Some advice with a Taurus man..... please

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by fiflamore on Monday, May 29, 2017 and has 19 replies.
Met this Taurus man on tinder, we both started emailing, texting talking every day for about three weeks. Everything was going very well. We met up (he lives three hours away in another town) for a lovely dinner and then we slept together at his hotel room.. the sex was probably some of the best of my life, I have recently separated from my husband of twelve years and hadn't had any attention in that area for two years! We had sex six times that night and had an intense connection, I felt like I had been fully seen for the first time in years it was intoxicating. We met up once a fortnight (he travels to see me and we stay in a hotel in the city)for the next month and couldn't get enough of each other.

I went with a friend to stay the night in the Taurus mans home town which is a very well known tourism town and I've been there regularly my entire life, my mate and I stayed with our children on the beach in a caravan and I had no intention of seeing Taurus man while I was there, we had decided to keep our lives separate as there are young children involved until we were sure about each other...

Well he was in contact during this time with funny messages along the lines of "watch out I'm off to the beach you better steer clear"! funny and light hearted. Anyway after I had left town I got a text from him asking if its ok if we don't text/or call each other so much? I said yes because I wanted to respect his space.

Well we continued to see each other for the next month but with very little calls or texts sometimes he would just not reply, I felt I was instigating the contact. Last week when I saw him I felt like he was keeping me at arms length, he still travels to see me and is very loving and attentive but I miss the flirty banter and contact.

I emailed him this week to ask for more contact and to express that I need to feel a strong connection if this is to continue. I left my marriage because of no communication and wanted to be up front and my intentions and honest with my feelings. He still hasn't contacted me, he did say that he wants to take it slow and I do too but communication is so vital! Can any Taurus man give me any insight? We both have children who are nine, I don't want to introduce a man into my childs life just yet and he felt the same.
I have a few questions.

1. What is his marital status?

a. Married

b. Single Parent (Widowed, Separated, Divorced)

c. CoParent (Separated, Divorced)

2. When he told you that the both of you shouldn't text so much, why did you just respond 'yes'...instead of asking him why?

3. When you were in his hometown, why didn't you suggest meeting him up with him for drinks? Your mate could have watched your child for a few hours. Driving three hours to see you seems fine, but when you're in his hometown, the situation seems awkward...why?
My question is, is he still on tinder?
My gut tells me he is losing interest. That's just based off of the information given.

Either that, or he's starting to have doubts and he wants to take a step back.

This is a generalization, but it's my opinion that this sort of "wham-bam" situation is tough for a Taurus to maintain. Once the initial intensity wears off, trying to maintain it is tiring and not what most of us want permanently.
Posted by Bricks195
My gut tells me he is losing interest. That's just based off of the information given.

Either that, or he's starting to have doubts and he wants to take a step back.

This is a generalization, but it's my opinion that this sort of "wham-bam" situation is tough for a Taurus to maintain. Once the initial intensity wears off, trying to maintain it is tiring and not what most of us want permanently.

As a woman who is dating a Taurus man for 4 1/2 years I keep asking (regardless of astrology) why do (some) of us women keep doing the same thing and expecting different results? Meaning sleeping with him that quickly and hoping something real will be a result? That's insanity. It just doesn't happen that way especially with many Taurus men. She made it too easy and now there isn't anything for him to chase. The connection may only be temporary but Taurus me are extremely selective and they are sloooooow movers when it comes to relationships. A month is too soon to tell anything. He is taking a step back and may secretly still have his options open. The ball is his court which you will have to have your own life and go on while allowing him to come back to you if he chooses to. The more you keep reaching out and chasing, the more he will run and ignore you. Patience is key when dealing with them and they can take weeks, months or even years. They will not move or speak if they aren't ready.

What's your sign?
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Posted by Bricks195
My gut tells me he is losing interest. That's just based off of the information given.

Either that, or he's starting to have doubts and he wants to take a step back.

This is a generalization, but it's my opinion that this sort of "wham-bam" situation is tough for a Taurus to maintain. Once the initial intensity wears off, trying to maintain it is tiring and not what most of us want permanently.

