Please help with your advice my Taurus friends.

My question is why does my taurus man friend (friend with benefits) offers to do things for me and then disappears and pops up here and there. Is it because he is seeing other girls or he doesn't really like me? I really like him and he knows it. He tells me he doesn't want a relationship but why is he so mean and goes off on me when I mess up & acts like he is concern at other times. He is taurus, I'm a Sagittarius woman

what does treetrunk mean?

I really don't know what is treetrunk?
can you please tell me?

Posted by TicaLinda
I really don't know what is treetrunk?
can you please tell me?

It's the censor on this website. Treetrunk= sexual relations. And it's true. We like our FWB, but why are you concerned about what he feels? You are in a FWB that you KNOWINGLY went into, right? Don't get your hopes up. If Taurus means FWB, we mean FWB and nothing else. Don't take the friendly gestures as anything serious. We're just nice, humble people.

@TicaLinda....

Sags are known for cutting straight through the chase.

Tell us what you're really looking for.

If we're getting this indirect message.
So is he...

The sooner you figure this out, you will get a concrete answer (black or white, yes or no), not an abstract perspective of your gray-clouded FWB relationship.

Yes I have asked to be in a relationship with me. But he said he doesn't want that right now in his life. we can be FWB. He is really nice to me when he wants to be, but can also disappear when he wants to also. Sometimes he acts like he cares and there times he tells me he don't care so I feel confused. From me I already know what I want, and it's to be with him but I don't blow him up or ask too many questions. I only go with the flow. Me too if he say something mean (but really being blunt) I tend to stay away to. but from him he just wants to be friends. I'm hoping it would turn into a relationship. He's in my life, comes to my house, my kids live with me, does things around the house like if he was my man. has met my friends. but I haven't met none of his friends or family. never seen a picture of his kids. only from the day we met and on is all I know of him. I know he's divorced and has two kids, and we both love to smoke weed.

Kupochun, Yes you guys are really nice guys I can see it in his actions. He does have a big heart, gives me good advice here & there. TB1977 I seem to upset him everytime I bring that up and says to enjoy the moment why ruin it so I stay quiet. I guess deep inside of me I would love to be a relationship and be exclusive. I don't even cheat on him now and we are FWB. I have a feeling the day I say I have another guy friend around is the day he will stop coming around. I don't want to ruin my chances if I have any. I'm head over heels for him, but he acts as if nothing, normal. don't talk much of his side of his life. So I just enjoy the time we share. Try to make him feel as comfortable as much as possible.

Impulsv So I'm stuck in the FWB zone and have no hope? There have been times where I want to stop talking to him because I hurt myself more than he cares. He can be pretty mean. so I'm going thur a moment where I haven't talked to him in 6 days and he hasn't called me either cause it goes both ways. I hurt myself more and he doesn't even care cause I'm in the FWB ZONE. I don't even know how I got there? I like him some much, I could almost say I love him. Haven't said it to him directly yet. that's why I wanna — I have no idea cause I don't want to him loose him either.

Thanks Chica Impulsv, I appreciate ur answer.

See this is what happens with FWB, feelings get involved, clearly he is playing the part well, but you have been acting more like you guys are in a relationship, how?

By u introducing him to friends and family, when he hasn't done the same for you, then u asked him to be in a relationship with you and he said he's not ready, so the answer is no, so since you can't handle the FWB, you need to leave the situation before you get hurt

Posted by robyn808
This is the fucking example your setting for your children?

Your too old to be asking these questions and you have too many responsibilities to be playing these fucking games!

I agree with that^ +1000000

Posted by TicaLinda
He can be pretty mean.

Translation: Mean = Direct.

Sags are more mutuable and a little more abstract in the realms of love. Friends evolve to FWB, and then eventually a relationship. Bulls are not that abstract in regards to the matters of the heart. The gradual process/slow moving Bull is only applicable if there is some level of courtship involved. The shaded areas are not tangible or concrete enough to pursue anything substantial. So expect directness or any verbal diahhrea from this man.

There was never a courtship between you and this Bull.

I'm not going to judge you. I actually appreciate your candidness in regards to to your situation with your Bull. But I doubt he will pursue a relationship with you. He's rigid. Set in his ways. Stubborn. If it aint broke don't try and fix it type of Bull.

As for the kind gestures, it's in his innate trait/nature to be thoughful. Tauruses are built that way. Don't put much thought into it.

I would have to agree with the other posters. Remove yourself. FAST!

Just out of curiosity TicaLinda, when exactly did you try to solidify your position with this Bull, in the beginning, mid-setup, or after you were emotionally invested in him?

Posted by TicaLinda
My question is why does my taurus man friend (friend with benefits) offers to do things for me and then disappears and pops up here and there. Is it because he is seeing other girls or he doesn't really like me? I really like him and he knows it. He tells me he doesn't want a relationship but why is he so mean and goes off on me when I mess up & acts like he is concern at other times. He is taurus, I'm a Sagittarius woman

Seeing other girl

I really appreciate your answers. I guess from my part I have stronger feelings towards him than he does me, I have asked to be in a relationship since the beginning and and the answer still remains the same. I have hope that maybe he'll change his mind but he is pretty stubborn. I have tried to break it off here and there and so has he. But if I'm not the one coming back, it's him so we both are like yo-yo's I come to you guys hoping I can get some insight to this. I believe in the end I will get more hurt than he would. I guess accept things as is and take the good for the good and the bad for the bad. We've been seeing each other for 2yrs now. But I don't want to let go, I really like him alot!! I want to say I love him alot.