Posted by ShadowcatLol yeah we really aren't.
I don't think that they're that complicated
Posted by soundsunscene
i thought it was a good read also for what its worth
however if your ok with waiting for a taurus man to give you attention once every 3 weeks good luck to you
it actually reinforced my desire to go for a guy who does't pull that baloney and makes you feel special
But if he has brought up marriage with you, isn't that a fact that you have known each other pretty long and he has all his basic facts about you? If so, he must have already known your religion. He has never found issues with that? Why would it become an issue only now?
Thanks a lot.... I find it very embarassing to bring up marriage and convertin, etc,... when we have never spoken about it in a serious manner. He mentioned married life few times but never marriage as such. Would be very presumptuous of me to assume he wants to marry me... And I agree with everything you said.
Asian family bro...It sucks!
Thanks a lot....Very helpful advice:-)
Yeah, most often it has been intense attraction at first sight. I'm not sure if it can be called love though.... I took my time because I needed time to be certain of his and my feelings. Guess I'm lucky in that way. And only one Taurus I'm not friendly with the others.He sounds like a great guy for you! Is he intellectual? Asking because I know Taurus who are smart but seemed dense.
I'm happy with his possessiveness because I'm kinda possessive too:-P. But he isn't the jealous type.... all he wants is for others to know I'm with him. He doesn't even mind the attention because he trusts me. Unlike my Scorpio ex, who drove me insane with his suspicions and insecurities
Wow!You know Asian families -D. His family asked me to convert or to break up with him. It is extremely hard to have a healthy long term relationship against his family's wishes. And his mom took good care of me when I was very sick and needed urgent medical help. She was great to me all these months.There is nothing much for me to do here.
He loves me, you know... He loves me a lot and i love him a lot... but he is being so dense. He doesn't understand what's happening here and thinks I'm just being a brat... He doesnt understand these things at all.
Posted by Aries_LuminaryI feel the same way too, that's why I recommend it after reading.
I think the book is pretty accurate and spot on. For anyone wanting advice or is confused with dating a Taurus, this is a great book to read. It gives better advice then you'll ever find on here
Posted by NotSoInstantI say don't be yourself up too much, even if you feel like you jumped the gun on breaking up don't beg him back or wait around because he will put you through the ringer trying to win him back. If he keeps makeing accusations like you don't love me and you know that you do I would just calmly say I have to disagree and I'm sorry you feel that way but I'm not going to try to change your mind. I do love you but I was put in a position that I should have never been put in and for future reference you might want to talk to your family about involving themselves in your relationships. And Then I would be on my way because if he is really angry and being stubborn right now he is only going to hurt your feelings.Posted by NefertariYeah, most often it has been intense attraction at first sight. I'm not sure if it can be called love though.... I took my time because I needed time to be certain of his and my feelings. Guess I'm lucky in that way. And only one Taurus I'm not friendly with the others.He sounds like a great guy for you! Is he intellectual? Asking because I know Taurus who are smart but seemed dense.
I'm happy with his possessiveness because I'm kinda possessive too:-P. But he isn't the jealous type.... all he wants is for others to know I'm with him. He doesn't even mind the attention because he trusts me. Unlike my Scorpio ex, who drove me insane with his suspicions and insecurities
Wow!You know Asian families -D. His family asked me to convert or to break up with him. It is extremely hard to have a healthy long term relationship against his family's wishes. And his mom took good care of me when I was very sick and needed urgent medical help. She was great to me all these months.There is nothing much for me to do here.
He loves me, you know... He loves me a lot and i love him a lot... but he is being so dense. He doesn't understand what's happening here and thinks I'm just being a brat... He doesnt understand these things at all.
One thing I notice about some Taurus is they might seem slow, but they actually do get it slowly. They don't show it, but they have a lot of ideas. Not sure whether yours is this type. There are some who really are just slow.
I feel you need to be more open than him. Communication is very important with these guys. They appreciate you being open and honest.
I read the book. I feel a piece of advice pretty good. Like training the guy. Actually I feel all guys can be trained. Gosh, guys are so careless about things that are important to women! I feel if we bring up certain issues that bother us with them gently but positively, overtime they will understand more and try to empathise.