As a woman who is dating a Taurus man for 4 1/2 years I keep asking (regardless of astrology) why do (some) of us women keep doing the same thing and expecting different results? Meaning sleeping with him that quickly and hoping something real will be a result? That's insanity. It just doesn't happen that way especially with many Taurus men. She made it too easy and now there isn't anything for him to chase. The connection may only be temporary but Taurus me are extremely selective and they are sloooooow movers when it comes to relationships. A month is too soon to tell anything. He is taking a step back and may secretly still have his options open. The ball is his court which you will have to have your own life and go on while allowing him to come back to you if he chooses to. The more you keep reaching out and chasing, the more he will run and ignore you. Patience is key when dealing with them and they can take weeks, months or even years. They will not move or speak if they aren't ready.

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Whenever I bitch about people sleeping together too soon and wondering where the love went after a month, someone scolds me for judging. I wasn't gonna go there this time, so thank you haha.

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Posted by Iamawinelover
Posted by Bricks195
My gut tells me he is losing interest. That's just based off of the information given.

Either that, or he's starting to have doubts and he wants to take a step back.

This is a generalization, but it's my opinion that this sort of "wham-bam" situation is tough for a Taurus to maintain. Once the initial intensity wears off, trying to maintain it is tiring and not what most of us want permanently.

As a woman who is dating a Taurus man for 4 1/2 years I keep asking (regardless of astrology) why do (some) of us women keep doing the same thing and expecting different results? Meaning sleeping with him that quickly and hoping something real will be a result? That's insanity. It just doesn't happen that way especially with many Taurus men. She made it too easy and now there isn't anything for him to chase. The connection may only be temporary but Taurus me are extremely selective and they are sloooooow movers when it comes to relationships. A month is too soon to tell anything. He is taking a step back and may secretly still have his options open. The ball is his court which you will have to have your own life and go on while allowing him to come back to you if he chooses to. The more you keep reaching out and chasing, the more he will run and ignore you. Patience is key when dealing with them and they can take weeks, months or even years. They will not move or speak if they aren't ready.



Whenever I bitch about people sleeping together too soon and wondering where the love went after a month, someone scolds me for judging. I wasn't gonna go there this time, so thank you haha.

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That's unfortunate that you're scolded but the truth does hurt and so many of us women simply don't really want to hear it. I've been scolded by women also telling me that I'm too old to know what I'm talking about. So many of us only want to hear what we want to hear.

There are so many books and websites which men themselves are trying to help us understand how men think and they all say the same thing that sleeping with them too early does not encourage them to want a relationship. Men don't think like us and having sex so early truly doesn't not trigger anything in them to want a relationship. The mystery is gone, there is nothing for him to chase once you give in so early.

I wish we would seriously think twice especially with men that we want to have a commitment with. If you could care less about him and don't want anything; then do what you will. But the guy you like, don't sleep with him so fast. Take your time and eventually you'll know if he is worth it or not.

Also, when it comes to Taurus man she will have to learn to give him space. Only he knows how long he needs & as I said she will have to tend to her own life and let him come to his own conclusion about her and this situation.

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What's your sign?
I'm a Capricorn


Posted by Bricks195
Posted by Iamawinelover
Posted by Bricks195
My gut tells me he is losing interest. That's just based off of the information given.

Either that, or he's starting to have doubts and he wants to take a step back.

This is a generalization, but it's my opinion that this sort of "wham-bam" situation is tough for a Taurus to maintain. Once the initial intensity wears off, trying to maintain it is tiring and not what most of us want permanently.

As a woman who is dating a Taurus man for 4 1/2 years I keep asking (regardless of astrology) why do (some) of us women keep doing the same thing and expecting different results? Meaning sleeping with him that quickly and hoping something real will be a result? That's insanity. It just doesn't happen that way especially with many Taurus men. She made it too easy and now there isn't anything for him to chase. The connection may only be temporary but Taurus me are extremely selective and they are sloooooow movers when it comes to relationships. A month is too soon to tell anything. He is taking a step back and may secretly still have his options open. The ball is his court which you will have to have your own life and go on while allowing him to come back to you if he chooses to. The more you keep reaching out and chasing, the more he will run and ignore you. Patience is key when dealing with them and they can take weeks, months or even years. They will not move or speak if they aren't ready.



Whenever I bitch about people sleeping together too soon and wondering where the love went after a month, someone scolds me for judging. I wasn't gonna go there this time, so thank you haha.

