is happening inside her? Why so insecure? What might be her problem?
Posted by stillstillwaterLOL! You are funnyPosted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by stillstillwater
Well I understand your position that you’re bothered by her hypocrisy and insults especially after attempting to build a genuine relationship with her. But i think best is to ignore it ? Or try not to be at the same places which is super hard given that she’s family. Because if you be negative then it makes you look like a bad person. Blood is thicker than water so to Say.
Ignore. Try not to be at the same place. Or do the backhand compliment where you’re getting under her skin but on the outside it looks innocent so you don’t come out looking like the bad guy.
I’ve never noticed Taurus women to be jealous and that boisterous so don’t know what’s up with her.
I think you are right. I am really tired after trying and trying to have a relationship with her. I am a younger sister myself, and my brother got married recently. I have the most comfortable and understand relationship with my brother´s wife. I wanted to have that with my husband´s sister too, because that bond is so precious to have.
But I think I should ignore it, hopefully she will get over it? No point in starting to understand her. I see that now. My cap husband has given up on her from their childhood, where she never wished him well, always trying to be better than him and ruining his moments by trying to get all the attention on her.
I tried because I wanted to give her a chance. I fresh start, a second chance, and my husband supported me. But she is like this with me too. She is like this with her youngest sister too, who is just the kid!
I dont know why she is like this, because all my taurus friends are so amazing! so calm and down to earth. But my SIL is so different. click to expand
Maybe she got dropped on her head as a kid couple of times. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by ImpulsvGot it!Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by Impulsv
I’ve been trying to tell her passivity is fueling it
All She has to do is put her in her place in a respectful way in that moment Setting boundaries. No need to cut off people that’s just extreme.
Pisces are just martyr
Just like op knows caps I know Pisces
To be honest, I dont know how I can set boundaries to a taurus woman?
Any suggestions? Clues? click to expand
They can be bullies but if u assert urself they back off. They strong so don’t like pushover
May confuse your need for peace as pushover
Next time she says a disrespectful thing come up with a firm curteous comeback.
I think someone here wrote a firm but loving response click to expandclick to expand
Posted by ImpulsvYou guys are awesome! Im taking notes.Posted by stillstillwater
Also bring it to her attention in a nice way?
Like hey remember you told me that dress looked trashy and that was pretty insulting but I couldn’t help notice that you got one just like it. Im just taking a but personal because you said it was trashy for me... is it something specific about me that you don’t like? Because I’ve been making every effort to build a friendship with you and I’m not sure what’s not working between us.
This is an example of boundaries n communicating firmly click to expandclick to expand
Posted by MrsPiscesCapricorni thought you never compare yourself to her?Posted by The_Mad_H8RPosted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by The_Mad_H8R
Have your clothes custom made... problem solved.. Target sells thousands of the same damn dress, you're not the only one at any given moment wearing something.
Are you jealous she pulls it off better?
Im from Norway, we dont have target here. click to expand
Okay, well, I'll narrow it down even more then: there are very few mass producers of textiles in the world. All of those producers send their products to retail outlets all over the world.. the chances of someone having your same dress got even higher..
Factor in local fashion and it's even higher.
Have custom clothes made and eliminate the issue. click to expand
Okay I will clear it for you. I am waaaaay more creative than her in every way, I have known her for the last 13 years. Lets say I have a different way of wearing that t-shirt from H&M or that ordinary mass produced belt from Zara that a million people have already. A way she couldn't have imagined wearing. And how come she always wears it just few months after me and not the other way around? click to expandclick to expand
Posted by EllygantI understand what you are trying to say here.
Maybe she just has a super coarse sense of humor/sarcasm. And you read it as serious. Cause it vaguely reads like that to me.
Maybe she really is a total drama queen and you’re a helpless victim unable to do anything. (Note the last part was sarcasm). You can always choose to not feed into negativity. It’s not easy at first. But at the end of the day you hold power over your emotions. Focusing on her and why she does it and her motivations prevents you from being in control of yourself.
