Should I be worried about my Taurus and his Scorpio

I've been hanging out with a Taurus for a while however I know he used to be madly in love with one of his female friends, a Scorpio. As much as I don't deny his interest in me, I am constantly insecure that I will never own up to their bond. He has mentioned he no longer likes her, however they are still friends and I cannot shake off my worries. Do Taurus' have a hard time getting over past crushes?

You definitely should worry.Taurus-scorpio connection is something you can't look past or just ignore.It's a weird combo to start with.I dunno if they can be just friends. He may never just stop loving her though he may say or show otherwise. N Taurus do have a very hard time getting over relationships.As @XxxAliciaxxx mentioned, Scorpios just know the right thing to do if ever she wants him back.

Posted by brandyp
No need to hate the scorp over this, you can think whatever you want about the girl but she is not the problem. Taurus is generally honest so if he says he like you, he likes you. They are also very loyal friends so if he is friends with the scorp girl that may be something to consider. He is probably fiercly loyal to you as well, just as he is to all his friends. if it really bothers you then I guess you have to say something. Just make sure you come across as logical and have clear thinking and concrete reasoning.

This is my exact reasoning for not mentioning something to him. I respect their relationship because they have been friends for many years, and if it were the other way around I would be offended if someone questioned a long-time friendship of mine. I guess in the end I worry more about the Scorp girl who seems to have a much more powerful hold on him than I ever will, and what she is willing to do with those powers..

No I don't have a hard time getting over old crushes. I get over them in 2-3weeks. We're troopers.

Posted by StarLeonine
I've been hanging out with a Taurus for a while however I know he used to be madly in love with one of his female friends, a Scorpio. As much as I don't deny his interest in me, I am constantly insecure that I will never own up to their bond. He has mentioned he no longer likes her, however they are still friends and I cannot shake off my worries. Do Taurus' have a hard time getting over past crushes?

THIS IS RIDICULOUS. HE USED TO BE MADLY IN LOVE WITH HER ?? AND NOW SUDDENLY HE'S NOT BUT THEY'RE STILL FRIENDS. NAH NAH NAH AND NAH! SO BEYOND UNACCEPTABLE. BREAK UP WITH HIM, YA PLAYING YOURSELF.

IF HE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO, HE'D BANG HER BRAINS OUT, SAVE YOURSELF BEFORE THE WATER WORKS COMES, YOUR PILLOW DID NOTING TO DESERVE THAT

the bond between our signs
is undeniable. i would watch
if i were you.

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Some soup connections are meant to be freindship. Don't need to feel like a competition but rather a different kind. Love can be of the spiritual kind surpassing romance

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Posted by brandyp
No need to hate the scorp over this, you can think whatever you want about the girl but she is not the problem. Taurus is generally honest so if he says he like you, he likes you. They are also very loyal friends so if he is friends with the scorp girl that may be something to consider. He is probably fiercly loyal to you as well, just as he is to all his friends. if it really bothers you then I guess you have to say something. Just make sure you come across as logical and have clear thinking and concrete reasoning.

This is my exact reasoning for not mentioning something to him. I respect their relationship because they have been friends for many years, and if it were the other way around I would be offended if someone questioned a long-time friendship of mine. I guess in the end I worry more about the Scorp girl who seems to have a much more powerful hold on him than I ever will, and what she is willing to do with those powers..

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I love soup connections.

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Posted by brandyp
No need to hate the scorp over this, you can think whatever you want about the girl but she is not the problem. Taurus is generally honest so if he says he like you, he likes you. They are also very loyal friends so if he is friends with the scorp girl that may be something to consider. He is probably fiercly loyal to you as well, just as he is to all his friends. if it really bothers you then I guess you have to say something. Just make sure you come across as logical and have clear thinking and concrete reasoning.