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I agree, I slept with him too soon and possibly screwed up our connection. I was impulsive and I'm paying for it with all this uncertainty. I messaged him last night that i was done, I had no response from my email and that I couldn't see the reasons to put more energy into something that wasn't really building. He texted back immediately saying he had been very sick last week and was sorry not to reply. We talked later that night and he said I have overreacted and things are going fine, he will try to communicate more.... I have suggested visiting him this weekend in his home town, so I've pretty much given as much as I can to this situation if he wants it to progress he needs to do some work...I'm over it. I don't think he is married or involved with anyone else.... he's too lazy! I asked him about why he wanted to text less and he said it was exhausting to maintain that level of texting full time...I agreed as it was distracting me from my work too! I've laid out what I wanted he laughed and said I over think things too much and we were going along fine.... what a confusing man!

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I have a few questions.

1. What is his marital status?

a. Married

b. Single Parent (Widowed, Separated, Divorced)

c. CoParent (Separated, Divorced)

2. When he told you that the both of you shouldn't text so much, why did you just respond 'yes'...instead of asking him why?

3. When you were in his hometown, why didn't you suggest meeting him up with him for drinks? Your mate could have watched your child for a few hours. Driving three hours to see you seems fine, but when you're in his hometown, the situation seems awkward...why?


1.He's married but separated 4 years

co parenting

2. I asked him about the not texting and he said it was too distracting for work...he drives a truck, I agreed as it was distracting me at the office too. I said was it because I had been in his home town and he laughed and said I was overthinking things...that we were fine.

3. I couldn't meet him for drinks as he had his daughter with him and she comes first. He is very private.

we both agreed that we would wait 6 months before getting our kids involved so I respect that.

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My question is, is he still on tinder?
Not sure if he's on tinder.... I unmatched him as I didn't want to be obsessed with following his movements.

Posted by fiflamore
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Posted by Iamawinelover
Posted by Bricks195
My gut tells me he is losing interest. That's just based off of the information given.

Either that, or he's starting to have doubts and he wants to take a step back.

This is a generalization, but it's my opinion that this sort of "wham-bam" situation is tough for a Taurus to maintain. Once the initial intensity wears off, trying to maintain it is tiring and not what most of us want permanently.

As a woman who is dating a Taurus man for 4 1/2 years I keep asking (regardless of astrology) why do (some) of us women keep doing the same thing and expecting different results? Meaning sleeping with him that quickly and hoping something real will be a result? That's insanity. It just doesn't happen that way especially with many Taurus men. She made it too easy and now there isn't anything for him to chase. The connection may only be temporary but Taurus me are extremely selective and they are sloooooow movers when it comes to relationships. A month is too soon to tell anything. He is taking a step back and may secretly still have his options open. The ball is his court which you will have to have your own life and go on while allowing him to come back to you if he chooses to. The more you keep reaching out and chasing, the more he will run and ignore you. Patience is key when dealing with them and they can take weeks, months or even years. They will not move or speak if they aren't ready.



Whenever I bitch about people sleeping together too soon and wondering where the love went after a month, someone scolds me for judging. I wasn't gonna go there this time, so thank you haha.

I agree, I slept with him too soon and possibly screwed up our connection. I was impulsive and I'm paying for it with all this uncertainty. I messaged him last night that i was done, I had no response from my email and that I couldn't see the reasons to put more energy into something that wasn't really building. He texted back immediately saying he had been very sick last week and was sorry not to reply. We talked later that night and he said I have overreacted and things are going fine, he will try to communicate more.... I have suggested visiting him this weekend in his home town, so I've pretty much given as much as I can to this situation if he wants it to progress he needs to do some work...I'm over it. I don't think he is married or involved with anyone else.... he's too lazy! I asked him about why he wanted to text less and he said it was exhausting to maintain that level of texting full time...I agreed as it was distracting me from my work too! I've laid out what I wanted he laughed and said I over think things too much and we were going along fine.... what a confusing man!

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And he couldn't tell you he was sick? He didn't pick up his phone even once and see that you tried to contact him? If I was betting man, I'd bet that he did and he wanted to play with your emotions a little bit, make sure you missed him.

If you don't mind long gaps with no contact, then it's not a problem. If that's not your style and you're reaching out for confirmation and you're ignored, it is a problem.

