Taurus friends with lover?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by taurus575 on Sunday, February 26, 2017 and has 35 replies.
A May 7 Taurus here.


I am deeply in love with a Cancer guy. He sees me only as a friend. He asked me to move on and hence we are not meeting from past few months.


I asked him to meet me as I really want to see him. He said we could definitely meet if only I could see him as a friend only.


I really love him!! I cannot be just his friend. Its so much hurtful to stay away and move on when all I want is to be with him.


Everyday I struggle to decide if I can try to be his friend only and stop staying away. But these feelings are so much deeply engraved in my heart, it asks me to not to be friend at all.


I am dying everyday in this one sided love. I don't know what to do and whom to ask.


Can I be just friends with someone for whom I feel deeply? Is it valid? If its going to kill me in both conditions - to stay away from him permanently or stay with him as a friend..... which one should I select? ???

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No. Accept what he is telling you and move on. Moving on really hurts but not as bad as an one sided love
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We have an amazing chemistry. Its like our soul getting mixed together. Its so so so damn difficult to move on when you find a close connection like this. We share same life goals and values.


He simply says that he loves me as a friend only. And it breaks me into million of pieces every time. He asked me to schedule a time to meet once he is back from his vacation.


People say that my pupil dilates to the maximum even when I talk about him, I am so very much in love with this guy. How to get over this heartbreak? I so stubbornly want to be with him. Nothing else makes any sense to me. I am so much stuck. I thought to try being his friend maybe?


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Posted by taurus575
We have an amazing chemistry. Its like our soul getting mixed together. Its so so so damn difficult to move on when you find a close connection like this. We share same life goals and values.


He simply says that he loves me as a friend only. And it breaks me into million of pieces every time. He asked me to schedule a time to meet once he is back from his vacation.


People say that my pupil dilates to the maximum even when I talk about him, I am so very much in love with this guy. How to get over this heartbreak? I so stubbornly want to be with him. Nothing else makes any sense to me. I am so much stuck. I thought to try being his friend maybe?



Hon, you having chemistry! He apparently does not so stop saying we.

My heart goes to you because I know just too well how you are feeling.


Get mad at him for rejecting you! Think how dare he? Instead of how cute he is!!!


This friendship will be a prolonged self-torture! You've got to move on.

Darn! I would never keep loving man who rejected me! What am I? Bag of oats! Neither you are!
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
If it's anything like the easy connection I felt with that married Taurus man.


Girl I understand


Hit that fuker upside his head he don't know what he missing


But we also like to chase


So...
I got to let him go. I am becoming obsessive each day for the person who is not even mine. He became my weakness by being there for me always. Such a sucky situation where I know I have to let him go permanently.


I would have to stop chasing him. He drifts away more.
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Posted by IanTiering
I am may 7 bull too


The only solution is to looksmax


Then run into him accidentally while he is shopping with his mama


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I am already working on it... looking the best I can. I think he kinda thinks about the money gap we have in our earnings.


He definitely loves his mom. smile


I cannot run into him as we live in different towns - 40 mins away. I thought maybe I could be his friend and date someone else ... he might get jealous and see me


I am being terribly stubborn and determined to have him. That's so wrong Sad becoming victim of my own nature.
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Posted by taurus575
We have an amazing chemistry. Its like our soul getting mixed together. Its so so so damn difficult to move on when you find a close connection like this. We share same life goals and values.


He simply says that he loves me as a friend only. And it breaks me into million of pieces every time. He asked me to schedule a time to meet once he is back from his vacation.


People say that my pupil dilates to the maximum even when I talk about him, I am so very much in love with this guy. How to get over this heartbreak? I so stubbornly want to be with him. Nothing else makes any sense to me. I am so much stuck. I thought to try being his friend maybe?



Hon, you having chemistry! He apparently does not so stop saying we.

My heart goes to you because I know just too well how you are feeling.


Get mad at him for rejecting you! Think how dare he? Instead of how cute he is!!!


This friendship will be a prolonged self-torture! You've got to move on.

Darn! I would never keep loving man who rejected me! What am I? Bag of oats! Neither you are!
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Thanks. Sorry, its me, not we Sad I am thinking to ask him to block me. Whenever I block him I immediately unblock him thinking he would talk but he does not and then it hurts me even more.