Either way, nothing a few laughs and a polite smile can’t fix. If you don’t feed drama it flounders.
Taurus SIL: That dress is sooo trashy.
You: Oh? Why thank you. I quite like it myself as well. Glad you noticed.
Then change the subject. And forget it happened. Seriously. Forget it. If you stop personalizingn and internalizing her actions she won’t get the reaction she wants and will be at a loss.
Well, to sum up your question! I definitely understand what your going thru. I have had this problem with three close friends of mines. All three were in the Earth Element each. To me Earth signs are very jealous and envious especially the women! They will backstabbed you, talk about you behind your back especially if your very popular! All bcuz there jealous and wish they were more like you! Earth signs could care less about friends/associates! From what I’ve noticed they only care about their Men! So if I were you I would call her ass out and tell her to stop copying you bcuz it’s getting annoying and aggravating! Plus I bet when someone comments on her style she makes it seems like it’s hers when in all actuality she’s copying you! Just start buying real expensive shit or ordering clothes from different types of websites where you know she won’t be able to copy! But Earth sign women are the devil in disguise to me! I hate them with a passion!!!
I had several bad experience with Taurus women. Two bestfriends from childhood was the worst. And I had coworkers ,neighbors, a cousin,a friend of a friend,my friend sister, my friend cousin,...I can go on all was Taurus women was jealous ,manipulative,and some was on some single white female bullshit. Trust I have some crazy stories. Just stay away. Every sign has there hidden demons that they have to grow out of. Some was raise with skills and lessons to get over there shit. Some people it take a life time. I am not saying all Taurus women are like this..but I have met some taurus that was on the darkside. I also say if you want to find a darkside of a sign just look at there opposite sign negative traits..you will find that trait hidden in them.
Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by greylatern
Talk to her. You have nothing to lose at this point that you are not slowely losing already. The anger and resentment will build.
I'll take the high road and toss 2 possibilities I'vr seen around my life.
1. She wants to be close to her brother and sees you as a threat OR a model.
2. Jealously/envy of the relationship dynamic you guys have.
Instead of taking it personal since there is zero info that would make me think that is so, it maybe impersonal but have a negative effect on you. Your passive aggressiveness actually makes what she is doing possible. In human behavioral psychology lose respect. Try to really understand that last point.
Either way TALK to her, LEARN her, UNDERSTAND her. Find away to do so without tripping her defenses and she digs in her hooves. BEFRIENDED her.
I hear you. Thank you for getting back to me regarding my issue.
I have never been aggressive towards her directly, I am quite soft spoken, I have never disrespected her like she has disrespected me. I have broken into tears many times, because the issue has gotten far more serious that I can explain. She makes my life miserable so that she can have a better life, better image, better everything than me. I have never compared myself to her, and I never will. I am happy with who I am and everything I have achieved in life this far. I am not jealous of her at all, so why is she jelly of me?
If she has a good life, I would be beyond happy. I would be thinking: "Finally, she's doing her own thing now". Now some peace. But why isn't she making her own choices? click to expand
How is she not making her own choices tho? You say she is getting better things/image that you. That’s not copying you, that’s one upping you. Tbh you sound like the jealous one... click to expand
Sweety, are you even reading what I am writing? I have repeated myself a lot of times now of whats going on.
I will let you know:
1. My husband and I got wedding rings with 2 circles that has a special meaning to us. She commented saying who would have circles on their wedding rings. And that is looks so hilarious. She got married 6 months after, and she had asked her husband in front of our nose to get rings with the same type of circles of their wedding rings. Why throw a harsh comment in my moment? but when she has her moment its all fine?
2. I was thinking about booking a venue for my husband birthday, but she made a fuss about there is not enough room for all he guests. So my mother in law told me to book another one, even though I had paid the deposit. I booked another venue, and we had a great party. 1 year later she books that same venue I had to cancel, and throws her husbands party with even more guests. Why would she do that? Why did she make a fuss when I booked it? click to expandclick to expand
My gut feel on what I've read on this so far is that you're enabling her to get away with her behaviour. You're Pisces. Passive aggressive and woe is me can be part of your nature. Others have touched on this in their responses too. You're basically being far too soft!