I have my lesson too. Being too understanding towards men in general, it will become a habit to them. If you don't speak up, they feel you don't mind so their behaviour won't change. Guys are more focused on the big things. They won't notice the little things until we tell them. Like they don't have time and space in their life for these.
Being patient and straight is good.
It's over. We spoke last night.... He knows what happened. He askd me to answer his direct questions and made me give yes/no answers.
Did my family ask you to convert?
Did they ask you to break up?
Is that why you broke up?
He said I don't love him enough and that I broke up with him over nothing. He also said his Mon never wanted me to break up with him and it was all my decision because I was weak.
Right now he is extremely angry and stubborn...
Hey thanks a lot. I appreciate it. He is a great guy.... I am someone who is very good at messing up things.
You give very good advice... I didn't listenclick to expand
Posted by NotSoInstantIt is a tough spot to be in espcially since you didnt want to make him choose. Next time you should really try to find a way to communicate if you end up in that position again. You could even come at him with a hypothetical in saying something like how would your family feel about my religion and would they ever try to convert me? That way if you ever ran into that situation you would know where your partner stands on the situation and you would be able to refer back to that conversation and feel confident that no one else's opinion would matter but his an you could respectfully say to the family that my boyfriend knows where I stand on my beliefs and still values me, I thank you for your flattery in wanting me to be a part of something you believe in but I stand by my beliefs.Posted by ladylibra21Posted by NotSoInstantI say don't be yourself up too much, even if you feel like you jumped the gun on breaking up don't beg him back or wait around because he will put you through the ringer trying to win him back. If he keeps makeing accusations like you don't love me and you know that you do I would just calmly say I have to disagree and I'm sorry you feel that way but I'm not going to try to change your mind. I do love you but I was put in a position that I should have never been put in and for future reference you might want to talk to your family about involving themselves in your relationships. And Then I would be on my way because if he is really angry and being stubborn right now he is only going to hurt your feelings.Posted by NefertariYeah, most often it has been intense attraction at first sight. I'm not sure if it can be called love though.... I took my time because I needed time to be certain of his and my feelings. Guess I'm lucky in that way. And only one Taurus I'm not friendly with the others.He sounds like a great guy for you! Is he intellectual? Asking because I know Taurus who are smart but seemed dense.
I'm happy with his possessiveness because I'm kinda possessive too:-P. But he isn't the jealous type.... all he wants is for others to know I'm with him. He doesn't even mind the attention because he trusts me. Unlike my Scorpio ex, who drove me insane with his suspicions and insecurities
Wow!You know Asian families -D. His family asked me to convert or to break up with him. It is extremely hard to have a healthy long term relationship against his family's wishes. And his mom took good care of me when I was very sick and needed urgent medical help. She was great to me all these months.There is nothing much for me to do here.
He loves me, you know... He loves me a lot and i love him a lot... but he is being so dense. He doesn't understand what's happening here and thinks I'm just being a brat... He doesnt understand these things at all.
One thing I notice about some Taurus is they might seem slow, but they actually do get it slowly. They don't show it, but they have a lot of ideas. Not sure whether yours is this type. There are some who really are just slow.
I feel you need to be more open than him. Communication is very important with these guys. They appreciate you being open and honest.
I read the book. I feel a piece of advice pretty good. Like training the guy. Actually I feel all guys can be trained. Gosh, guys are so careless about things that are important to women! I feel if we bring up certain issues that bother us with them gently but positively, overtime they will understand more and try to empathise.
I have my lesson too. Being too understanding towards men in general, it will become a habit to them. If you don't speak up, they feel you don't mind so their behaviour won't change. Guys are more focused on the big things. They won't notice the little things until we tell them. Like they don't have time and space in their life for these.
Being patient and straight is good.
It's over. We spoke last night.... He knows what happened. He askd me to answer his direct questions and made me give yes/no answers.
Did my family ask you to convert?
Did they ask you to break up?
Is that why you broke up?
He said I don't love him enough and that I broke up with him over nothing. He also said his Mon never wanted me to break up with him and it was all my decision because I was weak.
Right now he is extremely angry and stubborn...
Hey thanks a lot. I appreciate it. He is a great guy.... I am someone who is very good at messing up things.
You give very good advice... I didn't listen
Thanks... I have seen that with certain relationships.
