Taurus man ends things and 14 months later
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Just wondering if anyone can shed some light. Had a Taurus man end things suddenly because he could not handle me telling him that the way he was treating me that he was being a real dick and he said that he was not a gentleman and that I deserved better.
He ends up getting engaged 6 months after the breakup to another girl he met around the time of the breakup and now 14 months after he ended things with me, and 2 months before his wedding, he suddenly messages "hi, I hope you're not mad at me anymore, I'm sorry for everything and I hope you find someone better than me one day...
Can anyone explain this weird taurus behaviour?
He ends up getting engaged 6 months after the breakup to another girl he met around the time of the breakup and now 14 months after he ended things with me, and 2 months before his wedding, he suddenly messages "hi, I hope you're not mad at me anymore, I'm sorry for everything and I hope you find someone better than me one day...
Can anyone explain this weird taurus behaviour?
Eva it's pointless to try and figure this out.
This kind of behavior is typical of an insecure male.
He's attempting to see if you're lonely enough desperate enough be his side chick/fall back girl, someone he can feel sure of which is typical insecure behavior. He's still a jerk.
You may not want to hear this but ignore his attempt at communicating.
Move on, don't look back, you do deserve better.
This kind of behavior is typical of an insecure male.
He's attempting to see if you're lonely enough desperate enough be his side chick/fall back girl, someone he can feel sure of which is typical insecure behavior. He's still a jerk.
You may not want to hear this but ignore his attempt at communicating.
Move on, don't look back, you do deserve better.
Thanks for your responses. I certainly am refusing to reply his messages and him messaging me at 1am and 7am like I'm some bootycall is something I told him off about ages ago.
I am glad I got to know the real person he was and am so grateful for not ending up married to him.
He can try to clear his conscience but he will always be that one guy I am glad to be without. I certainly feel sorry for the woman who is so blinded by him and unable to see him as I am. Real woman deserve to be treated well and not dumped to the side for you to call back to when u feel like it
And I am with an amazing man now... A capricorn guy the same as me and we have never fought once in the 8 months we have known one another which feels like a world record. This is the kind of man I wanna spend the rest of my life with
I am glad I got to know the real person he was and am so grateful for not ending up married to him.
He can try to clear his conscience but he will always be that one guy I am glad to be without. I certainly feel sorry for the woman who is so blinded by him and unable to see him as I am. Real woman deserve to be treated well and not dumped to the side for you to call back to when u feel like it
And I am with an amazing man now... A capricorn guy the same as me and we have never fought once in the 8 months we have known one another which feels like a world record. This is the kind of man I wanna spend the rest of my life with
Posted by Eva
Just wondering if anyone can shed some light. Had a Taurus man end things suddenly because he could not handle me telling him that the way he was treating me that he was being a real dick and he said that he was not a gentleman and that I deserved better.
He ends up getting engaged 6 months after the breakup to another girl he met around the time of the breakup and now 14 months after he ended things with me, and 2 months before his wedding, he suddenly messages "hi, I hope you're not mad at me anymore, I'm sorry for everything and I hope you find someone better than me one day...
Can anyone explain this weird taurus behaviour?
He was simply telling you the truth.
The chapter wasn't closed.
He needed you to let go.
He moved on.
He wanted you to do the same.
He's not a coward, a user, or a game player.
But a man who has found happiness and love in his life.
He wants the same for you.
Embrace the Cappie that you're with, and simply delete this thread.....
Creating this thread is proof that you haven't found closure.
Posted by TaurusBull1977Posted by Eva
Just wondering if anyone can shed some light. Had a Taurus man end things suddenly because he could not handle me telling him that the way he was treating me that he was being a real dick and he said that he was not a gentleman and that I deserved better.
He ends up getting engaged 6 months after the breakup to another girl he met around the time of the breakup and now 14 months after he ended things with me, and 2 months before his wedding, he suddenly messages "hi, I hope you're not mad at me anymore, I'm sorry for everything and I hope you find someone better than me one day...
Can anyone explain this weird taurus behaviour?
He was simply telling you the truth.
The chapter wasn't closed.
He needed you to let go.
He moved on.
He wanted you to do the same.
He's not a coward, a user, or a game player.
But a man who has found happiness and love in his life.
He wants the same for you.
Embrace the Cappie that you're with, and simply delete this thread.....
Creating this thread is proof that you haven't found closure.click to expand
Why suggest that she delete the thread? Your tone is very defensive of man that you don't even know. Clearly he hasn't let go either if he's still randomly contacting her after several months. Both parties moved on. She has a new love and so does he.
I agree with Tiki because this is exactly what happened with my sister and her Taurus ex. He texted her the week before his wedding, the week during, the week after etc. Married in January and just texted her again maybe three days ago. I feel so sad for his wife because she seems like a decent woman and you don't wish that on anyone.
My friend and I talked about his behavior, and my friend said that he's still trying see if he still has a backup or options. The Taurus even told my sister that if it doesn't work with him and his wife he's coming back to her lol. Your ex might see you as his "fall back" girl.
My friend and I talked about his behavior, and my friend said that he's still trying see if he still has a backup or options. The Taurus even told my sister that if it doesn't work with him and his wife he's coming back to her lol. Your ex might see you as his "fall back" girl.
btw, my sister is a Virgo.
I know a Taurus that dated his Cap best friend, and when we talked about it I could tell he had unresolved feelings. I think it's the same with my sisters ex Taurus, and possible the same with yours. I'm a Cap too, and even if my Taurus and I stop talking I can see him pulling something similar.
