Taurus men who ignore?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by ari0x823 on Thursday, May 2, 2013 and has 16 replies.
Posted by ari0x823
What is up with a taurus man who show they are interested in you one day then ignore you the next? It's confusing to me...is this a normal thing for a taurus man? I've never done anything but be the kind person I am to him...whats the deal? Does he know I like him so now he is backing away or something? I'm a taurus as well, I can relate, but this is just confusing.


Yes, very common. The short answer is that we are retarded.
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My Taurus friend is pulling away. Im thinking it stems from something that appears to have upset him last week. It was nearly daily contact thru text, now I can tell he's either struggling to keep in touch, or he gets to a point where he's still curious but he pulls away when i respond because he's just not feeling it like that anymore....or its just games. My assumptions btw. Part of me wants to ask him if something is bothering him, the other part of me doesnt want to even bother. Ill rather fallback and let him find a new pace since he "seems" slightly bothered by me or even "us" who knows. He'll initiate a text out of the blue, Ill respond no later than 10min later, and itll take him about 24hrs or more to respond back. Thats really no conversation. I keep wondering why he's even bothering, then I wonder if it bothers him that Im allowing this and not probing or trying to get to the bottom of it.. I figure Ill just let him figure it out and keep doing what I normally would.
My guess is they disappear when there is uncertainty.
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Posted by size zero superhero
Posted by lnana04
My guess is they disappear when there is uncertainty.


As irony would have it, they also inspire uncertainty by disappearing.
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Yep. And Im not the best at problem solving, but Ill ocassionally try if I care. He can make things impossible though. Even if I ask I wont get a straight answer and he'll most likely pull away even further. Its like problems on top of problems that could easily be solved so I just dont deal.
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Posted by size zero superhero
Again...par for the course with Taurus guys. Too stubborn to accept help, let alone ask for moral/emotional support when in need.


I just thought of something he shared with me a while back. Something that could be the cause of his more distant behavior, and it possibly could have very little to do with me. I really should ask if things are okay with him. Last time we got like this, and he was being snappy, I asked if things were alright because there seemed to be a miscommunication, and he told me the root of his issue which had absolutely nothing to do with me. Im not giving credit....he will reveal if asked. Im going try to nip this and ask tomorrow.
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size zero superhero: If it's not already obvious I've experienced this exact dilemma. Taurus guy & I are fond of each other, something comes of it...then nothing happens. Minimal to no contact for ages, until reaching out under a guise of "catching up". Asks whether I'm seeing anybody, decides to come clean about feelings & intentions. Needless to say, too little/too late. Sorry bro. The rest of humanity operates on another, more efficient time-zone than yourself. Tongue
>>>>Ouch, this hurt...hahahahahha.....
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I think seeing this behavior as a conscious "game" is a mistake though. I've never noticed myself making a conscious decision to play games in courtship, outside of my experience with a scorpio woman (she started that s h i t). Like robyn, I had to become aware of the "hot/cold" behavior, and truly wasn't aware of how it was being perceived. Once I saw it, I realized it was partially retarded and also hurtful. For myself, I typically and naturally just operate sooooo slowly in love and have been really frightened by how fast some of the women in my life have wanted to move forward (mostly Cancers, Leo, and Sag). I think at the root of moving so slow is a strong fear of rejection, fear of making the wrong decision when I know I bond very strongly and long-term, and fear of how devastating breakups can be/have been in my life.
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Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
I think seeing this behavior as a conscious "game" is a mistake though. I've never noticed myself making a conscious decision to play games in courtship, outside of my experience with a scorpio woman (she started that s h i t). Like robyn, I had to become aware of the "hot/cold" behavior, and truly wasn't aware of how it was being perceived. Once I saw it, I realized it was partially retarded and also hurtful. For myself, I typically and naturally just operate sooooo slowly in love and have been really frightened by how fast some of the women in my life have wanted to move forward (mostly Cancers, Leo, and Sag). I think at the root of moving so slow is a strong fear of rejection, fear of making the wrong decision when I know I bond very strongly and long-term, and fear of how devastating breakups can be/have been in my life.

totally agree with you as I am a Taurus myself . We want a relationship that will last long term so we are looking for "the one" rather than just a fling . . I'm also tasting my own medicine when my Taurus man doesn't reply or act totall interested then keep his distance !! Only consistent lovers that can wait for us . ! So if you really really want us . It's important to make it clear . It won't turn us off as long as you are being straight forward about it. We hate games and we only communicate with "the person" if we know there's a potential otherwise we wont waste time and you probably get a reject NO by either words or action Winking it's the one we really like that we seem to pull hot and cold on ".. My own experience only as I can't speak for all TaurusWinking
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Posted by robyn808
Having a relationship with another Taurus really gave me a dose of my own medicine. And gave me the perceptive from the other side.
If I'm really being honest with myself, and ask.. have I done that to other people? the simple answer is yes, I have. But I never realized it, or understood that was the perception I was giving them.
I think you know the answer, your just thinking about it in different shoes. But its the same damn shoes.

how was/is your relationship with a Taurus ? Im a tarus and is involved with one. We are cruising along in my own calls lol !
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Posted by size zero superhero