I know he is angry because I broke up with him over nothing(?! No way). He said religion never mattered to him. In all fairness, he visited Temple with me on New year's (that's the only time I seem to know the way to a temple) and that incident(and they seen a sext from me on his mobile) made his family insecure and it became a major issue for them.
I'm not going to call him.... I won't put myself through the ringer for anyone again and right now I'm just sooo angry. I expected him to find out and sort it. I never wanted to point fingers at his own family and make him choose. It is about his family's wishes and I'm not even engaged to him, for me to try and convince them from a certain position.
He never put me through any tests or anything... He made choices that made me happyy but I do understand why he would be hurt...Because I didn't pick him and he been extremely great as a bf....
There is nothing for me to do now.
Thanks a lot.click to expand
Posted by NotSoInstantPosted by JohnTheBaptist100I will consider everything you have said busy... I think right now I'm overwhelmed... and ldr sucks. It is not for me. I need him with me... i hate faking to be happy when i dont even get to see him. I'm a physical person.Posted by NotSoInstantYou should have spoken to him about the religion and his parents views on it and about them wanting you to convert.Posted by ladylibra21Posted by NotSoInstantI say don't be yourself up too much, even if you feel like you jumped the gun on breaking up don't beg him back or wait around because he will put you through the ringer trying to win him back. If he keeps makeing accusations like you don't love me and you know that you do I would just calmly say I have to disagree and I'm sorry you feel that way but I'm not going to try to change your mind. I do love you but I was put in a position that I should have never been put in and for future reference you might want to talk to your family about involving themselves in your relationships. And Then I would be on my way because if he is really angry and being stubborn right now he is only going to hurt your feelings.Posted by NefertariYeah, most often it has been intense attraction at first sight. I'm not sure if it can be called love though.... I took my time because I needed time to be certain of his and my feelings. Guess I'm lucky in that way. And only one Taurus I'm not friendly with the others.He sounds like a great guy for you! Is he intellectual? Asking because I know Taurus who are smart but seemed dense.
I'm happy with his possessiveness because I'm kinda possessive too:-P. But he isn't the jealous type.... all he wants is for others to know I'm with him. He doesn't even mind the attention because he trusts me. Unlike my Scorpio ex, who drove me insane with his suspicions and insecurities
Wow!You know Asian families -D. His family asked me to convert or to break up with him. It is extremely hard to have a healthy long term relationship against his family's wishes. And his mom took good care of me when I was very sick and needed urgent medical help. She was great to me all these months.There is nothing much for me to do here.
He loves me, you know... He loves me a lot and i love him a lot... but he is being so dense. He doesn't understand what's happening here and thinks I'm just being a brat... He doesnt understand these things at all.
One thing I notice about some Taurus is they might seem slow, but they actually do get it slowly. They don't show it, but they have a lot of ideas. Not sure whether yours is this type. There are some who really are just slow.
I feel you need to be more open than him. Communication is very important with these guys. They appreciate you being open and honest.
I read the book. I feel a piece of advice pretty good. Like training the guy. Actually I feel all guys can be trained. Gosh, guys are so careless about things that are important to women! I feel if we bring up certain issues that bother us with them gently but positively, overtime they will understand more and try to empathise.
I have my lesson too. Being too understanding towards men in general, it will become a habit to them. If you don't speak up, they feel you don't mind so their behaviour won't change. Guys are more focused on the big things. They won't notice the little things until we tell them. Like they don't have time and space in their life for these.
Being patient and straight is good.
It's over. We spoke last night.... He knows what happened. He askd me to answer his direct questions and made me give yes/no answers.
Did my family ask you to convert?
Did they ask you to break up?
Is that why you broke up?
He said I don't love him enough and that I broke up with him over nothing. He also said his Mon never wanted me to break up with him and it was all my decision because I was weak.
Right now he is extremely angry and stubborn...
Hey thanks a lot. I appreciate it. He is a great guy.... I am someone who is very good at messing up things.
You give very good advice... I didn't listen
Thanks... I have seen that with certain relationships.
I know he is angry because I broke up with him over nothing(?! No way). He said religion never mattered to him. In all fairness, he visited Temple with me on New year's (that's the only time I seem to know the way to a temple) and that incident(and they seen a sext from me on his mobile) made his family insecure and it became a major issue for them.