Love is friendship on fire. This fire is completely burning me. He is so cute, friggin adorable. I try so much to hate him but heck I could not.


Why am I so want him when he does not. Even when being so much strong in life, why do I behave such an idiot in letting go Sad


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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by taurus575
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If it's anything like the easy connection I felt with that married Taurus man.


Girl I understand


Hit that fuker upside his head he don't know what he missing


But we also like to chase


So...
I got to let him go. I am becoming obsessive each day for the person who is not even mine. He became my weakness by being there for me always. Such a sucky situation where I know I have to let him go permanently.


I would have to stop chasing him. He drifts away more.
Yes. Maybe then he'll wake up



I'm sorry
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Its so fucking difficult to forget him!! I feel terrible for myself all the time.

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Posted by IanTiering
Posted by taurus575
Posted by IanTiering
I am may 7 bull too


The only solution is to looksmax


Then run into him accidentally while he is shopping with his mama


Oh hai der crabbycakes itch just me looksmaxed bullette lololol
I am already working on it... looking the best I can. I think he kinda thinks about the money gap we have in our earnings.


He definitely loves his mom. smile


I cannot run into him as we live in different towns - 40 mins away. I thought maybe I could be his friend and date someone else ... he might get jealous and see me


I am being terribly stubborn and determined to have him. That's so wrong Sad becoming victim of my own nature.
No dating someone else is how to speed up a Taurus


Cancers are different

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If you go the friend route then be very distant and unavailable. They like a challenge for some reason. Don't jump and respond to him instantly. If he wants to hang out tell him u have plans maybe next time. Remain this constant mystery... that way the power will be in your court. Good luck
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If the roles were reversed and you had asked someone to move on but they still loved you and couldn't let go, what would you prefer them to do? Stay away or be your friend?
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Posted by Honeybunniie
If you go the friend route then be very distant and unavailable. They like a challenge for some reason. Don't jump and respond to him instantly. If he wants to hang out tell him u have plans maybe next time. Remain this constant mystery... that way the power will be in your court. Good luck
It's so difficult to do this way even when I know too that I should do it. Its so much difficult to avoid him in reality when in thoughts I think I should distance him and behave normal.


I need so much help and moral boost as I am super weak when it comes to him.


His words - "I want you to move on so we could be friends again" Its so much difficult to give him these two things.

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I am May 7 also - so sorry and good luck - I couldn't be friends - that connection is too painful for you ... best to cut all ties and move on with life.
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Posted by jeane
If the roles were reversed and you had asked someone to move on but they still loved you and couldn't let go, what would you prefer them to do? Stay away or be your friend?
If roles were reversed, I would not have lead someone on and never have got intimated if I have no plans to move forward. I would have never kissed and said I love you. I would have never spent night with him. Neither I would have hugged him tight to glue broken things together.


I am not the person who can be just friends with any man. Ultimately I will either fall in love or fight. I can never be in this spot. Sad Sad


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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by taurus575
We have an amazing chemistry. Its like our soul getting mixed together. Its so so so damn difficult to move on when you find a close connection like this. We share same life goals and values.


He simply says that he loves me as a friend only. And it breaks me into million of pieces every time. He asked me to schedule a time to meet once he is back from his vacation.


People say that my pupil dilates to the maximum even when I talk about him, I am so very much in love with this guy. How to get over this heartbreak? I so stubbornly want to be with him. Nothing else makes any sense to me. I am so much stuck. I thought to try being his friend maybe?



The problems is you see things from one sided perspective YOURS! He does not see you in the same way nor is he attracted to you. He wants a platonic friendship only. Respect his wishes.


Give yourself distance from him and this will help.


Dont let your stubbornness if acquiring him cloud the reality of the situation.
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Oh he is attracted towards me. At least at that time when we used to meet everyday. "Your skin is flawless. I cannot stop myself touching."


Ask a Taurus how important touch is for them.


Anyway, he is gone for vacation for few weeks assuming I am going to meet him for lunch as a friend. I don't know what should I do. I am thinking to ask him to block me instead of meeting. I fail in blocking.

He is always so much hopeful that we will be able to be good friends like before. He is not cutting things off permanently, no matter how much I am asking him to do so.


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Posted by tiziani
Like you said, both options are terrible so it's ultimately all right. You just have to pick the best of two deaths. You'll get through it.
which one to pick between the two deaths:


1. Keep staying away.

2. Be his friend.


I picked 1. before. My problem is I am re-considering to go to 2. My gut feeling is super confused.