I don't know why this Taurus behaves like this. No one but the Taurus knows. To me, it sounds a little like she's bullying you or taking the piss out of you because she can. You're an easy target for some reason. Probably because you put up with her behaviour.
Maybe she's just an arsehole. Just because she's your sister in law it doesn't mean she's nice and you'll get on. You can choose your friends but you can't always choose your family. Marrying your husband also meant marrying into his family so she kinda comes with the package.
It sounds like she gets quite involved in your life or decisions. Perhaps share less such as in your example of booking a venue for your husbands party. Why did you choose this venue, pay the deposit, and then proceed to change it all just because someone else suggested you to do so? Then you blame those people for what is your decision. If you wanted it to remain at that venue then you should have kept it there. Again, you're playing the victim. Woe is me. Passive aggressive.
Stop choosing to be the victim in your life. Taurus prefer you to be direct. To know your own mind. If you call her out on her behaviour and/or stick to your own decisions then she'll learn to bully someone else.
I don't know of many Taurus females but there's one I now avoid like the plague. A friend of my sister. Known her about 25 years. She went to school with my sister. Lived the next street away from us. Social gatherings for us were never an issue and she was ok but all changed after the UK had our Brexit vote two years ago.
She turned into such an annoying arsehole. She was unable to understand people have different views and opinions. People she had grown up with and known for years were now her perceived enemies. She'd slag people off behind their backs, on social media, to their faces. You name it, she'd do it or say it! In her head, she had voted correctly and everyone else was wrong, and because of this she was going to make it her mission to just piss everyone off!
You couldn't even have a quiet birthday dinner (for a mutual friend) without her bringing up the subject just to start a drama. I'd try and discuss her thoughts on the subjects she was bringing up but she wasn't open to good, rational debate. She just wanted to parrot fashion info and quotes, she was unable to talk personally about these subjects, and frankly she just became tedious. She couldn't see past herself and put differences aside, and just enjoy life.
In the end, people no longer invited her to as many things. For me, I just avoid or ignore her which is not difficult. She invited me last year to her 40th dinner but I declined and said I had other plans as it was my fella's birthday around the same time. I'm so glad I didn't go. My sister said she was a bloody nightmare!! She puts things on social media to try and antagonise people but I just ignore her and have a chuckle to myself about her. Others also ignore her, unfollow, unfriendly etc.
Sometimes, people show you that they don't need to be in your life!
She turned into such an annoying arsehole. She was unable to understand people have different views and opinions. People she had grown up with and known for years were now her perceived enemies. She'd slag people off behind their backs, on social media, to their faces. You name it, she'd do it or say it! In her head, she had voted correctly and everyone else was wrong, and because of this she was going to make it her mission to just piss everyone off!
You couldn't even have a quiet birthday dinner (for a mutual friend) without her bringing up the subject just to start a drama. I'd try and discuss her thoughts on the subjects she was bringing up but she wasn't open to good, rational debate. She just wanted to parrot fashion info and quotes, she was unable to talk personally about these subjects, and frankly she just became tedious. She couldn't see past herself and put differences aside, and just enjoy life.
In the end, people no longer invited her to as many things. For me, I just avoid or ignore her which is not difficult. She invited me last year to her 40th dinner but I declined and said I had other plans as it was my fella's birthday around the same time. I'm so glad I didn't go. My sister said she was a bloody nightmare!! She puts things on social media to try and antagonise people but I just ignore her and have a chuckle to myself about her. Others also ignore her, unfollow, unfriendly etc.
Sometimes, people show you that they don't need to be in your life!
Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornThe examples you’ve given are:Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by LadyNeptune
Gosh. Imagine how rock solid your relationship would be if you invested the time your spending on this bs drama on your marriage instead.