So maybe it's earth/earth and letting go of a situation due to x,y,z but still having lingering feelings. Just a thought
I know a Taurus that dated his Cap best friend, and when we talked about it I could tell he had unresolved feelings. I think it's the same with my sisters ex Taurus, and possible the same with yours. I'm a Cap too, and even if my Taurus and I stop talking I can see him pulling something similar.
So maybe it's earth/earth and letting go of a situation due to x,y,z but still having lingering feelings. Just a thought
Hi creativecap,
I am well and truly past this Taurus ex of mine. I was just confused why a coward suddenly after 14 months would start contacting me...clearly when u have no contact for over a year, most people would have moved on. I am with a man I adore and love so much and it just pisses me off that after all this time he is suddenly messaging me.
When we were together, I always told him that I felt not like his woman but his plaything on the side so he could prioritise going to the gym and hanging out with his guy n girl friends and not making time for me. But then expecting I drop everything for him when he was ready for a nookie.
His current fianc? is also long distance like me and they live about 1000 km away.
I am definitely not going to reply to him so that he thinks I am his backup option
I am well and truly past this Taurus ex of mine. I was just confused why a coward suddenly after 14 months would start contacting me...clearly when u have no contact for over a year, most people would have moved on. I am with a man I adore and love so much and it just pisses me off that after all this time he is suddenly messaging me.
When we were together, I always told him that I felt not like his woman but his plaything on the side so he could prioritise going to the gym and hanging out with his guy n girl friends and not making time for me. But then expecting I drop everything for him when he was ready for a nookie.
His current fianc? is also long distance like me and they live about 1000 km away.
I am definitely not going to reply to him so that he thinks I am his backup option
Posted by CreativeCap
Why suggest that she delete the thread? Your tone is very defensive of man that you don't even know. Clearly he hasn't let go either if he's still randomly contacting her after several months. Both parties moved on. She has a new love and so does he.
There is nothing to pyschoanalyze.
This Taurus man was quite direct.
He felt remorseful.
Apologized.
Found happiness with someone else.
And wished her the same.
Very self explanatory to me.
Did I miss something?
(And FYI, he hasn't been in contact with her sporadically, he called her out of the blue.)
I don't believe the OP is over him, hence, the purpose of this thread. Whether his intentions were genuine or disingenuous, it shouldn't matter once you've moved on. She's reading too much into this.
....And no, I wasn't being harsh, just practical and realistic.
Oh, and Edit to add...
Bulls do not deliver metaphors, clouds of smoke, and riddles for the other parties to dissect.
*Still confused as to why this thread went left*
Bulls do not deliver metaphors, clouds of smoke, and riddles for the other parties to dissect.
*Still confused as to why this thread went left*
Posted by tiziani
Frankly I'd just be grateful it's over. It's a little strange that people (in general, not here) complain when they're stuck with a relationship that doesn't work and yet that person just keeps hanging around, keeps making them miserable.
Here you have a situation where he saved you a lot of time and ended it because you were unhappy. All's well that ends well. No point feeling sorry for his future wife. You never know, they could be just right for each other. It takes all kinds of people to make up this crazy world.
^^^^Best Advice.^^^ A practical response!
Eva just keep pushing forward with your Cap and don't let this give you a headache. I know how difficult it is to be interrupted and not able to solve or get to the bottom of intentions. It will drive you crazy and its not worth it cause you'll never know the truth.
Posted by TaurusBull1977Posted by Eva
Just wondering if anyone can shed some light. Had a Taurus man end things suddenly because he could not handle me telling him that the way he was treating me that he was being a real dick and he said that he was not a gentleman and that I deserved better.
He ends up getting engaged 6 months after the breakup to another girl he met around the time of the breakup and now 14 months after he ended things with me, and 2 months before his wedding, he suddenly messages "hi, I hope you're not mad at me anymore, I'm sorry for everything and I hope you find someone better than me one day...
Can anyone explain this weird taurus behaviour?
He was simply telling you the truth.
The chapter wasn't closed.
He needed you to let go.
He moved on.
He wanted you to do the same.
He's not a coward, a user, or a game player.
But a man who has found happiness and love in his life.
He wants the same for you.
Embrace the Cappie that you're with, and simply delete this thread.....
Creating this thread is proof that you haven't found closure.click to expand
If he really found happiness, he wouldn't be contacting her after a year...PERIOD! Sounds to me like he really wasn't being truthful with himself and really wanted to know what she thought about his foul behavior. Besides, when I'm done with someone, I don't feel the need to ever contact them..especially if the break up was bad, so really...who's not over who? Also, the whole point of this website is to fellowship and ask questions, make comments and learn why certain signs act the way they do, so her creating this thread was perfectly ok. My question to you is...why are you here? you're doing the same thing..right? Just like I thought. The Ego and arrogance is like cocaine...It'a helluva drug.
Posted by Eva
Hi creativecap,
I am well and truly past this Taurus ex of mine. I was just confused why a coward suddenly after 14 months would start contacting me...clearly when u have no contact for over a year, most people would have moved on. I am with a man I adore and love so much and it just pisses me off that after all this time he is suddenly messaging me.
When we were together, I always told him that I felt not like his woman but his plaything on the side so he could prioritise going to the gym and hanging out with his guy n girl friends and not making time for me. But then expecting I drop everything for him when he was ready for a nookie.
His current fianc? is also long distance like me and they live about 1000 km away.
