Platonic love for a lady, Romantic love for a lady

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by aftershine on Wednesday, January 1, 2014 and has 21 replies.
Two different females but is it possible for a bull to have this? Especially a bull with venus gem. If yes, then which matters more?

Platotonic love: you 2 click together, its pleasant to be with that person. The other person understands you
Romantic love: that person makes you all weak. You blush+stare when the person is around. You dont like it but that person has your heart.
Is it true that bulls are pessimistic when it comes to love?
Posted by aftershine
You dont like it but that person has your heart.


Your definition of romantic love is more along the lines of "adolescent infatuation"
@damnata: i know, but my sun+moon gem have an impact on my venus aries Tongue sooo i cant help it but im in my early 20s so yeaaaa lol. I am young, i still have to figure out what love really is....
And its just a scenario....nothing big
All the time in the world.
Doubt you'll find it on the Taurus board though, the greedy fucks are all about eating and disappearing apparently.
/joke
venus in gem.....definitely can divide up the attractions I have into the categories you've given here. I tend to wind up with a person where the love is more platonic, and less romantic. I tend to run/hide/distrust the more powerful romantic attraction. I'm generally skeptical of it, feel it won't last, will eventually turn into something more platonic (for me at least). I think I choose mental connection over that animalistic passion/magnetism for those reasons, and just bc that is my general preference. we all turn into old wrinkly grandfolks eventually anyway. Might as well be prepared for it...
@TLS: doesnt the taurus side of you crave the feels? The magnetism? So the more magnetic/passionate the love is......the faster you run?
@ aftershine, you could say we're a romantic pessimist.
Platotonic love, like the love between friends and relatives.
Romantic love, the type where you would make love.

@ Damnata, we love to eat, and only disappear, cause we're lost and need someone to find us Tongue
You're lost and need someone to take you back to the food platter.
Posted by Damnata
You're lost and need someone to take you back to the food platter.


Food we can always find. Just the company of others, now that's difficult.
Posted by Damnata
All the time in the world.
Doubt you'll find it on the Taurus board though, the greedy fucks are all about eating and disappearing apparently.
/joke

Hahahaha
Posted by aftershine
Two different females but is it possible for a bull to have this? Especially a bull with venus gem. If yes, then which matters more?

Platotonic love: you 2 click together, its pleasant to be with that person. The other person understands youRomantic love: that person makes you all weak. You blush+stare when the person is around. You dont like it but that person has your heart.Is it true that bulls are pessimistic when it comes to love?

I'm caught up between both.. I get caught up in the cloud and trying to shake off my romantic love... for a more platonic one... It's been difficult but I am trying !!
Taurus sun, Venus gem! This is so familiar.
Definitely a case of having a cake and eat it too.. they do care about you and possibly want you to be in their lives as long as you ok with it (in case of platonic love) but they want something sensually attractive/romantic as well, which is usually another person.
Posted by Damnata
Posted by aftershine
You dont like it but that person has your heart.


Your definition of romantic love is more along the lines of "adolescent infatuation"
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romantic love is kinda similar to adolescent infatuation imo. I can still remember prepubescent infatuation. It was pretty intense...
Posted by aftershine
@TLS: doesnt the taurus side of you crave the feels? The magnetism? So the more magnetic/passionate the love is......the faster you run?


