Taurus comes back even stronger

Ok, so you guys know about that previous casual sex partner who I basically ignored and he said that he was "ending our friendship" because he had better things to do. Well last week he came back pouring out some stuff that I have no clue what to do with. Like, he just messaged me good morning and I messaged him back good morning, then I mentioned his thing about having something better to do and he started texting me with stuff like:
1. He is not himself and can't feel comfortable in his own life without me in it.
2. He loves me, but didn't want to ever show it.
3. He wants us to get closer.
4. He kind of went off the rails when I picked my previous boyfriend (the Aries) over him and he even called the dude by his name.

A little background about that last thing he mentioned....since he said from day one that he never wanted things to be serious, I told him when I first met my ex-boyfriend and let him know that things were going well. I updated him after a week to let him know that it looked like the Aries was someone that I wanted to attempt to have a relationship with if things were headed in that direction. I updated him after about 6 weeks to let him know that it looked like me and the Aries were going to become exclusive. That's when he popped up and was like, "No...don't see him anymore". I was like, "Um...yes, I'm going to continue to see him and I don't think that you're being fair by all of the sudden demanding that I stop seeing this guy when I told you about him when I first met him." Anyways....I saw the Taurus one last time before I actually made a clear choice to move ahead in the relationship with the Aries. What I did was saw the Taurus overnight, then I waited until later the next day just to text him and see if he was going to ignore my text...he did, so I figured that I better stick with the Aries who was very serious about me and never ignored a text from me. I explained this to the Taurus. He wouldn't go away. He kept offering to be my side piece, etc. Of course I declined. Then my relationship went south after about...5 months and I found out some critical information that the Aries hid from me. Long story short, I break up with the Aries and end up fooling around with the Taurus again, but I thought we were still keeping it casual. He was more involved, but not as involved as someone is while in a relationship. So, I basically hung out with him in between wanting to meet someone new...about 2 months. Then I met my Scorp and I've not seen the Taurus since. He only started messaging me and trying to call me (I won't answer his phone calls) like...mid/late July. I just figured that he was putting pressure on because he had nothing better to do and would go away. Nope. So this is the thing...now he's like...acting like...IDK...not like we're together, but things can't go that far. Like, I need to see him face to face and let him know that I just don't ever see myself being with him on a serious

Like, I need to see him face to face and let him know that I just don't ever see myself being with him on a serious basis, because of his player ways. The way he is/was was cool with me, because we were casual, but I would have never tolerated that treatment in a serious relationship. He's just not getting it or refuses to accept it. In response to his declarations, I was just reminding him that it was always supposed to be casual, etc. That hasn't deterred him, but he's still not acting like his declarations are real. I don't know how to describe it. Basically, I think that I could continue to not see him and the thought (in his mind) that he's reeled me back in could probably be enough for him. lol It's just that eventually, I KNOW he's going to demand to see me and I'm going to say no.

Sounds like he regrets missing out on a good woman. He should've locked you down instead of being a scared ass pussy.

But sounds like your intuitive enough to see through his games

He sounds like a typical Taurus. Lord god, I'm happy you see his through bullshit.

Update on this and it's a wrap. I sat him down at the end of my bed right after my surgery, since I was bedridden anyways. I went into depth about why I couldn't become emo about him or be with him. He said, "I'm going to have to work on that". Long story short, he gave me some money the next day...maybe he appreciated my honesty...but more than that, I think he just wants to know that we can be friends and maybe sometimes he'll get some booty if I'm available and in the mood (in the future). Who knows? We still chit chat via text about twice a week. Nothing to it. Case closed. lol

Posted by loveydovex3
Situations like that really suck. 😢 Hopefully things get better for you.

Thanks but it's cool. He was a past casual sex partner and I'm in a relationship. He messaged me after no response for a few days and said something along the lines of ending the friendship, because he had better things to do. Then he came back a month later with what I posted above. It's all good. Besides, I also have a Cap admirer of 6 years who I'm cool with and he's not going anywhere until I get married. lol ha ha ha ha

Mind over matter...if you don't mind, it doesn't matter.

Posted by loveydovex3
I've noticed a theme about Taureans. They come back when it's really too late. Either that or people move way too fast for them. Can't decide...