I am definitely not going to reply to him so that he thinks I am his backup option
I hear you. Taurus men can be very confusing, at all times. They're great in the beginning, but mostly leave a lot to be desired in a committed relationship. It's in our curious capricorn nature to wonder and investigate. Isn't that what this forum is all about
.Posted by LIb4LifePosted by TaurusBull1977Posted by Eva
Just wondering if anyone can shed some light. Had a Taurus man end things suddenly because he could not handle me telling him that the way he was treating me that he was being a real dick and he said that he was not a gentleman and that I deserved better.
He ends up getting engaged 6 months after the breakup to another girl he met around the time of the breakup and now 14 months after he ended things with me, and 2 months before his wedding, he suddenly messages "hi, I hope you're not mad at me anymore, I'm sorry for everything and I hope you find someone better than me one day...
Can anyone explain this weird taurus behaviour?
He was simply telling you the truth.
The chapter wasn't closed.
He needed you to let go.
He moved on.
He wanted you to do the same.
He's not a coward, a user, or a game player.
But a man who has found happiness and love in his life.
He wants the same for you.
Embrace the Cappie that you're with, and simply delete this thread.....
Creating this thread is proof that you haven't found closure.
If he really found happiness, he wouldn't be contacting her after a year...PERIOD! Sounds to me like he really wasn't being truthful with himself and really wanted to know what she thought about his foul behavior. Besides, when I'm done with someone, I don't feel the need to ever contact them..especially if the break up was bad, so really...who's not over who? Also, the whole point of this website is to fellowship and ask questions, make comments and learn why certain signs act the way they do, so her creating this thread was perfectly ok. My question to you is...why are you here? you're doing the same thing..right? Just like I thought. The Ego and arrogance is like cocaine...It'a helluva drug.click to expand
+100
Posted by CreativeCap
I hear you. Taurus men can be very confusing, at all times. They're great in the beginning, but mostly leave a lot to be desired in a committed relationship. It's in our curious capricorn nature to wonder and investigate. Isn't that what this forum is all about
This seems to be quite a confession of bias. How many Taurus men have you been with in committed relationships? I hope its more than one.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
He was simply telling you the truth.
He's not a coward, a user, or a game player.
But a man who has found happiness and love in his life.
He wants the same for you.
.
More my read on it as well. Seemed to be a fairly noble thing, not an attempt at manipulation or about his ego. Why does a legitimate apology, a man expressing residual guilt, have to turn into some form of ego-based manipulation or hidden agenda? Of course you can still have someone on your mind that you wronged, a year later. You can still care about them as a person, want the best for them, and regret the way you treated them, *and* not have a hidden agenda in expressing that to them. I've done it before. I think the background factor in a lot of the comments here is just a bitterness and distrust towards men in general, due to past experiences. Its understandable but by no means is it necessarily the interpretive key to what is going on here.
Tls, hopefully an apology wasn't given to your exes while you were engaged to someone else.
I still think it's a messy thing to do, especially since so many Taureans here are against their significant others even mentioning exes. I've read on here for years that you all believe the past is the past, and no need to bring it into the future, so I don't get why he couldn't make peace with himself about it and refrain from disturbing her mental with something unnecessary. How could a good intention be read so wrong? If he left on a bad note, why assume an apology two months before your wedding would put you in a good light?
Then what if his fianc? see the text to her? How do you explain that you were texting you ex apologizing?...assuming she doesn't know. If his fianc? was texting her exes I wonder how he would take it, or what the comments would be on here.
I still think it's a messy thing to do, especially since so many Taureans here are against their significant others even mentioning exes. I've read on here for years that you all believe the past is the past, and no need to bring it into the future, so I don't get why he couldn't make peace with himself about it and refrain from disturbing her mental with something unnecessary. How could a good intention be read so wrong? If he left on a bad note, why assume an apology two months before your wedding would put you in a good light?
Then what if his fianc? see the text to her? How do you explain that you were texting you ex apologizing?...assuming she doesn't know. If his fianc? was texting her exes I wonder how he would take it, or what the comments would be on here.
Posted by lnana04
Tls, hopefully an apology wasn't given to your exes while you were engaged to someone else.
I still think it's a messy thing to do, especially since so many Taureans here are against their significant others even mentioning exes. I've read on here for years that you all believe the past is the past, and no need to bring it into the future, so I don't get why he couldn't make peace with himself about it and refrain from disturbing her mental with something unnecessary. How could a good intention be read so wrong? If he left on a bad note, why assume an apology two months before your wedding would put you in a good light?
Then what if his fianc? see the text to her? How do you explain that you were texting you ex apologizing?...assuming she doesn't know. If his fianc? was texting her exes I wonder how he would take it, or what the comments would be on here.
I get what you're saying - all legitimate points. Sometimes situations with exes are tricky though. I have to be in a continual relationship with my ex-wife due to us having a kid, and I have made an apology before when *she* brought up something I had said....and I was in a new relationship at the time. Maybe this guy is breaking some rules betw. him and his fianc?, maybe he isn't. Its probable, I'll say that. BUT sometimes, you are so overwhelmed with a feeling about something from your past, a feeling of regret or guilt, you're moved to reach out and try to make amends. I can't really be too hard on someone for that.
I just don't understand the problem with the guy apologizing while he's engaged. In my experience, it's only when you begin to find true happiness and contentment that you begin to reflect on some of the foul things you may have done in the past and feel the urge to make ammends. This man found his happily ever after (which incidentally he is not wrong for doing) and in that he realized the pain he caused the OP and reached out to offer an apology and well wishes for her future. So many women wish for an apology from the man that broke their heart and she got one. So why is he wrong?