Now we didn’t marry before our relationship were more than rock solid, both on a mental and physical level. So I am not worried about my marriage, did I mention that?
I didn’t marry my sister-in-law along with my man, so I am trying to understand her character. She is family, and my cap husband is all about family. Showing I am taking interest in understanding his sister would only give me points and not her, again boost my marriage
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Your spending a lot of energy competing with your sister in law. I don’t understand why her wearing the same style s of clothes/hair as you = her being jealous. Your not the first person to rock those looks. Trends and fashion is spoon fed to the masses.
Sorry but there’s nothing original about you, me, or anyone else under the sun 🤷♀️
You should be trying to develop a relationship with your sister in law instead of talking up a rivalry that doesn’t exist. But do what you want... click to expand
Do you honestly think I made a thread about my taurus SIL because she copies my clothing style ? You do understand there are more serious matters that I have chosen not to write about? I am giving you some of the simplest things she's done so that you can understand how she behaves. The point I am making is that she is copying, she like to make her self the center of attention. If someone else does or makes it better than her, she turn in to Cruella De Ville. Makes everybody miserable, gives harsh comments.
All I am asking is why would a taurus copy someone, when their sign is so damn original and independent?
What do you think is happening inside her? Why so insecure? What might be her problem? click to expandclick to expand
Copies ring design
Copies clothing style
Booked same venue
Comments “harshly”
Not much here that is terrible imo. Toughen up. The bitch ass victim act is pathetic af.
Her mimicking you is actually a sign of acceptance. Those “harsh” comments most likely said in jest as she went straight out and picked up those same items for herself.
If you actually tried to hash this out with her she’s prolly #1 Saying those things in a joking manner AND #2 not aware your sensitive feelers are being hurt.
Go talk to the person your mad at...not internet strangers that you want to back up your entitlement to being butt hurt. Js
Posted by sierra_Finally someone understands exactly what I feel!! Thank you!
i had to drop a taurus sun-leo moon friend who sent me a one-paragraph note on a dummy fb account a year after our fallout, just trust me when i say she was a greedy, selfish, irredeemable c-u-n-t and i say that with my polite @ss libra mars... had to do the same to a taurus sun-aqua moon friend... who was also 👿 only ever around when she needs something and both are with scorpio men.. don't know how those poor embossed leather jacket wearing semi-pets ever put up with them
same with my taurus sun-taurus moon cousin who didn't invite me to her wedding coz i sided with her libra uncle over her greedy, lying taurus mom... poor libra was stripped off everything except the clothes on his back when they got in court oh how i pray for the men they'd con next
the only tauruses i give a butter about is my mom, cher and that trucker guy who i hitched a ride to when my battery was down to 11% in a remote, old gas station once.. insecure asf women but not in a broody way but more of a trigger-rage kinda way
you'd do well with them if you've no personality to speak of nor a desire to be independent as a person
but then again my dislike for that axis is second only to my hatred for aquarius men so.. i just don't trust them
And her husband is a scorpio, so poor guy. What you are saying makes sense! They have only been married few months and I can already see he is being ignored and forgotten whenever she see a chance to get some attention.
There is just 1 year age gap between us, perhaps she feels some sort of pressure or something. I dont know. I am just guessing. At first I was flattered, but then she started ruining important moments in my life, just so she could have it better. I really dont care if she has a better life than me in general, I really dont. She can have a great life, But she has no rights to ruin mine for that matter. I worked hard for what I have in my life.
Its just not flattering anymore, i am truly hurt and annoyed. I want her to stop, but I dont know how to confront her and I am afraid she will split the family, because I know she is capable of doing such stupid things.
My capricorn husband tried confronting her in a nice calm and civil way. He is older than her, so we thought she would respect him letting her now what shes doing is not okay. But No. She had said: «how dare you think I am ruining your moments? I dont care. Stfu and leave, dont need you in my life.»
I dont know what do other than ignoring it. Or perhaps give her comments back.
She is just too jealous!