This is my exact reasoning for not mentioning something to him. I respect their relationship because they have been friends for many years, and if it were the other way around I would be offended if someone questioned a long-time friendship of mine. I guess in the end I worry more about the Scorp girl who seems to have a much more powerful hold on him than I ever will, and what she is willing to do with those powers..

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If she wanted him then they'd be together and you wouldn't be in the picture. As it is, she's probably grateful for your presence in his life as she doesn't have to deal with the awkwardness of his crush.

I think your going about this the wrong way. Tell him you want all three of y'all to hang out so you can get to know her, since she's such an important part of his life. Befriend the Scorpio. Get her on your side as an ally rooting for the success of your relationship.

Ahhh but how I've already tried. I make a conscious effort to be nice and friendly towards her and she is very short and almost rude in return, clearly wants no part in my friendship. I assume she senses my presence as a threat. Either way I will continue to be nothing but nice to her.

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Posted by StarLeonine
I've been hanging out with a Taurus for a while however I know he used to be madly in love with one of his female friends, a Scorpio. As much as I don't deny his interest in me, I am constantly insecure that I will never own up to their bond. He has mentioned he no longer likes her, however they are still friends and I cannot shake off my worries. Do Taurus' have a hard time getting over past crushes?

run to the hills, Scorpio probably with manipulate things and soon your life will be ruin, just be careful, Scorpio don't like to let go

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i see cancers dont like to
let go either. again with
the scorpio generalizing.
why every post you have
has scorpio in it? obsessed?

take that one who hurt you
and lay it on them. not all.

I suppose the only thing I can do is keep (at least on the outside) a neutral perspective on all this, despite if it worries me behind closed doors

Posted by TachibanaSan
the bond between our signs
is undeniable. i would watch
if i were you.

You've been warned my dear. I'm sure you can do better than this taurus anyway, he seems like a player.. pretending that they're just friends. Bologna

either you trust your partner or you don't. if you don't consider him trustworthy, what are you doing being with him?

Fact: Matured Scorpio don't like going backwards... broken relationships in the past was just the past. We don't amend or trying to be with an ex.

False: Scorpio hang out with an ex?... lol ( something is going on).

OP, It's just one thing to consider but it's another thing to approach your guy. I don't believe they are just friends. Nah

We asked too many questions(including manipulation) to validate our reason to make up with an ex BUT mostly we don't..no hang outs. never. lol

I think taurus men has a problem of having their possession back. hahaha.

Op, I am more worried about you.

Taurus men are that B!!tch. 😉

Someone is up to no good.

So we got home wreckers those are the worst types. Lol..But if we are just friends then you're just friends can't judge....and there can be competitiveness about to pick which girl gets the guy...Taurus or Scorpions the heat is on! When it's causing problems trying to keep attention to be interested in you then it's like chasing someone who you aren't compatible with. .

But taurus and Scorpions are fixed so if we are fighting for the same guy once we find out.. probably look at each other and be like piece out, don't like playing game of attention or pick me games. Because I'm just going to stand there and then move to a different location where I can go eat and chill..

wait...i thought bulls were supposed to be loyal—?

Not loyal to someone who makes it a mission to cross lines between guys. I'll let you go and detach before fighting over some guy as taurus vs Scorpions to Leo or whom ever the funk it is. It is a guy in this scenario. . A taurus will not stay in this type of drama.

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Posted by StarLeonine
I've been hanging out with a Taurus for a while however I know he used to be madly in love with one of his female friends, a Scorpio. As much as I don't deny his interest in me, I am constantly insecure that I will never own up to their bond. He has mentioned he no longer likes her, however they are still friends and I cannot shake off my worries. Do Taurus' have a hard time getting over past crushes?

Are u both in a relationship yet?

Casually dating/ platonic friends hanging out?

What is the status?

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The Taurus and the Scorp have been strictly friends, he has expressed his deep feelings for her and she has denied them roughly a year ago. They do not see each other as much as before but still talk pretty frequently. In the past however they used to spend every waking moment together. I can only imagine how good that hold on him must have felt for the Scorp.. doesn't seem like something she would wanna give up in a "doesn't want him but doesn't want anyone else to have him either" type of way.

