Taurus break up...
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by xtra1990 on Monday, September 11, 2017 and has 6 replies.
[26/F Leo]
So my Taurus broke up with me about a month ago.
I was out with my girlfriends (who I rarely ever see anymore) one night. My best friend is good friends with the club owner. My ex was near the club with his friends so I told them to swing by. He comes in and I give his friend a hug and him a kiss on the cheek and then he and his friends decide to check out the second floor. Meanwhile, while they're upstairs the club owner buys my friend a shot but she can't finish it so she hands me the shot. I ask what it is and he says tequila and repeatedly says "take the shot, just take it". I do, then he the owner leaves. I turn around and my ex was there but he goes back upstairs. My friend tells me he looked a little weird so I figured he was upset over the shot. I didn't want him to think the guy bought me the shot so I went upstairs talked to him for a bit and explained who the guy was. We leave and I thought everything was fine but he isn't walking with me and say that he and friends are going somewhere else. I text him that it would be weird not cuddling with him that night (I was staying in the city with my friend that night instead of driving all the way back). He replies with a curt message and said that we need to talk. He calls and asked me if I know why he's mad, I say no, to which he says, "you really don't know". He said he watched for 20 SECONDS and that the guy had his hands all over me to which I said I didn't feel hands on me. He then starts yelling and cursing saying I'm full of shit and I'm a liar. I really didn't feel the guys hand at all. I had been drinking and you know in a club where it's loud people lean in and can subtly place their hand on you to speak to you in your ear. He just kept saying he was trying to hit on me and I can't be trusted. He said me saying it would be weird not cuddle with him and telling him who the guy was made me seem guilty. He then said he's had a gut feeling that I'm a liar and I'm manipulative. since the very beginning and it won't go away.
Even more background: According to him he's never loved anyone as much as me and has thought about marriage and kids with me which is a first for him. He was cheated on by his last two girlfriends. The last one was an alcoholic but he kept giving her chances. His father also just passed away in December. With us he always seems to find issues with me. Ex., we were out with my girlfriends and he got mad at ME because my friend was dancing with another guy. He said his ex would dance with other men in front of his face despite him telling her he didn't like it. I said but I didn't do anything and he said I should've known to begin with and think these things through and I'm not "mindful", wth? I'm apparently an attention seeker too. My girlfriend's and I have a mutual guy friend who had/has a crush on me. He is very nice and I've rejected him multiple times. We don't hang out and we don't really talk. I sent him a text for his birthday, nothing more, nothing less and according to him I don't respect boundaries and I did that because, "I like attention". He asked me what kind of porn I liked, I told him, he internalized and said I gave him that response to hurt his feelings because he's not physically similar to the porn I like lol *shaking my head*.
A week goes by and he calls my best friend to talk things out with her because he still loves me but couldn't do it if was going to stand firm that I didn't feel the guys hand. Told her he talked to his mom about what's been going on to try to fix things. He contacts me another week later saying that he misses me and still wants to be with me.He said when he loves someone he just becomes obsessive and starts to "lose his identity" in the process because he becomes so consumed in the relationship. He said he wanted to talk less at night (we're long distance) so he could dedicate more time to doing things he likes. I said that I didn't want to rush back into things and that he needed therapy before we would move forward. I think he hasn't dealt with his father's death (he went work the next day, didn't cry etc., then had a mini break down one day a few months ago) and he still has baggage from his previous relationships. During one of our arguments, he got so worked up and upset he lost a patch of hair over night, which is common for him when he gets really upset which is just another sign he needs to get therapy. My dumbass said we should just treat this time as a friendship. I meant it as just to be relaxed and not to have expectations because I really didn't want to argue anymore, not that I saw him as a friend or that I wanted to be friends. Of course, he took it as me saying I wanted to be friends so I could date other people and he got upset, we argued some more, I apologized and we agreed that he'd go to therapy despite him thinking he doesn't need and doesn't want to go but he'll go for me.
