My Taurus Boyfriend got Caught Cheating
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by libra21 on Sunday, September 1, 2013 and has 48 replies.
I confronted him, he lied and now he's trying to flip it on me. Is this classic Taurus behavior? I haven't spoken to him in two days, he said give him a couple of days to "chill out". WTF does that mean?
*Classic Taurus behavior* And yes give him time to calm down, once a taurus goes off its nearly impossible to calm them down. Had to let a taurus friend go because of this kind of childish behavior.
Why not give him 2 lifetimes to "chill"? He has some nerve to tell YOU to let *him* chill. I hope he gets frostbites, leave him in the chiller! Please dont get back to this guy, even after 2 days.
Yeah... he's got real nerve. It's as if he took his ball and went home.
Are you sure that he is the one that should be given a few days to "chill out"?
Without the full back story no one can really tell who's to blame for the dysfunction, all I know is that it's never one sided. But you caught him in the physical act of cheating, as in, having sex with another woman? Than you give him time to chill out?
I see that you're a Libra but come on not even you guys are THAT nice.
Without the full back story no one can really tell who's to blame for the dysfunction, all I know is that it's never one sided. But you caught him in the physical act of cheating, as in, having sex with another woman? Than you give him time to chill out?
I see that you're a Libra but come on not even you guys are THAT nice.
Posted by libra21
I confronted him, he lied and now he's trying to flip it on me. Is this classic Taurus behavior? I haven't spoken to him in two days, he said give him a couple of days to "chill out". WTF does that mean?
Nope its not classic taurus behavior
it just a cheater behavior who avoids confrontation
Didn't physically catch him. I read some very explicit messages between him and some married chick. They've been having quite an affair! She's been performing oral sexual acts on him, but he won't have sex with her (according to her messages).
OMG, they can be crazy too, so be careful. I mean C-R-A-Z-Y. Especially when they are dumped. Ofcourse not all are like that, but this is one sign that scares the living hell out of me. I dated one many years ago & thankfully we never slept together, but it was on the day we were to "do it". He was very ready, if you know what I mean 
I was nervous so went to the bathroom to calm down, we were at his place. In the laundry basket I saw a bra. I went out & asked him about because I was not about to sleep with a lying cheat. Guess what he said? He said the bra was his! He didn't even laugh at his ridiculous lie, he said it with a straight face & continued to try to get me in bed. He lied a lot & was not even a good liar lol. I ended the relationship there & then. The following mnths were a nightmare for he stalked me, it was very scary. It started small, but then he became almost forceful, more visible & violent. He was a big man physically, so I took it serious when he said he was going to pop my head like a grape between his fingers. That guy made me to move away from my hometown because I was that freaked out. I shy away from taurus men now, the bulletes are my Gs thou lol. My BFF is a beautiful bull born on May 5.
I was nervous so went to the bathroom to calm down, we were at his place. In the laundry basket I saw a bra. I went out & asked him about because I was not about to sleep with a lying cheat. Guess what he said? He said the bra was his! He didn't even laugh at his ridiculous lie, he said it with a straight face & continued to try to get me in bed. He lied a lot & was not even a good liar lol. I ended the relationship there & then. The following mnths were a nightmare for he stalked me, it was very scary. It started small, but then he became almost forceful, more visible & violent. He was a big man physically, so I took it serious when he said he was going to pop my head like a grape between his fingers. That guy made me to move away from my hometown because I was that freaked out. I shy away from taurus men now, the bulletes are my Gs thou lol. My BFF is a beautiful bull born on May 5.
They never go out and her "job" is to do what he wants her to do (oral).
I think I'm dealing with two different people. This dark side that has been revealed through these messages and the person he is with me. It's as if he has some sick secret fetish that he never wanted me to find out about.
Starlover: No... he absolutely cannot be trusted again.
Posted by NaughtyTaurusPosted by libra21
I confronted him, he lied and now he's trying to flip it on me. Is this classic Taurus behavior? I haven't spoken to him in two days, he said give him a couple of days to "chill out". WTF does that mean?
Nope its not classic taurus behavior
it just a cheater behavior who avoids confrontationclick to expand
I am in total agreement with this. And now I would really like to know why a Libra has me dancing around her trying to figure out whether she is actually interested as her behavior implies while at least two of her people's relationships with two of mine(whom I would love to disassociate with us due to their disgusting and repulsive behavior) are failures. Where are you finding these jackasses?!
His Venus is Aries
Posted by charliebears
Lol "that is my bra"!
He said it in a tone of voice that clearly stated "you don't want to ask me more questions", a creepy shutdown. I sensed he had violent tendencies then.
I don't know what a Venus watercup is.
Posted by charliebears
What was his venus watercup?
I don't know, all I remember is that he was born May 11, but I don't remember the year. Btw, it took me years to not get panicky when I hear his date of birth. "May 11" = Boogeyman lol.
Posted by WaterCupPosted by charliebears
What was his venus watercup?