"feels"? Is that what you youngins' are calling it now? I must be getting really old. You know what's funny? As I was typing that, I put on an album by a producer I like, and the song playing is called "the feels". That is insane...
Anyway...Its not that I run faster with escalating magnetism/passion. In fact, any viable relationship starts off with that, and a little bit of obsession. Anthropologists who study love actually say that for people who say they have "fallen in love", the "obsessive" phase where all you think about is the person 24/7 is almost a universal across cultures. See the work of Helen Fisher for instance. So there's always that spark.
There is a threshold though. Sometimes though too much of that passion is not a good thing - like when it is too intense or won't go away. Like when you feel out of control, and not your self; it brings out a more possessive/jealous side than usual, etc. Almost everyone has been in a passionate relationship like that. They usually don't last long-term, aren't good for raising a family, etc. Just my opinion.
I think it's possible.
I've had a male Aquarius roommate for the past 8 years. He's 10 yrs older than me. We've never dated or had any type of romantic relationship but he's a good friend. He knows me better than most people and been here for a lot of my ups and downs. We go out to eat and have traveled together. We communicate well together and have a great friendship. He's had gf and I've had bf while we've lived together. I originally rented the room out 8 yrs ago because I needed the extra help with my house payment. I don't need the finanical help anymore but I've let him stay in my house and he's never left even though he could afford his own place. It's comfortable. He gives me my space and i give him his. He's like my big brother or family. I love him but I don't feel that romantic spark for him. I never have.
I've had three long term relationships while my roommate lived here. I was crazy in love with those men. One was a cancer. He was the most jealous of my roommate.
I'm currently dating a Virgo. We're still at the beginning stages of building a relationship but he has my heart and attention. He has the qualities of my roommate but I also feel the romantic spark with him.
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Posted by aftershine
@TLS: doesnt the taurus side of you crave the feels? The magnetism? So the more magnetic/passionate the love is......the faster you run?



There is a threshold though. Sometimes though too much of that passion is not a good thing - like when it is too intense or won't go away. Like when you feel out of control, and not your self; it brings out a more possessive/jealous side than usual, etc. Almost everyone has been in a passionate relationship like that. They usually don't last long-term, aren't good for raising a family, etc. Just my opinion.
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Agreed- some people are meant for us to feel that rush..that crave..that longing..but isn't made to be our partner... --
We can still like/love/long for that one person...but never think of him as your marriage material or anything...but he/she has your heart....
then you end up marrying the potential..the one who will stick through ups and downs with you....you may not think of them 24/7 ..you may have not feel the HIGH of love...but you know he/she will be a good father/mother...will support you and love you...and stick by you...when you both turn old...and become ill etc.. he/she will be there.... i think its the security a bull seek... we need the security to express the love fully... i wouldn't be surprise if i end up marrying the one who can provide me that security...but still have my heart for someone else...its sad but true...

@STVG: your venus gem is a hot mess!! You need to take control!! Good luck smile
@TLS: STVG said somethin about "marrying someone who gives security but someone else has yout heart (a bull's heart)" does that concept apply to male bulls?

Posted by aftershine

@STVG: your venus gem is a hot mess!! You need to take control!! Good luck smile
@TLS: STVG said somethin about "marrying someone who gives security but someone else has yout heart (a bull's heart)" does that concept apply to male bulls?




Its happened to me I guess - if you want to put it in those terms, but I have Venus in Gemini too. It may be more related to that and have nothing to do with being a Taurus....I get bored easily and always get excited by the prospect of something new. I never cheat but my heart/mind definitely wanders and browses a bit. I hate it actually. It disgusts me...
@TLS: i can understand that, its the same with me, except it doesnt get to the point of a relationship. I've had millions of minor crushes but i dont let it get to me, i have enough self-control and my ice-queen-persona (my aqua rising) plus my laziness Tongue that i dont initiate anything unless i know im crazy about the person FOR A FACT, so i've had only 4 relationships in my entire life time (until now). As for you venus gem i can understand that......you should see ladies with venus aries+air sun placement. You will NEVER get bored, i promise you it will be a hell of a ride xD WARNING: you'll lose your insanity tho Tongue
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Posted by aftershine

@STVG: your venus gem is a hot mess!! You need to take control!! Good luck smile
@TLS: STVG said somethin about "marrying someone who gives security but someone else has yout heart (a bull's heart)" does that concept apply to male bulls?




Its happened to me I guess - if you want to put it in those terms, but I have Venus in Gemini too. It may be more related to that and have nothing to do with being a Taurus....I get bored easily and always get excited by the prospect of something new. I never cheat but my heart/mind definitely wanders and browses a bit. I hate it actually. It disgusts me...
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It feels good to have someone else's understand my venus.. I wish I could change it. It disgusts me too! .. People love talking to me though. . I like how I'm extrovert and extra friendly to anyone and anywhere... liking different guys everyday ... Hahaha ! It's a mess.. once I'm in a committed relationship though. I'm not too bad.. I'm scary when I'm single... ! !

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