TYPICAL. I don't mean to sound dismissive, either.
Although I have yet to encounter a Taurus woman that pulls $ hlt on the regular, this retaliation-deliberation game has textbook Taurus male behavior written all over it.
Fortunately, you're not under any obligation to play along. This hot-and-cold treatment probably isn't that he finds your feelings for him intimidating per se. Chances are he's deliberating over the next step, when to take it and the best way to go about that. Bad news? The waiting period is indefinite.
If it's not already obvious I've experienced this exact dilemma. Taurus guy & I are fond of each other, something comes of it...then nothing happens. Minimal to no contact for ages, until reaching out under a guise of "catching up". Asks whether I'm seeing anybody, decides to come clean about feelings & intentions. Needless to say, too little/too late.Sorry bro. The rest of humanity operates on another, more efficient time-zone than yourself. Tongue



LMMMMMMAAAAAAOOOO
This is very accurate!
Sad...But true....
Bulls are slow-movers, and we do operate on our own time zone.
I guess we're under the impression that the rest of the world does this as well....
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Taurus will say "KEEP IN TOUCH ..."
As for myself ....... NOT!!! No time in my life for that! You're not that important!
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Posted by starlover
I have a Taurus male friend. He is a musician and has lots of women chase him. He and i have a totally platonic relationship. He pointed out a girl who came onto him and said she said *lets have some fun*. He said he totally lost respect for her for being so forward, but then went on to have sex with her. He told me he has two love lives *one with his penis, the other with his heart*. A couple of nights ago the girl was at his gig and he ignored her. I felt sad for her. He sat talking with me for a while and the girl and her friends were throwing dagger looks at me. They would never get that our spiritual connection transcends anything that could happen between the sheets.
He knows he and i will never have a sexual relationship, but we are very good friends. He tells me he hates himself for getting drunk and then having sex with women, but its just something he does.
I kind of worry for the woman he may settle with unless of course she captures his heart. I asked him what had happened to women being *mysterious* and what is with the *throw away* sex thing. He tells me he needs to be deeply spiritually connected with a woman to be interested and that young women today are hugely insecure
So the motto of the story ladies is, if you want to be respected and keep the attention of a Taurus man (and most men) dont give it away too easily. Show him you have a brain, heart and soul and not just a vagina



SO again the blame is on the woman...there have been stories on here of woman who were just as you described and still got shitted on by a taurus...your friend is an ass and as a friend how can you not tell him that? And women are insecure? what does that make him for taken advantage of someone who isnt 100 percent secure?
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Posted by size zero superhero
Posted by lnana04
My guess is they disappear when there is uncertainty.


As irony would have it, they also inspire uncertainty by disappearing.
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Has anyone here ... been "INSPIRED" by UNCERTAINTY ..... ???? OHHH Yeah! ... I'm REALLY inspired by someone who isn't reliable, and can't be counted on. (yawning...)
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In response what starlover said about waiting, i thought it was interesting that after I told my Taurus friend today that Im not ready for sex yet he said "no worry, theres no need to rush makes the sex better if you wait"
Now while I do think he respects me to an extent( i say to an extent because my words and actions are not always the same), i dont think its solely dependent on me waiting. I think time deepens the desire, but respect is moreso how you carry yourself and knowing what you want. If its to have sex, then its that, and not letting your actions make you feel insecure. We are all grown right?
Im not 100% buying that if i make him wait, and we dont have sex until next year, he'll have a ton of respect for me. He knows what i want regardless of whats said. Waiting is just that imho.
I think a woman should do what she wants, although i do think its better to let some type of feelings develop with earth signs beforehand.
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Posted by starlover
Hey ladies smile
Seems my good friend isnt an *ass* after all. He got a call midweek to be told he has a son! The girl didnt know how to tell him. He has dropped everything and decided to support his new family. He had told me a few weeks ago *i would love a wee family* and now it has happened. He told me the messing around was born out of feeling lost and not having a focus in his life. He went to see his new son today and is delighted. He is going to financially support him and wants to make a go of it with the mother. How many guys run away in this situaton?
I think he is a good Taurus man that needed some lessons....i am keeping my eye on him Winking


This doesn't erase the things he has done and up until recently. What your friend is, Is lucky. And he doesn't get any extra points from me for doing what is expected of him.
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Posted by size zero superhero
Again...par for the course with Taurus guys. Too stubborn to accept help, let alone ask for moral/emotional support when in need.


Pretty much a Yes .. A Taurus friend (30 years old) got arrested AGAIN in February .. a friggin COP magnet!! Generally, he 's good guy with good intentions .. but does not understand BOUNDARIES.
They have NO concept of it! He does as he pleases, no contracts, no agreements, no communication with local and gov authorities, to do what is the right thing. He plays his own game ... and continues to lose.
Why don't they ever smarten UP and GET with the program?
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Posted by starlover
We all do things we needed have done, this guy is stepping up to the plate, providing for his baby and making amends. Come on, we all know how many men RUN when committment is involved....he is turning his life aroun
What is up with that? He is big enough to realise he made mistakes and is now reforming..he is 26 for gods sake and what he has done is what a lot of young guys do?


YOur friend is still an ass...who would still continue to be an ass if he didnt find out about his kid...how is he such an upstanding gentlemen? YOu sound like you have tons of faith in this character, maybe you should have dated him. Still cant convince me.
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