Posted by Impulsv
Mmmm why do you expect him to buy your tires?
Or to take it to the shop
It’ll can do that on ur own
Posted by Impulsv
I mean if you were single You’d do it
why does it change just cuz u have bf
That’s stuff you can take care urself
Just saying
Posted by Black-Mamba
I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Black-Mamba
I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?
Lol I was saying that to myself for 7 months, but in realizing that being handsome doesnt cut it sometimes.
I need reliability and someone who does something when they say they will...
i hear you that would drive me mad, but i also would just get it done and not worry about his a $ $
that's how you make someone feel guilty
do it, and be like oh i don't need you to do it for me
cut his dick metaphoricallyclick to expand
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313Then don't.Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Black-Mamba
I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?
Lol I was saying that to myself for 7 months, but in realizing that being handsome doesnt cut it sometimes.
I need reliability and someone who does something when they say they will...
i hear you that would drive me mad, but i also would just get it done and not worry about his a $ $
that's how you make someone feel guilty
do it, and be like oh i don't need you to do it for me
cut his dick metaphorically
That's what I said to him "I'm just doing it myself on monday... hope I dont get hurt before then"...suddenly it was "I'm coming now" to which I said "dont bother..." he showed up anyway.
But why do I need to take it to that level to get him to so that?? Its maddening
If you want to be with him and you sense he is unreliable. Rely on yourself.
Otherwise get with another man, maybe a Virgoclick to expand
Posted by tiziani
I think what you're saying is
You feel like you showed your hand to him, by opening up about the dependency thing
And you wonder if he's using that as an ego boost by leaving you hanging
Is that it or I'm off?
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Boots1313Posted by tiziani
I think what you're saying is
You feel like you showed your hand to him, by opening up about the dependency thing
And you wonder if he's using that as an ego boost by leaving you hanging
Is that it or I'm off?
A small part of it.
A bigger part would be I feel I do alot for him without being asked. Even when I'm tried and dont "feel like it" I'm there always. I'm super reliable.
But alsoninjust dontnlike when people dont do as they say of course there are been other smaller insignificant instances of this, but not worth getting mad over.
Taurus learn by behavior so stop being so damn reliable n o I’ve never beyond for him
He will get it lolclick to expand
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Boots1313Posted by tiziani
I think what you're saying is
You feel like you showed your hand to him, by opening up about the dependency thing
And you wonder if he's using that as an ego boost by leaving you hanging
Is that it or I'm off?
A small part of it.
A bigger part would be I feel I do alot for him without being asked. Even when I'm tried and dont "feel like it" I'm there always. I'm super reliable.
But alsoninjust dontnlike when people dont do as they say of course there are been other smaller insignificant instances of this, but not worth getting mad over.
Taurus learn by behavior so stop being so damn reliable n Go above n beyond for him
He will get it lolclick to expand
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Boots1313Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Boots1313Posted by tiziani
I think what you're saying is
You feel like you showed your hand to him, by opening up about the dependency thing
And you wonder if he's using that as an ego boost by leaving you hanging
Is that it or I'm off?
A small part of it.
A bigger part would be I feel I do alot for him without being asked. Even when I'm tried and dont "feel like it" I'm there always. I'm super reliable.
But alsoninjust dontnlike when people dont do as they say of course there are been other smaller insignificant instances of this, but not worth getting mad over.
Taurus learn by behavior so stop being so damn reliable n Go above n beyond for him
He will get it lol
It's in my nature tho. I'm very caring, so its hard
Lol well know it’s not in his nature to be thoughtfulclick to expand
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313Sorry to hear about the fight. I don’t think you were being unreasonable if he offered to do it for you. You’re right though that you should rely on yourself and if he does extra things for you then it’s a bonus.
Well he called me after dropping off my car and apologized. He said he is lazy and selfish and can be unreliable. He appreciates all the things I so for him and hea going to try harder to just do things when he says or offers. I told him I'm going to be more independent and he said "no, I want to be there for you".
I'm still going to mostly rely on myself unless its necessary, moving forwardclick to expand
Posted by 7s
Insightful thread. Thanks.