I don't know, all I remember is that he was born May 11, but I don't remember the year. Btw, it took me years to not get panicky when I hear his date of birth. "May 11" = Boogeyman lol.click to expand
OH SHIT!!!!! I get CRAZY I-don't-know-what-it's-called(deja vu?) that has to do with the woman I'm interested in. I'll see her date of birth in articles followed by her last name or something related to part of her ethnicity, or people with her date of birth who also have part of her ethnicity and whose last name start with the first letter of hers. Sometimes, I'll just find one thing related to her. There was something else I was going to mention, but I don't want to disclose too much. Oh my God. WHY IS THIS HAPPENING?!?!?!?!?!?!?! @_@;
But Baekhyun from EXO was born on May 6, and he's one of the best singers in the group.
Yup, got it. Why?
Posted by WaterCup
Guess what he said? He said the bra was his!
LOLOLOL
I don't get any satisfaction or ego boost from how he treats other women. People treat you exactly how you allow them to.
Posted by libra21
People treat you exactly how you allow them to.
I like this point.
I don't know what Libras you know, but I'm not "pushy" in the least. I'm actually very laid back. I'm cusp Scorpio love.
I gave him the platform to come clean (he chose not to). Had he come clean, I probably could have considered forgiving him. I really hate a liar. I'm not insecure about myself, especially concerning this situation. It's obvious he likes to engage in certain things that he knows he can't bring to me (submission/domination/control/disrespect).
These messages read better than Fifty Shades of Grey!
These messages read better than Fifty Shades of Grey!
How so? No holes. Intuition drove me to snoop, I found what I was looking for, end of story.
I'm confused.
He cheated..
What's left to discuss? Unless, you are ok with him cheating?? May as well just have an open relationship then.. Or, get rid of him, deal with being hurt, and move on.
He cheated..
What's left to discuss? Unless, you are ok with him cheating?? May as well just have an open relationship then.. Or, get rid of him, deal with being hurt, and move on.
I would never call another woman.
It became obvious to me after reading their messages that he has a some fetishes that I am not aware of and probably would not engage in.
She's married.
If we were married, then yes I would call.
I won't attempt to justify him and all his bullshit because like I said, his behavior is disgusting, but at the same time........
There was a show talking about prostitution in Las Vegas and the women say that much of their clientele are dudes that are too pussy to ask their wives to indulge them in certain activities.
Now, while it makes sense for them to look for someone to provide them with that, it still doesn't justify this behavior because it shows me a lack of trust. A person should never be embarrassed about their wants and what they're into with the person with whom they are romantically involved with. Really, instead of looking for a whore on the side, the fuckerz that do this should look for a person willing to do that stuff in the first place because they're just going to break the other person's heart and be miserable themselves.
Communication is key: they should discuss these things and come to an understanding; if I become romantically involved with someone into BDSM, I can't make her happy. She'll be miserable, so it would be better for us to part, because why would I stay with her? You should never be in a relationship of convenience, and a person should NEVER look elsewhere for satisfaction if they truly give a shit about a relationship. Actually, I was at a site today, and someone's signature was a quote from Johnny Depp which is that if you're in love with two people, go with the second because if you truly loved the first person, you would not have fallen in love with the second person. The fucker has to live up to his bullshit; he doesn't deserve pity or chances and has proven he doesn't deserve you nor does he really want you. Remember how actions speak louder than words?
There was a show talking about prostitution in Las Vegas and the women say that much of their clientele are dudes that are too pussy to ask their wives to indulge them in certain activities.
Now, while it makes sense for them to look for someone to provide them with that, it still doesn't justify this behavior because it shows me a lack of trust. A person should never be embarrassed about their wants and what they're into with the person with whom they are romantically involved with. Really, instead of looking for a whore on the side, the fuckerz that do this should look for a person willing to do that stuff in the first place because they're just going to break the other person's heart and be miserable themselves.
Communication is key: they should discuss these things and come to an understanding; if I become romantically involved with someone into BDSM, I can't make her happy. She'll be miserable, so it would be better for us to part, because why would I stay with her? You should never be in a relationship of convenience, and a person should NEVER look elsewhere for satisfaction if they truly give a shit about a relationship. Actually, I was at a site today, and someone's signature was a quote from Johnny Depp which is that if you're in love with two people, go with the second because if you truly loved the first person, you would not have fallen in love with the second person. The fucker has to live up to his bullshit; he doesn't deserve pity or chances and has proven he doesn't deserve you nor does he really want you. Remember how actions speak louder than words?
Posted by libra21
I think I'm dealing with two different people. This dark side that has been revealed through these messages and the person he is with me. It's as if he has some sick secret fetish that he never wanted me to find out about.
When has 'Oral S $ x' been a sick secret fetish?
No sexual penetration but oral sex from this other woman?
Am I the only individual on this board who thinks the OP is a prude.... and that the actions of her Bull, I doubt was intentional?
I don't condone cheating.
