Need some help

Hey guys just trying to get some input on a situation im in.

So iv been dating this Libra for about a month now and she is wanting to get serious very fast. I came out of a relationship about 4-5 months ago that lasted almost 4 years. I still have feeling for my ex and still think of her. When im with the new girl we have great times and i know she likes me and i like her too but for some reason i cant get my EX out of my head! What should i do? Break it off with the new girl till my head clears or just tell her i want to slow down and get to know her better? I hate being a Taurus sometimes cause when i love i love hard :/

You see these are the things that frustrate and anger people when it comes to dating. If you still have your ex heavy on your mind you have no business engaging with other women. So now you have to crush this poor girl's heart. Tell her the truth and let her decided what she wants to do. Best to be straightforward so that she is not strung along. Just curious, who initiated the first date and contact between you two?

She's a leeb. Her heart might be broken for a few hours tops 😛

On the serious note, just ask her nicely to take it slow and try to enjoy each other's company. It doesn't have to be anything serious while your mind is still wrapped up around a past love, but you don't have to end it off completely either. It's only been a month. Take it slow, see where it goes.

We actually were supposed to be friends as she was my hair dresser and she was into my friend so i though. We went out for drinks a few times and just had good times talking and it wasn't anything more than that. One night she got drunk and i told her she needs to stay the night and that i wont let her drive. So during the night she turn over and put her arms around me and she kissed me. I told her i though we were just friends and she told me we are and that she just wanted to have sex no strings attached so i figured why not. But after going home she texted me and then told me she likes me and i figured why not see where this could go. My ex wasnt in my head at the time and the more we started just seeing each other was when i started missing me EX and what we had. So here i am now trying to decide what to do.

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Posted by taurusman
Hey guys just trying to get some input on a situation im in.

So iv been dating this Libra for about a month now and she is wanting to get serious very fast. I came out of a relationship about 4-5 months ago that lasted almost 4 years. I still have feeling for my ex and still think of her. When im with the new girl we have great times and i know she likes me and i like her too but for some reason i cant get my EX out of my head! What should i do? Break it off with the new girl till my head clears or just tell her i want to slow down and get to know her better? I hate being a Taurus sometimes cause when i love i love hard :/

And your moon is in virgo, even virgo's love hard and are fiercely loyal, they never abruptly cut ties, the fading of the other's memories has to be gradual. Do you think you can work it out with your ex? I am virgo sun and I always have hope even after someone says no, not until i feel not appreciated, then I can quickly let go. It is hard in the initial phases of a breakup to think of anyone else. I think not getting too serious or leading someone on or making a hasty decision is the best thing to do. Give yourself a break so you do not break the other girl's heart.

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I dont think me and my EX will work out she pretty much told me she hates me and to never contact her again. My jealousy got to her thats why we broke up and during the breakup i read some of her Facebook statuses and messages when we were broken up. She had her information saved in my labtop and so when i noticed this on accident i read through her stuff. Not my finest moment but i was curious what she was up to. Also she paid for my plane ticket to go to a wedding with her overseas and she wanted me to give her money for it but i told her i wasnt going to because i was only going to go because she wanted me to meet her family overseas and i didnt have the money to go at the time. She broke up with me so i felt that was her loss. But of course she thinks i stole money from her now. So yeah i dont think she will come back to much crap happened.

Posted by MissFisk
Dude. Why are you jumping from chick to chick? First the Pisces, then a Libra now. You think it's fair to these girls that you're only half-way into them becuase the other half is still with your ex?

The pisces i let go and told her the truth and we are still friends actually. Like i said the libra was a friend and just turned into something i didn't think was gonna happen. So no im not going chick to chick.

Posted by MissFisk
Dude. Why are you jumping from chick to chick? First the Pisces, then a Libra now. You think it's fair to these girls that you're only half-way into them becuase the other half is still with your ex?

He told the Libra he thought they were just friends, and she specifically said she just wanted sex no strings attached! In her own words, that basically frees him from any "emotional responsibility" towards her. Fair game, no funky business =)

Agreed with the others. You started as friends. Agreed to just sex no string attached. She can't be crossed at you for that! Sort things out with your ex. I feel you are stil hung up on her because it wasn't a mutual break up! it's not completely over. It never will be untill you sort things out with her for good! Good luck

Yeah ill just tell her the truth as it has worked for me in the passed.

As for the Ex i might reach out to her one day but right now its still to early in my opinion. I think it will be just hard whenever i decide to since she told me to never contact her again.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Sounds fair^ but...

She's a leeb. Her heart might be broken for a few hours tops

..come on, that wasn't very nice now!:/🙂

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fair point.

Posted by taurusman
We actually were supposed to be friends as she was my hair dresser and she was into my friend so i though. We went out for drinks a few times and just had good times talking and it wasn't anything more than that. One night she got drunk and i told her she needs to stay the night and that i wont let her drive. So during the night she turn over and put her arms around me and she kissed me. I told her i though we were just friends and she told me we are and that she just wanted to have sex no strings attached so i figured why not. But after going home she texted me and then told me she likes me and i figured why not see where this could go. My ex wasnt in my head at the time and the more we started just seeing each other was when i started missing me EX and what we had. So here i am now trying to decide what to do.

This should have been your first post. Reminds self to not respond after first post as it never never tells the full story. But I'm glad I responded the way that I did, because it flushed out more info. The fact that she said she wanted no strings attached makes this easier. You didn't think of your ex first because it was just about the sex. Just remind Leeb that you guys had a no strings night of sex and that's it. You are neither seeking romance nor a relationship. I think Leebs appreciate the direct approach. However, I get the feeling you want some nice cushy sex from time to time. I would suggest you state that you only want no strings with any girl you date from now on, until you are over your ex. Did you leave anything else out?

