Taurus Relationship Timeline

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by BabyVirbra on Thursday, January 31, 2019 and has 28 replies.
I met my Taurus 2 months ago, and I LOVE everything about him! We text all day every day that we are apart. We have great chemistry, and our relationship is already very serious. I’m a Libra sun, so nothing makes me feel more complete than when I’m in a relationship.

I know that you can’t push a Taurus, you have to let them do things on their own time. I also understand that they’re slow with making decisions, so I was surprised at how quickly he’s committed to me.

So my question is, what sort of timeline might he take with next steps, such as moving in together?
Posted by BabyVirbra

I’m a Libra sun, so nothing makes me feel more complete than when I’m in a relationship.


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Posted by BabyVirbra

I’m a Libra sun, so nothing makes me feel more complete than when I’m in a relationship.


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Hahahaha thats so funny, its exactly what I was thinking!!
Posted by BabyVirbra

I met my Taurus 2 months ago, and I LOVE everything about him! We text all day every day that we are apart. We have great chemistry, and our relationship is already very serious. I’m a Libra sun, so nothing makes me feel more complete than when I’m in a relationship.

I know that you can’t push a Taurus, you have to let them do things on their own time. I also understand that they’re slow with making decisions, so I was surprised at how quickly he’s committed to me.

So my question is, what sort of timeline might he take with next steps, such as moving in together?
You cannot push but you can pull a taurus easily with the carrot. Thats your turf cause youre a libra. His ass is yours you just don know it yet.
Everyone has their own opinion about relationships. I’m not sensitive or offended if the thought of it makes you sick.

The whole point was that my Taurus guy didn’t waste any time at all in deciding he wanted to be in a relationship with me. He knows I’m stable, reliable, loyal, dedicated, and he is open, honest, comfortable and trusts me.

I don’t know how long it’s supposed to take for most Taureans to reach that point, but like I said, it’s been 2 months. So I didn’t think my question was far fetched or deserving of any sort of sarcasm or ridicule...I guess we’ll see if anybody has legit feedback on the matter.
i think if he has committed to you so quickly and you are complete now you are in a relationship, you should ask him to move in. i mean why wait? life is too short to wait around for things to happen.
Posted by aPiscesPrincess2

Be careful about moving in too fast though. I have a friend who's an Aqua and her Taurus bf moved in about a month or two after they met. And then a couple months later the Taurus decided things were moving too fast, moved out and decided to end the relationship all together.
Exactly. Hence why I don’t want to be the one to push that subject. I get that it’s difficult for them to adjust to (big) changes like that.

I’m not saying I think we should move in together after a few months. I just know that eventually living together is a determining factor as to whether or not the relationship is capable of moving forward to a life long commitment.
Posted by Skeleton

That Aries venus though..
...no Aries Venus in this scenario.

Taurus Sun, Mercury, and Venus. Cap moon. Aries Mars though...
Taurus are like a bull charging when they're into something/someone...but they do need to pace themselves otherwise they'll start to feel cornered if it all moves too quick too much. I say take it easy and enjoy your company, no need to talk about moving in yet....let him spend time at your place or you his casually but dont bring up the topic for now, let it unfold naturally.
Posted by aquatar1

Taurus are like a bull charging when they're into something/someone...but they do need to pace themselves otherwise they'll start to feel cornered if it all moves too quick too much. I say take it easy and enjoy your company, no need to talk about moving in yet....let him spend time at your place or you his casually but dont bring up the topic for now, let it unfold naturally.
Good feedback
Go as slow as humanly possible. Its WAY too soon to know any of this...plus he's gonna get scared real soon and disappear....be prepared...
Young libra, let me tell you the tale of a quick courtship that almost * burned out as fast as it begun.

My bull and i have now been togther 10 months...still not a long time in the scheme of things but we almpst didnt get there at all. Like your bull he came on super quickly, told me he loved me before we weven went on a date. Then we went on 3 dates within 2 weeks, talking about how im the "one", marriage, kids the whole nine yards. I met his family and friends a month in. Went on vaction upstate, hiked some mountains, i felt so loved and like i was on a cloud. Two months in, he got weird and distant. He stopped saying "i love you" (looking back i can see these red flags and how cringy it was). It was like we hit a brick wall going mac speed.