Posted by Boots1313Yes... i know guys like these who want to pretend to step up and actually prevent you of taking care of yourself. You end up relying on them and they keep disappointing.Posted by Impulsv
Mmmm why do you expect him to buy your tires?
Or to take it to the shop
It’ll can do that on ur own
Like I said I would have done with on my own but he was talking a big game that he wants to do it for me, and doesnt want me getting bamboozled.
"I know a guy, I want to help you". He insisted and insisted. Last week I even said "hey I'm just going to so this on Monday becasue I sont wanna die" and he said "I'll do it for you this weekend".
Well it's this weekend and like I said on my post, I didnt do it put of principle.
And tbh, I'm a baby ahab I have to do things like that, I completely breakdown and unravel. I need my hand held, and he knows this about me.
But shit, this is my life ...tires are importantclick to expand
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by Boots1313Yes... i know guys like these who want to pretend to step up and actually prevent you of taking care of yourself. You end up relying on them and they keep disappointing.Posted by Impulsv
Mmmm why do you expect him to buy your tires?
Or to take it to the shop
It’ll can do that on ur own
Like I said I would have done with on my own but he was talking a big game that he wants to do it for me, and doesnt want me getting bamboozled.
"I know a guy, I want to help you". He insisted and insisted. Last week I even said "hey I'm just going to so this on Monday becasue I sont wanna die" and he said "I'll do it for you this weekend".
Well it's this weekend and like I said on my post, I didnt do it put of principle.
And tbh, I'm a baby ahab I have to do things like that, I completely breakdown and unravel. I need my hand held, and he knows this about me.
But shit, this is my life ...tires are important
It's hard to get out of this cycle tbh... because they constantly "want to do it for you" but then don't.
there's a point where you do it without even bringing it up to them.
SMH....click to expand
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?click to expand
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnshehe who you trying to fool, chief?Posted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?click to expand
Posted by Impulsv
I read the most successful relationships are the ones where there are no gender role expectations.
Good to hear you’re going to work on being a little more independent
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?click to expand
Posted by -MadHatter-
This isnt a taurus thing... this is a guy thing.. I have an aqua friend who lives in a half built house with his wife and 3 kids...... for the last 10 years.. he'll get to it... eventually.... keep the faith.
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.click to expand
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time thoclick to expand
Posted by 7sPosted by FknMeowPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
My dad wasnt there for my mom when she had me lol. He waited in the waiting room. True story.
is it "bad" if you don't want to be in the room?click to expand
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?click to expand
Posted by KoniPosted by Boots1313Wow, that is longPosted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +click to expand
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.click to expand
Posted by Boots1313I get where you're coming from, and his behavior would irritate the heck out of me, as well.
Yeah moving forward if I chose to stay in this that's what I'm going to need to do.
Just do it without saying anything.
Knowing him he will be butt hurt I didnt ask, but oh well. I gave you your chance hunny.
Posted by FleshpotPosted by Boots1313I get where you're coming from, and his behavior would irritate the heck out of me, as well.
Yeah moving forward if I chose to stay in this that's what I'm going to need to do.
Just do it without saying anything.
Knowing him he will be butt hurt I didnt ask, but oh well. I gave you your chance hunny.
That said, do things on your own if the future if you wish, but do them because you enjoy being more self-reliant, not because you want to spite him (which is the overall sentiment I'm sensing from your tone) or hold it against him later. Passive aggression rarely affects relationships in a positive manner.click to expand
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...click to expand
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...
ohh
don't judge me too hard now lol. Its not even my sun sign... it's some other aspect of my chart. Am astrologer told mr.I can definitely commit, it just takes me a while. High standards.click to expand
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313how is that the worst placement? can you expand please?Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...
ohh
don't judge me too hard now lol. Its not even my sun sign... it's some other aspect of my chart. Am astrologer told mr.I can definitely commit, it just takes me a while. High standards.
I'm not judging I got Venus in Gemini that's like the worst place when you can have terms of committing. But I will say it I most Gemini's I know do you have very high standards and they don't really last long and relationships however I had seen more getting married recentlyclick to expand
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313how is that the worst placement? can you expand please?Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...
ohh
don't judge me too hard now lol. Its not even my sun sign... it's some other aspect of my chart. Am astrologer told mr.I can definitely commit, it just takes me a while. High standards.
