Taurueans, how deep does your possessiveness run?

Posessiveness over family, friends and lover.

Great question! Looking forward to the answers.

*ownership

I possess my lover the most. They are the most predominant person in my life. I want to keep them close and safe and most importantly mine. As long as they dont do anything to change my feelings for them I will love, fight, and possess them as mine.

With friends and family I use to do that more when I was younger. Ive become more independant as Ive gotten older. I feel safe and secure with them. I know i have good solid bonds with them. I see them when i have time and they see me when they have time. It works. Id only become possessive of them if I felt I was losing one of them. I don't want to lose anyone I love.

With friends I am more relaxed. Weeks, months and years can go by. Touch base, all is well. I am there forever in whatever capacity they require. I think the world of them. Love them. Will fight for them.

Family has all this and fiercer yet. United. Screw with them you are screwing with me. I am highly protective of my family. Shielding them from negative influence, offering nothing of them beyond character traits unless you are within my perceived circle. These people are my anchors. My blood and bone. Definitely mine.

Ahh, a lover. Higher realm. I give my time, my thoughts and dreams, my body, my very essence to this person. They are most assuredly mine. What is given is expected to be received. Possession is what I demand. It should come as no shock that I possess as well.

My couch is like Rapunzel's tower.

Posted by venusianbull
With friends I am more relaxed. Weeks, months and years can go by. Touch base, all is well. I am there forever in whatever capacity they require. I think the world of them. Love them. Will fight for them.

Family has all this and fiercer yet. United. Screw with them you are screwing with me. I am highly protective of my family. Shielding them from negative influence, offering nothing of them beyond character traits unless you are within my perceived circle. These people are my anchors. My blood and bone. Definitely mine.

Ahh, a lover. Higher realm. I give my time, my thoughts and dreams, my body, my very essence to this person. They are most assuredly mine. What is given is expected to be received. Possession is what I demand. It should come as no shock that I possess as well.

WOW! That's deep. But I totally understand.

Posted by MilkySoft
How do I approach this...

lol...you crack me up

Posted by Iamawinelover

Posted by venusianbull
With friends I am more relaxed. Weeks, months and years can go by. Touch base, all is well. I am there forever in whatever capacity they require. I think the world of them. Love them. Will fight for them.

Family has all this and fiercer yet. United. Screw with them you are screwing with me. I am highly protective of my family. Shielding them from negative influence, offering nothing of them beyond character traits unless you are within my perceived circle. These people are my anchors. My blood and bone. Definitely mine.

Ahh, a lover. Higher realm. I give my time, my thoughts and dreams, my body, my very essence to this person. They are most assuredly mine. What is given is expected to be received. Possession is what I demand. It should come as no shock that I possess as well.

WOW! That's deep. But I totally understand.

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My Taurus is exactly like this. His life purpose he said is to give and receive love. And his favorite thing to say about me is, "MINE!" Possession is HOT 😉
Amazingly he also gives me more space than any other lover, which I deeply needed all along...still while helping me feel most secure. It's quite a beautiful thing.

Very interesting.

That inspired me to write this Slicks:

Becoming
Step into the pit of my soul
Try on my essence
Hang me out to dry

Become me
Blur the lines between us
So deeply embedded
In who we used to be

Becoming
Thoughts without words
Electric moments
Charged and secret
Between our hearts open

Become me
As I become you
And we shed the things
That we??re used to
And slip into this new skin
To lie naked together

Posted by Slicks
Lovers, friends and family who I am and have been possessive of make me feel as though... that person there is ME. I see myself in them and I am them and they are mine so in a weird and roundabout way I am in THEIR possession because my happiness and emotions are dependent upon THEM and their actions. As years have gone past I've learned to soothe this possessive temperament because I do not own anyone, you're free to do as you wish, just respect me and I pray these feelings are mutual. I'm calm on the surface but make no mistake those emotions never stop stirring deep beneath.

That's awesome! Lucky you. I am still working with my Taurus; we shall see. If he was possessive over me, I'd honestly like that myself.