The Taurus and I started hanging out as platonic friends last year but over the course of the last 4-5 months have slowly evolved to more (yes, at the typical glacial Taurus pace..). Casual dates but still spending alot of time together on weekends. No official status has been set but it's pretty obvious to our entire social circle that him and I are a "thing"

A taurus that is sensitive and young will stay loyal to no end though but will quickly wise the funk up sometime later in life. Yes loyal to a fault.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
A taurus that is sensitive and young will stay loyal to no end though but will quickly wise the funk up sometime later in life. Yes loyal to a fault.

so loyal to his partner or not? busy says they will stray if something better comes along?

I put myself as an example. I was cheated on I never side eyed other men nor felt like getting revenge. I left after 6 years and already knew I wouldn't take crappie situations ever.. That's why I say loyal to the end. Till they push us to the breaking point even if I saw my ex cheating on me physically with my eyes. I was still loyal and faithful at a young age. I am still the same person haha I'm fixed but I don't tolerate too much. I stay loyal till there is a reason to detach.

@Jeane- Why would some one compare someone else if they're not ready or in a relationship already. Once I am in a relationship I'm not going anywhere. If in the friendship process you say I want to see my options before settling down then you don't get my loyalty. You get friend zoned and I move to someone else who is looking for what I need

@Busyeyes88- Like whoa don't want to see you blow your cool. Haha.

Haha a 2 out of 10 rating. But it's never about the looks with taurus. .

I don't want popular ones I get them very often..they can't be tamed

They have too many options to compete with or for. Bow out gracefully.

Star I suggest that you be very careful with giving this man your heart because deep down his heart is with the Scorpio. He'd drop you in a hot second if he thought he could be with the Scorpio.

He's still hung up on her and NO he will not admit that to you because he does not want to appear weak over her.

If she rejected him and he's still in her life it's because deep down he could not accept the rejection and opted to keep in contact most likely secretly holding on to her with the hope that he'll wear her down and she'll reciprocate at some point.

I don't know if you're casually dating other men but you might want to take it easy on this one because he's emotionally unavailable and please don't ASSUME you two are an item just because you're both together a lot, huge mistake in making that kind of assumption. Unless you hear him verbally tell you he's dating you exclusively he's not yours just yet.

Don't close down your options for a man who has not CHOSE you as his one and only or you're at risk of being stuck in love all by yourself and that is one of the worst positions a woman can put herself in. It's miserable. Be careful.

@Busyeyes88- my nerves can be from 0-100, lol.. so I know how that must be like. I have VENUS in Taurus yeah physical attraction is sorta important though.

Like there's already issues with George and Amil..lol..

Posted by tiki33
Star I suggest that you be very careful with giving this man your heart because deep down his heart is with the Scorpio. He'd drop you in a hot second if he thought he could be with the Scorpio.

He's still hung up on her and NO he will not admit that to you because he does not want to appear weak over her.

If she rejected him and he's still in her life it's because deep down he could not accept the rejection and opted to keep in contact most likely secretly holding on to her with the hope that he'll wear her down and she'll reciprocate at some point.

I don't know if you're casually dating other men but you might want to take it easy on this one because he's emotionally unavailable and please don't ASSUME you two are an item just because you're both together a lot, huge mistake in making that kind of assumption. Unless you hear him verbally tell you he's dating you exclusively he's not yours just yet.

Don't close down your options for a man who has not CHOSE you as his one and only or you're at risk of being stuck in love all by yourself and that is one of the worst positions a woman can put herself in. It's miserable. Be careful.

Thank you! Some of the more logical and structured advice I have seen on here. You seem to have grasped everything I am suspicious of and I can agree that putting all my eggs in one basket would be silly, if not just downright delusional. If a relationship seems to be blossoming more out of competition than actual organic feeling, it probably isn't built to last anyway.

