I met this Taurus guy 18 years ago, when I met him I had that "he'said the one" feeling. We went out with friends and he finally kissed me. It was something I can not describe, he would call and I can't say no to him. I ended up engaged to someone else 13 years ago and I asked him if there was any reason I should not get married, I was pregnant and I was still in love with him, but everyone wanted this other guy and I to get married. A few months ago, I contacted this Taurus after years of not speaking. There was a chance my first son was his, and I wrote a heartfelt letter explaining I never told him because I didn't want to trap him, and I just wanted him to be happy. I made a DVD of pictures of my son through the years. He did contact me and we had many conversations. He was so supportive and calming and helped me leave a bad relationship. He has some drama from his ex, he needs a lawyer now. I am crazy about this man, who is 40 and I am 35. It turned out he thought my son was his, but DNA says he is not. Before the DNA test, he told me we would have been married by now. I am sepa rated now and confused. He tells me he wants to cuddle, he works a lot and I am supporting him to work. I know he is going through a lot. Do I initiate contact or let him take time to get back to me. I lost so many years and I will never feel this way about another man. We laugh and joke and it's so comfortable, but I don't want to push it. Not sure what to do next, if I do call or text he gets back right away but I also don't want to bother him. Any help is appreciated!
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Oct 29, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 16583 · Topics: 222
So it seems like you cheated, I am a little confused. So you were with two different people, or your first one didn't work out, was pregnant, and then met Taurus dude, and liked him.
And now he's decided to step back because he is going through something with his ex gff, has a job, and less communication with you?So you want him? But it's not the same right now currently, like it changed? is that the jiffy of it?
I cheated on the guy I was dating and married with the taurus, there is something with him I can not say no to him. We have been talking since February, and he helped calm me down and said he was ready to step up and be a dad, etc. The whole none yards. We got a paternity test done and he told me he wasn't the father, which the two flow us talking they are so similar he almost didn't want the test. He makes me laugh, I separated from an abusive husband and he contacts me but if I contact him he gets back right away. I know he has legal trouble with his ex and I have been supportive. I am curious to know how can I tell if I am bothering him. Believe me I have waited 18 years I can wait forever but I don't want to...he asked me what I wanted and I told him I would like to be with him but would never force the issue I just wanted him to step up for my son, (before DNA test). Like how do you know if a taurus guy isn'the interested? He texts me while he works on Saturday night and we talk when he gets home watching TV but like should I just tell him I want him to cuddle with me, which he has said he wanted in previous conversations. I am just lost or do I wait for him? It took him a long time to even kiss me after we first met.
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Aug 12, 2009Comments: 0 · Posts: 4771 · Topics: 30
IrishLibra-
Question...
Why didn't the both of you solidify the relationship 18 years ago?
You clearly met your ex-husband and the father of your child five years later.
You also made an important assertion, not wanting to 'trap him."
In order for me to give you further advice,
I will need to see the underlying reason as to why the both of you didn't get together in the first place.
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Aug 12, 2009Comments: 0 · Posts: 4771 · Topics: 30
The heart wants what it wants.
You have to respect that with Libras.
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Oct 29, 2014Comments: 1 · Posts: 16583 · Topics: 222
I don't care but loyalty, and not enough respect or honesty, it is questionable here.