I know what you mean about constant messaging being exhausting. One of my exes used to message me all day every day and I never want anything like that ever again lol. But some to-and-fro throughout the day shouldn't be too much to ask. People do all kinds of things they don't want to do on a daily basis. Those 8+ hours a day you spend at work, for example. Shooting off a few texts is nothing.

What I get from this is a guy who isn't sure he wants you in a serious, official way, so he's keeping his distance. He's not letting go because he isn't sure he wants to and you might be a stopgap for him if he doesn't have any other women in his life.

And I could be wrong, but I don't think I am.


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Posted by Iamawinelover
Posted by Bricks195
My gut tells me he is losing interest. That's just based off of the information given.

Either that, or he's starting to have doubts and he wants to take a step back.

This is a generalization, but it's my opinion that this sort of "wham-bam" situation is tough for a Taurus to maintain. Once the initial intensity wears off, trying to maintain it is tiring and not what most of us want permanently.

As a woman who is dating a Taurus man for 4 1/2 years I keep asking (regardless of astrology) why do (some) of us women keep doing the same thing and expecting different results? Meaning sleeping with him that quickly and hoping something real will be a result? That's insanity. It just doesn't happen that way especially with many Taurus men. She made it too easy and now there isn't anything for him to chase. The connection may only be temporary but Taurus me are extremely selective and they are sloooooow movers when it comes to relationships. A month is too soon to tell anything. He is taking a step back and may secretly still have his options open. The ball is his court which you will have to have your own life and go on while allowing him to come back to you if he chooses to. The more you keep reaching out and chasing, the more he will run and ignore you. Patience is key when dealing with them and they can take weeks, months or even years. They will not move or speak if they aren't ready.



Whenever I bitch about people sleeping together too soon and wondering where the love went after a month, someone scolds me for judging. I wasn't gonna go there this time, so thank you haha.

I agree, I slept with him too soon and possibly screwed up our connection. I was impulsive and I'm paying for it with all this uncertainty. I messaged him last night that i was done, I had no response from my email and that I couldn't see the reasons to put more energy into something that wasn't really building. He texted back immediately saying he had been very sick last week and was sorry not to reply. We talked later that night and he said I have overreacted and things are going fine, he will try to communicate more.... I have suggested visiting him this weekend in his home town, so I've pretty much given as much as I can to this situation if he wants it to progress he needs to do some work...I'm over it. I don't think he is married or involved with anyone else.... he's too lazy! I asked him about why he wanted to text less and he said it was exhausting to maintain that level of texting full time...I agreed as it was distracting me from my work too! I've laid out what I wanted he laughed and said I over think things too much and we were going along fine.... what a confusing man!



And he couldn't tell you he was sick? He didn't pick up his phone even once and see that you tried to contact him? If I was betting man, I'd bet that he did and he wanted to play with your emotions a little bit, make sure you missed him.

If you don't mind long gaps with no contact, then it's not a problem. If that's not your style and you're reaching out for confirmation and you're ignored, it is a problem.

I know what you mean about constant messaging being exhausting. One of my exes used to message me all day every day and I never want anything like that ever again lol. But some to-and-fro throughout the day shouldn't be too much to ask. People do all kinds of things they don't want to do on a daily basis. Those 8+ hours a day you spend at work, for example. Shooting off a few texts is nothing.

What I get from this is a guy who isn't sure he wants you in a serious, official way, so he's keeping his distance. He's not letting go because he isn't sure he wants to and you might be a stopgap for him if he doesn't have any other women in his life.

And I could be wrong, but I don't think I am.


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Hmm, I totally gave him an out..... I said thats it, I'm done, why didn't he take it? If he's on tinder I'm sure he could find another hook up. He didn't just stop texting he asked me if I was ok with texting not so much....it hurt my feelings a little but I gave him space when he asked for it. Why won't he let me go if this is all a game? I've told him I'm still feeling out this dating thing but that I'm a boots and all kind of person when I've decided I've decided, I'm still decoding my marriage split, becoming more myself after a 12 year unhappy marriage, I call my marriage a cult and I'm deprogramming lol. I've given this Taurus man lots of options to bolt but he keeps hanging on? I've told him in emails and in person some pretty needy things and he's still hanging around? I mean I've really tested him... like almost leaving him in the early hours of the morning cause he had his back to me in bed. (my ex shut me out emotionally and always had his back to me).... I'm standing there with a suit case ready to leave and he's like wtf? What kind of guy stays around with someone going through those kinds of emotional drama if he's only in it for the sex? I thought guys hate neediness and drama?
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Posted by Bricks195
My gut tells me he is losing interest. That's just based off of the information given.

