Not quite sure what to make of this Taurus guy

Hey folks

Just wanted your input on this. I'm a Taurus so i know the stuff that we do - the hot and cold, the testing etc....I'll try and keep this as short as i can.

So this Taurus guy adds me on fb in January (we have some mutual friends). Then instagram. We hadn't met before but i do remember in hindsight seeing him at various events....and always in eye view of me. It wasn't until mid Feb that he actually started commenting on my fb/instagram and this was when i posted something about being single. He wasn't even on my radar as a potential...Good looking and extremely fit guy (but not my normal type). Anyway...we finally met in March and that whole night he kept watching me and passing by my table trying to get my attention. Eventually i went up to the bar and spoke to him my god the chemistry was off the chart...we spoke outside later on and it was very intense...then he ran away like a little lost boy (i thought it was cute). This guy can come off as arrogant and egotistical but he seemed different with me. We had a few chats after that on fb - quite deep ones actually. However i didn't see him again until mid april....he turned up at a event i was at and he ended up coming back to our place to chat. There hasn't been any sex or kissing btw - he just wants to touch me (not inappropriately) or stare at me intently. Again intense conversations, eye contact and playfulness and him running away again. He confuses me a little. I've kept in touch with him and we speak often. He kinda copies things i do in things that i say. My nickname for him is El Toro and he has adopted that nickname. Anyway - he goes off for vacation for 3 1/2 weeks and got back 2 weeks ago. I chatted to him briefly when he got back. Then i had a dream about him and told him about it. it was a funny dream. From that point he has been talking to me ALOT and has started to confide I'm me about personal issues to do with work and stuff this past week and i've tried to help him. We live in 2 different countries (about 1 hour from each other via a bridge) He has also said that he's seriously considering coming to work where i am, for the same company. Everytime i come online he comes on and waits, even if i don't talk to him at that point. I've tried to pull back a little He posted a picture today which i loved and sometimes he can post things that i'm not quite sure if he's being serious, sarcastic or just a weird sense of humour and it makes me laugh cos he's very serious alot of the time in pics. I messaged him a while ago and told him this and asked him if he had tried the meditation i sent him. Of course he responded immediately and No I stay up f*cking all night. WTF.....now part of me thinks that he may have been hurt by what i said ( i meant it in a kind, happy way because he sometimes makes me laugh or smile and i like to see him being fun). Did i hurt him? Or is he pulling away because he thinks we're getting too close......i'm thinking to just go quiet for a while now. I will be over in his country next week as i'll be spending the weekend there with my other friends. (We're expats and we live in the Middle East - so that's why 2 different countries but are close together).

What are your thoughts on this please?

Posted by vanillahaze001
Hey folks

Just wanted your input on this. I'm a Taurus so i know the stuff that we do - the hot and cold, the testing etc....I'll try and keep this as short as i can.

So this Taurus guy adds me on fb in January (we have some mutual friends). Then instagram. We hadn't met before but i do remember in hindsight seeing him at various events....and always in eye view of me. It wasn't until mid Feb that he actually started commenting on my fb/instagram and this was when i posted something about being single. He wasn't even on my radar as a potential...Good looking and extremely fit guy (but not my normal type). Anyway...we finally met in March and that whole night he kept watching me and passing by my table trying to get my attention. Eventually i went up to the bar and spoke to him my god the chemistry was off the chart...we spoke outside later on and it was very intense...then he ran away like a little lost boy (i thought it was cute). This guy can come off as arrogant and egotistical but he seemed different with me. We had a few chats after that on fb - quite deep ones actually. However i didn't see him again until mid april....he turned up at a event i was at and he ended up coming back to our place to chat. There hasn't been any sex or kissing btw - he just wants to touch me (not inappropriately) or stare at me intently. Again intense conversations, eye contact and playfulness and him running away again. He confuses me a little. I've kept in touch with him and we speak often. He kinda copies things i do in things that i say. My nickname for him is El Toro and he has adopted that nickname. Anyway - he goes off for vacation for 3 1/2 weeks and got back 2 weeks ago. I chatted to him briefly when he got back. Then i had a dream about him and told him about it. it was a funny dream. From that point he has been talking to me ALOT and has started to confide I'm me about personal issues to do with work and stuff this past week and i've tried to help him. We live in 2 different countries (about 1 hour from each other via a bridge) He has also said that he's seriously considering coming to work where i am, for the same company. Everytime i come online he comes on and waits, even if i don't talk to him at that point. I've tried to pull back a little He posted a picture today which i loved and sometimes he can post things that i'm not quite sure if he's being serious, sarcastic or just a weird sense of humour and it makes me laugh cos he's very serious alot of the time in pics. I messaged him a while ago and told him this and asked him if he had tried the meditation i sent him. Of course he responded immediately and No I stay up f*cking all night. WTF.....now part of me thinks that he may have been hurt by what i said ( i meant it in a kind, happy way because he sometimes makes me laugh or smile and i like to see him being fun). Did i hurt him? Or is he pulling away because he thinks we're getting too close......i'm thinking to just go quiet for a while now. I will be over in his country next week as i'll be spending the weekend there with my other friends. (We're expats and we live in the Middle East - so that's why 2 different countries but are close together).