Meh good for you. Next February 2016 isn't for taurus so I heard.

I'm going to say 2 years max of marriage then a hefty divorce too.

@Busyeyes88- What do you think, have you ever seen a long term taurus relationship with anyone that last 5 years or more?

I would caution you to be careful and cautiously aware of the situation. While I can't stand female Tauruses there is a special bond between Scorpios/Tauruses, especially if they are of the opposite sex. The main reason why the same sex ones can run into terrible situations is because we are opposites on the wheel. We see what we lack in the other, and the similarities and can cause trouble. Scorpio Woman/Taurus Woman etc you get the idea. It's all or nothing.

On that note you mentioned her reaction to you. I admit that when I met new people, I'm blunt and don't talk much. I spend that time assessing and looking. And if I find them wanting I don't give them another look. There's no reason to pursue a friendship if I can't see a life bond forming or if they bore me and especially if they aren't intelligent.

I will also admit that I've had guy friends where I liked them a little more then friends but decided not to pursue it because of other reasons. Or I'm slowly deciding if it's worth it. However if a rival appears I will make my move out of fear of the relationship being taken from me cursing that I was moving too slow to make a move. I've done that only once and it was with my Aqua ex. I started focusing only on schooling he got distracted by another Aqua. ( It's a long unneeded story)

I doubt this is the case because she has yet to make a move with the appearance of you. Still I'm not sure that you should stick around him at this pace. He could be using you as backup, a way to get her attention, etc Glacial pace is one thing but I'm not sure that that is all to this story.

@Busyeyes88- Yeah it's complex dating. The longest was with an Aries 6 years, after that I only had about 3 dates within few years span apart, always did something like go to school and work...I'm single long time too not really sure if I am missing out on much. Everyone at work knows me and I'm single, picky, and will only get married once if it happens..

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@Busyeyes88- Yeah it's complex dating. The longest was with an Aries 6 years, after that I only had about 3 dates within few years span apart, always did something like go to school and work...I'm single long time too not really sure if I am missing out on much. Everyone at work knows me and I'm single, picky, and will only get married once if it happens..

As you know I love deep soul level eight house deep and intend to hold out for someone who can love and be intimate on that level.

I feel it is possible when I look into the eyes of the Taurus crush and he has twelfth house venus and Saturn and my placements are venus and Saturn in venus so I feel I can with him but he (in my mind) need to put up the barriers between him and his ex which he said he will do beg this year and that's the shit he is sorting out amongst other things... So will hold my corner and "wait it out" as only a taurus knows how... The "taurus way"!

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i don't know busy...if my bull told me i had to give up my friends to be with him that would be a huge red flag for me. frankly that level of needing to control me would frighten me off. is this wise?

Whatever you do, just be careful and extra aware.

When he says he was in love with her, that's the first warning. As his head might still be twisted around her, and so therefore unavailable emotionally.

For me personally, if that's the case I stay away because I feel like their heart already belongs to someone else. Whether it's an ex or crush, there's always the possibility of being dropped for the one who they truly belong to.

Not saying that is the situation, but again just be on guard so to speak.

He seems pretty honest and direct, many guys would have withheld that information. I say to trust your instincts.

Ride or die chick

@Busyeyes88- My Venus is Taurus and so is my 12th house in Taurus .. so if anything happens in my life I wouldn't necessary want things that were harmful or any drama situations because I feel it should be taken care of at the time we meet and it's been expressed that there's nothing to worry about, that we do hold on to objects, things, and people..

So if sometimes I get out of one and then automatically think of the past person and if I have the number I'll hit you back. But that is only IF I know you are still single type of thing. If I go back to my past I often shoot myself later because I forgot why we didn't work in the first place. Then a certain trait or behaviour resurfaces I'll be like oh this is why this isn't meant to be, be just friends type of thing and go find someone not from the past.

