Silent treatment no 2#

I will try to sum it up as much as possible ~~ last time we saw each other was in another city. 2 weeks ago.. He was very happy to see me and even said " awww don't cry i know its been hard....give me a big hug " during the whole weekend... he tried his very best not to be with me ( physically) as he claimed it would be too hard if we were to get attached again and go back to our lives ( different cities)..he said it will be harder and harder because he was also in pain the first time we had to leave each other... He kept bringing up the distance.. he said " trust me " i'm doing it for us...i'm doing it for you...i'm doing it for me"... the whole weekend... not even one kiss....coz he was TOO STUBBORN ...my friend saw he was looking at me while i was dancing with another guy...he looked at us..then looked away...then looked at us again then looked away...like he wanted to be with me but couldn't... last day i asked him to drop me off and he did....... we held hands and finally a big patch on the lips saying good bye........ when i left.. i sent him a text saying " I will detach my self from now on and get back to reality "... since that message....i didn't contact him for 7 days...then I finally did...sent him a song...then nothing...few days later.... called...silence....today..texted...silence...~~ everyone that i spoke to said that i did the wrong thing....and my message came across like i never wanted to talk to him again.....when he was holding my hands i also said i was planning not to contact him again when I go back....he said nothing......

now the question is how do i turn a stubborn bull to finally talking to me again 😢 because i know he's trying to make me eat my words.. 😢...plz help !

this is going to be a tough one...>< i wish i could be with him physically....it will be so much easier to win a bull over that way....(affection...affection) 😢

and why did you txt him that? He is obviously pissed......i think the practical part of him is like "this is NOT going to work" but the lovey-dovey bull side is like "I WANT HER" he is (was) torn apart. Like he is constantly reminding himself that he cant be with you (physically) but when he is alone with you (the car ride) he caved in and you guys held hands, kissed and stuff. He clearly wasnt sure where he stood when you were in the big picture (unsure) but when you txted him saying that you pushed him away 😢 so hes giving you the silent treatment....thinking that, thats what you think is the best too...you screwed up (sorry if im being harsh, my opinion)

Oh dear, this is one of those situations that scream "read a mans actions, not his words". He is ignoring you, not for any reasons that your dubiously well meaning friends are citing in such a typically female way, but simply because you do not mean enough to him for him to act in any other way. Some time into the future, and hopefully not a very long time, you will have scraped this man of your conscious and will be able to look back and see all of his actions and words for what they truly were.

If someone that claimed to share a love connection with me did not contact me for one whole week despite received attempts to contact them ?? now except they were laying under a bus dead somewhere or were physically compromised and even in that case, I would expect them to hit reply with their last finger and type a simple SOS or put a message in a bottle and throw it into the nearest sea to get to me. My point is, you wouldn't do that to them, why tolerate? Sometimes silence isnt just silence. Message is clear. Close the chapter. You deserve much more respect. Good luck dear.

Thank you all for your responses. Maybe I am missing the big picture here. I would believe so that he doesn't want to be with me if I didn't see his action which spoke otherwise when we met. He clearly said he wants to be with me but it's the "distance" that's getting in the way. Or maybe just maybe it isn't. Maybe it's just his excuse of saying " move on" I am no longer interested in wanting to be with you again?? He brought up the fact that unless one of us move.... But it is impractical because we don't know how we will work in the long term so it is risky. One side of me is saying he's just a sensitive guy and was truly hurt from what I said. The other side of me is saying he's trying to tell me without words by showing me the cold treatment to hopefully help me move on all by my self... "get the hint" kind of situation. . . .

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Thank you all for your responses. Maybe I am missing the big picture here. I would believe so that he doesn't want to be with me if I didn't see his action which spoke otherwise when we met. He clearly said he wants to be with me but it's the "distance" that's getting in the way. Or maybe just maybe it isn't. Maybe it's just his excuse of saying " move on" I am no longer interested in wanting to be with you again?? He brought up the fact that unless one of us move.... But it is impractical because we don't know how we will work in the long term so it is risky. One side of me is saying he's just a sensitive guy and was truly hurt from what I said. The other side of me is saying he's trying to tell me without words by showing me the cold treatment to hopefully help me move on all by my self... "get the hint" kind of situation. . . .

Maybe Maybe Maybe. But get out of the details.
A) Is this making you happy or serving your soul?
If yes, pursue it.
If no, leave it behind.


Take control of this. Allow yourself to hurt, and force yourself to stop picking his actions apart. He's ignoring you and that's no good. Regain your pride, journal when you want to talk to him, and delete his number. And pray (:

The silence hurts. It does drive you mental. I do it often and now I realize I have to stop this behavior for myself. The last two weeks I tried three different forms of communication. . I have not heard one response . It's torning me apart but makes me think "less" of him. In other word he's pushing me away intentionally. So my quote now is " I left because you never ask me to stay". I have written things down. I don't deserve this treatment. He is intentionally doing this to push me away meaning he is not afraid to lose me. If however it is to punish me then he needs to learn that silence doesn't affect me. I am trying to discourage his behavior. Hope it works !!🙂

Yeah...Im a pro at giving the silent treatment. Not until it was done to me did I realize how abusive it was.

Like Ive said multiple times, my Taurus and I went silent on eachother for a year. The first thought was definitely that Im not a nessecity. I didnt think less of him because its always been my "go to" method in dealing with others...it all just taught me a lesson and gave me a better understanding of myself.

All I can say is...9 times out of 10, this wont be the last time youll hear from him, so try to find peace in knowing that.

@ Inana. I am with you 100 percent on that one. it has taught me to better understand myself and also how I have effected people with my dissapearing acts on numerous occasions. I with draw , I escape and mostly I AVOID . I do it alot to my family members. When things are uncertain or when I don't have the power to change things, I withdraw and try to focus on other things. It is coward but I am learning. It is my little baby step. It takes us a long time to really cut someone off our life for good if rarely ever. 🙂

My feelings for him go back and forth. One min I hate him for doing this to me but the next min I know why he is doing it because I also behave that way ! * sigh*