Fast forward a few days after he said he still wanted to be with me I said that I was coming up there for the weekend and we should do something light and fun, not talk about what's been going on so this could put us in a better place. He asked what I wanted to do, I gave a suggestion, and he said he would commit but he didn't know how he'd feel after sitting for 4 hrs getting a tattoo. I didn't respond to that piss poor non-committal text. Saturday rolls around he sent me a text with a picture of his tattoo let me know he was finished. I said looks nice and he said he was happy with the work. I asked what his post tatt plans were and he said he was going out with his best friend and his girlfriend. I was LIVID, but I decided to just leave it alone and not waste my energy on him.
I go onto the dating app which I was on and updated after he broke up with me and I see that he's on there too and he just updated his profile with his dumbass new tattoo. I'm so incredibly hurt and angry right now. Just a week a half ago his calling my friends to try and figure things out with me, a week before you still say you want to be with me, and now he's pulling away and is on a dating app?
I talked to my mother and she's convinced he's just being an ass right now for control since I'm making him go to therapy and resents me for it and I wasn't eager to get back him like he was with me so now he's kind of punishing me. I don't know. Either way I'm just really sad and angry right now :/
Guess I just wanted to vent...
So my Taurus broke up with me about a month ago.
I was out with my girlfriends (who I rarely ever see anymore) one night. My best friend is good friends with the club owner. My ex was near the club with his friends so I told them to swing by. He comes in and I give his friend a hug and him a kiss on the cheek and then he and his friends decide to check out the second floor. Meanwhile, while they're upstairs the club owner buys my friend a shot but she can't finish it so she hands me the shot. I ask what it is and he says tequila and repeatedly says "take the shot, just take it". I do, then he the owner leaves. I turn around and my ex was there but he goes back upstairs. My friend tells me he looked a little weird so I figured he was upset over the shot. I didn't want him to think the guy bought me the shot so I went upstairs talked to him for a bit and explained who the guy was. We leave and I thought everything was fine but he isn't walking with me and say that he and friends are going somewhere else. I text him that it would be weird not cuddling with him that night (I was staying in the city with my friend that night instead of driving all the way back). He replies with a curt message and said that we need to talk. He calls and asked me if I know why he's mad, I say no, to which he says, "you really don't know". He said he watched for 20 SECONDS and that the guy had his hands all over me to which I said I didn't feel hands on me. He then starts yelling and cursing saying I'm full of shit and I'm a liar. I really didn't feel the guys hand at all. I had been drinking and you know in a club where it's loud people lean in and can subtly place their hand on you to speak to you in your ear. He just kept saying he was trying to hit on me and I can't be trusted. He said me saying it would be weird not cuddle with him and telling him who the guy was made me seem guilty. He then said he's had a gut feeling that I'm a liar and I'm manipulative. since the very beginning and it won't go away.
Even more background: According to him he's never loved anyone as much as me and has thought about marriage and kids with me which is a first for him. He was cheated on by his last two girlfriends. The last one was an alcoholic but he kept giving her chances. His father also just passed away in December. With us he always seems to find issues with me. Ex., we were out with my girlfriends and he got mad at ME because my friend was dancing with another guy. He said his ex would dance with other men in front of his face despite him telling her he didn't like it. I said but I didn't do anything and he said I should've known to begin with and think these things through and I'm not "mindful", wth? I'm apparently an attention seeker too. My girlfriend's and I have a mutual guy friend who had/has a crush on me. He is very nice and I've rejected him multiple times. We don't hang out and we don't really talk. I sent him a text for his birthday, nothing more, nothing less and according to him I don't respect boundaries and I did that because, "I like attention". He asked me what kind of porn I liked, I told him, he internalized and said I gave him that response to hurt his feelings because he's not physically similar to the porn I like lol *shaking my head*.
