Out of respect I asked
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by libra21 on Sunday, July 29, 2012 and has 26 replies.
I've been seeing my Taurus for over a year now. We've never clarified exactly what we're doing but he makes it clear that he loves me and trusts me. We have a mutual friend from high school who recently lost his mother so I reached out to offer my condolences. We spoke on the phone and he mentioned that he'd like to get together for dinner and a drink once things subside. I agreed that it would be nice to see him since it had been so long (25 years).
I asked my Taurus how he would feel if I had dinner with the friend from high school. His reaction was silent at first then he proceeded to ask if I was going on a date? I responded by telling him that it was definitely not a date, just a friendly gathering with a friend that lost his mom (I can relate my mom passed away a few years back). My Taurus then says "why do you feel like you need to ask me? Do what you want to do babe".
I'm not really sure what his response means but any feedback would be greatly appreciated.
I asked my Taurus how he would feel if I had dinner with the friend from high school. His reaction was silent at first then he proceeded to ask if I was going on a date? I responded by telling him that it was definitely not a date, just a friendly gathering with a friend that lost his mom (I can relate my mom passed away a few years back). My Taurus then says "why do you feel like you need to ask me? Do what you want to do babe".
I'm not really sure what his response means but any feedback would be greatly appreciated.
It means just because hes your boyfriend it doest mean that the male race is off limits.
-Eats a purple Skittle-
-Eats a purple Skittle-
It DOES NOT, mean he doesn't care for you!!!!
You reassured him that he has no reason to be jealous, so he is okay with you meeting someone on a friendship basis. I'm not sure why you asked him for his opinion. I would have just told him that I met with so and so from high school. But that's me.
**Sigh** Another Libra fem and Taurs Male combo. Please don't try to provoke his jealously by mentioning that you would like to meet old male chums from high school in hopes that he will ask you to be his girl. It won't work, he will just throw up a wall and all of a sudden get too busy to text/call/sex you, etc. My advice would be to just proceed as you are and enjoy life.
You reassured him that he has no reason to be jealous, so he is okay with you meeting someone on a friendship basis. I'm not sure why you asked him for his opinion. I would have just told him that I met with so and so from high school. But that's me.
**Sigh** Another Libra fem and Taurs Male combo. Please don't try to provoke his jealously by mentioning that you would like to meet old male chums from high school in hopes that he will ask you to be his girl. It won't work, he will just throw up a wall and all of a sudden get too busy to text/call/sex you, etc. My advice would be to just proceed as you are and enjoy life.
I thought about telling him after the fact but figured he'd be hurt/upset etc.
Truth is always best. Why turn something innocent into something seemingly shady? No sense in it.
My sentiment exactly Venusianbull!
Posted by venusianbull
Truth is always best. Why turn something innocent into something seemingly shady? No sense in it.
Only if you approach it as shady. If I'm pondering and feeling guilty for wanting to meet an old friend then I'm already bringing shade to something that's completely innocent. It's not like you are meeting for a sexual romp. I think it depends on the timing. If I'm at work and someone calls me up for a lunch meeting then I will go and let my guy know I went. If he calls me up and we meet in a few days I will say, "Guess who wants to do lunch?" Maybe even invite him along.
Exactly le point. If there's nothing to it, why act like there is? 
Yup, my point in a nutshell. Why even second guess it? 
Because people look backwards when they walk this will allways tend to happen then they end up here and then we have this convo all over again.
*tsk*
you asked because meeting the HS guy was suspect to YOU. you started by stating that you don't know the status of your relationship with the taurus. your question implies your intent. you're attempting to justify the intent by virtue of a lost loved one and "mutual friend," but the truth is, you're up to no good and you knows it.
either you want him to be jealous and thereby disagree with the meeting which opens the door for your libra to discuss "partnership/relationship" OR...
you're trying to see what's up with HS dude and who knows where that will lead right?
in essence, you're full of shit.
you asked because meeting the HS guy was suspect to YOU. you started by stating that you don't know the status of your relationship with the taurus. your question implies your intent. you're attempting to justify the intent by virtue of a lost loved one and "mutual friend," but the truth is, you're up to no good and you knows it.
either you want him to be jealous and thereby disagree with the meeting which opens the door for your libra to discuss "partnership/relationship" OR...
you're trying to see what's up with HS dude and who knows where that will lead right?
in essence, you're full of shit.
I think its a good thing to be upfront and give the bf a chance to object. It shows honesty, truth and builds trust.
she said, "I asked my Taurus how he would feel if I had dinner with the friend from high school."
^that has nothing to do with honesty, but is more in-line with what i discussed earlier and EXACTLY why the taurus responded the way he did.
an innocent notification would have gone down something like this...
"hey bobby lee, you remember billy joe from high school?"
"yeah, sue ann, i sure do."
"i found out the other day that his mom, betty anne, passed away. i feel so bad for him. after things settle down, we're going to have a few drinks. would you like to come?" --- he's a "mutual" friend right????
it didn't go down like that. she asked him how he would "feel" because she was interested in his feelings regarding her going out with another guy...platonic or not. if she was simply informing him, she would have done just that.
women think they're slick. she's trying to gauge his feelings for her and trigger some level of taurean jealousy she read via the google. as i said, full of pure t shit.