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Posted by tcta
I am May 7 also - so sorry and good luck - I couldn't be friends - that connection is too painful for you ... best to cut all ties and move on with life.
if only it was easy Sad I never had this much deep connection before with anyone else. And he genuinely cares. I am just not able to feel hate/apathy for him. Its been almost a year now. My mind just want to wait indefinite even when I know he ain't coming back the way I want.


We both are stuck in what we want, not giving what the other person wants.


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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by taurus575
Posted by IanTiering
I am may 7 bull too


The only solution is to looksmax


Then run into him accidentally while he is shopping with his mama


Oh hai der crabbycakes itch just me looksmaxed bullette lololol
I am already working on it... looking the best I can. I think he kinda thinks about the money gap we have in our earnings.


He definitely loves his mom. smile


I cannot run into him as we live in different towns - 40 mins away. I thought maybe I could be his friend and date someone else ... he might get jealous and see me


I am being terribly stubborn and determined to have him. That's so wrong Sad becoming victim of my own nature.
jealousy works for us crabs...make him know you can move on


what money gap
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If I have to make him jealous, I gotta be his friend to make him know what I am doing.


We have a money gap. He is the one who earns money by playing music in bars and jamming with street musicians. I am the one who earns in six figures. I never cared for what financial status he is. But he does. When he got to know about my salary, his first statement was, "you are so well compensated"

Why money is so much considered when it comes to love. Its not my fault that I earn that much. He compares our earning when I don't.


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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by IanTiering
Posted by taurus575
Posted by IanTiering
I am may 7 bull too


The only solution is to looksmax


Then run into him accidentally while he is shopping with his mama


Oh hai der crabbycakes itch just me looksmaxed bullette lololol
I am already working on it... looking the best I can. I think he kinda thinks about the money gap we have in our earnings.


He definitely loves his mom. smile


I cannot run into him as we live in different towns - 40 mins away. I thought maybe I could be his friend and date someone else ... he might get jealous and see me


I am being terribly stubborn and determined to have him. That's so wrong Sad becoming victim of my own nature.
No dating someone else is how to speed up a Taurus


Cancers are different

how, you don't think we'd get jealous
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He gets super jealous if any other man is around me. Taureans are naturally seductive. And I dance sensual. When in bar he saw a man trying to dance with me, he not only shouted at him but hit him too. It actually made us to get kicked out from the bar. And that night he said he loves me a lot. When we took uber, he was still hugging me very tight. Why!? Is this friendship for him? For me, its not.

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Posted by taurus575
Posted by tcta
I am May 7 also - so sorry and good luck - I couldn't be friends - that connection is too painful for you ... best to cut all ties and move on with life.
if only it was easy Sad I never had this much deep connection before with anyone else. And he genuinely cares. I am just not able to feel hate/apathy for him. Its been almost a year now. My mind just want to wait indefinite even when I know he ain't coming back the way I want.


We both are stuck in what we want, not giving what the other person wants.


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it's not easy
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Posted by taurus575
Posted by tiziani
Like you said, both options are terrible so it's ultimately all right. You just have to pick the best of two deaths. You'll get through it.
which one to pick between the two deaths:


1. Keep staying away.

2. Be his friend.


I picked 1. before. My problem is I am re-considering to go to 2. My gut feeling is super confused.


Well, no point doing the same thing twice. I vote for number 2.

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So I should go for lunch with him?


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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by taurus575
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by taurus575
Posted by IanTiering
I am may 7 bull too


The only solution is to looksmax


Then run into him accidentally while he is shopping with his mama


Oh hai der crabbycakes itch just me looksmaxed bullette lololol
I am already working on it... looking the best I can. I think he kinda thinks about the money gap we have in our earnings.


He definitely loves his mom. smile


I cannot run into him as we live in different towns - 40 mins away. I thought maybe I could be his friend and date someone else ... he might get jealous and see me


I am being terribly stubborn and determined to have him. That's so wrong Sad becoming victim of my own nature.
jealousy works for us crabs...make him know you can move on


what money gap
If I have to make him jealous, I gotta be his friend to make him know what I am doing.