Posted by Slicks
Lovers, friends and family who I am and have been possessive of make me feel as though... that person there is ME. I see myself in them and I am them and they are mine so in a weird and roundabout way I am in THEIR possession because my happiness and emotions are dependent upon THEM and their actions. As years have gone past I've learned to soothe this possessive temperament because I do not own anyone, you're free to do as you wish, just respect me and I pray these feelings are mutual. I'm calm on the surface but make no mistake those emotions never stop stirring deep beneath.

DEEP!!!! *sigh* Maybe one day for me. 😉

When I was younger, I used to get so upset (to the point of tears) when other friends or cousins would claim my mother as their own, or that she loved them more. 😆 I know irrational, but that is how far my possessiveness goes with family members, not so intense now that I've learned how to Share. When ever my mother brings male friends over they all are wary of me 😆, as they should be. ~shrugs~ If you have ill intentions that just won't do.

Don't have a huge family and most of them are spread out through out the world, but I Have younger cousins, who I like to think of as my own. As for friends, My possessive strike passed when I was seventeen-nineteen, basically anyone who I feel like I have a close bond with are deeply embedded in my heart, so of course I will feel possessive over my own heart 😆. Sharing is everything, one has to be able to share their heart in order to receive as well. Beyond that, it is respecting each person as their own being, love isn't owning someone, it's being able to let them go and be themselves, complete acceptance.

In general I think it's common for most bulls to feel possessive, we like to own things, the more the merrier, and we are fierce protectors of the things we own. I brush things off and walk away if I'm being attacked, but not those I love.

How deep does my possessiveness run?

It's relatively simple.

He's MY man.

Give me EVERYTHING, your heart, your smile, your joy...

....And I will give him ALWAYS.

His sorrows, secrets, and obstacles will be mines to bear.

Posted by Carlikins

In general I think it's common for most bulls to feel possessive, we like to own things, the more the merrier, and we are fierce protectors of the things we own. I brush things off and walk away if I'm being attacked, but not those I love.

+1000
We protect those we love.

being possessive,.. i don't know it's not that i acquire people to be mine but i really hold a feeling that i am theirs if i care about those people like my family or loved ones. Some people, friends, become my family after a few years ??_. and after that transition i become theirs. i will become possessive when i am theirs.
when you hurt someone i love, you will hurt me in some way, so i will try my very best to keep them and their feelings safe.. in that way i am possessive. i will take care of them and not in some selfish way because when you hurt them you will hurt me but just simply because i love those people and i want the best for them
so when the shit hits the fan an you try to mess with my peeps i will fight and some will get burned...

Posted by nojoke
being possessive,.. i don't know it's not that i acquire people to be mine but i really hold a feeling that i am theirs if i care about those people like my family or loved ones. Some people, friends, become my family after a few years ??_. and after that transition i become theirs. i will become possessive when i am theirs.
when you hurt someone i love, you will hurt me in some way, so i will try my very best to keep them and their feelings safe.. in that way i am possessive. i will take care of them and not in some selfish way because when you hurt them you will hurt me but just simply because i love those people and i want the best for them
so when the shit hits the fan an you try to mess with my peeps i will fight and some will get burned...

Amen

i own my friends and family, and they don't even know it....the are happy though, i don't abuse, mistreat, or take advantage of any of them. i take care of them, but yes, I own them. don't act surprised.

i fucking hate people who try to take my virgos.

Posted by Vainth
i fucking hate people who try to take my virgos.

YES

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by Carlikins

In general I think it's common for most bulls to feel possessive, we like to own things, the more the merrier, and we are fierce protectors of the things we own. I brush things off and walk away if I'm being attacked, but not those I love.

+1000
We protect those we love.

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+10000 our friends we hold dear are selected. They are the inner circle we hold close and will do whateve it takes to protect them. We own them. We respect them . We want the best for them. We want them protected and cared for as long as they live. We cherish their happiness more than our own. We are loyal and faithful to the end. As loved ones, I used to be very possessive. I realised as I have grown older that I don't own my lover . I have learnt to let it go a bit and focus on my lovers happiness instead.I want the person I love to be happy and will do whatever it takes to achieve that.

Tonight I was out with a Taurus friend of mine who happens to be FWB! His friend liked me and I was pushing him to say what he said to the friend. He jokingly said " I told him he can't be with you because you are mine" possessive much? He's very very protective of those he hold dear. He's a real mummy boy as well. He's very sensitive to my needs. Always making sure I am cared for. Making sure I don't slip and all that kind of stuff. He would put his family first before anything. Bulls are great as a life partner. He kept asking if I was happy . If I was alright.. Etc...eventhough we are just friends with benefit I am being treated amazingly well. He definately looks after his belonging!!