^that has nothing to do with honesty, but is more in-line with what i discussed earlier and EXACTLY why the taurus responded the way he did.
an innocent notification would have gone down something like this...
"hey bobby lee, you remember billy joe from high school?"
"yeah, sue ann, i sure do."
"i found out the other day that his mom, betty anne, passed away. i feel so bad for him. after things settle down, we're going to have a few drinks. would you like to come?" --- he's a "mutual" friend right????
it didn't go down like that. she asked him how he would "feel" because she was interested in his feelings regarding her going out with another guy...platonic or not. if she was simply informing him, she would have done just that.
women think they're slick. she's trying to gauge his feelings for her and trigger some level of taurean jealousy she read via the google. as i said, full of pure t shit.
Interesting viewpoint in the bullshits of manupulation as I said before some fagots need to read a book on it so when they meet another manaupulator they know what to do. Inside relationships people truly find peace boring this is why maybe they should have fucked more in college.
Posted by caligula
she said, "I asked my Taurus how he would feel if I had dinner with the friend from high school."
^that has nothing to do with honesty, but is more in-line with what i discussed earlier and EXACTLY why the taurus responded the way he did.
an innocent notification would have gone down something like this...
"hey bobby lee, you remember billy joe from high school?"
"yeah, sue ann, i sure do."
"i found out the other day that his mom, betty anne, passed away. i feel so bad for him. after things settle down, we're going to have a few drinks. would you like to come?" --- he's a "mutual" friend right????
it didn't go down like that. she asked him how he would "feel" because she was interested in his feelings regarding her going out with another guy...platonic or not. if she was simply informing him, she would have done just that.
women think they're slick. she's trying to gauge his feelings for her and trigger some level of taurean jealousy she read via the google. as i said, full of pure t shit.
BINGO!
*gold star for Tubby's forehead*
Caligula...you're right on point. As a male, this is exactly the way I would've interpreted it. In my mind, you're not asking me, you're telling me. Otherwise you would've asked me before you went. Not only did my Libra ex do this once, but also some of my theft exes. Honestly, the reason you two are in limbo is because of game playing like this. No man, player or nice guy, likes manipulation. Whether you're trying to get thru to committ or not. If you ent something long term, that is the ti to not be non confrontational and simply ask him...what are we doing? Where is this headed. If he's not with what you want, find someone else.
Okay. I read it again. Still, she did the right thing by telling him before and not after. However, it does read as if she was trying to gauge how he "feels" about her and the prospect of her having drinks with another man. You are right, she should have just stated the facts and invited him along. Wondering now if she was wanting alone time with this friend... and wondering about the motivation in not inviting the Taurus.
Hmmmmm....
Hmmmmm....
Posted by truecap
Okay. I read it again. Still, she did the right thing by telling him before and not after. However, it does read as if she was trying to gauge how he "feels" about her and the prospect of her having drinks with another man. You are right, she should have just stated the facts and invited him along. Wondering now if she was wanting alone time with this friend... and wondering about the motivation in not inviting the Taurus.
Hmmmmm....
I understand what you're saying TrueCap, but let's not sugarcoat it. This sort stuff happens in high school and therefor is easily recognizable. While you want to see where you're headed with someone you love and care about(supposedly), there are just one fundamental things you don't do because it causes unnecessary drama. Men especially knw this type of behavior because we've had it pulled on us multiple times.
I don't understand why people just don't come out and ask! Why be manipulative? If approached with the right attitude and maturity, there shouldn't have to be any games.
Posted by truecap
I don't understand why people just don't come out and ask! Why be manipulative? If approached with the right attitude and maturity, there shouldn't have to be any games.
Exactly
LMAO!!!! I love Caligula's redneck analogy. Good butter!! Back to the subject at hand... No intentional manipulation on my part. Maybe I should've approached it like some of you have previously mentioned. I know how my Taurus feels about me, I don't need to play games to find out.
Thanks for the input!
Thanks for the input!
Why did you feel the need to ask him? I get the sense that you were trying to make him jealous, otherwise why make a thread about it? YOu wanted him to get jealous and step up to the plate to solidify your relationship.
Respect. That's why.
Posted by caligula
she said, "I asked my Taurus how he would feel if I had dinner with the friend from high school."
^that has nothing to do with honesty, but is more in-line with what i discussed earlier and EXACTLY why the taurus responded the way he did.
an innocent notification would have gone down something like this...
"hey bobby lee, you remember billy joe from high school?"
"yeah, sue ann, i sure do."
"i found out the other day that his mom, betty anne, passed away. i feel so bad for him. after things settle down, we're going to have a few drinks. would you like to come?" --- he's a "mutual" friend right????
it didn't go down like that. she asked him how he would "feel" because she was interested in his feelings regarding her going out with another guy...platonic or not. if she was simply informing him, she would have done just that.
women think they're slick. she's trying to gauge his feelings for her and trigger some level of taurean jealousy she read via the google.
I agree with Caligula .. ALWAYS give details and an explanation of ANY INTENTION ... TRUST is a POWERFUL thing !
Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by truecap
I don't understand why people just don't come out and ask! Why be manipulative? If approached with the right attitude and maturity, there shouldn't have to be any games.
Exactlyclick to expand
Because everyone is different plus people arent looking for mutual love. More like Dictatorship.
-Eats a red Skittle-
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