Posted by robyn808
ok so this is just a theory so lets humor me for a sec, as I venture down this road but...

The images your sending to the world here, are how do i say it... very douchey. I mean the whole shotgun beer and affliction t's, well I think it attracts a certain caliber of women.

The leeb, yeah shes sounds like a real mess. Big red flags there.

Well since the EX iv been trying to go out and just have fun. Guess it was just a way for me to deal with all the crap. Also just doing my self and enjoying myself has helped me get my mind of things. Douchey... maybe but i guess iyts just my way of dealing with it. Plus im not looking for a women right now im just enjoying myself and trying to have fun doing me. I guess iv just ran into a girl or 2 that cought my interest but nothing more than that. Just happens i guess.

This should have been your first post. Reminds self to not respond after first post as it never never tells the full story. But I'm glad I responded the way that I did, because it flushed out more info. The fact that she said she wanted no strings attached makes this easier. You didn't think of your ex first because it was just about the sex. Just remind Leeb that you guys had a no strings night of sex and that's it. You are neither seeking romance nor a relationship. I think Leebs appreciate the direct approach. However, I get the feeling you want some nice cushy sex from time to time. I would suggest you state that you only want no strings with any girl you date from now on, until you are over your ex. Did you leave anything else out?



No thats about all i can think of. I will tell her what you pretty much just said. I really am not looking for a relationship right now but the girl did catch my interest but im just not ready to let another girl in my heart atm.

Thanks

Posted by LunarMaiden
This should have been your first post. Reminds self to not respond after first post as it never never tells the full story. But I'm glad I responded the way that I did, because it flushed out more info. The fact that she said she wanted no strings attached makes this easier. You didn't think of your ex first because it was just about the sex. Just remind Leeb that you guys had a no strings night of sex and that's it. You are neither seeking romance nor a relationship. I think Leebs appreciate the direct approach. However, I get the feeling you want some nice cushy sex from time to time. I would suggest you state that you only want no strings with any girl you date from now on, until you are over your ex. Did you leave anything else out?

Posted by taurusman
No thats about all i can think of. I will tell her what you pretty much just said. I really am not looking for a relationship right now but the girl did catch my interest but im just not ready to let another girl in my heart atm.

Thanks

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You are welcome. You really do need to give yourself time to heal. And the reason I say to be upfront about where you are emotionally with relationships is because it helps keep some uncomfortable moments at bay for you and the other person. Particularly with women who use the "no strings" as an opening for a deeper relationship. Best of luck Bull. 🙂

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Posted by tiziani
You're just going to be bought off with the casual mention of the word "fair", Bling?

smh

No, not entirely hahaha a fickle a thing the heart can be I can read that and see something in it, but then again I could easily argue the context of 'heart' and 'broken'.🙂

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What is with you Leebs and talking around conversations?
Are you guys afraid of getting deep or just see this as one big joke?
Calling male Leebs, come down to earth Leebs, why did you bother to enter into an Earth thread Leebs?
Just flying around making side comments and what not. 😛

Posted by robyn808
I'm not saying your douchey... I don't know that, I'm just saying you kinda look it. I'm really not trying to insult you. I'm just giving a perspective, that you could be projecting a certain image attracting a certain kind of person, that in a funny twist will put you in a position to act like a douche, pushing you to treat her exactly the way she thinks she deserves to be treated.

idk, it could just be slut psychology.

no its ok i can totally see your point of view but i think thats what makes me. Cause when i meet new people i always get the wow i totally expected someone else. I guess that's why they say you cant judge a book by its cover. I just like the style atm but i totally agree i may be giving off that vibe. Im also a nuclear medicine technologist and when i ask people to guess what i do they always say something stupid but i like getting that kick out of people i guess.

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This should have been your first post. Reminds self to not respond after first post as it never never tells the full story. But I'm glad I responded the way that I did, because it flushed out more info. The fact that she said she wanted no strings attached makes this easier. You didn't think of your ex first because it was just about the sex. Just remind Leeb that you guys had a no strings night of sex and that's it. You are neither seeking romance nor a relationship. I think Leebs appreciate the direct approach. However, I get the feeling you want some nice cushy sex from time to time. I would suggest you state that you only want no strings with any girl you date from now on, until you are over your ex. Did you leave anything else out?

Posted by taurusman
No thats about all i can think of. I will tell her what you pretty much just said. I really am not looking for a relationship right now but the girl did catch my interest but im just not ready to let another girl in my heart atm.

Thanks

You are welcome. You really do need to give yourself time to heal. And the reason I say to be upfront about where you are emotionally with relationships is because it helps keep some uncomfortable moments at bay for you and the other person. Particularly with women who use the "no strings" as an opening for a deeper relationship. Best of luck Bull. 🙂

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Thanks for all your help i appreciate it 🙂 Your 100% right

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Sounds fair^ but...

She's a leeb. Her heart might be broken for a few hours tops

..come on, that wasn't very nice now!:/🙂

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Pffffft come on. There was a take-not-to-heart smiley following up that you oh so conveniently removed..... 😛

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Posted by tiziani
You're just going to be bought off with the casual mention of the word "fair", Bling?

smh

No, not entirely hahaha a fickle a thing the heart can be I can read that and see something in it, but then again I could easily argue the context of 'heart' and 'broken'.🙂

What is with you Leebs and talking around conversations?
Are you guys afraid of getting deep or just see this as one big joke?
Calling male Leebs, come down to earth Leebs, why did you bother to enter into an Earth thread Leebs?
Just flying around making side comments and what not. 😛

It's so hard to keep it all in balance 😛 No one understands our struggle

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Poor Leebs. 😄