Taurus male- is he not into me or disappearing to come back?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Sunshine1216 on Tuesday, October 13, 2015 and has 9 replies.
So very confusing situation. I need some opinions/advice. I am a Pisces Female 30 years old and he's a Taurus Male 32. I have read some Taurus men are notorious for disappearing. I dated one but he was beginning of the Taurus cusp and never did this, this Taurus is in the last days before Gemini. Anyways, we met online and from the first conversation the connection was intensely good but scary. We talked all day every day from like 9am to midnight, even 2 am sometimes on work night. We were both excited to meet. Once we met it was amazing, we both thought it was everything we had hoped and expressed this, there was no kiss he seemed very shy but was anxious to see me a second time and sealed there would be a second date at the end of this one, that was an 8 hour date where we were kicked out of where we were because we didn't want it to end. He asked to see me again next to set up within 5 days and we did we had another wonderful night. On this date he expressed I was the first person he dared seriously like this since single and I agreed I hadn't clicked with anybody like him. He ended up staying the night because of our far commute and having consumed drinks and we kissed and kissed only and it was very innocent. He was very reserved and shy to the point when cuddling a leaned in and he followed and kissed me thereafter. He left that day and kissed me goodbye a few times. At that moment I felt him get distant. We had the third date planned before the second we were so anxious to make plans, but that entire week although I heard daily from him the messages were more distant in nature and he was still making cute comments but not the stuff of the week prior like "I'm so lucky I met you" and "I can't find anything wrong with you I can't wait to see you again". Anyway, we hang out that night laughed and had a great time, he was again shy and reserved but hinted he wanted to cuddle, we cuddled and kissed for a bit then all of a sudden he said he wanted to go to bed for me to come, I did due to our distance and again nothing sexual every happened it was very innocent kisses only. Once I went to bed the strangest thing, he didn't cuddle with me and turned the other way the entire night. I was so confused how such a great night turned so cold! He's the type of guy to flirt and hit on me and tests but be super shy in person, but he did cuddle with me the date before this at my House. Next morning we kissed goodbye and he was very sweet saying he's glad I came to see him, then I felt him distant in my heart as I drove away. The pain was tough. I am never one to have feelings early on but I felt this man was who I would be with, but the intense connection really scared me too and I sensed maybe he felt the same fears. I proceeded to reach out that day I left later when I hadn't gotten his usual contact and said it was nice to see him again to "test" the waters and he responded with "it was great!" And kept the convo going asking how my drive home was, wha
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Continued;

What I was doing that night, etc. After that I then didn't hear from him for 6 days. Upset and confused I reached out. He mind you contacted me daily always with me initiating so this was odd. I reached out saying "hey you! Thinking of you' hope you had a great trip! (He was away)" waited 30 minutes and no response. I then write one more "I know you've been busy, just want to make sure everything is ok and it's nothing I did. I am a direct person so I was wondering". He then responds 2 hours later "sorry was so busy this last week with the trip! Hope you had a great weekend too! What did you do?". Anyway he kept the convo going. He has expressed before when he wasn't interested in women and they reach out he tells them because everyone needs closure. Anyway, after this somewhat positive convo it's been more than 2 weeks and nothing. I'm so upset and confused. At this point, he hasn't given me closure and I have mixed signals. What do you make of all this? I felt maybe he was as afraid as me of the intense connection and how fast it moved but I'm not sure. I am thinking if I need answers I'll reach out again in 2 weeks, but he has never ignored me. He needs space clearly so I have disappeared so to speak too. Any advice or insight on this? Never dealt with this before and it's driving me nuts.
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Correction to above to contacted me always without* me initiating.
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Far too much, far too soon.

You've met three times?

That's not very much to really get to know someone.

Let him have some space and if he's not contacting you then drop a little message again, no pressure.

Are you dating others?

Focusing on one person isn't always a good thing.
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Well that's the thing. We met online and our last date he mentioned he was canceling his early and not renewing. I didn't know if it was his way of getting me to. So I asked why and he said because I was the only thing that came out of it. So not knowing what to say I said "yea I just read the messages but nothing has gone further, I only met you". I wasn't sure if this is what made him back off because I'm still on there and he did cancel last I saw. Right now I am dating others but I guess I can't help but wonder is he gone for good or coming back because I have zero closure and mixed signals.
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Well he never directly said to me he only wanted to date me. And he was active on there daily before this conversation when I didn't go on for 2 weeks. What can I do at this point? I've shown interest and reached out saying I had a great time and second attempt that I was thinking of him. I felt once we had the discussion that we were both feeling this was going great he backed off some before this conversation.
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And about the sex thing, these talks were had before that that wasn't going to happen. So yes it was disclosed and he was very respectful and never tried. It was more because we live an hour apart and after drinking we didn't want to have to drive. And also lets face it we wanted to spend more time together.
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I read the story and its entirety.

There is NO dilemma. The way it appears, this Bull has been quite a gentleman. He expressed interest. Appeared quite attentive, and told you where you stood with him. He didn't make a corny 'douche' attempt to sleep with you ( I really did not understand why this bothered you).

Apparently he's a direct and straightforward Bull, if he's not interested, he would simply tell you. I simply don't understand why you're reading into it, instead of taking it at face value.

Something tells me that you may require more emotional reassurance than this Bull might be prepared to give you.

If he senses this (yes, we are intuitive by nature), slowly pulling away from you would be the more practical decision.
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Well this is someone who went from contacting me every single day to not at all now for 2 and a half week. As you said, I would think he would have told me if he wasn't interested anymore and wouldn't tell me he had a great time, but I reached out twice now when he always would expressing interest and he didn't reach out to me at all since and hasn't given me the closure either if it's in fact that he's not over it. I feel loud and clear he must want space but is it space or is he done? That's what's confusing. I find it hard to believe someone into me would go 2 and a half weeks with no contact attempts when I reached out the last 2 times. But I have read on here many women deal with this disappearing act so I was curious as to if that is what is going on here. I also will add when he mentioned canceling the online dating he said he was canceling because the women didn't respond much on there. So this does not seem like an exclusivity talk to me which I would have happily accepted. I'm stumped because usually either the guy ignores you or doesn't continue convo when not into it, but he does yet no reaching out when he did daily. I really don't know anymore and am trying to continue on with my life and see what happens Sad
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