I'm not going to call him.... I won't put myself through the ringer for anyone again and right now I'm just sooo angry. I expected him to find out and sort it. I never wanted to point fingers at his own family and make him choose. It is about his family's wishes and I'm not even engaged to him, for me to try and convince them from a certain position.
He never put me through any tests or anything... He made choices that made me happyy but I do understand why he would be hurt...Because I didn't pick him and he been extremely great as a bf....
There is nothing for me to do now.
Thanks a lot.
if this is a man you are considering to spend the rest of your life together you should be as one unit and discuss EVERYTHING.
Then decisions can be made. If he decides to chose his family then you know where you stand...
It does not matter whether you were engaged to him officially or not...this kind of thing cannot be "left to chance" when dealing with a Taurus aa once we enter a relationship it is for life so we want smooth running of the marriage so previous to that all relationship issues such as religion, children, work,child care needs to be discussed and laid out on the table before the marriage and as a female who is marrying into his family it is important to have your say...
If he was clueless as to what his family was up to then it was upto you to enlighten him by letting him know what was going on.
Sorry but I agree with the bull. You made a big mistake...
I will wait for him to call me... but his family is adamant that i convert. They were. Now, Im not sure. They need to respect me and accept me for who I am. That is important to me. I can't be bullied to be different. That won't happen at all.
But where I live, gals aren't treated as an equal, so I'm not gonna risk my independence. Guys family tend to poke their nose into everything... from what the gal wears to who she gets to speak with. My family is very liberal... and you know I'm a Gemini. I can't be anybody's door may. Not happening.
I have to think hard on this.
Thanks a lot. I appreciate everything you said.. you give damn good advice here. Wish more people would consider your advice.
Thanks girl :-)click to expand
Posted by NotSoInstantI think you'll work it out. in-laws are always going to be trouble for most people but as long as you know your line and what you want you will eventually get it - it just might take some time for people to get used to it. yes, bulls want loyalty but men want women they can respect.
Thanks jeane. I agree, I love him a lot and I know I can even out myself through shit to be with him. I can do it. But no. Not gonna do it. I didnt to through hell all these years to reach this point to be just someone isn't good enough because of my religion? No way. I never ever speak I'll of anyone's religion. I can't give up everything I have worked hard for these years. They want someone who isn't there in me. They won't even allow(?) me to participate in our rituals that we conduct for those elders who have passed on. It is a spiritual process and it means a lot to me. It is an act of gratitude for those who helped us to get here. I know i know, but i love my traditions and i can learn to love and be a part of their traditions. But that's not enough for them.
Your last para was very powerful and touched me. Thank you, jeane.
I know as a person I can live on my own... I'm not gonna give up being me because i found him. His family's behaviour shocked me. But it is a great lesson to learn.
Thank you so much
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100LOL....
My Taurus was also the first version. But we lock horns...
I actually missed your post on pg 3 when I replied earlier. So sorry about that.
It's over. We spoke last night.... He knows what happened. He askd me to answer his direct questions and made me give yes/no answers.
Did my family ask you to convert?
Did they ask you to break up?
Is that why you broke up?
He said I don't love him enough and that I broke up with him over nothing. He also said his Mon never wanted me to break up with him and it was all my decision because I was weak.
Right now he is extremely angry and stubborn...
Hey thanks a lot. I appreciate it. He is a great guy.... I am someone who is very good at messing up things.
You give very good advice... I didn't listen
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I just dropped you a post on the other thread. Hope you are much better now! Coughing is it?Posted by NefertariI am also a Taurus but same like signs Do have all the answers especially when they are the different sexes who also work differently.. Issues of life also and day to day problems also get in the way....Posted by JohnTheBaptist100LOL....
My Taurus was also the first version. But we lock horns...
Aren't you Taurus yourself too? I infer from the messages you post.
Surprised to see you lock horns. I thought first type is the nicer, not nasty version? Or you lock horns cos both of you are Tauruses and the horns are there because you're both stubborn?
So yes "locking horns with too bulls is inevitable" ...
I am on here as I have been ill for last couple of weeks so not been at work..
Although he is my Mr perfect. His mars in Pisces in the 8th house conjuncts my Venus in Pisces in the 8th house
he has a VIG in the 12th house and Saturn in cancer in the 12th house... And my Saturn is in Pisces!!