I honestly think it's a little of both. I have an older Taurus brother and so far the woman that he's had the longest relationship with and is still together after 10 years is a Taurus as well. lol He's carried a torch for women who have moved on and then he gets back with them, but only for a little while. I believe they end up leaving him. lol The one he is with now hasn't left him, but they had a LDR for like...5 of the 10 year relationship. They've only been together face to face for the last 5 years. Crazy. There is no way I could have held on to a LDR for that long, but I guess it worked out for her. She was definitely the one keeping things together, because she would visit him wayyyyy more than he would visit her. When he started visiting her more often is when he finally moved to the east coast. I seriously hope they get married. lol They have relationship difficulties like anyone else, but they honestly are good together. Now, he's back to working out of town and I believe he gets home like...every 4 days. I think there's something about Taurus guys where they don't like or want to be around the love of their life ALL of the TIME. lol

Posted by loveydovex3
Well, that's not necessarily true... Just because you don't mind the situation, it doesn't mean that the situation does not matter. Maybe you're stronger than the situation but clearly he was on your mind that you posted such a topic, right?

And at least you have a hard handle on your case. I was a trainwreck when things ended between the taurus I was seeing and myself. Haha. Really took a toll on me, but I feel ya on the "it's all good" part. Sometimes you have to let things be, you're right about that.

So sorry to hear that. I don't mind, because I was never serious about him. I posted it, because this is an astrology forum and I know that people would be able to relate to it on an astro level. Besides, even though he's not someone who is important to me on a romantic level, it makes for a GREAT story. lol I actually feel like it's better when someone walks away and you care. It shows that there was a mutual investment there. I wasn't invested in him and if I had any kind of inkling that he was invested, things would have been VERY different before I got with my current guy....very very different. I would have been open to taking him more serious if this confession would have come about 7 months ago. I think that with him hitting me with it all of the sudden, I did pretty good. I definitely wasn't going to just push him off and expect him to deal with all of it without some type of feedback from me so that he could understand/seek closure.

@lovedovex3...my brother and his current were definitely in a relationship, but she made the effort to see him more than he made the effort to see her. They are both Taurus suns. I think that most men don't respond well when they are being pursued relentlessly by a woman without a relationship already being in place. I believe that mature men respect a woman's initial pursuit, but if he's not showing mutual interest, most men want to be left alone...they hardly say it though. Imagine the ego boost when overall men are so used to approaching women and expect to be rejected. Then all of the sudden, they have a woman showing interest in them. Most men aren't going to tell the woman to go away. The sad part is that even if he doesn't want HER, he wants the attention bad enough that he'll pull on the woman to get her back. It's when she starts making demans or asks for him to inconvenience himself for her sake that he'll decide to let her go on about her way.

lou.m...like loveydove said, I only rejected him because I'm already in a relationship now and because even if I wasn't...we're not really compatible IMO. He's rigid and it's his way or no way. I can't operate in the confines of that structure. He once told me that he advises the men who he supervises that's it's none of their spouse's business how much money the man makes if he's the only one bringing money into the household. My mouth dropped open. Lol ha ha ha

He's doing very well for himself and now his life is about working, his school work, but feeling kind of empty. Funny...I attract men like that in SPADES. It just so happens that he expressed himself a tad too late. I would NEVER have someone open up to me on ANY level without aiding in them getting closure if I didn't want them as a mate. That's one of the cruelest things you can do...engage with someone on an affectionate level and leave them with a bunch of unanswered questions or wondering why you either don't find them attractive or don't want a serious relationship with them. That's just BS!

Posted by lou.m

Posted by MsTeeq1974
@lovedovex3...my brother and his current were definitely in a relationship, but she made the effort to see him more than he made the effort to see her. They are both Taurus suns. I think that most men don't respond well when they are being pursued relentlessly by a woman without a relationship already being in place. I believe that mature men respect a woman's initial pursuit, but if he's not showing mutual interest, most men want to be left alone...they hardly say it though. Imagine the ego boost when overall men are so used to approaching women and expect to be rejected. Then all of the sudden, they have a woman showing interest in them. Most men aren't going to tell the woman to go away. The sad part is that even if he doesn't want HER, he wants the attention bad enough that he'll pull on the woman to get her back. It's when she starts making demans or asks for him to inconvenience himself for her sake that he'll decide to let her go on about her way.

It's true. It's immature men that do that though. The ego boost thing though. This forum seems to be full of women on the receiving end of that.

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I agree. I just wish the forum participants were kinder to those women. Smh