so what gives?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by memyself on Wednesday, April 24, 2013 and has 22 replies.
if a taurus is slow to commit, does not initiate, does not like changes, is stubborn and wants to be pursued?
you want to take your own sweet time to decide about someone, but you also want that someone to keep showing interest/pursuing you? so what do you give that someone in return till you make your decision to commit? by 'have patience' how many years are you talking about?
Ladies, hit your Taurus man upside the head... or leave. Seriously. That's what I did.
I left.
I walked.
I disappeared.
Then he came chasing me professing and confessing his love.
I called him a hypocrite and walked.
I'm through! I'm done! GOOD BYE! I left.
I haven't had a man chase like that in years.
And when you say you're done and leave, make sure you mean it and you're at the end of your rope because he many not chase you. I just got lucky with mine.
Good luck ladies. Some of these bullcrap Bull won't get it until you "do" something in other words, action. They don't hear you. Don't let them get away with seducing you. You have to be strong and mean what you say.
But that's the Leo in me. Most Leo women can only take so much and for me, I'm too darn strong for my Taurus man and he knows it. I will only allow so much manipulation and I walk.
I'm patient, but s h i t 6 months of waiting?
Now, we're on the same page. smile
I agree with JessiedLeo....
My ex was a Taurus, for 6 months he didn't know what he wanted. One minute he wanted me then the next he didn't want me. I finally got fed up and said enough is enough. Next thing I knew he was chasing me...unfortunately things didn't work out in the end.
Yup. Slowly starting to think that Taurus men are the most hated lol Sad Damn you unmatured bulls for giving us this rep!!
Posted by kupochan
Yup. Slowly starting to think that Taurus men are the most hated lol Sad Damn you unmatured bulls for giving us this rep!!


naah! we still love the bulls charming ways, stubborn ways, possessive, protective streak, STARES hahaha. i think male bulls almost exhibit the emotional charactersitice of a female - jealous, possessive, stubborn, craving attention, love, not initiating hehehe. really what gets a bull charging?
memyself, you ask really tough questions...hahahaha....
I think JessiedLeo has it down if you want to be chased by the bull. You've got to make an impression then walk/run. If it was a big enough impression, he'll chase. The longer you make that impression, the more attached he'll get. One day you flip it on him, and it'll hurt so bad, he will realize suddenly how much he has cared this whole time and start making bold pronouncements of his love for you. I've had this happen to me. I'll agree with you Taurus men can be real one-sided like you describe though. I always have been in the early part of relationships. Why? Because I almost always get away with it. Women really are suckers for seemingly distant/aloof men. Seems like a challenge I guess? My Sag told me she thought I was better than everyone around me; like I was too good for her. This made me appealing. Meanwhile I think nothing of the sort about myself (most male bulls I know have low self esteem), and she's out of my league looks-wise. If anything she made me nervous. Then when we got in a relationship and she fell for me really hard within the first week (this always happens). I have no idea why!!! She was such an incessant yapper in that first week, I mostly just listened to her spill her life story to me. But yeah, once she gave away the store like that, it just shifted the power all in my direction. Now I'm a bit domineering in this relationship. Remaining aloof with us, remaining somewhat mysterious, giving us a challenge - all the while looking hot and smelling good - these things will bring out the best in us (pursuit, romance, etc.).
What is your situation with a bull? Give us some details.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
memyself, you ask really tough questions...hahahaha....
I think JessiedLeo has it down if you want to be chased by the bull. You've got to make an impression then walk/run. If it was a big enough impression, he'll chase. The longer you make that impression, the more attached he'll get. One day you flip it on him, and it'll hurt so bad, he will realize suddenly how much he has cared this whole time and start making bold pronouncements of his love for you. I've had this happen to me. I'll agree with you Taurus men can be real one-sided like you describe though. I always have been in the early part of relationships. Why? Because I almost always get away with it. Women really are suckers for seemingly distant/aloof men. Seems like a challenge I guess? My Sag told me she thought I was better than everyone around me; like I was too good for her. This made me appealing. Meanwhile I think nothing of the sort about myself (most male bulls I know have low self esteem), and she's out of my league looks-wise. If anything she made me nervous. Then when we got in a relationship and she fell for me really hard within the first week (this always happens). I have no idea why!!! She was such an incessant yapper in that first week, I mostly just listened to her spill her life story to me. But yeah, once she gave away the store like that, it just shifted the power all in my direction. Now I'm a bit domineering in this relationship. Remaining aloof with us, remaining somewhat mysterious, giving us a challenge - all the while looking hot and smelling good - these things will bring out the best in us (pursuit, romance, etc.).
What is your situation with a bull? Give us some details.