Now if tried to go out with her or flirt with her in someone then yea I'd be on board with that thinking, but I just don't get how he's a bad guy here. And he's not disrespecting his fiance by apologizing to the old gf. Even if she didn't know about this text and happened to run across it, I'd think rationally she could understand his need to right this wrong before he made it official with her. We've all hurt someone who would probably appreciate a genuine apology.
@OP I'm not saying you're not over this guy, but his contact has obviously stirred some unresolved emotions. I agree that for your own sanity and the sake of you current relationship, that you should take that text as positively as possible, not respond and move on wishing him and his new bride well...
Now if tried to go out with her or flirt with her in someone then yea I'd be on board with that thinking, but I just don't get how he's a bad guy here. And he's not disrespecting his fiance by apologizing to the old gf. Even if she didn't know about this text and happened to run across it, I'd think rationally she could understand his need to right this wrong before he made it official with her. We've all hurt someone who would probably appreciate a genuine apology.
@OP I'm not saying you're not over this guy, but his contact has obviously stirred some unresolved emotions. I agree that for your own sanity and the sake of you current relationship, that you should take that text as positively as possible, not respond and move on wishing him and his new bride well...
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by CreativeCap
I hear you. Taurus men can be very confusing, at all times. They're great in the beginning, but mostly leave a lot to be desired in a committed relationship. It's in our curious capricorn nature to wonder and investigate. Isn't that what this forum is all about
This seems to be quite a confession of bias. How many Taurus men have you been with in committed relationships? I hope its more than one.click to expand
Yes. You got me. Just one commitment
Less than six months, dated a few though. This notion of taurus men changing or becoming confusingly comfortable after the initial courting phase is all over the forums.Jerks--Assholes---Assclowns--Neglectors
Are always looking back, they are always looking for an open door, they are always pretending to be sincere when they truly are being selfish, they are always finding the one that got away, they are always looking for a desperate needy female to use in some way or another.
If she didn't have issues with how he was treating her and let's say he was a great guy but it didn't work out and he felt remorse, I'd agree that his actions are/were noble but since he's not a gentlemen, was not a good guy to her I can be 100% sure his intentions was to slide back into her life and be neglectful.
He's waiting for a response/reaction and that will give him the green light to conjure up some side booty.
Are always looking back, they are always looking for an open door, they are always pretending to be sincere when they truly are being selfish, they are always finding the one that got away, they are always looking for a desperate needy female to use in some way or another.
If she didn't have issues with how he was treating her and let's say he was a great guy but it didn't work out and he felt remorse, I'd agree that his actions are/were noble but since he's not a gentlemen, was not a good guy to her I can be 100% sure his intentions was to slide back into her life and be neglectful.
He's waiting for a response/reaction and that will give him the green light to conjure up some side booty.
Posted by tiki33
Jerks--Assholes---Assclowns--Neglectors
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He's waiting for a response/reaction and that will give him the green light to conjure up some side booty.
Lmao.
Oh man @tiki33, now I kinda want her to respond to him just to see if you're right. Is that bad? (Don't actually do that op)
But honestly we don't actually know he was a dick, we only know the OPs perception of him. One womans dick is another womans prince charming. Clearly in this case. I just don't see an opening in his text to get her in his harem. Usually the douche look backers throw in some sort of bait comment or flirtatious remark about "the good ole days" when they were together to muster up some emotional connection from their victim. I just didn't see that here. But I am curious now as to whether he would try her if she responded back.
But honestly we don't actually know he was a dick, we only know the OPs perception of him. One womans dick is another womans prince charming. Clearly in this case. I just don't see an opening in his text to get her in his harem. Usually the douche look backers throw in some sort of bait comment or flirtatious remark about "the good ole days" when they were together to muster up some emotional connection from their victim. I just didn't see that here. But I am curious now as to whether he would try her if she responded back.
When he broke up with me he said he was so sorry and wished me well but that it would never work out again and that he wanted to not be in a relationship but just go to the gym and hang out with friends.
I eventually moved on with my current boyfriend and never thought about my ex because I deserved better. He was so angry and not someone I could discuss my concerns with at all and would always lose his temper and I eventually gave up pursing anything with him. I said my peace....
If he said to me when breaking up with me that he was not a gentleman and that I deserved better and no buts, that's it, why the bloody hell would you suddenly start contacting me to apologise with the same bullshit words you used before. He said the same exact words he did before and I don't trust his intentions
I eventually moved on with my current boyfriend and never thought about my ex because I deserved better. He was so angry and not someone I could discuss my concerns with at all and would always lose his temper and I eventually gave up pursing anything with him. I said my peace....
If he said to me when breaking up with me that he was not a gentleman and that I deserved better and no buts, that's it, why the bloody hell would you suddenly start contacting me to apologise with the same bullshit words you used before. He said the same exact words he did before and I don't trust his intentions
Hello Eva,
The way you pronounce the statement above. Yes... it was the same way my ex taurus man emailed me
saying sorry how it ended and wish me more happiness. Bottom line... true to what tiki33 said it's an
insecurity buried within. But guess what, as he kept emailing those moment, I just replied of course
I am sexy I am pretty sure I can find a better man and not a $ $ hole. then, we get back again as he
wanted me to move in with him... but It wont work either... for me.. it takes a man to know his woman.
I actually agree with you to some degree Fem but this is 2014 and the jerks have evolved.