We have a money gap. He is the one who earns money by playing music in bars and jamming with street musicians. I am the one who earns in six figures. I never cared for what financial status he is. But he does. When he got to know about my salary, his first statement was, "you are so well compensated"

Why money is so much considered when it comes to love. Its not my fault that I earn that much. He compares our earning when I don't.




yes that's huge, hmmmmmm....


he sounds very insecure...but are you sure you want a guy who jams on the street...


i mean i wouldn't trust a musician


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why you wouldn't trust a musician? He wants to open his own production studio. I encouraged him so much that he actually now taking classes for them. It does not matter how much I was there for him, it ended/is ending brutally.


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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by taurus575
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by IanTiering
Posted by taurus575
Posted by IanTiering
I am may 7 bull too


The only solution is to looksmax


Then run into him accidentally while he is shopping with his mama


Oh hai der crabbycakes itch just me looksmaxed bullette lololol
I am already working on it... looking the best I can. I think he kinda thinks about the money gap we have in our earnings.


He definitely loves his mom. smile


I cannot run into him as we live in different towns - 40 mins away. I thought maybe I could be his friend and date someone else ... he might get jealous and see me


I am being terribly stubborn and determined to have him. That's so wrong Sad becoming victim of my own nature.
No dating someone else is how to speed up a Taurus


Cancers are different

how, you don't think we'd get jealous
He gets super jealous if any other man is around me. Taureans are naturally seductive. And I dance sensual. When in bar he saw a man trying to dance with me, he not only shouted at him but hit him too. It actually made us to get kicked out from the bar. And that night he said he loves me a lot. When we took uber, he was still hugging me very tight. Why!? Is this friendship for him? For me, its not.

ya he's into you, but maybe he's very insecure. you got to make him feel safe


ands is correct don't make him jealous...ands is correct on that..that makes us think we're not good enough...but we do like a challenge and mystery...up to a certain point


be his friend. be there for him, build slow
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Are you sure? To be his friend again? Because I did not meet him since last July as he asked me to move on first. he might have someone for him now and I am afraid if it could hurt me more Sad


If I became his friend, I might permanently go into friend zone as per my own decision. And I know I cannot live as a friend with someone with whom I have so many sexual desires. (just telling straight)


its soo confusing.


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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
You are sounding desperate OP.


How old are you?


Try NC for at least 30 days and that will help you on the right Road and give you both clarity...


It always works...
Desperate and obsessive. Too bad I am slipping into it everyday. I am 26, he is 28. We have passed 30 days NC. I haven't seen him since last July. But we do talk through texts once in a while. I did block him for quite some time. And stupidly unblocked him again ... I am so weak here. I gotta be strong in completely zooming him out.


I think I am again going to do something stupid in this confusion.

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Posted by jeane
If the roles were reversed and you had asked someone to move on but they still loved you and couldn't let go, what would you prefer them to do? Stay away or be your friend?
If roles were reversed, I would not have lead someone on and never have got intimated if I have no plans to move forward. I would have never kissed and said I love you. I would have never spent night with him. Neither I would have hugged him tight to glue broken things together.


I am not the person who can be just friends with any man. Ultimately I will either fall in love or fight. I can never be in this spot. Sad Sad


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Then you know the answer to your question.


The next question is, why would love someone who treated you that way? He doesn't deserve your love.
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Posted by taurus575
Posted by jeane
If the roles were reversed and you had asked someone to move on but they still loved you and couldn't let go, what would you prefer them to do? Stay away or be your friend?
If roles were reversed, I would not have lead someone on and never have got intimated if I have no plans to move forward. I would have never kissed and said I love you. I would have never spent night with him. Neither I would have hugged him tight to glue broken things together.


I am not the person who can be just friends with any man. Ultimately I will either fall in love or fight. I can never be in this spot. Sad Sad


Then you know the answer to your question.


The next question is, why would love someone who treated you that way? He doesn't deserve your love.
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Angry don't know jeane. it was because of these gestures I started loving him. As soon as I also started giving in, he backed off. And now I am stuck. So bad for men to keep on being close to someone to dissolve their protective walls; and as soon as I did, he started ignoring me and asked me to be just friends.


I think I should block him. yeah.