Posted by AgentP911The venue situation didnt quite happen as you are referring here, there is more to it, but its fine I understand what you are trying to tell me.Posted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by MrsPiscesCapricornPosted by greylatern
Talk to her. You have nothing to lose at this point that you are not slowely losing already. The anger and resentment will build.
I'll take the high road and toss 2 possibilities I'vr seen around my life.
1. She wants to be close to her brother and sees you as a threat OR a model.
2. Jealously/envy of the relationship dynamic you guys have.
Instead of taking it personal since there is zero info that would make me think that is so, it maybe impersonal but have a negative effect on you. Your passive aggressiveness actually makes what she is doing possible. In human behavioral psychology lose respect. Try to really understand that last point.
Either way TALK to her, LEARN her, UNDERSTAND her. Find away to do so without tripping her defenses and she digs in her hooves. BEFRIENDED her.
I hear you. Thank you for getting back to me regarding my issue.
I have never been aggressive towards her directly, I am quite soft spoken, I have never disrespected her like she has disrespected me. I have broken into tears many times, because the issue has gotten far more serious that I can explain. She makes my life miserable so that she can have a better life, better image, better everything than me. I have never compared myself to her, and I never will. I am happy with who I am and everything I have achieved in life this far. I am not jealous of her at all, so why is she jelly of me?
If she has a good life, I would be beyond happy. I would be thinking: "Finally, she's doing her own thing now". Now some peace. But why isn't she making her own choices? click to expand
How is she not making her own choices tho? You say she is getting better things/image that you. That’s not copying you, that’s one upping you. Tbh you sound like the jealous one... click to expand
Sweety, are you even reading what I am writing? I have repeated myself a lot of times now of whats going on.
I will let you know:
1. My husband and I got wedding rings with 2 circles that has a special meaning to us. She commented saying who would have circles on their wedding rings. And that is looks so hilarious. She got married 6 months after, and she had asked her husband in front of our nose to get rings with the same type of circles of their wedding rings. Why throw a harsh comment in my moment? but when she has her moment its all fine?
2. I was thinking about booking a venue for my husband birthday, but she made a fuss about there is not enough room for all he guests. So my mother in law told me to book another one, even though I had paid the deposit. I booked another venue, and we had a great party. 1 year later she books that same venue I had to cancel, and throws her husbands party with even more guests. Why would she do that? Why did she make a fuss when I booked it? click to expand
My gut feel on what I've read on this so far is that you're enabling her to get away with her behaviour. You're Pisces. Passive aggressive and woe is me can be part of your nature. Others have touched on this in their responses too. You're basically being far too soft!
I don't know why this Taurus behaves like this. No one but the Taurus knows. To me, it sounds a little like she's bullying you or taking the piss out of you because she can. You're an easy target for some reason. Probably because you put up with her behaviour.
Maybe she's just an arsehole. Just because she's your sister in law it doesn't mean she's nice and you'll get on. You can choose your friends but you can't always choose your family. Marrying your husband also meant marrying into his family so she kinda comes with the package.
It sounds like she gets quite involved in your life or decisions. Perhaps share less such as in your example of booking a venue for your husbands party. Why did you choose this venue, pay the deposit, and then proceed to change it all just because someone else suggested you to do so? Then you blame those people for what is your decision. If you wanted it to remain at that venue then you should have kept it there. Again, you're playing the victim. Woe is me. Passive aggressive.
Stop choosing to be the victim in your life. Taurus prefer you to be direct. To know your own mind. If you call her out on her behaviour and/or stick to your own decisions then she'll learn to bully someone else.
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Perhaps i am being too soft, but I am very independent when it comes to decisions. She get too involved, I dont know how. I never involve her. I dont know how she does that. Maybe I am saying to much when I talk? Maybe she hear my conversations with others? But she always has her eyes on me, and not for any good reasons.
I really dont need her drama in my life, and i dont want to be any kind of victim. But she is doing something behind my back, like always.