The jerk/asshole game has changed, the back in the day jerks would put in some slick sexual gesture/comment but the 2014 jerks are patient and know all they have to do is show up and initiate and the rest will fall into place, she answers/responds, communication is open and the more receptive she is to communicating the easier it is to get on the side booty gravy train.
Only a jerk would come back and repeat the same thing he said a year ago before they called it quits.
Since he's living on planet me he can't even see how disrespectful and intrusive he's being.
The jerk/asshole game has changed, the back in the day jerks would put in some slick sexual gesture/comment but the 2014 jerks are patient and know all they have to do is show up and initiate and the rest will fall into place, she answers/responds, communication is open and the more receptive she is to communicating the easier it is to get on the side booty gravy train.
Only a jerk would come back and repeat the same thing he said a year ago before they called it quits.
Since he's living on planet me he can't even see how disrespectful and intrusive he's being.
Hi tiki33,
I certainly feel he is being disrespectful and what woman would want to hear the same bullshit he said over a year ago. If you were sorry when u broke things off, why be sorry again. A normal man would say his peace and that's it. No need to repeat again over a year later...
I certainly feel he is being disrespectful and what woman would want to hear the same bullshit he said over a year ago. If you were sorry when u broke things off, why be sorry again. A normal man would say his peace and that's it. No need to repeat again over a year later...
Hi tiki33,
I certainly feel he is being disrespectful and what woman would want to hear the same bullshit he said over a year ago. If you were sorry when u broke things off, why be sorry again. A normal man would say his peace and that's it. No need to repeat again over a year later...
I certainly feel he is being disrespectful and what woman would want to hear the same bullshit he said over a year ago. If you were sorry when u broke things off, why be sorry again. A normal man would say his peace and that's it. No need to repeat again over a year later...
Tiziani,
If he was doing this for himself then surely when he said his peace over a year ago that would have been it. I never said him trying to contact me now and apologise the same exact words when he ended things means he is doing this for me. If he was doing this for himself then why start contact and apologise the same words he did before.
Normal people say their peace and that's it... They don't need to try and make contact a year later. He was in an unstable place when I knew him changing jobs every few months which he still does now. I couldn't stand this instability and his insecure behaviour maybe that's the capricorn in me which prefers to be grounded and stable. He was shouting at me and very aggressive and that really scared me and I could not take anymore.
I have moved on, I just thought that some Taurus people hear could explain his character but it seems a few Taurus people here are just defending their kind and trying to blame me for overthinking it.
I did learn one thing with my Taurus ex, "it's his way or the highway". He will not consider discussing any issues i had with him. And that's fine for him. I met someone I can actually talk to and love with all my heart and soul.
If my ex is making contact after this past 14 months to see if I have been desperately waiting for his sorry ass, and to rub it in that he is about to embark on this new chapter of his life and getting married, well I don't care or want to know. He has his life and I have mine and there is no need trying to go to the past. He f*cked up bad and apologised the only way he could. No one asked he try to start contact back and if he is sorry the way he was before, you don't need to say sorry again after over a year
If he was doing this for himself then surely when he said his peace over a year ago that would have been it. I never said him trying to contact me now and apologise the same exact words when he ended things means he is doing this for me. If he was doing this for himself then why start contact and apologise the same words he did before.
Normal people say their peace and that's it... They don't need to try and make contact a year later. He was in an unstable place when I knew him changing jobs every few months which he still does now. I couldn't stand this instability and his insecure behaviour maybe that's the capricorn in me which prefers to be grounded and stable. He was shouting at me and very aggressive and that really scared me and I could not take anymore.
I have moved on, I just thought that some Taurus people hear could explain his character but it seems a few Taurus people here are just defending their kind and trying to blame me for overthinking it.
I did learn one thing with my Taurus ex, "it's his way or the highway". He will not consider discussing any issues i had with him. And that's fine for him. I met someone I can actually talk to and love with all my heart and soul.
If my ex is making contact after this past 14 months to see if I have been desperately waiting for his sorry ass, and to rub it in that he is about to embark on this new chapter of his life and getting married, well I don't care or want to know. He has his life and I have mine and there is no need trying to go to the past. He f*cked up bad and apologised the only way he could. No one asked he try to start contact back and if he is sorry the way he was before, you don't need to say sorry again after over a year
Oh we know why he sent that message, at least I know.
Any woman with experience has seen this reach out behavior before so this isn't rocket science, this behavior has been played and perfected.
The guy made it clear 14 months ago he didn't see himself being in a relationship with her, they said their goodbyes, he closed the door, she closed the door, and in typical selfish behavior he's trying to open that door back up again.
Do he really need to suggest/tell her he hope she's found someone as if she's such a loser at love...WTF
Correct me if I'm wrong Eva but I'm sure it didn't sit well with you that he really came back hoping you were happy and moved on. Like why the fuck does he care what she's doing 14 months later. Who does that?
Eva is right in my honest opinion, no need to open a door that was closed 14 months ago, given that he's attempting to reach out well it's rude and per my understanding he was rude to her 14 months prior which is one reason why the relationship didn't work to begin with.
Don't try to kick the door back open when you were the one who closed it to begin with. Move on fool.
Any woman with experience has seen this reach out behavior before so this isn't rocket science, this behavior has been played and perfected.
The guy made it clear 14 months ago he didn't see himself being in a relationship with her, they said their goodbyes, he closed the door, she closed the door, and in typical selfish behavior he's trying to open that door back up again.