He just said tobme, we need to slow this down, and you need to follow my pace. I still want to be woth you, but things are just too quick . I had to oblige...yes i fought it a bit, yes i got a lil insecure and depressed becasue his whole demeanor just changed. But you know what? It brought us so much closer and his pace, was right.

We are extremely happy, and looking forward to the future. When it gets here, we arent rushing anything. I would have liked a home togther yesterday, but he is more practical and its a good balance. We are saving money now to buy a home NEXT year. Reasonable pace.

Whats my point? There will be a change pretty soon, all this quickness isn't sustainable. When that point comes, just roll with it, dont flip out. That will be how you lose him. Let him set the pace. Dont push, or prod, whine or throw a fit (i did all the above..but i wouldnt NOT reccomend it)

Im also sure this will happen a few more times through the course of our relationship, but i feel better prepared for ot now.
OP,

I would agree with you that living together is a great way to see how two people function together. If you're looking for a life partner, let's say someone to be with long term over the next 20 to 40 years, perhaps someone to marry, have children with etc then yes, living together is a smart 'next step' to take after you have both taken the time to build a solid foundation through dating each other.

I do not think it wise to rush through or ignore other key milestones in order to jump to your preferred milestone just because you think all will be well when you arrive there. Bypassing this crucial 'get to know you' stage because you feel that your boxes have already been ticked over a 60 day period is a false pretense, and frankly, a little naive. Even if you had a ten year history of friendship prior to dating it would only go towards building the first layer or two. I don't know what your history is but from your first post you indicate you have both achieved, during the last two months, a level of intimacy, knowledge, and comfort with each other that can take some couples a good few years or even decades to reach. If this is the case then I take my hat off to you both. However, logic and reasoning override me here and I would say that although you may think and feel you have compounded the first few glorious years together into an eight week nutshell and that you're ready to fast forward yourselves to the moving in stage, I would have to completely disagree with where you think you're at in this relationship.

I do think it is good that you have these things in mind. If it is your goal to be in a serious relationship then there is no point in dating someone who is not also serious. Same goes for wanting to eventually live with someone, get married, kids etc. If, during you're initial dating stage (which you're still in) you are able to express these goals and desires easily and he expresses the same goals and desires then, hurrah, you have an initial match.

As for when this is to happen, well, I would ask you what is the rush?

Are you around 40 years old and worried about your ovaries becoming redundant? If so, then in all honesty this is the only scenario I would think of where it may be more prudent to slightly speed up the milestones of dating and relationships.

If not, then I would suggest the following timeline although much is dependent on what your goals are, your ages, your work, living, and financial situation etc.

The first three dates. At this point you will know enough about this person to know whether you would like to spend more time with them. Mutual attraction, common interests, is there enough between you to continue building on?

The first three months of dating. At this point you will know the intentions of this person. Do their goals match yours? Are you looking for the same things from life? Are their words and actions matching? Can you communicate successfully with each other? Are you dating each other exclusively? Are you happy with physical intimacy? Is he floating your boat? Are there any boxes that are not ticked? Is he a fussy eater? Can he wash and cook and look after himself? Are there differences in outlook, culture, religion, politics, background? How important are these things to you, are any issues or differences deal breakers? Can any be overcome? At three months you have both invested time into each other but nothing is guaranteed. At this point you will know if there is enough to continue dating each other. Sometimes there may be a few doubts or a few areas of concern. After all, for the last three months you have both been on your best behaviour. It has been a honeymoon period and lots may have gone on. This is the point where if there are any major concerns or bad behaviour that you can easily call it a day.

At six months you may have met each others friends and family, spent more quality time together, said 'I love you' and be definate that your goals match. There still may be a few things that need ironing out but at six months the honeymoon period would be over and you would now be in the swing of a committed relationship and enjoying your time together. This is when you really start to see the person.