A week goes by and he calls my best friend to talk things out with her because he still loves me but couldn't do it if was going to stand firm that I didn't feel the guys hand. Told her he talked to his mom about what's been going on to try to fix things. He contacts me another week later saying that he misses me and still wants to be with me.He said when he loves someone he just becomes obsessive and starts to "lose his identity" in the process because he becomes so consumed in the relationship. He said he wanted to talk less at night (we're long distance) so he could dedicate more time to doing things he likes. I said that I didn't want to rush back into things and that he needed therapy before we would move forward. I think he hasn't dealt with his father's death (he went work the next day, didn't cry etc., then had a mini break down one day a few months ago) and he still has baggage from his previous relationships. During one of our arguments, he got so worked up and upset he lost a patch of hair over night, which is common for him when he gets really upset which is just another sign he needs to get therapy. My dumbass said we should just treat this time as a friendship. I meant it as just to be relaxed and not to have expectations because I really didn't want to argue anymore, not that I saw him as a friend or that I wanted to be friends. Of course, he took it as me saying I wanted to be friends so I could date other people and he got upset, we argued some more, I apologized and we agreed that he'd go to therapy despite him thinking he doesn't need and doesn't want to go but he'll go for me.
Fast forward a few days after he said he still wanted to be with me I said that I was coming up there for the weekend and we should do something light and fun, not talk about what's been going on so this could put us in a better place. He asked what I wanted to do, I gave a suggestion, and he said he would commit but he didn't know how he'd feel after sitting for 4 hrs getting a tattoo. I didn't respond to that piss poor non-committal text. Saturday rolls around he sent me a text with a picture of his tattoo let me know he was finished. I said looks nice and he said he was happy with the work. I asked what his post tatt plans were and he said he was going out with his best friend and his girlfriend. I was LIVID, but I decided to just leave it alone and not waste my energy on him.
I go onto the dating app which I was on and updated after he broke up with me and I see that he's on there too and he just updated his profile with his dumbass new tattoo. I'm so incredibly hurt and angry right now. Just a week a half ago his calling my friends to try and figure things out with me, a week before you still say you want to be with me, and now he's pulling away and is on a dating app?
I talked to my mother and she's convinced he's just being an ass right now for control since I'm making him go to therapy and resents me for it and I wasn't eager to get back him like he was with me so now he's kind of punishing me. I don't know. Either way I'm just really sad and angry right now :/
Guess I just wanted to vent...
Seriously, Taurus men are soooo confusing. He seems extremely possessive so I highly doubt he will let you go. I'd say just give him space till he comes back and talks about it. He WILL come back.
He has internal issues he needs to conquer, you should reevaluate if this is a healthy relationship FOR YOU. what I will say is that if you decide to stick by him, STICK BY HIM. If he struggled with trusting people and gf's loyalty, stick by him and prove to be loyal even through the current break up.
Have you seen Friend's? Ross DID have that encounter with the other woman even though Rachel and him technically were on a break but their relationship never came back. Loyalty is Loyalty.
What I've learned about Taurus is that mentally and emotionally they are very honorable. When they dip into the "dark side" they are still aware of their actions
He has internal issues he needs to conquer, you should reevaluate if this is a healthy relationship FOR YOU. what I will say is that if you decide to stick by him, STICK BY HIM. If he struggled with trusting people and gf's loyalty, stick by him and prove to be loyal even through the current break up.
Have you seen Friend's? Ross DID have that encounter with the other woman even though Rachel and him technically were on a break but their relationship never came back. Loyalty is Loyalty.
What I've learned about Taurus is that mentally and emotionally they are very honorable. When they dip into the "dark side" they are still aware of their actions
Lol... oh yes the Taurus man in a nutshell right here lol smh...
OP...that side of him you see... it will never end...he won't change. Not 5 years later, not 10, not 15...
He's showing you who he is. Either you accept him and learn to live with it or find someone who is not like that.
He's showing you who he is. Either you accept him and learn to live with it or find someone who is not like that.
Taurus men are sensitive as fuck but have a tough exterior. When my My bf and I started talking again he saw I was in a group chat that my friend named "hoe is life", and he saw and got so mad ? It was a joke and I didn't even name it that ugh
He sounds exhausting
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