Please help with taurus from hell

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Robinray84sag on Monday, August 15, 2016 and has 23 replies.
So I've been dating this Taurus man for about four months . We met online initially two years ago. We went on a date back then and hit it off but things kind of went laugh due to his financial stability at the time .he hit me back up about four months ago saying he's in a better place and is looking for a relationship. For the most part we spend a lot of time together I'm either spending the night at his place or he's at mine . We don't really get along that well he's very possessive and controlling and wants things his way only . I'm a Sagittarius so there's only so much power I can give up. I'm a very controlling of opinionated and independent woman so we clash but when we're not clashing we are like Besties" his words . Now to the drama !!! I'm constantly questioning if he truly cares . I asked lots of questions I consider myself to be pretty direct . He is shores me he's not dating anyone else, he's not entertaining anyone else to be attacks and that I'm the only person that he's been with . Yet I'm certain he has something else going on . I definitely pursue him and that is definitely a factor in me feeling unsure of his feelings . Our relationship for what it's worth is very volatile . He does very weird passive aggressive things to me. He comes off very calculated and it's weird to me that he prefers me in a i irate state of mind . He'll ignore my text and get back to me very slowly knowing that that's a problem for me and then when I see him in person and he'll tell me things like . I seen your text and I know what you want but I like to make you wait.. Or you're a bad bitch and I have to control you . He's hot and cold and plays a lot of mind games. Me as sweet as pie as I can be will get enough and read him his rights and Sagittarius form. But no matter what happens between us he continues to talk to me and tell me he likes me and that we're in a good place . But as soon as we talk things through the next day or so he goes back to the same old bullshit . He tells me he has something else going on but it doesn't involve me. Like it's something that might cross my path but it has nothing to do with me .. I know I'm talking a lot a jumble mumble in circles but I'll give you a story .. So about two weeks ago we have plans to go out to eat into the movies when I got to his place he was locked out. The day basically after that took a turn for the worst. We argued all day about A lot of things that have been bothering both of us .and him taking his frustrate from his day out on me I think as well. Long story short the night ends about 3 AM and I want to spend the night because I have a long drive but he told me that I can't . Which was truly freaking frustrating to me and I'm like why because by that time we were in a good place . And he cannot give me a reason he's like you just can't .. So enough is enough all day I was in a fix-it mode trying to come to some type of ground that we can continue on .
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Ditch him and get back on that dating site and find the next skeevy guy to chase after and fuck off time on.
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But after that I just felt like he totally didn't care so I went 0 to 100 and once again Sagittarius flashed on him. A few days later I needed help moving so I decided to hit him up he wasn't super excited about it but agreed to help so I picked him up. We had an amazing day we moved we laughed we joked and talked . Afterwords he wanted to get some food so we got some food to cook stopping an got some drinks and headed to his house. His phone was broke from The day he got locked out of his apartment but it still rings . While he was in the store his phone rung but of course when he got back to the car I didn't say anything because I didn't want anything to change our night . When we pulled up to his house there was a girl outside she look like a hoe like a prostitute hoe . I'm like what the fuck !! This dude is a teacher elementary school regional director .. This girl look like she just walked off the tracks with pajama shorts and Braids down to her butt ..omg .. He sees her at the stairs and tells me to come on . When I approach she says you're pretty.. And I'm just like ??.. He says this is my homegirl the homey from in the building .. He says it in front of her and I'm just being nosy trying to see what's going on . So he opened up his door and bitch walks in .. In front of her he told me some story about she got kicked out of her place she got nowhere to stay and she's going to spend the night ? ... I get mad of course especially since I just got kicked out like three days ago and this bitch spending the night and I'm like wow I'm fucking about to leave.. He gets upset and he's like well leave now then.. And we argue as I leave or whatever .. Somebody please read through the shenanigans and tell me what I already know .. I feel like he don't give a fuck about me I just don't see why he entertains me ...
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Posted by DMV
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What?
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I googled it and get it now ha ha
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Let this bull go, for your own sanity if nothing else
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You already know this is not a match between you. You said it in your first bit about the fact you don't get on etc. It's been four months. That's enough to get to know spmeone and how things might be in the long term future with them.


What do you see in this man? Just because you've been dating for four months it doesn't mean it has to continue. It can end.


Is this a man you would want to be with fur another year or even the next 40 years? I don't think so.


He entertains you because you allow him to entertain you and treat you in the shit way he is doing.


As others said, ditch him now as it ain't gonna get better and he ain't gonna change.
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This online affair is not good. You can kill the attraction once u see the person in reality. My bull had it much..and he just left them all.
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Luckily with online sites you can accept or reject them before meeting. In the first 3 hours of meeting them online to talk once you catch someone's attention. Ask questions about them and I have done the whole vibe thing I oh why am I attracted to this person based on solely on conversation.