At one year in you may be taking your first holiday or long break away together. This is ideal because you get to spend a longer period of time alone with each other, 24/7 and will give you a good idea of how you may function together. You may be spending more time at each others places, shopping together, cooking together, planning things together. Doing all the mundane things that you will be doing for the next 40 years. How does that work out? This is where you need to pay attention to the practical side of things. Do you both pull your weight? Do you both clean, tidy, cook, do DIY, laundry, do you leave things around, do you say you'll do something but need reminding? Do you piss each other off? How do you solve disputes? How do you fit with each others family? All these things are important to look at before moving in and making that commitment but this is around the time that would be good to start considering living together. Perhaps have a discussion about it.

18 months to two years is when moving in would be considered good timing. After all, if you have moved through the above stages, give or take the timing, then you will know if this is something you both want and it gives you a chance to discuss how to go about it. Plus, it will give you both the best possible opportunity of success.

Moving in after two months or within six months, in my opinion, is way too soon. My fella moved in with me after about 15 to 16 months. I was 37 and he was 45. He rents his place out. We have lived together for two years come this April.and been together for just over three years. He's a Taurus with Venus in Aries. He knew he liked me from the start and pursued me consistently. However, he wanted a serious relationship but was in no rush and frankly, neither was I as I wanted to move through the dating stages and take my time as I felt I was too old to fuck it up this time round by blindly jumping in because I thought I just 'knew' it felt right. How many times do you think you just 'know' only to later realise you didn't know at all! I couldn't imagine moving in with someone so quickly.

Hopefully this may help you with your perspective and answer your question.

Posted by AgentP911

OP,

I would agree with you that living together is a great way to see how two people function together. If you're looking for a life partner, let's say someone to be with long term over the next 20 to 40 years, perhaps someone to marry, have children with etc then yes, living together is a smart 'next step' to take after you have both taken the time to build a solid foundation through dating each other.

I do not think it wise to rush through or ignore other key milestones in order to jump to your preferred milestone just because you think all will be well when you arrive there. Bypassing this crucial 'get to know you' stage because you feel that your boxes have already been ticked over a 60 day period is a false pretense, and frankly, a little naive. Even if you had a ten year history of friendship prior to dating it would only go towards building the first layer or two. I don't know what your history is but from your first post you indicate you have both achieved, during the last two months, a level of intimacy, knowledge, and comfort with each other that can take some couples a good few years or even decades to reach. If this is the case then I take my hat off to you both. However, logic and reasoning override me here and I would say that although you may think and feel you have compounded the first few glorious years together into an eight week nutshell and that you're ready to fast forward yourselves to the moving in stage, I would have to completely disagree with where you think you're at in this relationship.

I do think it is good that you have these things in mind. If it is your goal to be in a serious relationship then there is no point in dating someone who is not also serious. Same goes for wanting to eventually live with someone, get married, kids etc. If, during you're initial dating stage (which you're still in) you are able to express these goals and desires easily and he expresses the same goals and desires then, hurrah, you have an initial match.

As for when this is to happen, well, I would ask you what is the rush?

Are you around 40 years old and worried about your ovaries becoming redundant? If so, then in all honesty this is the only scenario I would think of where it may be more prudent to slightly speed up the milestones of dating and relationships.

If not, then I would suggest the following timeline although much is dependent on what your goals are, your ages, your work, living, and financial situation etc.

The first three dates. At this point you will know enough about this person to know whether you would like to spend more time with them. Mutual attraction, common interests, is there enough between you to continue building on?