Do he really need to suggest/tell her he hope she's found someone as if she's such a loser at love...WTF
Correct me if I'm wrong Eva but I'm sure it didn't sit well with you that he really came back hoping you were happy and moved on. Like why the fuck does he care what she's doing 14 months later. Who does that?
Eva is right in my honest opinion, no need to open a door that was closed 14 months ago, given that he's attempting to reach out well it's rude and per my understanding he was rude to her 14 months prior which is one reason why the relationship didn't work to begin with.
Don't try to kick the door back open when you were the one who closed it to begin with. Move on fool.
Hey tiki33,
My ex first sends me a Facebook friend request and I'm like what the hell is goin on and am I imagining this. I ignored the request at 10.30pm and next morning around 7.50am he starts emailing me saying
"hey, if you are reading this, I hope your not mad at me anymore, sorry for everything
hoping one day ull found someone better than me n appreciate u.."
When I got that I was like what the hell and why would you give a damn, your getting married in 2 months and should be focussed on the woman you will be marrying and not an ex that you never wanted anything to do with.
I have moved on with my amazing senior vp boyfriend and love him to bits as opposed to my nothing special ex...
Whatever made him do this out of the blue god only knows but thanks for your feedback and advice
My ex first sends me a Facebook friend request and I'm like what the hell is goin on and am I imagining this. I ignored the request at 10.30pm and next morning around 7.50am he starts emailing me saying
"hey, if you are reading this, I hope your not mad at me anymore, sorry for everything
hoping one day ull found someone better than me n appreciate u.."
When I got that I was like what the hell and why would you give a damn, your getting married in 2 months and should be focussed on the woman you will be marrying and not an ex that you never wanted anything to do with.
I have moved on with my amazing senior vp boyfriend and love him to bits as opposed to my nothing special ex...
Whatever made him do this out of the blue god only knows but thanks for your feedback and advice
You're welcome Eva..
Hopefully your silence will give him a clue that he should stop contacting you. I have a gut feeling he will pop up again but that's his problem and not something you should be concerned with.
Glad you appreciate the man you are currently involved with by not indulging in the Taurus man's BS.
Being happy/Happiness is the best way to say get lost.
Hopefully your silence will give him a clue that he should stop contacting you. I have a gut feeling he will pop up again but that's his problem and not something you should be concerned with.
Glad you appreciate the man you are currently involved with by not indulging in the Taurus man's BS.
Being happy/Happiness is the best way to say get lost.
Posted by LIb4Life
If he really found happiness, he wouldn't be contacting her after a year...PERIOD! Sounds to me like he really wasn't being truthful with himself and really wanted to know what she thought about his foul behavior. Besides, when I'm done with someone, I don't feel the need to ever contact them..especially if the break up was bad, so really...who's not over who? Also, the whole point of this website is to fellowship and ask questions, make comments and learn why certain signs act the way they do, so her creating this thread was perfectly ok. My question to you is...why are you here? you're doing the same thing..right? Just like I thought. The Ego and arrogance is like cocaine...It'a helluva drug.
This is a Taurus forum.
You're not a Taurus.
I gave her astrological advice from a Taurus perspective.
Clearly that's what she asked for.
Contrary to what individuals want to believe about Bulls, we do feel empathy. I have reached out to some of my exes and made amends if I felt that I was wrong or the cause of the demise in the relationship...but it doesn't mean I want to reunite with them...Get over yourself! Seriously. I find his actions quite noble if you ask me. Obviously he cared about her enough to let her go, to let her find someone who can love her the way she deserved to be loved, and to apologize for the way things ended. Nothing wrong with that.
Lib4life, you're a bit too emotional, clearly you were blinded by any rational approach that was taken in this situation.
But you're not a Bull...so then again, I digress..
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
/>More my read on it as well. Seemed to be a fairly noble thing, not an attempt at manipulation or about his ego. Why does a legitimate apology, a man expressing residual guilt, have to turn into some form of ego-based manipulation or hidden agenda? Of course you can still have someone on your mind that you wronged, a year later. You can still care about them as a person, want the best for them, and regret the way you treated them, *and* not have a hidden agenda in expressing that to them. I've done it before. I think the background factor in a lot of the comments here is just a bitterness and distrust towards men in general, due to past experiences. Its understandable but by no means is it necessarily the interpretive key to what is going on here.
I agree with you 100 percent.
But Eva (the OP) will continue with this pointless thread, seeking advice from non-Tauruses, and ignoring the advice from Tauruses who are giving her advice on this matter.
She's allegedly so-in-love with this Capricorn, but yet, she's giving this Taurus man energy by keeping this thread going.
Eva---
My question to you is.....
You were given astrological advice from Tauruses.
Absorb it, and let it sink in.
He felt remorse. Nothing more. Nothing less. Nothing to read into.
Why not just accept it, and make the conscious decision to accept his apology or remove him from your life permanently and move on?
He will be married in two months, whatever you decide will not change the outcome of events, so attempting to breathe life into this thread by reiterating his intentions will not benefit you.
I know deep down you want to believe that he wants you sexually or romantically, maybe then, the power will be delegated back to you. He's not happy. His poor unsuspecting fiance is clueless. He's a douche.
Sorry, but you're wrong.
He's actually quite noble.
And he's getting married in two months.
Find closure with this Taurus.
Make a decision. Forgive him or don't forgive him.
Embrace your Cappie.
And delete this thread.
My question to you is.....
You were given astrological advice from Tauruses.
Absorb it, and let it sink in.
He felt remorse. Nothing more. Nothing less. Nothing to read into.
Why not just accept it, and make the conscious decision to accept his apology or remove him from your life permanently and move on?