i don't think bulls don't initiate really. bulls charm and then step back, acting all innocent hahaha
i think the common thing between taurus and virgo or maybe between earth signs is the mental pace and compatibility. if bulls are slow in moving forward, virgos are also slow because they have to think everything through before getting serious. we are in no rush to move ahead without having put much thought. i dont know much about capris, but earth signs should share the same groundedness, giving them lots of patience for others.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
memyself, you ask really tough questions...hahahaha....
I think JessiedLeo has it down if you want to be chased by the bull. You've got to make an impression then walk/run. If it was a big enough impression, he'll chase. The longer you make that impression, the more attached he'll get. One day you flip it on him, and it'll hurt so bad, he will realize suddenly how much he has cared this whole time and start making bold pronouncements of his love for you. I've had this happen to me. I'll agree with you Taurus men can be real one-sided like you describe though. I always have been in the early part of relationships. Why? Because I almost always get away with it. Women really are suckers for seemingly distant/aloof men. Seems like a challenge I guess? My Sag told me she thought I was better than everyone around me; like I was too good for her. This made me appealing. Meanwhile I think nothing of the sort about myself (most male bulls I know have low self esteem), and she's out of my league looks-wise. If anything she made me nervous. Then when we got in a relationship and she fell for me really hard within the first week (this always happens). I have no idea why!!! She was such an incessant yapper in that first week, I mostly just listened to her spill her life story to me. But yeah, once she gave away the store like that, it just shifted the power all in my direction. Now I'm a bit domineering in this relationship. Remaining aloof with us, remaining somewhat mysterious, giving us a challenge - all the while looking hot and smelling good - these things will bring out the best in us (pursuit, romance, etc.).
What is your situation with a bull? Give us some details.


^^^^ this i think is the earthy appeal of bulls, asking someone about them. i'm sure you must have prodded your sag to talk about herself. girls dig such attention. and since knowing a bull, i have noticed this trait in other bulls too. stopping on their way to anywhere asking everyone how they were. maybe thats what makes a bull slow, as they make many stops on the way smile
Posted by kupochan
Yup. Slowly starting to think that Taurus men are the most hated lol Sad Damn you unmatured bulls for giving us this rep!!


From all the bull my Taurus man had put me through, I am in love with him. However, I'm mature about it. He is my Ying and and I'm his Yang. He has taught me patience and as a Leo woman, that's one thing I've been working on most of my adult life. I'm frantic like a storm while he's as calm as a cool lake.
He has taught me that things aren't all black and white.
I learned that friendship must come first before love.
I learned that love grows, it's not this love at first sight, instant gratification.
I learned that even though I am in love with him, I am still my own person and I can leave this union, but I choose to stay. I chose him.
He's my rock on times when I need to lean on someone and he allows me to lean on him. Most of my life, people have leaned on me. It's refreshing and foreign.
He's my sounding board.
He taught me that I am acceptable and still respected as a person, a woman, a corporate leader when I get silly and let my hair down.
He taught me what a dependable person truly is, both personally and professionally.
He taught me how to compromise... something I don't do well! LOL
This is just the beginning for the 2 of us... I am just curious what would it be like a few months or even years from now if we last that long.
God I hope so.
smile
mymyself:
he was just very direct in his compliments, charming if you will. it was giddy feeling to hear someone say how they saw me from their eyes. i must say i never had someone flatter me like that. i was having difficulty accepting really. it was a heady feeling. but things are just at that, mostly virtual. but he made my virgo mind so curious, that i had to know everything there is to know abt u guys
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bulls charm and then step back, acting all innocent hahaha
>>>>Hahahahah....yes, I love to compliment and flatter; it really comes from a sincere place. I honestly feel the need to tell people the good I see in them as I think they don't hear it enough (especially women). I love compliments and wish people would just compliment each other more all around. We certainly criticize enough. And the "charm and run" is a great way to intiate the chase! Sometimes I do this, and will be so content to just have the upper hand and have caused the chase, that that can be as satisfying as an actual relationship. I've seen scorps do this too - throw out a witty or charming/flirtatious compliment, then just slither off in a shroud of mystery. Mine did this to me and left me thinking about her all day. She pretty much owned me from that day on.
i think the common thing between taurus and virgo or maybe between earth signs is the mental pace and compatibility. if bulls are slow in moving forward, virgos are also slow because they have to think everything through before getting serious. we are in no rush to move ahead without having put much thought.
>>>Perhaps, I've had some virgos try to move pretty fast though. Hahahah...I think virgos are just really keen on bulls. That's been my experience anyway. I'm telling you their eyes always light up a little when I first meet them, even before we talk. And then the communication really seals it. I have alot of virgos around me at work and they are just soooo helpful - beyond the normal Virgo humanitarian thing....hahahahaha...
bulls almost exhibit the emotional charactersitice of a female - jealous, possessive, stubborn, craving attention, love, not initiating hehehe.
>>>>So true, but we do it in such a manly way. Winking We are a good mix, I'm tellin' ya....Harems everywhere agree.
Posted by JessiedLeo
Ladies, hit your Taurus man upside the head... or leave. Seriously. That's what I did.
I left.
I walked.
I disappeared.
Then he came chasing me professing and confessing his love.
I called him a hypocrite and walked.
I'm through! I'm done! GOOD BYE! I left.
I haven't had a man chase like that in years.
And when you say you're done and leave, make sure you mean it and you're at the end of your rope because he many not chase you. I just got lucky with mine.
Good luck ladies. Some of these bullcrap Bull won't get it until you "do" something in other words, action. They don't hear you. Don't let them get away with seducing you. You have to be strong and mean what you say.
But that's the Leo in me. Most Leo women can only take so much and for me, I'm too darn strong for my Taurus man and he knows it. I will only allow so much manipulation and I walk.
I'm patient, but s h i t 6 months of waiting?
Now, we're on the same page. smile



