Taurus MIA

I'll try to keep this short. My ex taurus and I have been talking again. I broke up with him 2 years ago and we've recently reconnected. We hung out again the other day and ended up sleeping together. During the sex he kept telling me we were really compatible, how much he missed me, still loved me, and that I was as perfect as I was the last time he saw me, etc. (idk if this is important but I thought it was cute... he initiated taking romantic pics together of us kissing and cuddling etc nothing inappropriate like nudity just normal coupley pics). The next morning we got some food, drove to my place, and hung out talking in the car. What we were came up and he said he likes me and isn't talking to anyone else but he wants to take things day by day because in the past our relationship would be on and off again and he wanted to take things slow so I agreed. He kissed me told me he loved me and then kissed my hand as I got out of the car. This was on a Saturday morning. Since then things had been good up until Tuesday night when he stopped responding to my texts. It's been two days and he hasn't texted me back. I'm confused as to why he would do that when things were going so good. Did he think he liked me but then realized it was just a nostalgic lay or did he just play me? Or is this what Taurus's do when they're taking things slow?

I swear I was supposed to see this 😂😂 is there something up with Taurus men? I had a wonderful weekend with mine and I noticed his texts were becoming a little distant but ignored it till yesterday I told him take time if he need it and I'm still here... well day one no Taurus lol... his emotions is fucking with him. After a week I would tell him to fuck off though. I don't deal with the dissapering mess. This is after a great weekend and making it official last week. Trust me they analyzing the hell out of it... and I'm a Taurus female so I know what he's feeling cause I felt it but women deal with it differently. Give him till the weekend. Or one week I would say.

Posted by bittercupcake
What's your sign OP? And his placements?

@TaurusinShania

As a Gemini moon, we tend to go through an influx of emotions on the daily and we're moody AF. I have days where I don't wish to talk, see, or know about anyone and I want people to leave me the hell alone. After that little episode is done and my anxiety has placated, I go back to how things were before and act nonchalant as if nothing happened. Give him time.

Thank you.,. This gave me a lot of insight I will do that. Thank you so much!

Posted by bittercupcake
What's your sign OP? And his placements?

@TaurusinShania

As a Gemini moon, we tend to go through an influx of emotions on the daily and we're moody AF. I have days where I don't wish to talk, see, or know about anyone and I want people to leave me the hell alone. After that little episode is done and my anxiety has placated, I go back to how things were before and act nonchalant as if nothing happened. Give him time.

He's a Taurus sun, Leo moon, Aquarius asc and I'm a Libra sun, cancer moon, and Aquarius asc! If you're curious about more on the charts let me know I'll look it up this is just all I can remember off the top of my head

Posted by TaurusInShania
I swear I was supposed to see this 😂😂 is there something up with Taurus men? I had a wonderful weekend with mine and I noticed his texts were becoming a little distant but ignored it till yesterday I told him take time if he need it and I'm still here... well day one no Taurus lol... his emotions is fucking with him. After a week I would tell him to fuck off though. I don't deal with the dissapering mess. This is after a great weekend and making it official last week. Trust me they analyzing the hell out of it... and I'm a Taurus female so I know what he's feeling cause I felt it but women deal with it differently. Give him till the weekend. Or one week I would say.

I don't know! I've read that they sometimes need space and a lot of time to really feel a developing relationship out before they dive in. I wasn't sure if it was that or just abandoning ship completely. It's weirdly comforting to know you're going through this too and I like your perspective! I'll give him a little more time like you said, thanks for the advice!

I don't want to be THAT guy, but are you positive this wasn't a "vengeance lay" aka retaliation? OR to put it more gently, are you sure he didn't have sex with your for some type of closure?

When you broke up with him he probably wasn't ready to call it quits. So he stubbornly pursued you as Taurus men tend to do. Then once he had you, he may have gotten everything that he wanted from you. The knowledge that he could get you back whenever he wanted might be all that he needs to move on from you.

The reason why I ask if this was possibly vengeance lay is because he got your hopes up only to seemingly ghost on you soon afterward. This is probably how he felt when you ended things with him. I've known Tauruses who could hold grudges that would rival a Scorpio's (they are opposites after all, two sides of the same coin). So I wouldn't be surprised if this was all designed to give him closure.

If that's not the case (and hopefully it's not), his feelings are probably mixed about you. When you left he wanted you back, but now that he has you, he may be second guessing how he feels. Tauruses don't like having their comfort disturbed or their loyalty tested. Once you lose a Taurus' trust, it's practically impossible to get it back. It's possible he simply doesn't trust you with his heart and now he's second guessing the situation.

The only thing you can do now is wait for him to respond back to you. You can't force anything by pursuing him further. He'll get back to you on his own time, so it's best that you busy yourself with other things.

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Posted by bittercupcake
What's your sign OP? And his placements?

@TaurusinShania

As a Gemini moon, we tend to go through an influx of emotions on the daily and we're moody AF. I have days where I don't wish to talk, see, or know about anyone and I want people to leave me the hell alone. After that little episode is done and my anxiety has placated, I go back to how things were before and act nonchalant as if nothing happened. Give him time.

He's a Taurus sun, Leo moon, Aquarius asc and I'm a Libra sun, cancer moon, and Aquarius asc! If you're curious about more on the charts let me know I'll look it up this is just all I can remember off the top of my head

Oh wow that's quite the hard aspects! Even you have it minus the Aquarius ASC. What's his Saturn and yours? Saturn is very important when it comes to commitment and duty.

As far as I can tell he has hard aspects with the ones you mentioned which causes a lot of contradiction and personal conflicting feelings, thoughts, and how he sees things. Plus they're all fixed so it won't be easy especially if his Saturn isn't in harmony with them. I will say to give him time. But based on your sun-moon there's going to be misunderstandings especially if your saturns or his aren't harmonious.