So tired of it, because my husband and I are now super careful with whatever we do infront of her, we dont do things in the open, we dont talk whats happening in our life, we go around keeping things secret, even though it certain things should be celebrated, because we have reached so many goals we had for these last 3 years. Its very sad. But if we open up, we just know she will ruin the moments, therefore we rather happily celebrate privately without any hurtful comments or copying.
Posted by AgentP911Exactly like my SIL.
I don't know of many Taurus females but there's one I now avoid like the plague. A friend of my sister. Known her about 25 years. She went to school with my sister. Lived the next street away from us. Social gatherings for us were never an issue and she was ok but all changed after the UK had our Brexit vote two years ago.
She turned into such an annoying arsehole. She was unable to understand people have different views and opinions. People she had grown up with and known for years were now her perceived enemies. She'd slag people off behind their backs, on social media, to their faces. You name it, she'd do it or say it! In her head, she had voted correctly and everyone else was wrong, and because of this she was going to make it her mission to just piss everyone off!
You couldn't even have a quiet birthday dinner (for a mutual friend) without her bringing up the subject just to start a drama. I'd try and discuss her thoughts on the subjects she was bringing up but she wasn't open to good, rational debate. She just wanted to parrot fashion info and quotes, she was unable to talk personally about these subjects, and frankly she just became tedious. She couldn't see past herself and put differences aside, and just enjoy life.
In the end, people no longer invited her to as many things. For me, I just avoid or ignore her which is not difficult. She invited me last year to her 40th dinner but I declined and said I had other plans as it was my fella's birthday around the same time. I'm so glad I didn't go. My sister said she was a bloody nightmare!! She puts things on social media to try and antagonise people but I just ignore her and have a chuckle to myself about her. Others also ignore her, unfollow, unfriendly etc.
Sometimes, people show you that they don't need to be in your life!
Opened this thread to understand why there taureans women do this.. what happened in their life (head) that made them become these monsters?
Posted by HoovesofTopazTo an extent. If you go crazy ways to do so, and at the same time ruins for that person you are imitating over and over again, is just effed up imo.
Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
Quit whining
I’m a Pisces who has a Taurus sister in law and cousin in law that are problematic to say the least, so I do understand the frustration in a way.
But I do agree with people here saying you should put boundaries up. And I think your husband shouldn’t expect you to be all pals with his sister if they as siblings were never close to begin with. You can still be civil whilst keeping your distance as a couple.
But again your husband shouldn’t expect you to have a close relationship with her if he isn’t close with her himself, you’ve come in as an outsider and don’t know what their dynamic was as children growing up or their history.
But I do agree with people here saying you should put boundaries up. And I think your husband shouldn’t expect you to be all pals with his sister if they as siblings were never close to begin with. You can still be civil whilst keeping your distance as a couple.
But again your husband shouldn’t expect you to have a close relationship with her if he isn’t close with her himself, you’ve come in as an outsider and don’t know what their dynamic was as children growing up or their history.
ffs, some of the comments here are so stupid, I've been literally facepalming from the beginning of this thread.
I've had my share with a crazy-ass taurus chick, which was my ex's(scorp) non-blood related sister. Attention whoring 10/10, when she saw him and his mother gave me attention she started sharing old stories with all of them, but not like in the good way of sharing them with all of us on the table, she completely ignored me and tried to show that I wasnt there and wasnt part of all she was telling about Jealous af, without a freakin reason. Later that night she tried to seduse my ex, which I shared in this forum actually, and which gives me the creeps till now. Crazy woman. I'm pretty sure she has some mental problems or smh.
Which I also think is happening in your case. This does not sound like a normal behavior, no matter all of these "you're overreacting;she's flattering you by imitating you;stop whining" stupid comments. You came here to search for answers and gave us a lot of examples of why there is deff something that's not okay with her.