The first three months of dating. At this point you will know the intentions of this person. Do their goals match yours? Are you looking for the same things from life? Are their words and actions matching? Can you communicate successfully with each other? Are you dating each other exclusively? Are you happy with physical intimacy? Is he floating your boat? Are there any boxes that are not ticked? Is he a fussy eater? Can he wash and cook and look after himself? Are there differences in outlook, culture, religion, politics, background? How important are these things to you, are any issues or differences deal breakers? Can any be overcome? At three months you have both invested time into each other but nothing is guaranteed. At this point you will know if there is enough to continue dating each other. Sometimes there may be a few doubts or a few areas of concern. After all, for the last three months you have both been on your best behaviour. It has been a honeymoon period and lots may have gone on. This is the point where if there are any major concerns or bad behaviour that you can easily call it a day.

At six months you may have met each others friends and family, spent more quality time together, said 'I love you' and be definate that your goals match. There still may be a few things that need ironing out but at six months the honeymoon period would be over and you would now be in the swing of a committed relationship and enjoying your time together. This is when you really start to see the person.

At one year in you may be taking your first holiday or long break away together. This is ideal because you get to spend a longer period of time alone with each other, 24/7 and will give you a good idea of how you may function together. You may be spending more time at each others places, shopping together, cooking together, planning things together. Doing all the mundane things that you will be doing for the next 40 years. How does that work out? This is where you need to pay attention to the practical side of things. Do you both pull your weight? Do you both clean, tidy, cook, do DIY, laundry, do you leave things around, do you say you'll do something but need reminding? Do you piss each other off? How do you solve disputes? How do you fit with each others family? All these things are important to look at before moving in and making that commitment but this is around the time that would be good to start considering living together. Perhaps have a discussion about it.

18 months to two years is when moving in would be considered good timing. After all, if you have moved through the above stages, give or take the timing, then you will know if this is something you both want and it gives you a chance to discuss how to go about it. Plus, it will give you both the best possible opportunity of success.

Moving in after two months or within six months, in my opinion, is way too soon. My fella moved in with me after about 15 to 16 months. I was 37 and he was 45. He rents his place out. We have lived together for two years come this April.and been together for just over three years. He's a Taurus with Venus in Aries. He knew he liked me from the start and pursued me consistently. However, he wanted a serious relationship but was in no rush and frankly, neither was I as I wanted to move through the dating stages and take my time as I felt I was too old to fuck it up this time round by blindly jumping in because I thought I just 'knew' it felt right. How many times do you think you just 'know' only to later realise you didn't know at all! I couldn't imagine moving in with someone so quickly.

Hopefully this may help you with your perspective and answer your question.



👏👏👏👏 excellent answer. This is really the obly reaponse needed. All other input is moot.

I think this is the most accurate thing i ever read and wholeheartedly agree!!
Posted by AgentP911

OP,

I would agree with you that living together is a great way to see how two people function together. If you're looking for a life partner, let's say someone to be with long term over the next 20 to 40 years, perhaps someone to marry, have children with etc then yes, living together is a smart 'next step' to take after you have both taken the time to build a solid foundation through dating each other.

I do not think it wise to rush through or ignore other key milestones in order to jump to your preferred milestone just because you think all will be well when you arrive there. Bypassing this crucial 'get to know you' stage because you feel that your boxes have already been ticked over a 60 day period is a false pretense, and frankly, a little naive. Even if you had a ten year history of friendship prior to dating it would only go towards building the first layer or two. I don't know what your history is but from your first post you indicate you have both achieved, during the last two months, a level of intimacy, knowledge, and comfort with each other that can take some couples a good few years or even decades to reach. If this is the case then I take my hat off to you both. However, logic and reasoning override me here and I would say that although you may think and feel you have compounded the first few glorious years together into an eight week nutshell and that you're ready to fast forward yourselves to the moving in stage, I would have to completely disagree with where you think you're at in this relationship.

I do think it is good that you have these things in mind. If it is your goal to be in a serious relationship then there is no point in dating someone who is not also serious. Same goes for wanting to eventually live with someone, get married, kids etc. If, during you're initial dating stage (which you're still in) you are able to express these goals and desires easily and he expresses the same goals and desires then, hurrah, you have an initial match.

As for when this is to happen, well, I would ask you what is the rush?

