Taurus, Have you ever stayed in a situation longer

you should have because it was mentally and emotionally draining.

Is this a Question? Or a Statement?

Posted by M143

Is this a Question? Or a Statement?

question. It wouldn't fit in the subject box.

I see. Hope Taurus folks are online.lol

Never fear! Insomniac bull is here! Yeah I'm lame - moving on...

If the question is have I stayed in a mentally and emotionally draining relationship for longer than I should have - yes, to my detriment. If the question truly is as worded then no, I have not stayed in the situation because of those reasons but despite them... Id est - I was emotionally and mentally invested long before circumstances changed. Once I have made a commitment I am in it for the long haul and so even when I found myself with a person who'd changed so drastically for the worst, I did not abandon ship right away - in my unyielding loyalty (stubbornness), I became obtuse.

I hope that helped answer the crux of your question :/

Posted by deusotiosus
Never fear! Insomniac bull is here! Yeah I'm lame - moving on...

If the question is have I stayed in a mentally and emotionally draining relationship for longer than I should have - yes, to my detriment. If the question truly is as worded then no, I have not stayed in the situation because of those reasons but despite them... Id est - I was emotionally and mentally invested long before circumstances changed. Once I have made a commitment I am in it for the long haul and so even when I found myself with a person who'd changed so drastically for the worst, I did not abandon ship right away - in my unyielding loyalty (stubbornness), I became obtuse.

I hope that helped answer the crux of your question :/

me too I have knack for becoming invested then the situation goes bad and I still decided to stay hoping that the situation gets better and it doesn't. 😢

Yea Taurus ppl don't really bail just bcuz it's 'draining'...we give our 100% and we stay in no matter what. Till the bitter end, when all our emotions have shut down and have no other recourse.

Then afterwards we tell ourselves how stupid we were for staying longer than we should have 😛

Posted by peaceloveandhappiness
Yea Taurus ppl don't really bail just bcuz it's 'draining'...we give our 100% and we stay in no matter what. Till the bitter end, when all our emotions have shut down and have no other recourse.

Then afterwards we tell ourselves how stupid we were for staying longer than we should have 😛

Couldn't have said it better myself. What bothers me is once we're at the bitter end, we're the ones left broken while the other person/people are perfectly fine. This has been a big pattern in my life. I've done it with relationships and work situations. It's really bad. By the time I come out, the half of what I was in the beginning.

Don't feel broken Venus. That's just the way we're wired, couldn't be any other way. We are a strong, bull-headed, practical bunch. If we feel something is worth the effort then we give it our all. If we don't, we won't. It's black or white with us, no gray areas here. Try to see it as a positive and not a negative 🙂

And don't worry about that other person, they may have issues they are struggling with that you may not know abt, many do.

Posted by peaceloveandhappiness
Yea Taurus ppl don't really bail just bcuz it's 'draining'...we give our 100% and we stay in no matter what. Till the bitter end, when all our emotions have shut down and have no other recourse.

Then afterwards we tell ourselves how stupid we were for staying longer than we should have 😛

why are we like these?! =/ when it's all over it's like taking your shades of and noticing how bright and clear your vision is. But we can always say we tried our best in any given situation =)

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Is this point where a taurus gives up OR knows hes had enough...which one is worst of those two?

I think giving up is at the point when we've had enough... I don't think its bad at all, as much as we may not like giving in/up we know when it's time to call quits and save or energy. It's important to know were to draw the line on what you can tolerate and also to know your own worth. So after assessing the situation (over and over again) the question will always be is it worth it... we cant continue to get the shitty end of the deal all the time.

You've got to mistreat a Taurus for quite a while for us to draw that final straw lol. At least for me it's that way...we move in slow mo.

But when we snap it's not pretty. Collectively we will evaluate all crappy things done to us and then it's adios amigo.

Posted by Carlikins
I think giving up is at the point when we've had enough... I don't think its bad at all, as much as we may not like giving in/up we know when it's time to call quits and save or energy. It's important to know were to draw the line on what you can tolerate and also to know your own worth. So after assessing the situation (over and over again) the question will always be is it worth it... we cant continue to get the shitty end of the deal all the time.

Posted by peaceloveandhappiness
You've got to mistreat a Taurus for quite a while for us to draw that final straw lol. At least for me it's that way...we move in slow mo.

But when we snap it's not pretty. Collectively we will evaluate all crappy things done to us and then it's adios amigo.

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I wholeheartedly concur with these statements. I will only add that I have been in your position, waiting for another to change... It did not happen, and in a cliche moment, they only realized what they had when I walked out. By that time, I was completely done - had been from the minute I decided to leave. I can advise you to reevaluate your situation, to get out... But when it is all said and done, I think for the most part we might be wired in such a way that it won't be until you have made the decision for yourself that you will find the strength to move on. (I could be wrong - I mean already you have done more than I did by seeking advice. I was too ashamed to tell anyone what I was going through). Just know that when you do, the fear you have of not being the same again... While there will be change (presumably a learning experience from the situation), with time you will be yourself again, just a bit wiser... We bulls are resilient.

Is there anyway to get back a bull, when hes at that stage?? Other than consistency and all

Mmm not really... people hardly change there ways. It takes us awhile to forgive and even then a romantic relationship is out of the picture, u already showed me your true colors if I went back after everything expecting him to be different I'd be a fool, cus that just won't happen.

With that said there could be hope, everyone deserves a second chance but that depends... you would have to make some grand gesture of love assuming they still had feelings for you. (I'm too much of a romantic 😆 lol)