I'm not judging I got Venus in Gemini that's like the worst place when you can have terms of committing. But I will say it I most Gemini's I know do you have very high standards and they don't really last long and relationships however I had seen more getting married recently
According to dxp in some other sources it is the cheating placement and the placement of non commitment, wandering eyes flirtations
according to you tho?click to expand
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313how is that the worst placement? can you expand please?Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...
ohh
don't judge me too hard now lol. Its not even my sun sign... it's some other aspect of my chart. Am astrologer told mr.I can definitely commit, it just takes me a while. High standards.
I'm not judging I got Venus in Gemini that's like the worst place when you can have terms of committing. But I will say it I most Gemini's I know do you have very high standards and they don't really last long and relationships however I had seen more getting married recently
According to dxp in some other sources it is the cheating placement and the placement of non commitment, wandering eyes flirtations
according to you tho?click to expand
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...
ohh
don't judge me too hard now lol. Its not even my sun sign... it's some other aspect of my chart. Am astrologer told mr.I can definitely commit, it just takes me a while. High standards.
I'm not judging I got Venus in Gemini that's like the worst place when you can have terms of committing. But I will say it I most Gemini's I know do you have very high standards and they don't really last long and relationships however I had seen more getting married recently
omg you are so judging me hard. You even stopped spell checking.click to expand
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Boots1313Posted by FleshpotPosted by Boots1313I get where you're coming from, and his behavior would irritate the heck out of me, as well.
Yeah moving forward if I chose to stay in this that's what I'm going to need to do.
Just do it without saying anything.
Knowing him he will be butt hurt I didnt ask, but oh well. I gave you your chance hunny.
That said, do things on your own if the future if you wish, but do them because you enjoy being more self-reliant, not because you want to spite him (which is the overall sentiment I'm sensing from your tone) or hold it against him later. Passive aggression rarely affects relationships in a positive manner.
It's not so much in spite, it's in dred. Om extremely bad at doing my own things. I cry setting appointments, I break down at even making a phone call to my grandparents. I'm awful at "adulting " but heck I'm 30...I need to do these things. So I would be doing it for personal growth even tho, no I dont want to.
Then you’re just playing at being in an adult relationship.Don’t get in a relationship and have kids imagine you can’t even call and make appointments for your kids dental appointments. Cute not cute
anylise too how ready you are at being reliable partner too.
That’s real life! Your going to be bog down with responsibilities in a marriageclick to expand
Posted by Jade_Alexander
Do you have problems with anxiety? Mine would manifest that way... paying bills, making phone calls, normal stuff was a struggle.
Posted by PostHumanPosted by Black-MambaA less handsome but more filled out me
I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?click to expand
Posted by Boots1313You gotta work through that. I can relate, it’s no longer an issue.Posted by Jade_Alexander
Do you have problems with anxiety? Mine would manifest that way... paying bills, making phone calls, normal stuff was a struggle.
Yes extreme anxiety. ..oddly I can do those tasks when its work related but personal things. It just overwhelms me.click to expand
Posted by Boots1313Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313Then don't.Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Black-Mamba
I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?
Lol I was saying that to myself for 7 months, but in realizing that being handsome doesnt cut it sometimes.
I need reliability and someone who does something when they say they will...
i hear you that would drive me mad, but i also would just get it done and not worry about his a $ $
that's how you make someone feel guilty
do it, and be like oh i don't need you to do it for me
cut his dick metaphorically
That's what I said to him "I'm just doing it myself on monday... hope I dont get hurt before then"...suddenly it was "I'm coming now" to which I said "dont bother..." he showed up anyway.
But why do I need to take it to that level to get him to so that?? Its maddening
If you want to be with him and you sense he is unreliable. Rely on yourself.
Otherwise get with another man, maybe a Virgo
Virgo's yuck.
Mah I'm sticking with him. But yeah I just cant ask him to help me.
Even of he offers I'm just going to say "nah"click to expand
Posted by JanMayMarryIKRPosted by LadyNeptuneSays an Aries moon. 😝
Fights are good imo
Relationships make you complacent.click to expand
Posted by Black-MambaWhy are you so superficial?
I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?