Sitting bull or Bull Shi-tter

I met a Taurus overseas a few months back, we flirted and exchanged a kiss but nothing more. We both continued our travels but stayed in contact and It just so happens we lived in the same country but a 10 hour drive apart.

So we both had returned home and Communication just seemed friendly but a little flirty, until one evening he called me and we chatted for nearly 2 hours. I wasn't sure if he was drunk because he kept saying things that didn't really make sense or kind of out of nowhere. Like at one point he started talking about how he talked to his sister about a girl that he met overseas but she lives interstate. I got the impression he was talking about me but he didn't say it out right so I wasn't sure. He also kept telling me to move to his state which is also why I thought he was drunk because I found it weird that he would mention it at least 8 times on the phone when in reality we didn't really know each other all too well. I did ask him if he had been drinking and he said no, so maybe he was just joking around and making conversation. But either way, the conversation made me feel like he was definitely interested.

After that communication was very bleak. Maybe a message or snapchat here and there, but nothing more or of value. I messaged him saying "have you gone shy or maybe I just got the wrong picture" to which he replied "haha no you didn't get the wrong picture. I will call you when I get home x". But he never called. I never mentioned anything to him about not calling and just figured he obviously wasn't interested and left it. I didn't want to make a big deal out of it, after all maybe he just looked at me as the girl he met overseas and nothing more, not realising that I had been thinking about him ever since.

So the other day he sent me a snapchat and we sent videos back and fourth, just being funny and stirring the other, as he had whinged about his long day, and I told him I needed "cry me a river" by JT on my playlist so I could play it for him. Just joking but in a fun and playful way. This went on for some time and then he sent me a message just saying "haha I miss your face and your tude" (as in attitude, and then put an emoji blowing a kiss) and then wrote "sleep tight idiot". I replied "haha maybe a QLD trip is in order. Night fool x".

And since then no communication. He sent me 2 snap chats today but they seemed like ones that he would have sent to others as well, so I just replied asking how he had scored the d

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so I just replied asking how he had scored the day off work and he replied "I had a few to many last night and slept through my alarm". There was nothing there for me to reply to so I left.

I've never had a guy be like this with me, so I figured that he wasn't interested. But then he does things like calls me (though it was only the one time) or says stuff like he miss's me or send's kiss faces. Now I think he is just playing some game to feed his ego?? Though, I'm not the biggest flirter so maybe that is why he has gone distant because he realises I won't stroke his ego or chase him so he has no use for me? Or is this just how Taurus men are, slow and hard to communicate?

Yeah, similar experience here with Taurus guy, went on for six months, I thought maybe he communicated when he was bored but it wasn't all at night time. I'm 8 hours ahead. I went with it. I never pushed to visit, he lead that one, he was making a plan to visit me but it got cancelled due to circumstances beyond his control. I offered to visit him and he seemed positive and happy.

I arrived and he didn't bother with me. I might as well have not gone. He denied that he'd said a lot of stuff too, stuff that had helped make my decision to go see him. It was a disaster yet the six months leading up to this seemed reasonably promising.

A few more calls would have been nice, I did experience the I'll call you but didn't thing but I just left it and we'd always pick up again later.

It did irritate as I'm very literal and if I say I'll call then I'll call but not everyone is like that. I have a flaky male friend, he's 42, Gemini, the amount of times he changes plan or doesn't call is unreal but I've known him for 14 years and I don't give him shit about it, I just go with the flow. So I used to treat this Taurus guy in the same manner and not get bothered by it. I'd say to myself, if that was my flaky mate would I feel pissed off? No.

What I would say is don't hope for anything. Be practical and logical with your approach and decisions. Be realistic. See him as someone you met while away who you're just enjoying occasional banter with because that is what it is.

When you start hoping for more and he doesn't act as you want him to or deliver what you want him to then you'll be disappointed.

Let him lead and come to you, if that is on the cards at some point in the future. Spend this time just getting to know him rather than the idea of him. You may find you don't like him as much as you think you do.

If you have Scorp Venus then avoid becoming obsessive about him or the situation. It will happen. Try to not get too involved too quickly. Self protection is important.

Even though I took a big chance and a big risk and it was a disaster beyond what anyone would have ever expected I'd still take a chance again. You just never know.

My advice to you is sound and non judgemental. It is from experience of two long distance ventures (as in needing to get on a plane to see them) and general common sense.

I'm sure others will comment sooner or later perhaps with more specific stuff.

I'm a Taurus woman but this sounds like me... And also a Taurus guy friend of mine.

He likes you. Definitely likes you, hes just shy to say it because we need to be at least 60% sure you like us more than friends. Were straight forward and mean everything we say, so if you were to ask him and he wasn't sure you liked him too he'd say "yes BUT....(insert shitty excuse)" Only because he doesn't want to embarrass himself in the possible case that you don't like him back. Taurus love attention and being smothered with it. So the more you seem like you like him, the more hell open up about his feelings. Also why he didn't call when he said he would is because he was waiting for you to remember and send a text like "are you still going to call?" We like to be remembered. In these situation people need to remember that were all attention seekers, we done chase people that are not sure of us UNLESS we love them. So don't make us chase cause well turn around and find the next person who's interested I'm us.

I he didn't like you he wouldn't try with you at all, but he would never not reply to anyone that tries.

Thank you AgentP911. I have been involved with a Taurus before and my experience with him was great. He was a little younger then I so I think our maturity levels were different so it didn't work, so I know that Taurus men can be good. In your case the guy just sounds like a jerk and it is probably a good thing you realised it sooner rather then later.

Deelia, Thank you for your reply. I understand what you are saying but sometimes these actions can give someone the impression you aren't interested. In him trying to see if and how much I am interested, he is making me think he isn't interested at all. We texted a little yesterday and then he just didn't reply so I just sent a message saying "Actually the hardest person to communicate with, I give up". He basically replied straight away saying "haha sorry babe (with a kiss emoji) had a shitty arvo at work and long drive home. Just woke up from a nap and now I gotta go to training". I never replied to it as I still don't know if he actually likes me or is just feeding me sweet but deceiving words to make me think he is interested. I also noticed that since yesterday he has deleted me from snap chat but this was prior to me saying I had given up and him sending the "sorry babe" msg, so what was the purpose of deleting me? I obviously had done nothing wrong to him if he is calling me babe and sending yet again a kiss emoji. Was this yet another test, this time to see if I would notice he had deleted me, to see if I care enough to notice?

I may not be straight forward in saying how I feel about him, just as he is doing the same as you say, but at least I make the effort with him which I would think would be evident enough that I like him. How or what exactly can I do/say for him to see that I am interested?

If you want him to know you are interested in him, maybe try saying something along the lines of "I am interested in you."

Ok so from this other reply it seems like there's another girl? Someone he would've met before you and is still trying but also likes the thought of you and him. Don't think he's stringing you along though because whoever else he's talking to was in there first, he'd never tell you that tho. I'm doing that with a guy I'm talking to right now but kind of have feelings for this other guy I'm seeing. I like him, and am definitely not playing any games with him, I'd just wanna see where the other relationship goes first. If he says its over or won't work out then I'd peruse the other guy I've been talking to. Its just he would already have a connection with the other girl and that kind of counts as having to be loyal. KIND IF!

But I still wouldn't say he's stringing you a long,because that'll mean having no intentions, but he def does, just doesn't know himself yet. If he was actually seeing someone else he'd cut all ties with you.