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Sep 07, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 497 · Topics: 31
Hey my fellow taureans!
So I am in the process of letting go of someone I care for. What are some ways yall refocus on yourself or what do you do get over a person?
I usually travel or exercise but this time is a hard one for me.
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Feb 25, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 388 · Topics: 50
Kind of depends though, is he/she a friend, your SO, your ex? How bad is the damage?
In my opinion, you should focus on yourself and the ones who genuinely care about you. Go out with your friends, spend some alone time, spend time with your family and just keep yourself busy.
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Mar 15, 2013Comments: 0 · Posts: 3979 · Topics: 6
1. get the hell out of their physical space to where you can't see them, read them, hear them, smell them if possible. I find, though it is hard for us to move on, we are so sensual, and someone's complete physical absence really helps us to get over it. Don't do the friend thing.
2. work out, get in shape, build self-confidence. This has been key to my getting over someone. It is so good for boosting mood and self-esteem, empowering you - especially given how vain we Venusians can be.
3. if all else fails, find a worthy rebound to re-focus on. I've always been against this, but in my later years, I find it kinda works. Does anyone really heal anyway? Or do they just forget with time and distraction?
Oh, also you could meditate, seek God through various spiritual practices, work on your issues, etc.
Most people don't have the patience for that though.
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Jun 20, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 3847 · Topics: 1
I just commented on another post about getting some distance from the person. It really does help significantly. That is physically, texts, email etc. The less communication the better. Or certainly longer periods between seeing or communicating with them. For me, the silence or distance helps keep things in perspective, helps regulate emotions, keeps a clear head. If that person is in your face every day or you're waiting for them to respond back to emails, calls or texts then it can feel like a constant roller coaster. A few weeks of nothing helps you feel better and after a few weeks it's easier to just keep going but you have to be disciplined and not reach out.
If agree with the work out thing. Bodies and minds can always be improved. Also shedding the extra 10lbs helps!!
Funnily enough I think a rebound thing can work or a one nighter. It does take your mind and refocus elsewhere. Just ensure you see it for what it is. I don't think people ever heal regardless of the amount of time you give yourself. What I would say is try not to bring past issues into anything new you start. You may think you're fine but those issues do creep in so give yourself some breathing space and then when you find someone new you might have a better chance.
All the above is applied to me right now so it's a 'note to self' too!
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Oct 29, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 16583 · Topics: 222
Letting go is the hardest.. I even get sick cause I stress when I shouldn't be. So when I do stress then maybe switch to chill music, a glass of wine, maybe bake something, and a few classes to better yourself..it's ok to be single after devastation...
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Sep 07, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 497 · Topics: 31
Thanks guys for ur suggestions n advice! I will soak it in.
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