Posted by nojoke
being possessive,.. i don't know it's not that i acquire people to be mine but i really hold a feeling that i am theirs if i care about those people like my family or loved ones. Some people, friends, become my family after a few years ??_. and after that transition i become theirs. i will become possessive when i am theirs.
when you hurt someone i love, you will hurt me in some way, so i will try my very best to keep them and their feelings safe.. in that way i am possessive. i will take care of them and not in some selfish way because when you hurt them you will hurt me but just simply because i love those people and i want the best for them
so when the shit hits the fan an you try to mess with my peeps i will fight and some will get burned...

Can't say it any better myself!

Posted by SunTauVenGem
Tonight I was out with a Taurus friend of mine who happens to be FWB! His friend liked me and I was pushing him to say what he said to the friend. He jokingly said " I told him he can't be with you because you are mine" possessive much? He's very very protective of those he hold dear. He's a real mummy boy as well. He's very sensitive to my needs. Always making sure I am cared for. Making sure I don't slip and all that kind of stuff. He would put his family first before anything. Bulls are great as a life partner. He kept asking if I was happy . If I was alright.. Etc...eventhough we are just friends with benefit I am being treated amazingly well. He definately looks after his belonging!!

You're in trouble! You've got feelings for him. I'd never allow someone to possess me unless I wanted it to be more.

Posted by soultalk

Posted by Vainth
i own my friends and family, and they don't even know it....the are happy though, i don't abuse, mistreat, or take advantage of any of them. i take care of them, but yes, I own them. don't act surprised.

i fucking hate people who try to take my virgos.

the virgos will secretly like that sentiment.

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Really? Even though they're so independent?

Lol oops I bolded mine too.

Posted by Taurusgirl3

Posted by SunTauVenGem
Tonight I was out with a Taurus friend of mine who happens to be FWB! His friend liked me and I was pushing him to say what he said to the friend. He jokingly said " I told him he can't be with you because you are mine" possessive much? He's very very protective of those he hold dear. He's a real mummy boy as well. He's very sensitive to my needs. Always making sure I am cared for. Making sure I don't slip and all that kind of stuff. He would put his family first before anything. Bulls are great as a life partner. He kept asking if I was happy . If I was alright.. Etc...eventhough we are just friends with benefit I am being treated amazingly well. He definately looks after his belonging!!

You're in trouble! You've got feelings for him. I'd never allow someone to possess me unless I wanted it to be more.

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How can I !! I am deeply in love with my other Taurus man.. I do like him yes. His personality is attractive. I don't think I will say yes if he ever asked me to be exclusive though.. I don't know! My venus in Gemini is confusing!! Or maybe I was in so much pain with my Taurus man that I was like" stuff this"! And grew to like him more than friend? Someone has a knife!? Please stab me!! Tonight he took me out to the party of 150 people n he knew 80 of them. Introduced me to everyone and never left my side. Danced together like crazy. he checks up on me everyday. He also invite me along to almost everything. Also planning a fishing trip together soon.. Reply my text instantly n call instead of text. Maybe I grew to like him because of it. I am confused with my own feelings too. Someone please stab me!!!!

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Posted by SunTauVenGem
Tonight I was out with a Taurus friend of mine who happens to be FWB! His friend liked me and I was pushing him to say what he said to the friend. He jokingly said " I told him he can't be with you because you are mine" possessive much? He's very very protective of those he hold dear. He's a real mummy boy as well. He's very sensitive to my needs. Always making sure I am cared for. Making sure I don't slip and all that kind of stuff. He would put his family first before anything. Bulls are great as a life partner. He kept asking if I was happy . If I was alright.. Etc...eventhough we are just friends with benefit I am being treated amazingly well. He definately looks after his belonging!!

because you are more than friends and maybe he secretly likes you?

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I'm sure he does.. FWB never work. I should have known better....... I also took a quick glance on his iPad today . I am becoming possessive myself. Disaster.