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His Saturn is in Pisces and mine is in Aries. Here's the rest of our charts too if it helps! Why do all those planets in his chart contradict?

His chart

Aquarius asc

Taurus sun

Leo moon

Gemini mercury

Aries Venus

Leo mars

Sagittarius Jupiter

Pisces Saturn

Aquarius Uranus

Capricorn Neptune

Scorpio Pluto

Gemini Lilith

Scorpio asc node

My chart

Aquarius rising

Libra sun

Cancer moon

Scorpio mercury

Sagittarius Venus

Sagittarius Mars

Aquarius Jupiter

Aries Saturn

Aquarius Uranus

Capricorn Neptune

Sagittarius Pluto

Virgo Lilith

Virgo asc node

Op, have you heard from him?

Posted by jeane
Op, have you heard from him?

Yes I texted him and he apologized for ignoring me and said he just needed time to figure things out. I asked what stuff and he said what he's doing with life, whether he's ready for a relationship, or if he feels like he can trust anyone. Untilmately he's decided he didn't know what to do because of a misunderstanding we had. He asked how many partners I had been with since we were apart and at first I said 1 but later on told him it was 3 and I wasn't completely honest because I thought he would think I was sleeping around. At the time he said it was okay but after letting it fester its suddenly something he can't overlook. I told him I'm sorry but he can't overlook it. He says its because people have lied to him in the past and it's fucked with his trust but it sucks that he's doing this to me like it really hurts. I feel like the truth is he had sex with me and then realized he didn't really like me as much as he thought he did. I called him out on that and he said what would be the point in him telling me all that sweet stuff if he just wanted to have sex it's advice logic. He's being vague about the whole thing and not directly saying he doesn't want anything just saying that he's unsure about what to do.

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Posted by jeane
Op, have you heard from him?

Yes I texted him and he apologized for ignoring me and said he just needed time to figure things out. I asked what stuff and he said what he's doing with life, whether he's ready for a relationship, or if he feels like he can trust anyone. Untilmately he's decided he didn't know what to do because of a misunderstanding we had. He asked how many partners I had been with since we were apart and at first I said 1 but later on told him it was 3 and I wasn't completely honest because I thought he would think I was sleeping around. At the time he said it was okay but after letting it fester its suddenly something he can't overlook. I told him I'm sorry but he can't overlook it. He says its because people have lied to him in the past and it's fucked with his trust but it sucks that he's doing this to me like it really hurts. I feel like the truth is he had sex with me and then realized he didn't really like me as much as he thought he did. I called him out on that and he said what would be the point in him telling me all that sweet stuff if he just wanted to have sex it's advice logic. He's being vague about the whole thing and not directly saying he doesn't want anything just saying that he's unsure about what to do.

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Tell him men say the sweet stuff all time before sex .... They think it's what women like to hear....words, words, words

I would let him go find himself and stand right back.....he sounds very confused

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Posted by jeane
Op, have you heard from him?

Yes I texted him and he apologized for ignoring me and said he just needed time to figure things out. I asked what stuff and he said what he's doing with life, whether he's ready for a relationship, or if he feels like he can trust anyone. Untilmately he's decided he didn't know what to do because of a misunderstanding we had. He asked how many partners I had been with since we were apart and at first I said 1 but later on told him it was 3 and I wasn't completely honest because I thought he would think I was sleeping around. At the time he said it was okay but after letting it fester its suddenly something he can't overlook. I told him I'm sorry but he can't overlook it. He says its because people have lied to him in the past and it's fucked with his trust but it sucks that he's doing this to me like it really hurts. I feel like the truth is he had sex with me and then realized he didn't really like me as much as he thought he did. I called him out on that and he said what would be the point in him telling me all that sweet stuff if he just wanted to have sex it's advice logic. He's being vague about the whole thing and not directly saying he doesn't want anything just saying that he's unsure about what to do.

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Sorry.

I can sort of understand where he is coming from. Lying didn't help.

I mean in truth, it's none of his business but the harsh reality is most men judge women by the number of partners they've had.

These guys are traditional and they are possessive. Knowing you've been with 3 guys would have driven him nutty.

Lying about it told him he couldn't trust you and if you so easily (at least in his mind) slept with 3 guys, what's to say you won't want to sleep with more and then lie about it? It's irrational and unfair but I think that's what you may be stuck with.

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Posted by jeane
Op, have you heard from him?

Yes I texted him and he apologized for ignoring me and said he just needed time to figure things out. I asked what stuff and he said what he's doing with life, whether he's ready for a relationship, or if he feels like he can trust anyone. Untilmately he's decided he didn't know what to do because of a misunderstanding we had. He asked how many partners I had been with since we were apart and at first I said 1 but later on told him it was 3 and I wasn't completely honest because I thought he would think I was sleeping around. At the time he said it was okay but after letting it fester its suddenly something he can't overlook. I told him I'm sorry but he can't overlook it. He says its because people have lied to him in the past and it's fucked with his trust but it sucks that he's doing this to me like it really hurts. I feel like the truth is he had sex with me and then realized he didn't really like me as much as he thought he did. I called him out on that and he said what would be the point in him telling me all that sweet stuff if he just wanted to have sex it's advice logic. He's being vague about the whole thing and not directly saying he doesn't want anything just saying that he's unsure about what to do.

Ugh, what a turd. I'm sorry. You should have asked him how many he has been with while you guys weren't together. I'm sure he has also been with girls and of course since he is a man that is just fine and dandy. Just drop him and don't look back.

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I did ask him before he asked me. He had only been with one