My Taurus best friend is confusing me

Okay, so lately me and my best friend have been a lot closer lately. He's a Taurus, and I'm Scorpio.

We've been friends for over 7 years now, and I've always had a thing for him.

I'm in college overseas, so we skype from time to time to catch up. In March, we started talking about sexual topics, and decided hey, why not try being friends with benefits? At this time, I didn't think I felt anything for him, I just got out of a 4 year relationship, so of course I wasn't thinking about going in to a new one.

I went home for spring break, sure enough we made out a couple times. We both really enjoyed it, and it felt right. He started to drop weird hints, he would ask me to sit in his lap in front of our friends, hold my waist, and want to hang out as much as possible. He even looked over at one of friends being all mushy and cutesy with her "friend" and says to me, "See, I want us to be like that, but more." Naturally, I'm confused. Even more so confused because later on I find out that he thought they were dating.

Anyways, before I went back to school, he said "I think we should stop this. You're my best friend, and you used to like me." There's so much factors preventing us to ever becoming more than what we are. Also, his best friend is also my older brother, which is another reason he brought up. He also said "I've seen you as a sister for so long."

So now back overseas, he wants us to skype EVERYDAY. He even says, "I changed my mind about it". So the flirting over skype continued. So it's April now, and all of a sudden over our call he asks me "Be honest, do you like me?" I've been rejected by him before, so I told a fib and said no. So then he continued on to tell me how he felt. "It's not that I don't like you, we're just so close, I wouldn't want to lose what we have." In my head I go, "Damn, it's a good thing I didn't tell the truth."

So now it's May, and since then the skype calls have decreased little to none, and when he does decide to talk to me, he tries to piss me off by going "Oh I'm going to have sex with this girl, SIDEWAYS!" etc, stuff like that. And if I message him during him the day,it's like he doesn't want to talk to me, or doesn't reply at all.

So my question is, what is he thinking? I'm so confused, it's like he's giving me mixed signals?? What are your thoughts?

-Sorry for the really long message! ^^;

Gunfire: Naturally, I'm confused.

>>>I'm confused about what you're confused about. He likes you and is signaling it loud and clear.

Gunfire: Anyways, before I went back to school, he said "I think we should stop this. You're my best friend, and you used to like me."

>>>What did he mean by "you used to like me"? Why does he feel like your desire for him is waining? Totally confusing statement here. Its natural for him to be concerned about not wanting to ruin a 7 yr friendship though. Taurus will often put out comments like this as a feeler and/or attempt to assess risk, gauge your feelings, etc.

Gunfire: So it's April now, and all of a sudden over our call he asks me "Be honest, do you like me?" I've been rejected by him before, so I told a fib and said no. So then he continued on to tell me how he felt. "It's not that I don't like you, we're just so close, I wouldn't want to lose what we have." In my head I go, "Damn, it's a good thing I didn't tell the truth."

>>>Totally natural how he feels, but you also rejected him a bit and that'll cause him to shrink back and protect himself and the friendship even more. He obviously likes you. Scorp/Taurus should be as honest as possible with each other about their feelings - otherwise it turns into games and power struggles. See the many scorp/taurus relationship convo's on this board.

Gunfire: ....when he does decide to talk to me, he tries to piss me off.... And if I message him during him the day,it's like he doesn't want to talk to me, or doesn't reply at all.

>>>Obvious attempt to make you jealous as you read it to be. He thinks your jealousy signals your passion for him so will try to arouse it. We get totally absorbed in our work and daytime ignoring of texts, etc. - this is extremely common. We are one-track minded like that and focus intensely on the task at hand. But when we're focused on you, we're solely focused on you.

So my question is, what is he thinking? I'm so confused, it's like he's giving me mixed signals?? What are your thoughts?

>>>He likes you; you like him. If you can be mature about it, stop playing games, and be vulnerable/honest with each other, perhaps it would work. Life is way too short and genuine connections way too rare, to hide your feelings from someone like this. Even if you both decide its best to remain just friends, be honest with each other about the emotions there, and it will deepen the friendship and mutual admiration.

Well I finally told him the truth. I said, "I lied when you asked me if I liked you. I do."