He will be married in two months, whatever you decide will not change the outcome of events, so attempting to breathe life into this thread by reiterating his intentions will not benefit you.
I know deep down you want to believe that he wants you sexually or romantically, maybe then, the power will be delegated back to you. He's not happy. His poor unsuspecting fiance is clueless. He's a douche.
Sorry, but you're wrong.
He's actually quite noble.
And he's getting married in two months.
Find closure with this Taurus.
Make a decision. Forgive him or don't forgive him.
Embrace your Cappie.
And delete this thread.
Taurusbull1977,
You are true to your kind and this is one reason why things did not work out with my ex Taurus. You see things your way only. Mite black or white and never gray.
If as you say that my ex was doing a noble thing, apologising with the same exact words over a year ago seems far from it. You try to be noble but end up being the same egotistical jerk you were before trying to taunt someone.
And just so you are aware, since I know my ex family 4 months ago when I was at a family dinner and he rocked up, he says to his cousin he doesn't want to be there because I was there. It seems what he is doing now is complete opposite of beig noble. He's just trying to be the ladies man he always was. Just checking to see if I have been waiting for him. Starting this thread was purely to get a viewpoint from other people in my situation that have been with a Taurus guy before
You are true to your kind and this is one reason why things did not work out with my ex Taurus. You see things your way only. Mite black or white and never gray.
If as you say that my ex was doing a noble thing, apologising with the same exact words over a year ago seems far from it. You try to be noble but end up being the same egotistical jerk you were before trying to taunt someone.
And just so you are aware, since I know my ex family 4 months ago when I was at a family dinner and he rocked up, he says to his cousin he doesn't want to be there because I was there. It seems what he is doing now is complete opposite of beig noble. He's just trying to be the ladies man he always was. Just checking to see if I have been waiting for him. Starting this thread was purely to get a viewpoint from other people in my situation that have been with a Taurus guy before
Eva you won't get your point across, bulls are beyond stubborn, Grandmother is a Taurus so I KNOW this per my own experience.
No matter how high the BS meter is there will be no yielding to any part of the bullshit that's going on with the ex Taurus.
Something that made me giggle is you've pointed out on your story that the ex Taurus was not a gentlemen, unstable, fiery temper that he took out on you so the word "noble" is not befitting to this topic LOL, not laughing at you, just that the word in and of itself is not a description to a apply to an unstable asshole.
The reaching out actually points to him being an unstable individual.
To assert to a cousin that he didn't want her and didn't want to be in the same space with her only to then turn around and send a "Hi hope your happy and moved on" text is absurd.
No matter how high the BS meter is there will be no yielding to any part of the bullshit that's going on with the ex Taurus.
Something that made me giggle is you've pointed out on your story that the ex Taurus was not a gentlemen, unstable, fiery temper that he took out on you so the word "noble" is not befitting to this topic LOL, not laughing at you, just that the word in and of itself is not a description to a apply to an unstable asshole.
The reaching out actually points to him being an unstable individual.
To assert to a cousin that he didn't want her and didn't want to be in the same space with her only to then turn around and send a "Hi hope your happy and moved on" text is absurd.
DO NOT listen to Taurusbull1977 she gives bad advice period. She cannot fathom that her "sign" is less than stellar in certain areas. And she usually gives the same advice to every female complaining about their bulls. The female is always wrong and Taurusbull white knighting for the bulls she doesnt even know. Like how can she vouch for or speak on the intentions of these guys? For she doesnt even know them.
Anywho great advice as always Tiki33!!
Anywho great advice as always Tiki33!!
Hi bkbella86 and tiki33,
My dad is a Taurus and is still a gentleman. He is stubborn as all Taurus men so I feel that I do have first hand experience of their kind. When my dad saw how I was feeling with my ex he could not respect him anymore
The breaking point was when I paid for a ticket to visit him overseas and seeing something wasn't right with him and he couldn't even say I don't want you to come here or ever see you again. I had to cancel my ticket which my dad was so upset with. Here is someone willing to make the time effort and spend their money for a $ 1000 ticket to visit him and I had to cancel it instead. From that point on my dad did not want anything to do with him.
Although my dad is stubborn and we argue over everything since dad does not budge, dad says he needs to teach me how to argue because no woman in his family is being raised a dumbo but needs to know how to question everything and answer back.
I wonder if taurusbull1977 response to every Taurus thread here is "move on and delete this thread" and "Taurus are noble beings".
Well the ear a lot of other signs here that also see thru the Taurus bullsh*t
My dad is a Taurus and is still a gentleman. He is stubborn as all Taurus men so I feel that I do have first hand experience of their kind. When my dad saw how I was feeling with my ex he could not respect him anymore
The breaking point was when I paid for a ticket to visit him overseas and seeing something wasn't right with him and he couldn't even say I don't want you to come here or ever see you again. I had to cancel my ticket which my dad was so upset with. Here is someone willing to make the time effort and spend their money for a $ 1000 ticket to visit him and I had to cancel it instead. From that point on my dad did not want anything to do with him.
Although my dad is stubborn and we argue over everything since dad does not budge, dad says he needs to teach me how to argue because no woman in his family is being raised a dumbo but needs to know how to question everything and answer back.
I wonder if taurusbull1977 response to every Taurus thread here is "move on and delete this thread" and "Taurus are noble beings".
Well the ear a lot of other signs here that also see thru the Taurus bullsh*t
@Eva...
This will be my last comment on this thread.
I really DO empathize with the Cappie that you're currently dating.