She screams when confronted? Is that normal for yall people who are defending that crazy taurus chick and spamming about OP's need to find the problem in herself? Bullshit
Just ignore her crazy ass and forget about it
I've had my share with a crazy-ass taurus chick, which was my ex's(scorp) non-blood related sister. Attention whoring 10/10, when she saw him and his mother gave me attention she started sharing old stories with all of them, but not like in the good way of sharing them with all of us on the table, she completely ignored me and tried to show that I wasnt there and wasnt part of all she was telling about Jealous af, without a freakin reason. Later that night she tried to seduse my ex, which I shared in this forum actually, and which gives me the creeps till now. Crazy woman. I'm pretty sure she has some mental problems or smh.
Which I also think is happening in your case. This does not sound like a normal behavior, no matter all of these "you're overreacting;she's flattering you by imitating you;stop whining" stupid comments. You came here to search for answers and gave us a lot of examples of why there is deff something that's not okay with her.
She screams when confronted? Is that normal for yall people who are defending that crazy taurus chick and spamming about OP's need to find the problem in herself? Bullshit
Just ignore her crazy ass and forget about it
Posted by MhmmmThere is not a single word in op's comments, which tells us that her husband wants her to be close with his SIL, he himself does not have good relationship with her, from what I got, OP's just saying that she knows that family however is important to him, so she's actually trying to find a way around her SIL's craziness and make things work.
I’m a Pisces who has a Taurus sister in law and cousin in law that are problematic to say the least, so I do understand the frustration in a way.
But I do agree with people here saying you should put boundaries up. And I think your husband shouldn’t expect you to be all pals with his sister if they as siblings were never close to begin with. You can still be civil whilst keeping your distance as a couple.
But again your husband shouldn’t expect you to have a close relationship with her if he isn’t close with her himself, you’ve come in as an outsider and don’t know what their dynamic was as children growing up or their history.
Posted by sierra_
i had to drop a taurus sun-leo moon friend who sent me a one-paragraph note on a dummy fb account a year after our fallout, just trust me when i say she was a greedy, selfish, irredeemable c-u-n-t and i say that with my polite @ss libra mars... had to do the same to a taurus sun-aqua moon friend... who was also 👿 only ever around when she needs something and both are with scorpio men.. don't know how those poor embossed leather jacket wearing semi-pets ever put up with them
same with my taurus sun-taurus moon cousin who didn't invite me to her wedding coz i sided with her libra uncle over her greedy, lying taurus mom... poor libra was stripped off everything except the clothes on his back when they got in court oh how i pray for the men they'd con next
the only tauruses i give a butter about is my mom, cher and that trucker guy who i hitched a ride to when my battery was down to 11% in a remote, old gas station once.. insecure asf women but not in a broody way but more of a trigger-rage kinda way
you'd do well with them if you've no personality to speak of nor a desire to be independent as a person
but then again my dislike for that axis is second only to my hatred for aquarius men so.. i just don't trust them
Lmao..with the note shit. Two of my Taurus exfrieNDs did that same shit. One left me a email over a year and a half after I stop talking to her. She knew why we stop talking..but in the email she played dumb..she rant about how she so stress about her life... talkING about a long essay on her problems. Then in the very last 3 sentences she talk about how she love me. I am her family. Then went on to say I need to stop holding grudges. She did nothing wrong. After that I never heard of her again. It have been years. I read that email and didn't look back. I knew this girl since elementary school. She so caught up in herself. Just selfish. When her world is falling apart she can be the best person ever but when she good..she don't give a fuck about no one.
The other one contact me..after hunting me down on fb message and going to my mom house...we talk after years of not speaking. Basically her whole conversation was about her getting info on my life to compare to her life. She actually admit to me that she was so unhappy with her life at the time we was friends. She said she know she did me wrong..and she's a change person. By the end of the conversation she was back to the jealous hidden comments/bullshit. She actual tried to tell me about some old rumor's of my boyfriend of 10 years...which I cut that shit off ..Making comments about my fb pictures saying I am fat then saying I look nice at the same time. The same bullshit she done in the pass put you down then cover it up with something nice. At one point I told her I was back in school studying for a different career path..she said ooo that's nice but you won't make any money. Later that week I seen her on fb telling people she is about to go to school for the same shit..
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