I've been with my Taurus for 8 months. A week ago I started sensing this new "I don't care" type of attitude he had. I yelled at my Taurus man over some health issues he was creating for me and I broke up with him. Then later on that day when I calmed down I tried to un-breakup but he said "actually I'm tired of you yelling at me maybe we should stay broken up because I've told you this many times and you're not changing and honestly I've been done for 3 months now but we can be friends." Of course we went back and forth for a little while I cried (also asked him if there was someone else, things were not adding up in the convo) because he's the sweetest guy ever and I have really bad baggage for a Libra who was abusive and my Taurus didn't deserve that back lash.
The next day he calls me and asks me to dinner and a movie. Then the next day I'm back at his family's house for dinner. The day after ,that was school day for us, he texts me before I get off work and says he can't walk me to class because he has to meet his lab group, I said ok. After my class I call him 15 times over the course of an hour and he says he was home and sleep. This was unusual that he didn't say anything when he left his lab group so I was confused. He said he would come to see me before his last evening class but he claimed he got caught up getting ready and wasn't gonna make it to me. The following day same thing..... distance but I always wanna know why so I keep pushing for him to come over and explain.
This Next day is the worst! He calls me and I'm making sure to be extra sweet since I thought are problem was my rudeness. I asked him if he had time for me and he said no. I said well what about if we just get some food he says ok.... long story short, while we're st the restaurant I asked how did he feel about me this week and he said he still wanted a break up but this time it was because he needs to focus on school and the whole "it's not you it's me" thing (we all know what that really means) and I started to tear a little as he tried to begin casual conversations about various other upbeat topics. Basically, I said I've lost my appetite and I walk out. The shocking price is that my waiter vhase me out side to check on me and my Taurus didn't!
The next day actually was yesterday. I texted the Taurus in a long message and said sorry because I realized that i never do that and I couldn't belive I had been so ungrateful and rude. My mother even has told me I was always her sweet child and that the Libra ex really messed me up. Also, I go on saying he's right we need to be apart, I gotta work on things and focus on me, we gotta grow, but I still do love you... etc. He did not reply. Then two hours later in just sitting eating with my friend at the college which I don't do on Thursday because I don't have class and HE WALKS IN WITH A GIRL. My back was turned to him and I refused to look but my friend was giving him dagger eyes lol. She said he was close to her and he backed up immediately when he saw her looking. Then lol omg she goes over there and ask him if he was planning on coming to say hi to me, he said "no" and nothing more. The girl said they were just friends and when she got her food she went out and my Taurus "got a phone call" (not likely) and walked the opposite direction where they came from.
Basically, I'm wondering is there anyway to come back from this? Did he go to her because I didn't give him space and I'm rude and not changing? What can I do? Or are we past the point of return?
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Aug 12, 2009Comments: 0 · Posts: 4771 · Topics: 30
Don't try to win him back.
You're not 'damaged goods'...just someone who put her love and trust in a past abusive relationship.
Take the time out to learn to love yourself.
Who knows, you may not even want him after this transition.
But if you do....allow him to try to win you back.
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Never resort to side-stepping, games or manipulation to win a Taurus.
Our BS meters/detectors are always in full service.
This will backfire. I have seen this a million times on this board (mainly with water signs).
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
Hopefully you recognize that your emotional baggage from your ex was what killed this.
Hopefully the next time you encounter a decent guy you won't hold him accountable for the sins of your ex's...
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Aug 31, 2006Comments: 0 · Posts: 10616 · Topics: 40
You're not ready for the Taurus, go heal, focus on getting you back, who you were before the Libra abused you.