Weird right??click to expand
I don't think you are the only one hurting. From your background situation, your Taurus must be also hurting a lot, that's why he said those things to you. I believe with the depth of your relationship, he does care deeply for you, or he'd never do the things he does. It takes a lot for Taurus to do something special for others.
Awww busy
Thanks a lot.... I didn't contact him. I mean I did after he said bye but he didn't pick up and I didn't call him after that.
How am I to be with him if he won't even get angry or shout at me? And avoids me when he is angry?
I won't call him at all.... I know how stubborn he can be. But he is making things worse, atleast I was there for him despite the way his family spoke. I never showed even a bit of how much I was hurt by them to him. Idk.... If he needs space from me, what is the point of me being there? I can understand someone walking away for an hour or two to de-stress. This looks like I'm not a part of him, that's how it feels to me.
I know, I have read your posts. I think your Gem ex must have loved you a lot. Worst thing a loved one can do to us is to ignore us. We won't care if someone else does it though.
Posted by NefertariSame. I wish I came across this book years ago. Would have saved me a lot of time and research lolPosted by Aries_LuminaryI feel the same way too, that's why I recommend it after reading.
I think the book is pretty accurate and spot on. For anyone wanting advice or is confused with dating a Taurus, this is a great book to read. It gives better advice then you'll ever find on here
With my experience, most things happen in the book happened to me. Luckily, mine don't have to deal with drugs and sex issues. But exes and harem can be quite an issue. I hope the author writes more on these though, like details.
Anyway, luckily romance is not the only important thing in life.click to expand
Thank you for agreeing that I made the right decision. Not sure whether it is permanent or not. But I believe there is a limit as to what we can put ourself through to sustain a relationship. I doubt I will ever forget the words his aunt used.Yes, you certainly did. Just let it be for the time being and see how things go. If he is serious about you, he will work things out on his side.
Or the fact he didn't bother to listen to me, when I asked him to.
Thank you so much
... Hope you will have a great Valentine's day with your Taurus
Thank you for your wishesNo problem at all! You're such a friendly lady.
I'm moving on
It's for the best, I think.
Thanks a lot!
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by NefertariWhy can't tauruses stay in one country! Lol lol
I posted the above few days ago asking your permission to include your comments, quotes and opinions on a review that I plan to write. Can I just take silence as consent if I don't hear objections in the next week? Asking because I respect the rights and copyrights of others. My boss said that to me once after I quoted him without getting his permission first. Learnt my lesson there.
Any constructive feedback, good or bad things anyone wishes to add on about the book?
Bashing is also okay. I follow the author's blog, so maybe I can relay that back to the author too.
My Taurus just left for work in another country. Won't be seeing him for quite a while. Quite happy for the break though. Life's busy.
Mine spends more time abroad than he does with me of late! It's like pulling teeth!
Yes sure i give you my consent if you think they would be of any use lol lol lolclick to expand
Posted by NefertariBaptist, my Taurus got back from overseas a few months ago. What have you been up to and where are you hiding? Christmas is just around the corner. Hope you are happy wherever you are.
Happy Valentines' Day to you ladies! I have great joy listening and talking to you.
I just realize today I haven't really given my review for this book though I started with the intention of doing so. And now we're on page 5! lol
I'd just say I find it a good book, that's why I recommend it. I like it because it is short and sweet which makes it pretty easy to read. Found a lot of things to be quite concise. Sometimes I wish there'd be more stories or written as descriptively as Anna.
I read it after Anna Kovach's Taurus Man Secrets which I found to be good as well. The section on compatibility really takes up a lot of pages which can be used for more things on understanding Taurus. A bit expensive but comes with guarantee which is trustworthy. But if you take into the consultation service, then it's a fairly cheap price.
Taurus Man Decoded is very Taurus-focused and what I like is how Diana comes in from her insight, rather than just repeat how romantic, nice or what a great husband Taurus is. She tells you the shit. Even though I don't have big issues with my Taurus, I found a lot of small things which are quite helpful like what does it mean when a Taurus says blah blah blah and her views on Taurus man.
Sometimes when I think about it, I like how Taurus are steady the way they move in a relationship. The sad thing is I agree with Diana not all women have years to test out a potential relationship.
Why can't Taurus just be a bit faster?