And then it hits off fairly quickly and next thing you meet then stuff just changes or it will continue because you do hit it off well or better than others.


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Posted by LadyNeptune
Ditch him and get back on that dating site and find the next skeevy guy to chase after and fuck off time on.
Yeah I think that's definitely what I need to do . Or basically what I have done already
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Posted by AgentP911
You already know this is not a match between you. You said it in your first bit about the fact you don't get on etc. It's been four months. That's enough to get to know spmeone and how things might be in the long term future with them.


What do you see in this man? Just because you've been dating for four months it doesn't mean it has to continue. It can end.


Is this a man you would want to be with fur another year or even the next 40 years? I don't think so.


He entertains you because you allow him to entertain you and treat you in the shit way he is doing.


As others said, ditch him now as it ain't gonna get better and he ain't gonna change.




Very true .I just needed to hear it again.. We're both in our 30s and I know that people don't change that significantly..hey really sold me a dream in the beginning so it's hard not to think that person still somewhere down in there ..


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Posted by Harukka
"you're a bad cookiemonster and I have to control you "


Is this even real ??

how can u handle him, and think that hr loves you with this shyt.
I have no idea.. things were so good in the beginning which I know was not that long ago..idk part of it's entertaining and part of it is just been single for so long and not quite knowing what to expect ..
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Posted by brandyp
Posted by Harukka
"you're a bad cookiemonster and I have to control you "


Is this even real ??

how can u handle him, and think that hr loves you with this shyt.
This was the worst part to me. The fact that he is trying to compete with you or hold you down in some way is such a turn off. It would INFURIATE me if a guy said this to me.


Like who gave him the power to decide to control you!!? It's emotional manipulation and you should cut him off when he does this. Stop calling him when you know he is intentionally ignoring you.


Clearly you know you don't need to be dealing with this guy and you should just move on. How is he gunna have some other female sleeping over bc she needs a place, but when you need to stay over he won't let you. That's bullshit and you know it.

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Exactly !! I feel like he made things so fucking bad that I can talk to me if I wanted to Simply due to dignity. He so disrespectful and he truly doesn't see it. It's super crazy cause just a week ago he was super upset talking about he thinks I have other options and it's a turn off ..he tryd to lecture me for an hour about self respect and how he thought were exclusive..i'm not talking to anybody but him

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My bull and I had a conversation with all our past exes. Like I said he had many online affairs that end up dont wanting them but sex thing and he made it clear. Only needy woman catched him and pursue after telling the what he really look for.


Me: darling, I dont get a man's perspective

If he only want a s.e.x thing then there's lots of prosti and am sure they can entertain a man's needs.


Him: right. Why go on dating site if it wont last than expected. When I see them personally it is not what I expected them because I was very clear on what I want and they switch on for wanting a relationship.


Me: of course darling women ruled by emotion.

Men ruled by their c.o.c.k.


Laghing both:-)

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So o.p what do you look for?
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Posted by M143
So o.p what do you look for?
This is my post

Well a little bit about myself, I consider myself an artist I love to paint as a hobby as well as interior decorate. I love learning ,exploring ,and just becoming more cultured and diverse. I'm into astronomy and I love learning new things about history and archaeology as well. I'm also a devout Christian and I go to church regularly .


A fun day for me would include great food, nice wine, an a amazing conversation. If this sounds like something you can get wit you know what to do ? smile


I try to weed out the dudes by only talking to guys who are educated,that specify that they're looking for relationship, and enjoy similar things .. Most guys that ain't shit steer away from my profile because it seems like a lot of work for someone who's just looking for some P .. But I guess some guys like a challenge
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Actually same thing going on now with me... I have an Aqua that is trying to keep me tided down as she is figuring it out. I believe it is all tied to transits. Uranus going retro in Aries... As well as Venus... and Mars... If you new his full chart it would be easier to see what is going on. This is why I like astrology it helps cut through the bs. I have honestly been telling the Aqua astrology as and before things do what they do... I have just blocked her on facebook after telling her to call me or do something... I am not going to just sit her and that she needs to tell the other guy. It is obvious there is something... The full moon is coming in Aqua... I expect news by then or right after... If not I will not speak to her anymore... It is bad because she is in my industry... and around a mutual social network. I basically said I can either see you or be just a friend... She starts stating he is not her boyfriend and it is fresh and new...


I believe with transits she will want to see but who know I could be wrong... You see aqua... Risings which I am and she is sun... will be dealing with 7th house issues... The house of partner ship... even if she only has part of the house expect 8th house is very much there...


I am not happy about it but I am riding out the transits because I believe it is a karmatic meeting... it will be closer or much more... I am not going to force her. You may consider telling him be better do something now or you are going to move on... and you need to see it and feel it.