Can't agree more. My Taurus and I were together for three months until we became 'just friends and see what happens'after he said I'd snapped at him in front of other people [seriously i can't even recall such incident, nor those other people]. He withdrew and said he didn't feel comfortable with me but we still hung out in our group regularly for a month [no close contact tho]. I dared not to get closer to him coz he'd said he was not comfortable. I was thinking he would approach me once he got comfortable again. Wrong. Nothing happened and i couldn't put up with seeing him twice a week and not being together. After a month, I told him I still liked him a lot, he replied we were just friends. So I told him I had to stop seeing him and get over the feelings, I was seeing him too often for my own good. He turned around and asked if I wanted to try again with him. So we are together again now. I still have no ideas why he never says what's in his mind. I'm an Aquarius. For me, I won't let my pride get in my way of being with someone amazing. I don't know why his pride is so big! But it's okay, i'm used to doing all the heavy lifting.
I have said this time and time again...BULLS are NOT CHASERS!
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

>>>Perhaps, I've had some virgos try to move pretty fast though. Hahahah...I think virgos are just really keen on bulls. That's been my experience anyway. I'm telling you their eyes always light up a little when I first meet them, even before we talk. And then the communication really seals it.


YES. This has been my experience with Virgos as well, so I guess it's true for Virgo male/Taurus female too smile
This thread is really interesting ! it helps me understand my taurus man's behaviour ! I'm a taurus female myself falling head over heal with a taurus as well !
I dated a virgo 2.5 years and never once had to chase him..in fact he's still chasing me after we broke up ! ..now i'm the one left hanging with this new taurus man trying to persue him but also is afraid of rejection . He works his charms..draws me in...told me he's interested...had an amazing sensual moment...cuddling...comfort..soothing for 4 hours... then ...boom
"im not 100 percent sure what i want at the moment " ...still very shy when he sees me ( we work together)... come to say hi to me.....compliment me..." you are so cute with your hair" ...then step back ...never initiate any contact first...never call..never text me first.....but persistent when i text him..once a day i keep it..now i'm lost..i don't know how to take this further ! SadSad i know he truly likes me but there are warning signs coming from my part ...and i don't know how best to approach him...without pushing him ! Sad i'm about to text him to watch a movie...for my birthday and now i don't know if i should..i'm so shy...but i think i have 2 make the first MOVE again !!! LOL !!! his venus in gemini and my venus is gemini too !!
warning signs are...
1 ) i have many close male friends..he knows that..and he doesn't like it i'm sure..( he asked me about them)
2) i just came out of a serious 2.5 years relationship ( he knows that as well..he knows my ex is still in my life ...he liked me when i was with my ex bf)
3) I always organise party events with work n he gets invited.
4) we both are applying for higher duty manager at our work ..so we are competing with each other really.

