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Oct 25, 2010Comments: 2 · Posts: 8822 · Topics: 132
My Taurus friend is pulling away. Im thinking it stems from something that appears to have upset him last week. It was nearly daily contact thru text, now I can tell he's either struggling to keep in touch, or he gets to a point where he's still curious but he pulls away when i respond because he's just not feeling it like that anymore....or its just games. My assumptions btw. Part of me wants to ask him if something is bothering him, the other part of me doesnt want to even bother. Ill rather fallback and let him find a new pace since he "seems" slightly bothered by me or even "us" who knows. He'll initiate a text out of the blue, Ill respond no later than 10min later, and itll take him about 24hrs or more to respond back. Thats really no conversation. I keep wondering why he's even bothering, then I wonder if it bothers him that Im allowing this and not probing or trying to get to the bottom of it.. I figure Ill just let him figure it out and keep doing what I normally would.
My guess is they disappear when there is uncertainty.
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I think seeing this behavior as a conscious "game" is a mistake though. I've never noticed myself making a conscious decision to play games in courtship, outside of my experience with a scorpio woman (she started that s h i t). Like robyn, I had to become aware of the "hot/cold" behavior, and truly wasn't aware of how it was being perceived. Once I saw it, I realized it was partially retarded and also hurtful. For myself, I typically and naturally just operate sooooo slowly in love and have been really frightened by how fast some of the women in my life have wanted to move forward (mostly Cancers, Leo, and Sag). I think at the root of moving so slow is a strong fear of rejection, fear of making the wrong decision when I know I bond very strongly and long-term, and fear of how devastating breakups can be/have been in my life.
Taurus will say "KEEP IN TOUCH ..."
As for myself ....... NOT!!! No time in my life for that! You're not that important!
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Oct 25, 2010Comments: 2 · Posts: 8822 · Topics: 132
In response what starlover said about waiting, i thought it was interesting that after I told my Taurus friend today that Im not ready for sex yet he said "no worry, theres no need to rush makes the sex better if you wait"
Now while I do think he respects me to an extent( i say to an extent because my words and actions are not always the same), i dont think its solely dependent on me waiting. I think time deepens the desire, but respect is moreso how you carry yourself and knowing what you want. If its to have sex, then its that, and not letting your actions make you feel insecure. We are all grown right?
Im not 100% buying that if i make him wait, and we dont have sex until next year, he'll have a ton of respect for me. He knows what i want regardless of whats said. Waiting is just that imho.
I think a woman should do what she wants, although i do think its better to let some type of feelings develop with earth signs beforehand.