The Mercury retro grade will hit on the 29 but this is the shadow as the issue before the Mercury fully hits...


YOU see people this how you use astrology to relate and how these forums should be used


Good luck


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Posted by Robinray84sag
Posted by M143
So o.p what do you look for?
This is my post

Well a little bit about myself, I consider myself an artist I love to paint as a hobby as well as interior decorate. I love learning ,exploring ,and just becoming more cultured and diverse. I'm into astronomy and I love learning new things about history and archaeology as well. I'm also a devout Christian and I go to church regularly .


A fun day for me would include great food, nice wine, an a amazing conversation. If this sounds like something you can get wit you know what to do ? smile


I try to weed out the dudes by only talking to guys who are educated,that specify that they're looking for relationship, and enjoy similar things .. Most guys that ain't shit steer away from my profile because it seems like a lot of work for someone who's just looking for some P .. But I guess some guys like a challenge
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What's crazy is the comment about most guys that accuse women of cheating are usually the cheaters is something I always say.. I guess it's easier said than done . But I'm definitely moving on the shenanigans were entertaining for a bit and I was willing to work through some of our differences .. But other girls hell naw!!! I can't even compete with a woman like that ..I could never be in a position to relinquish as much power as a women of that stature is doing for him..if that's the type of broad he likes we have nothing in common

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Posted by brandyp
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Posted by brandyp
Posted by Harukka
"you're a bad cookiemonster and I have to control you "


Is this even real ??

how can u handle him, and think that hr loves you with this shyt.
This was the worst part to me. The fact that he is trying to compete with you or hold you down in some way is such a turn off. It would INFURIATE me if a guy said this to me.


Like who gave him the power to decide to control you!!? It's emotional manipulation and you should cut him off when he does this. Stop calling him when you know he is intentionally ignoring you.


Clearly you know you don't need to be dealing with this guy and you should just move on. How is he gunna have some other female sleeping over bc she needs a place, but when you need to stay over he won't let you. That's bullshit and you know it.



Exactly !! I feel like he made things so fucking bad that I can talk to me if I wanted to Simply due to dignity. He so disrespectful and he truly doesn't see it. It's super crazy cause just a week ago he was super upset talking about he thinks I have other options and it's a turn off ..he tryd to lecture me for an hour about self respect and how he thought were exclusive..i'm not talking to anybody but him

In my experience, the guys that are accusing their gf of cheating when they aren't doing anything wrong are the guys that are the ones that are cheating. They try to reverse mindfuck the girl and end up mindfucking themselves by becoming so paranoid. Just drop him, he's cheating on you. I know it's hard, but you have to be strong. You will be doing better in the long run!!


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What's crazy is the comment about most guys that accuse women of cheating are usually the cheaters is something I always say.. I guess it's easier said than done . But I'm definitely moving on the shenanigans were entertaining for a bit and I was willing to work through some of our differences .. But other girls hell naw!!! I can't even compete with a woman like that ..I could never be in a position to relinquish as much power as a women of that stature is doing for him..if that's the type of broad he likes we have nothing in common

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O.p, you are a great lady. So dont settle for less. Work out your life first. Build yourself. When my ec bull and I broke up. I set my target to build a house. And I did it. Now we are back, he is just a bonus. I do paint too.he bought my painting stuff last night. Good luck. Love will find you and not the way around.

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Posted by Robinray84sag
Posted by AgentP911
You already know this is not a match between you. You said it in your first bit about the fact you don't get on etc. It's been four months. That's enough to get to know spmeone and how things might be in the long term future with them.


What do you see in this man? Just because you've been dating for four months it doesn't mean it has to continue. It can end.


Is this a man you would want to be with fur another year or even the next 40 years? I don't think so.


He entertains you because you allow him to entertain you and treat you in the shit way he is doing.


As others said, ditch him now as it ain't gonna get better and he ain't gonna change.




Very true .I just needed to hear it again.. We're both in our 30s and I know that people don't change that significantly..hey really sold me a dream in the beginning so it's hard not to think that person still somewhere down in there ..


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I'm not convinced he sold you a dream. You met a few years ago and he wasn't ready. Fair enough. He kept your number, contacted you, you both dated and it's been four months of getting to know each other.


It's not his fault he doesn't live up to the expectation or fantasy you had of how he would be or hoped he would be. He's shown you exactly who he is and what he's about.


It's your decision to continue with it as it is or to call it a day and move on. Four months isn't significantly invested so it's no great loss.


I'm 36 and no we don't change. If we don't know who we are by our 30's then God help us!


You may be clinging onto him as its a safer or easier option than starting again to find someone new. Don't do that either.
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