Either that, or he's starting to have doubts and he wants to take a step back.

This is a generalization, but it's my opinion that this sort of "wham-bam" situation is tough for a Taurus to maintain. Once the initial intensity wears off, trying to maintain it is tiring and not what most of us want permanently.

As a woman who is dating a Taurus man for 4 1/2 years I keep asking (regardless of astrology) why do (some) of us women keep doing the same thing and expecting different results? Meaning sleeping with him that quickly and hoping something real will be a result? That's insanity. It just doesn't happen that way especially with many Taurus men. She made it too easy and now there isn't anything for him to chase. The connection may only be temporary but Taurus me are extremely selective and they are sloooooow movers when it comes to relationships. A month is too soon to tell anything. He is taking a step back and may secretly still have his options open. The ball is his court which you will have to have your own life and go on while allowing him to come back to you if he chooses to. The more you keep reaching out and chasing, the more he will run and ignore you. Patience is key when dealing with them and they can take weeks, months or even years. They will not move or speak if they aren't ready.



Whenever I bitch about people sleeping together too soon and wondering where the love went after a month, someone scolds me for judging. I wasn't gonna go there this time, so thank you haha.

I agree, I slept with him too soon and possibly screwed up our connection. I was impulsive and I'm paying for it with all this uncertainty. I messaged him last night that i was done, I had no response from my email and that I couldn't see the reasons to put more energy into something that wasn't really building. He texted back immediately saying he had been very sick last week and was sorry not to reply. We talked later that night and he said I have overreacted and things are going fine, he will try to communicate more.... I have suggested visiting him this weekend in his home town, so I've pretty much given as much as I can to this situation if he wants it to progress he needs to do some work...I'm over it. I don't think he is married or involved with anyone else.... he's too lazy! I asked him about why he wanted to text less and he said it was exhausting to maintain that level of texting full time...I agreed as it was distracting me from my work too! I've laid out what I wanted he laughed and said I over think things too much and we were going along fine.... what a confusing man!



And he couldn't tell you he was sick? He didn't pick up his phone even once and see that you tried to contact him? If I was betting man, I'd bet that he did and he wanted to play with your emotions a little bit, make sure you missed him.

If you don't mind long gaps with no contact, then it's not a problem. If that's not your style and you're reaching out for confirmation and you're ignored, it is a problem.

I know what you mean about constant messaging being exhausting. One of my exes used to message me all day every day and I never want anything like that ever again lol. But some to-and-fro throughout the day shouldn't be too much to ask. People do all kinds of things they don't want to do on a daily basis. Those 8+ hours a day you spend at work, for example. Shooting off a few texts is nothing.

What I get from this is a guy who isn't sure he wants you in a serious, official way, so he's keeping his distance. He's not letting go because he isn't sure he wants to and you might be a stopgap for him if he doesn't have any other women in his life.

And I could be wrong, but I don't think I am.


Hmm, I totally gave him an out..... I said thats it, I'm done, why didn't he take it? If he's on tinder I'm sure he could find another hook up. He didn't just stop texting he asked me if I was ok with texting not so much....it hurt my feelings a little but I gave him space when he asked for it. Why won't he let me go if this is all a game? I've told him I'm still feeling out this dating thing but that I'm a boots and all kind of person when I've decided I've decided, I'm still decoding my marriage split, becoming more myself after a 12 year unhappy marriage, I call my marriage a cult and I'm deprogramming lol. I've given this Taurus man lots of options to bolt but he keeps hanging on? I've told him in emails and in person some pretty needy things and he's still hanging around? I mean I've really tested him... like almost leaving him in the early hours of the morning cause he had his back to me in bed. (my ex shut me out emotionally and always had his back to me).... I'm standing there with a suit case ready to leave and he's like wtf? What kind of guy stays around with someone going through those kinds of emotional drama if he's only in it for the sex? I thought guys hate neediness and drama?
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Because he isn't sure what he wants.

What's his Venus sign, OP?
geez don't know... his birthday is 26th April 1968 but born in the southern hemisphere
What about his moon? You need a location at least to get his chart
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What about his moon? You need a location at least to get his chart
New Zealand