now i know those are BIG WARNING signs that will push a taurus man right back...what i wanna know is ..how should i make it clear to him that i'm head over heal with him and i only want him n him only...and i'm very very loyal...if he agrees to date me...he will be my number one and no one else.. smile
I wish i could explain how this man makes me feel..its very scary but very addictive... I havn't told him how i feel about him...i havn't asked him out after that time we spent together..i'm just 2 scared...coz i like him so much ! whats wrong with me HAHAHA

PLease help Big Grin
They are very damn confusing that's all I have to say. I totally left mine behind, he came back chasing the minute I was nice to him again... He went running to his...who are you again phase... I really don't know why they are like this. I don't think we're ever gonna get a straight answer. I just think they are making sure we are still.interested while they decide if we are the ones to.keep around.
Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
What major incentive is necessary for bulls to take initiative.


It depends on the incentive....and it also depends on the Bull's placements...
Posted by Torro
Tau 1 - Venus in Gemini or Aries. Flirt & Charge!
Tau 2 - Venus in Taurus. Flirt & Step Back!
Tau with Venus in water - most likely to be a keeper I believe.
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It may be different for Taurus men and women. I have a Venus in Aries...and I flirt and step back Tongue
However, the only incentive I had to ever approach a guy ( he was with his daughter, and I didn't think it was appropriate)...
...Was at a museum in the city, a man was explaining Basquiat ( an artist who passed away in the 1980s) to his daughter ( she had to be about 7 or 8). The painting was 'Hollywood Africans.' I thought that was one of the most genuine time a father could spend with his daughter on a Sunday afternoon. There was something very special and sincere about that moment. A very rare moment indeed.
If I probably ran into him again, and he was single, I would have definitely chased him!
I guess the incentive with a Taurus has to be something that immediately grabs our attention, but this has to be something effortless on the other individual's part. This could be a genuine moment, a glance, a touch, a scent, depending on the chemistry.
For everything else....the other person will have to CHASE, CHASE, CHASE!
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

>>>Perhaps, I've had some virgos try to move pretty fast though. Hahahah...I think virgos are just really keen on bulls. That's been my experience anyway. I'm telling you their eyes always light up a little when I first meet them, even before we talk. And then the communication really seals it.



+3
This is very true!
So do their voices, if you're actively listening.....smile
I walked out the door on my Bull a couple of days ago... I didn't get very far. I ended up in my car listening to "Melancholy Man" by the Moody Blues. When I returned and asked him why he didn't try and stop me his reply was, "Why would I follow you out the door? This place was rented to you and all of your plants are here... Obviously, you'd be coming back".
Do I feel like a stupid over-emotional Scorpion? Yes. Ha-ha!
Thank you to all Taurus men for being practical and patient.
My Bull has Venus in Cancer.
My ex Bull is stalking me. I broke up with him a couple years ago. I told him I didn't want to see him anymore and a few years later he is at my job 6am EVERY morning. Not sure what his Venus was.
VB- How are you, beautiful? smile
On another note... Where the hell did all these Taurus men come from? (on the boards)
Posted by Torro
Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish

if Taurus men don't like to pursue, does this mean they usually don't date water signs? Most water sign women I know, especially pisces, do not like to chase.


That might as well be true, I've seen Taurus men with Aries, Libra, Cappy and Virgo, but I've never seen them with water signs. Occasional Sorpio, perhaps Tongue Every once in a while though, they suprise everyone and charge straight ahaed.

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Does annoying a female to the point of violence count as pursuing? Because I punched my Bull in the face when he wouldn't leave me alone. He had plenty of warning, and still proceeded to push the limit. Does this count as flirting?
@memyself.. I was in a situation with my taurus for three years. It has been long distance for the past 2. In March we had it out, I thought I was his girlfriend. He gave me different excuses why we are not togther. I couldn't get one true reason out of him. His latest this last week was the distance.. And when I called him out on promises he said to me and holding him to it. He didn't like that at all. His response... " I am not to be proven wrong". It really made me mad. Sounds very selfish. Its his way or the highway, or so it seems. Part of me still has feeling for him and sorta wants him back. I have been advised by my girfriends to Ignore this taurus male. Do you agree?

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