@Sensitiveblues- Ride with me let's go eat somewhere.. You are a ride or die chick.

@Greywiz- I don't meet Leo males the ones I've seen online 90 have kids and are controlling, a certain tone they have when the type their stuff out. It's already the way they sound, the vibes you get from reading a profile helps me out. So I was feel intimidated by that because if there's someone who is more controlling than I will clash at times and be too stubborn to work out.

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Posted by StarLeonine
I've been hanging out with a Taurus for a while however I know he used to be madly in love with one of his female friends, a Scorpio. As much as I don't deny his interest in me, I am constantly insecure that I will never own up to their bond. He has mentioned he no longer likes her, however they are still friends and I cannot shake off my worries. Do Taurus' have a hard time getting over past crushes?

Do Taurus have a hard time getting over past crushes? Yes, normally this rings true. It also depends on their other placements like Venus and moon. I wouldn't trust a female scorpio friend being friends with my ex if she was showing any sign that she can't be trusted. Like insisting on spending one on one time with my boyfriend. Actually, I wouldn't trust ANY female sign if they did that. However bad Scorpios can be quite sneaky and manipulative. They know how to say and do the right things in order to get what they want. If he didn't like her anymore he wouldn't be friends with her anymore so that doesn't even make sense. If it makes you uncomfortable he needs to take your feelings into consideration. How would he feel if you were still friends with an ex? Probably not too good. I don't know, this situation personally rubs me the wrong way and he's not even my boyfriend.

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Scorpio here. What can I say- if that girl isn't interest in him, there's nothing to worry about. And if you didn't trust scorpio on that and tried to interfere their communication... you would experience what does it mean when scorpio fights for someone they consider to be theirs. I know that I would fight for my friend like my life depended on that and my argument would be he is my friend, I know him longer and iggaf if you trust me or not- if you don't you're free to leave, I don't hold you back.

it's the eyes of the Scorpio women I think makes taurus men vulnerable. hahaha.

Posted by busyeyes88
She is not his friend she is an ex!! Sure I'm not asking him to cut ties just not to blur the line... They don't have to hang out as often as I think they do!! Besides he has told me he is very possessive... So what is good for the goose is good for the gander....

I have friends but no exes hanging on to my ankle and posting pics on FB pretending like we are a couple!!! So the lines in his exes case are blurred and she needs to move on!!! Be a friend but don't pretend they are a couple...

can an ex not be a friend?

all this screams to me is that you have no confidence in yourself, in the strength of your connection with him and no confidence in him to see you are a better deal.

seriously, who cares what she posts on fb? isn't what is important is the reality of the relationship that you have? the promises you have made to each other and the actions that he is changing his life to fit you in?

are you really going to throw that back in his face because of what some random woman posted on facebook?

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She is not his friend she is an ex!! Sure I'm not asking him to cut ties just not to blur the line... They don't have to hang out as often as I think they do!! Besides he has told me he is very possessive... So what is good for the goose is good for the gander....

I have friends but no exes hanging on to my ankle and posting pics on FB pretending like we are a couple!!! So the lines in his exes case are blurred and she needs to move on!!! Be a friend but don't pretend they are a couple...

can an ex not be a friend?

all this screams to me is that you have no confidence in yourself, in the strength of your connection with him and no confidence in him to see you are a better deal.

seriously, who cares what she posts on fb? isn't what is important is the reality of the relationship that you have? the promises you have made to each other and the actions that he is changing his life to fit you in?

are you really going to throw that back in his face because of what some random woman posted on facebook?

Thanks for the advice Jeane. I have calmed down now...

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that's ok. we all have times of doubt.

just remember, like i think you have has said before; they are exes for a reason! have faith in him that he is smart enough to know what he has in you. if he does, you need never have to worry about another woman again.

if he doesn't then he doesn't deserve you! let him go, he'll be doing you a favour.