But if he's a sexually charged Bull (esp with a Venus in Aries)...I'm pretty sure the oral sex topic was addressed to her prior to his infidelity.
She may have went into the Libraland fantasy when the topic was mentioned.
No pun intended.
@Libra21
It sounds like you want to forgive him. Your decision. Not mine. If you do...my advice....
"Lively up yourself"
-Bob Marley
Posted by libra21
They've been having quite an affair! She's been performing oral sexual acts on him, but he won't have sex with her (according to her messages).
@Libra21....
There lies your answer!
Posted by MilkySoftPosted by libra21
I don't know what a Venus watercup is.
So, this was adorable.click to expand
I second that. I thought I was the only one who noticed it.
Posted by TheatrumPosted by MilkySoftPosted by libra21
I don't know what a Venus watercup is.
So, this was adorable.
I second that. I thought I was the only one who noticed it.click to expand
I didn't bother pointing out what was meant because I thought someone else did.
Oral sex is not a sick secret fetish, however since I don't swallow like the married chick does I guess oral sex with her is much more interesting.
Update: I broke it off with him and asked him to return my house keys. He has not responded. Now I have change my locks! So inconvenient. Why is he acting like a child?
Hmm, conversely, I would LOVE to swallow my woman's(whoever she may me) cum..... though honestly, I don't see how swallowing makes anything interesting, and as it is your throat, it's your decision what you want making its way down there.
Regarding his behavior, all I can think of is that it shouldn't surprise you based on how stupid he was acting before you decided to cut off your association with him. Otherwise, your guess is as good as anyone's. I don't suggest giving people the keys to your house when you're not married, but if you do, if the relationship ends, definitely change them. Obviously you did, but you should have done so without asking for the key back so that he can get the idea when he fails to open them, especially since based on what you're saying, words don't get through to him.
Regarding his behavior, all I can think of is that it shouldn't surprise you based on how stupid he was acting before you decided to cut off your association with him. Otherwise, your guess is as good as anyone's. I don't suggest giving people the keys to your house when you're not married, but if you do, if the relationship ends, definitely change them. Obviously you did, but you should have done so without asking for the key back so that he can get the idea when he fails to open them, especially since based on what you're saying, words don't get through to him.
Taurus men are hard headed. Leave him alone..cut off all communication. He made it blatantly obvious he only cares about getting a nut off and not your feelings. Lesson learned for you and honestly you probably dodged a bullet. Better now than later right? Relationships blow :/
Now, should I send him back his things (mail, insurance policies, keys, state ID)?
take them to that woman's house and leave them on her front door. Really, I don't know. But you don't want to deal with him showing up and don't want to see him again, so if you know where he lives, might as well send the stuff back where they actually belong.
Cool, I'll fedex all of his things to him tomorrow.
Posted by robyn808Posted by libra21
I don't know what Libras you know, but I'm not "pushy" in the least. I'm actually very laid back. I'm cusp Scorpio love.
Every leeb I know has been pushy. Just not in the way most think, they don't give up, and continue to push every angle till they find one that works. I've had 5 or 6 major "Taurus blow ups" in my life 3 have been with leebs, 4 if you count leeb moon. If your not pushy cool, but from my perspective they are and never think so. I'm pointing it out, because its often a source of contention from a Taurus perspective.
What he did was wrong, but somewhere in your mind, your saying to yourself, at least he didn't fuck her, does that mean he does love me, that I'm better than her? its almost impossible for anyone to escape that line of thought. Part of the issues of dealing with someone cheating is the personal insecurity, its a hit to our ego. It just is. Did he think she was hotter? did she do something better than me? That kind of ego hit, is a big reason why people can't get over being cheated on.
What do you want to do here? are you done with him?click to expand
i agree thats the most hurtful part to....you start to question yourself
yuck tauruses
Posted by crabberries
yuck tauruses
lord im trying not to feel this way about the whole sign
Posted by robyn808Posted by libra21
I don't know what Libras you know, but I'm not "pushy" in the least. I'm actually very laid back. I'm cusp Scorpio love.
Every leeb I know has been pushy. Just not in the way most think, they don't give up, and continue to push every angle till they find one that works.click to expand
This is very true! Libras are pushy, but not aggressive with it like their polar opposite Aries.
Because they have the gift of communication and charm, they can approach the same topic or challenge in a myriad of ways without appearing as if they have an agenda.
They can present you with sh&t and persuade you, you're eating out a chocolate pudding cake, instead.
*especially after a million disgusted facial expressions*
Libras are cardinal signs, remember?
Posted by WaterCup
Why not give him 2 lifetimes to "chill"? He has some nerve to tell YOU to let *him* chill. I hope he gets frostbites, leave him in the chiller! Please dont get back to this guy, even after 2 days.
I was thinking the same thing!
Posted by robyn808Posted by charliebears
May 6 is the terrible bday for bulls. George clooney, fictional gordon gekko among others lol!
Im may 7.
Fuck you lumberjack!click to expand
Hows MAy 7 ?
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