What are your thoughts on this please?

not sure what that was all about - but yes, stay chill with him until he makes a move and then you have to really find out what he's all about ... that may have just been his weird sense of humor but you don't want to push it right now - let him come to you for the most part

Thank you tcta



not sure what that was all about - but yes, stay chill with him until he makes a move and then you have to really find out what he's all about ... that may have just been his weird sense of humor but you don't want to push it right now - let him come to you for the most part

I'm not really a chaser of men...he kinda snuck up on me without warning lol But yes i will stay chill and wait to see what he does. Thanks again 🙂

Posted by Maidemarilyn

Posted by vanillahaze001
I'm not really a chaser of men...he kinda snuck up on me without warning lol But yes i will stay chill and wait to see what he does. Thanks again 🙂

Just befriend him.

You know that Taurus can have dark humour or be "shock jocks" lol lol

There is interest and because you both have the same sun sign energy, you will probably be mirroring each other most of the time.

Always be open. Honest open emotional security is what a Taurus craves. No gimmicks and games that are played by the other signs.

U can read each other easily. Just channel into his energies. I dream about mine alot and they come true. I can even foresee his action in a scenario before he does it and I am right on the money.

It's a good match and you see to have fire and air energy in you from your post and so does he.

Inform him that you will be in his country and let him take it from there ?

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Thanks for this....i'm hormonal so my judgement right now is off lol i agree with you...i too have been revealing more of myself to him and i've been blunt with him on occasion (just being open and honest) and sweet with him too...he is very like me...and yes i have a very dark sense of humour too lol so i do get it...i read him pretty well and he knows that and i think it makes him uncomfortable sometimes lol Yes my fire energy does give me more oomph and my air makes me want to chat alot lol and i have looked at his chart - don't know time of birth but he we seem to be comfortable chart wise. He has more earth in his chart than i, not the main planets but he does have a bit of capricorn there too lol

As you do, i can feel when he's upset or stressed out and i normally just send him a joke - i feel this is a good match.

I can see that he has been online (i've gone offline since i posted this) ....he keeps coming on....i think he's not sure if he's upset me and is a bit worried. Whatever....i understand him. I'll just hopefully see him when i'm there next week.

thanks again - very helpful 🙂

What gave you the impression that he's pulling away?

Honestly, if I ever brought up meditation to my man, I would definitely expect some dark humor as a response.

In other words, he's too manly for meditation.

If you're in his country, invite him to hang out with your crew for some happy hour.

Some Bulls are fickle, confident and arrogant on the phone...but ridiculously shy schoolboys in person.

I know many Taurus men like that.

He might surprise you.

Your worries might just be that...only worries.

Posted by Maidemarilyn
Try not too pay too much attention to the "on-line" status stuff as that can become obsessive and get you nowhere fast. Even if he is online it doesn't mean he as to hit you up he could be having downtime with his mates. Tauruses love their hobbies and downtime. So don't analyse.

Just stick to the good old fashioned method of just following your feels ie. if you think of him and fancy texting do so, but if life gets busy and you don't get in touch it's no big deal. With a Taurus, it must not be forced. The energies have to be as natural as possible.

Treat him like a good friend first. Tauruses value friendships more than relationships. To my bf we are friends first and he values that dearly.

Agree with that totally. I'm a Taurus too - and i have many hobbies and friends too - so you know that old saying sometimes the things that you don't like/fear in others is what you see in yourself.. I do go with my feels with him and i must admit i'm guilty of doing the same thing.

In all honesty, i'm probably just anxious as i've not gotten close to or had any interest other than friendship with any man in a couple of years after a disastrous relationship with a psycho Pisces man.

I'll just keep on being his friend for now 🙂 thanks again

Posted by TaurusBull1977
What gave you the impression that he's pulling away?

Honestly, if I ever brought up meditation to my man, I would definitely expect some dark humor as a response.

In other words, he's too manly for meditation.

If you're in his country, invite him to hang out with your crew for some happy hour.

Some Bulls are fickle, confident and arrogant on the phone...but ridiculously shy schoolboys in person.

I know many Taurus men like that.

He might surprise you.

Your worries might just be that...only worries.

Because i do it lol I agree with you on the fickle/arrogance/shy schoolboy thing.

Lol i only suggested meditation because he does yoga which i was surprised at as he is a very manly man. Yes i will message him next week when we are out for a few drinks.

Thank you fellow Bull - I think i'm worrying unnecessarily xo