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Posted by taurus575
Posted by jeane
Posted by taurus575
Posted by jeane
If the roles were reversed and you had asked someone to move on but they still loved you and couldn't let go, what would you prefer them to do? Stay away or be your friend?
If roles were reversed, I would not have lead someone on and never have got intimated if I have no plans to move forward. I would have never kissed and said I love you. I would have never spent night with him. Neither I would have hugged him tight to glue broken things together.


I am not the person who can be just friends with any man. Ultimately I will either fall in love or fight. I can never be in this spot. Sad Sad


Then you know the answer to your question.


The next question is, why would love someone who treated you that way? He doesn't deserve your love.



Angry don't know jeane. it was because of these gestures I started loving him. As soon as I also started giving in, he backed off. And now I am stuck. So bad for men to keep on being close to someone to dissolve their protective walls; and as soon as I did, he started ignoring me and asked me to be just friends.


I think I should block him. yeah.


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Sorry, but he sounds like a turd who sold you a dream. And for you guys I know it's hard to let someone in. Build up your walls. Don't give him the opportunity to pull that shit again.


Ignores you? That ain't no friend of yours.

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hmmmmm @jeane you are correct. He would not have ignored me if he wants me. Such a way of controlling me and my emotions.


He deserve to be blocked.
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Posted by taurus575
We have an amazing chemistry. Its like our soul getting mixed together. Its so so so damn difficult to move on when you find a close connection like this. We share same life goals and values.


He simply says that he loves me as a friend only. And it breaks me into million of pieces every time. He asked me to schedule a time to meet once he is back from his vacation.


People say that my pupil dilates to the maximum even when I talk about him, I am so very much in love with this guy. How to get over this heartbreak? I so stubbornly want to be with him. Nothing else makes any sense to me. I am so much stuck. I thought to try being his friend maybe?



Hon, you having chemistry! He apparently does not so stop saying we.

My heart goes to you because I know just too well how you are feeling.


Get mad at him for rejecting you! Think how dare he? Instead of how cute he is!!!


This friendship will be a prolonged self-torture! You've got to move on.

Darn! I would never keep loving man who rejected me! What am I? Bag of oats! Neither you are!
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Bag of oats love rejection do they? You are just a wealth of information, aren't you.

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hmmmmm @jeane you are correct. He would not have ignored me if he wants me. Such a way of controlling me and my emotions.


He deserve to be blocked.
Not only that but have ever ignored or tried to ignore someone? I have. It's terrible. You read their message and you know they are waiting for a response but you don't. You know how that makes them feel. Now either you're an arsehole and pulling some power play or you don't care about their feelings.


Regardless it's a shitty thing to do to someone you profess to be friends with.


(by the way, I can never ignore someone. I start to feel crushing guilt and then have to respond straight away.)
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Posted by taurus575
We have an amazing chemistry. Its like our soul getting mixed together. Its so so so damn difficult to move on when you find a close connection like this. We share same life goals and values.


He simply says that he loves me as a friend only. And it breaks me into million of pieces every time. He asked me to schedule a time to meet once he is back from his vacation.


People say that my pupil dilates to the maximum even when I talk about him, I am so very much in love with this guy. How to get over this heartbreak? I so stubbornly want to be with him. Nothing else makes any sense to me. I am so much stuck. I thought to try being his friend maybe?



Hon, you having chemistry! He apparently does not so stop saying we.

My heart goes to you because I know just too well how you are feeling.


Get mad at him for rejecting you! Think how dare he? Instead of how cute he is!!!


This friendship will be a prolonged self-torture! You've got to move on.

Darn! I would never keep loving man who rejected me! What am I? Bag of oats! Neither you are!
Bag of oats love rejection do they? You are just a wealth of information, aren't you.

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Very much so! You have no idea! I can open school but I don't want to.
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Posted by taurus575
hmmmmm @jeane you are correct. He would not have ignored me if he wants me. Such a way of controlling me and my emotions.


He deserve to be blocked.
Not only that but have ever ignored or tried to ignore someone? I have. It's terrible. You read their message and you know they are waiting for a response but you don't. You know how that makes them feel. Now either you're an arsehole and pulling some power play or you don't care about their feelings.


Regardless it's a shitty thing to do to someone you profess to be friends with.


(by the way, I can never ignore someone. I start to feel crushing guilt and then have to respond straight away.)
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I cannot ignore anyone. If I don't want that person, I will tell them and walk away. All roads closed.


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Oh no, what do we do with another me?
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