Posted by SunTauVenGem

Posted by soultalk

Posted by SunTauVenGem
Tonight I was out with a Taurus friend of mine who happens to be FWB! His friend liked me and I was pushing him to say what he said to the friend. He jokingly said " I told him he can't be with you because you are mine" possessive much? He's very very protective of those he hold dear. He's a real mummy boy as well. He's very sensitive to my needs. Always making sure I am cared for. Making sure I don't slip and all that kind of stuff. He would put his family first before anything. Bulls are great as a life partner. He kept asking if I was happy . If I was alright.. Etc...eventhough we are just friends with benefit I am being treated amazingly well. He definately looks after his belonging!!

because you are more than friends and maybe he secretly likes you?

I'm sure he does.. FWB never work. I should have known better....... I also took a quick glance on his iPad today . I am becoming possessive myself. Disaster.

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I feel like taureans who look for "the one" and are usually in it for the long term. You ppl shouldnt get in an FWB, its only looking for pain. One of you will fall for the other and in your case its with another BULL its a recipe for disaster, i think he is attracted to you or atleast values you and considers you his. I understand you were/are in pain over your main bull but you now have a FWB bull who will end up falling for you because you acted blinded by your feels+pain and he will be hurt :/ You should cut it off. For earth signs its a bad idea to start something like this when your heart belongs to someone else.......in the end you'll regret this. Your emotions are clouded becuz of you venus gemini i can TOTALLY understand that (me having sun+moon gemini FML -.-) but you need to look at the bigger picture here, clear things out with you main bull. Suppose your main bull decides to come back for you and finds out about your FWB mess, what will he think?? He will be hurt+jealous+pissed and i can assure you that!! My bull did the same thing you did except he had a fling that lasted 3 months then came back running to me -.- and you know what my thoughts were? "WOW whatever happened to your 'so-called' loyalty?!" Im torn b/w goi

I was cut off, continued: Im torn b/w going upto him, hugging him and telling him "hes mine and im his" and apologize for putting him thru so much that he ended up having a fling BUT THE OTHER PART wants me to leave his sorry ass/throttle him. A person's loyalty is put to the test when the one they are loyal to is not around, and he CLEARLY got an F. How can i expect him to stay loyal to me IM DYING!!! _—_—

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Posted by SunTauVenGem
Tonight I was out with a Taurus friend of mine who happens to be FWB! His friend liked me and I was pushing him to say what he said to the friend. He jokingly said " I told him he can't be with you because you are mine" possessive much? He's very very protective of those he hold dear. He's a real mummy boy as well. He's very sensitive to my needs. Always making sure I am cared for. Making sure I don't slip and all that kind of stuff. He would put his family first before anything. Bulls are great as a life partner. He kept asking if I was happy . If I was alright.. Etc...eventhough we are just friends with benefit I am being treated amazingly well. He definately looks after his belonging!!

You're in trouble! You've got feelings for him. I'd never allow someone to possess me unless I wanted it to be more.

How can I !! I am deeply in love with my other Taurus man.. I do like him yes. His personality is attractive. I don't think I will say yes if he ever asked me to be exclusive though.. I don't know! My venus in Gemini is confusing!! Or maybe I was in so much pain with my Taurus man that I was like" stuff this"! And grew to like him more than friend? Someone has a knife!? Please stab me!! Tonight he took me out to the party of 150 people n he knew 80 of them. Introduced me to everyone and never left my side. Danced together like crazy. he checks up on me everyday. He also invite me along to almost everything. Also planning a fishing trip together soon.. Reply my text instantly n call instead of text. Maybe I grew to like him because of it. I am confused with my own feelings too. Someone please stab me!!!!

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He sounds so sweet! The way you write about him shows how fond of him you are and what he does for you. Where is the other Taurus man you love?

I definitely felt "owned" by my taurus ex. And not in a good way since it had to be all about him. He was much too selfish and controlling, then became abusive. I require a lot more freedom and refuse to be owned. So, what I can gather, from what you all have said, in his twisted little mind he loved me, probably still does and still can't fathom why I would divorce him and thinks we can still get back together (though the stalking and acting like a grade A asshole isn't winning him any points). What would it do to him for me to tell him to his face that if he died any time soon I wouldn't care or mourn him (because I have)? or to tell him that every bit of love I ever felt for him I've burned to ash (yep, told him that too)? or that I wished I'd never married him (yeah, said that and a bunch of other stuff)? How would someone who thinks they own you take all of that?