He says, "You liked me? Or you still do, as in right now?" I said yes, and he couldn't say anything or respond to my feelings. He just laughed, which is normal for him, he laughs at everything lol. Though he said stuff like "You could've had a Brad Pitt, but you settled for someone like me. What's so special about me?"

He then asked if I hated him after everything that happened, and I replied "Of course not, I could never hate you."

So I'm kinda crushed at the moment, but I guess time will eventually heal me. Though I did find something else very odd after that. The next day, he and I went out with mutual friend to the club. I tried my best to have fun and not be so depressed, so I danced with 2 guys that night. According to our friends, when he saw me dancing with the first guy, he looked upset/jealous. I don't know whether it was true or not, because I did notice him laugh at first, but then he stopped and watched us dance for a while, with a weird expression on his faced. After a short while he walked away, and went to go dance on his own.

I don't know, I'm actually started to believe that my mind made everything up because I wanted it to be that way?

Gunfire

I'm not sure you why you are depress/confuse?. It is clear that he likes you and you like him.

Shouldn't you be happy about it ? is this because you want more from him? A relationship perhaps? if you were happy to just be his best friend/friend/FWB then you should be happy and satisfied that he feels the same about you. ?

I'm a taurus and I do feel that you are trying to play mind games with him. HONESTY is everything to us. Men can't read your mind..If you like him say it ! If you don't like him being with other people just SAY IT ! he could just be lying about being with other woman to see how you react ! god knows how many time i do that in the past... I do it to see my lover's reaction ya i have my habits of acting to the opposite of what i'm feeling.. ! Its an immutable behaviour ! i do it sometimes and often regret it soon enough after... If you think he's giving you mix signals then analyse your actions and c if u r giving him mix signals or not. ?

What do you want from him ? BESt friend forever / just FWB or you want him 2 be your boyfriend.

I hope i don't sound too harsh ! I"m judging things from your posts and I could c HOW I can relate to your ACTIONs.. and why your actions are confusing him.

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Gunfire

I'm not sure you why you are depress/confuse?. It is clear that he likes you and you like him.

Shouldn't you be happy about it ? is this because you want more from him? A relationship perhaps? if you were happy to just be his best friend/friend/FWB then you should be happy and satisfied that he feels the same about you. ?

I'm a taurus and I do feel that you are trying to play mind games with him. HONESTY is everything to us. Men can't read your mind..If you like him say it ! If you don't like him being with other people just SAY IT ! he could just be lying about being with other woman to see how you react ! god knows how many time i do that in the past... I do it to see my lover's reaction ya i have my habits of acting to the opposite of what i'm feeling.. ! Its an immutable behaviour ! i do it sometimes and often regret it soon enough after... If you think he's giving you mix signals then analyse your actions and c if u r giving him mix signals or not. ?

What do you want from him ? BESt friend forever / just FWB or you want him 2 be your boyfriend.

I hope i don't sound too harsh ! I"m judging things from your posts and I could c HOW I can relate to your ACTIONs.. and why your actions are confusing him.

I'm pretty happy about it, but honestly right now I'm not sure what I want. I'm more afraid of rejection. All I know is I'm becoming jealous, especially when he's around other people. I literally feel like I have to force myself to smile, and cry later. The idea of him being in a relationship with someone else makes me feel happy for him, but makes me want to ripe my heart out at the same time.

As I mentioned earlier, I finally did tell him how I felt. He said nothing about it, so I took it as a rejection. So I decided to go out have fun, danced with 3 guys, including him. Later that night all of my friends who I was with told me he looked jealous while I was dancing with the other guys, which I don't get why he would, he rejected me?

Now almost a week later, he knows how I feel about him and says stuff to me like, "Oh I kissed that girl" and tries to describe the kiss and everything. Im like, really— Come on man... I get it now, you don't see me like that, but can you be at least a bit more considerate? He even noticed I started to not listen, and said "Ooooh, I bet you'd listen if I were talking a

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"Ooooh, I bet you'd listen if I were talking about Lex and Chris." (guys I danced with).

I really don't see how I'm confusing him, and no you're not being harsh, I appreciate the comments! 🙂

Alright, we finally talked about it. He told me honestly there's nothing wrong with me - he said I'm beautiful, nice and everything he would want in a woman, but he just doesn't hold any romantic feelings for me.