I hope he finds this thread, puts you out on your ass, and finds a woman who can truly appreciate him.
Your nose is still up this Bulls' behind!
I still can't believe that you have this thread going.
But please, do continue to male a fool of yourself, you will join the ranks of the pathetic [Insert B-Bella] who has been on this board for years obsessing over a Bull she can't have. Keep taking advice from bitter, lonely, miserable women. You have a Cappie. Rather than embrace it, and count your blessings that the universe has given you a seconds chance at finding love, you opted to derail this thread instead, didn't take anything constructive out of it, and opted for a more angry drama bulletin instead.
Take a long look at B-Bella, this will be you in the next years to come.
This will be my last comment on this thread.
I really DO empathize with the Cappie that you're currently dating.
I hope he finds this thread, puts you out on your ass, and finds a woman who can truly appreciate him.
Your nose is still up this Bulls' behind!
I still can't believe that you have this thread going.
But please, do continue to male a fool of yourself, you will join the ranks of the pathetic [Insert B-Bella] who has been on this board for years obsessing over a Bull she can't have. Keep taking advice from bitter, lonely, miserable women. You have a Cappie. Rather than embrace it, and count your blessings that the universe has given you a seconds chance at finding love, you opted to derail this thread instead, didn't take anything constructive out of it, and opted for a more angry drama bulletin instead.
Take a long look at B-Bella, this will be you in the next years to come.
Edit to add:
*male* = make a fool of yourself.
*male* = make a fool of yourself.
Bitchie please ^^^^^
Your just mad no one wants to take your bullshit advice. You bullshitter!
Thanx for keeping up with my love life tho....your a few dudes behind tho. keep up, you lazy bull you!
Your just mad no one wants to take your bullshit advice. You bullshitter!
Thanx for keeping up with my love life tho....your a few dudes behind tho. keep up, you lazy bull you!
He has unfinished business with you
You have unfinished business with him
Deal with it
You have unfinished business with him
Deal with it
In fact why don't you deal with it instead of coming here asking why. Instead of taking the advice of some random person who happens to share the same star sign, like that makes a difference, or listening to a man hater that will attribute every single horrible motive to any man because someone treetrunked her up a long time ago, here's an idea. Why don't you go and treetrunking talk to the guy, get it all out, tell him to treetrunk off or anything that comes to mind. You might even feel better for it. After all, what's going to happen? You're that weak that you can't control yourself around someone?
Posted by Eva
Tiziani,
If he was doing this for himself then surely when he said his peace over a year ago that would have been it. I never said him trying to contact me now and apologise the same exact words when he ended things means he is doing this for me. If he was doing this for himself then why start contact and apologise the same words he did before.
Normal people say their peace and that's it... They don't need to try and make contact a year later. He was in an unstable place when I knew him changing jobs every few months which he still does now. I couldn't stand this instability and his insecure behaviour maybe that's the capricorn in me which prefers to be grounded and stable. He was shouting at me and very aggressive and that really scared me and I could not take anymore.
I have moved on, I just thought that some Taurus people hear could explain his character but it seems a few Taurus people here are just defending their kind and trying to blame me for overthinking it.
I did learn one thing with my Taurus ex, "it's his way or the highway". He will not consider discussing any issues i had with him. And that's fine for him. I met someone I can actually talk to and love with all my heart and soul.
If my ex is making contact after this past 14 months to see if I have been desperately waiting for his sorry ass, and to rub it in that he is about to embark on this new chapter of his life and getting married, well I don't care or want to know. He has his life and I have mine and there is no need trying to go to the past. He f*cked up bad and apologised the only way he could. No one asked he try to start contact back and if he is sorry the way he was before, you don't need to say sorry again after over a year
"Normal people" don't come onto forums turning an few words from an email into a mini life story. This is all butter coming from your pride. You had a relationship with this guy, it ended badly he's just said sorry.
You still care, his email brought it to the surface. Yes there is a point going into the past, you have unfinished business. Are you going to let that sit on you and hold you back or are you going to take this opportunity that he's just given you to face and deal with it?
Gosh some people are so annoying ^^^^^^^
Eva the best advice here is from Tiki.
Eva the best advice here is from Tiki.
Take tiki's advice and she's guaranteed never to find out what's going on here and always wonder about it.
My advice is to follow up and find out, so, if it's as tiki has called it, with extremely LIMITED information, what has she lost?
Nothing.
Unless you're saying she's a weak incapable woman that can't deal with anything and somebody on a forum knows what's best. Is that the message you're giving her? Because not only is it annoying, it makes you a biscuitbeast to be inflicting your bitter on others.
My advice is to follow up and find out, so, if it's as tiki has called it, with extremely LIMITED information, what has she lost?
Nothing.
Unless you're saying she's a weak incapable woman that can't deal with anything and somebody on a forum knows what's best. Is that the message you're giving her? Because not only is it annoying, it makes you a biscuitbeast to be inflicting your bitter on others.
^^^^^^ I have my opinion and you have yours. After reading the thread i believe Tiki gave the best advice. Eva sounds like a smart women who will ultimately do whats best for her. Good day cookie.
Sometimes moving on from a relationship means putting to bed all those demons you couldn't put away first time at a time when both parties are ready. Mature adults do it all the time. It's perfectly normal.
What's not normal is harbouring all this resentment. It will eat you up and automatically turn you into someone that thinks the worst of people.
What's not normal is harbouring all this resentment. It will eat you up and automatically turn you into someone that thinks the worst of people.
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