And yes, I know that's some very cold and cruel things to say, and yes I meant it. Bottom line, Cancers will love you with all their heart and soul but if we get hurt and shit on long enough we will destroy every last shred of the relationship and out comes the ice queen. Our best weapon is being so empathetic and intuitive that we know the most cruel ways of hurting. Maybe that's not a good thing, but it's what we do.

@ soultalk I totally understand what you are saying! I hate my venus it's the worst part! The thing is I have no idea what is going on between me and the main bull! He lives interstate and refused to persue it further with me. We finally met again. He is here in my city for two weeks! We finally caught up and I could tell he has not moved on yet. We hugged but the instensity was so strong . How much we wanted each other was intense. I promises him that I won't cause him pain after he leaves and will keep in touch with him as I also know long distance doesn't work either. I kept my words regardless of how hard it is to hAve him bak here and not be with him. Friday night I invited him my dancing event but he said he couldn't make it. This weekend I also asked him if he wanted to do something as I had a day off he also said he has other plans and will let me know when he is free. I know what he is doing. He is keeping the distance on purpose to avoid us getting attached again. I was in too much pain but ofcoz he doesn't know that. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm trying to let him go. I sobbed in the car Friday night I was so hurt he couldn't be there... I ended up recording myself saying everything to him but I have not sent it to him yet. I want him so so so so much but we can't be together. Meanwhile my other FWB bull is around so I thought " why not!" You can't just lie there feeling depressed so yeah..... I'm a mess.....

^^^ I meant to write that for after shine....!!

@ Taurus girl. Yes I am very find of him. I do like him. His personality is attractive and he seems to know how to please me or make me happy. My other bull is here but isn't chasing me at all. The distance is stopping him too. I am not sure how he feels about me. It's hurting me too much and the only choice I had was moving on... In saying that if I end up with my FWB bull and the main bull returns to this city... It will a horrible mess but maybe by then I will be over the main bull completely. I still hve my own little wishes..but I'm just tired of chasing a man who does not want me...

Its just a natural instinct we have. Its like were born with it. I like material things. They are my items I work hard for. My lover is mine too. I don't share. If were possessive about you it's because we put you in our life and now we hold on to it dearly and passionately.

My Taurus bf says, "mine" all the time to me lol I have a Scorpio Venus and I like it a lot because I get to be possessive too 🙂

Posted by TaurusBull1977
How deep does my possessiveness run?

It's relatively simple.

He's MY man.

Give me EVERYTHING, your heart, your smile, your joy...

....And I will give him ALWAYS.

His sorrows, secrets, and obstacles will be mines to bear.

This. Is. Me.

Posted by SunTauVenGem

Posted by soultalk

Posted by SunTauVenGem
Tonight I was out with a Taurus friend of mine who happens to be FWB! His friend liked me and I was pushing him to say what he said to the friend. He jokingly said " I told him he can't be with you because you are mine" possessive much? He's very very protective of those he hold dear. He's a real mummy boy as well. He's very sensitive to my needs. Always making sure I am cared for. Making sure I don't slip and all that kind of stuff. He would put his family first before anything. Bulls are great as a life partner. He kept asking if I was happy . If I was alright.. Etc...eventhough we are just friends with benefit I am being treated amazingly well. He definately looks after his belonging!!

because you are more than friends and maybe he secretly likes you?

I'm sure he does.. FWB never work. I should have known better....... I also took a quick glance on his iPad today . I am becoming possessive myself. Disaster.

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This is def one of those FWB that is destined to fail. Its clearly no longer FWB, you are spending non sexual time together and...gasp....enjoying it!! A true FWB doesnt mean having an escort to fill in the place of a boyfriend/girlfriend. You fuck and go about your business. Once you let them in that way, its over.

Honestly, you gem Venus knows better and you should ask it to snap you out of this, or be honest with both of yourselves and give it a go. And If you're not over the other taurus guy, it should be the former, for both your sakes. Otherwise your using him to feel a void, and he doesn't know it, and will end up hurt.

Lol FILL a void, not feel. Feeling voids is another topic....