Are you around 40 years old and worried about your ovaries becoming redundant? If so, then in all honesty this is the only scenario I would think of where it may be more prudent to slightly speed up the milestones of dating and relationships.

If not, then I would suggest the following timeline although much is dependent on what your goals are, your ages, your work, living, and financial situation etc.

The first three dates. At this point you will know enough about this person to know whether you would like to spend more time with them. Mutual attraction, common interests, is there enough between you to continue building on?

The first three months of dating. At this point you will know the intentions of this person. Do their goals match yours? Are you looking for the same things from life? Are their words and actions matching? Can you communicate successfully with each other? Are you dating each other exclusively? Are you happy with physical intimacy? Is he floating your boat? Are there any boxes that are not ticked? Is he a fussy eater? Can he wash and cook and look after himself? Are there differences in outlook, culture, religion, politics, background? How important are these things to you, are any issues or differences deal breakers? Can any be overcome? At three months you have both invested time into each other but nothing is guaranteed. At this point you will know if there is enough to continue dating each other. Sometimes there may be a few doubts or a few areas of concern. After all, for the last three months you have both been on your best behaviour. It has been a honeymoon period and lots may have gone on. This is the point where if there are any major concerns or bad behaviour that you can easily call it a day.

At six months you may have met each others friends and family, spent more quality time together, said 'I love you' and be definate that your goals match. There still may be a few things that need ironing out but at six months the honeymoon period would be over and you would now be in the swing of a committed relationship and enjoying your time together. This is when you really start to see the person.

At one year in you may be taking your first holiday or long break away together. This is ideal because you get to spend a longer period of time alone with each other, 24/7 and will give you a good idea of how you may function together. You may be spending more time at each others places, shopping together, cooking together, planning things together. Doing all the mundane things that you will be doing for the next 40 years. How does that work out? This is where you need to pay attention to the practical side of things. Do you both pull your weight? Do you both clean, tidy, cook, do DIY, laundry, do you leave things around, do you say you'll do something but need reminding? Do you piss each other off? How do you solve disputes? How do you fit with each others family? All these things are important to look at before moving in and making that commitment but this is around the time that would be good to start considering living together. Perhaps have a discussion about it.

18 months to two years is when moving in would be considered good timing. After all, if you have moved through the above stages, give or take the timing, then you will know if this is something you both want and it gives you a chance to discuss how to go about it. Plus, it will give you both the best possible opportunity of success.

Moving in after two months or within six months, in my opinion, is way too soon. My fella moved in with me after about 15 to 16 months. I was 37 and he was 45. He rents his place out. We have lived together for two years come this April.and been together for just over three years. He's a Taurus with Venus in Aries. He knew he liked me from the start and pursued me consistently. However, he wanted a serious relationship but was in no rush and frankly, neither was I as I wanted to move through the dating stages and take my time as I felt I was too old to fuck it up this time round by blindly jumping in because I thought I just 'knew' it felt right. How many times do you think you just 'know' only to later realise you didn't know at all! I couldn't imagine moving in with someone so quickly.

Hopefully this may help you with your perspective and answer your question.

it's a very good answer agentp but i suspect at this stage of peak rose coloured glasses she might not be ready to hear logic at this point.

we've seen this before. a highly confident libra woman who will not and can not listen to reason. they are too busy telling themselves it's a love like most will never experience.
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Posted by AgentP911

OP,

I would agree with you that living together is a great way to see how two people function together. If you're looking for a life partner, let's say someone to be with long term over the next 20 to 40 years, perhaps someone to marry, have children with etc then yes, living together is a smart 'next step' to take after you have both taken the time to build a solid foundation through dating each other.

I do not think it wise to rush through or ignore other key milestones in order to jump to your preferred milestone just because you think all will be well when you arrive there. Bypassing this crucial 'get to know you' stage because you feel that your boxes have already been ticked over a 60 day period is a false pretense, and frankly, a little naive. Even if you had a ten year history of friendship prior to dating it would only go towards building the first layer or two. I don't know what your history is but from your first post you indicate you have both achieved, during the last two months, a level of intimacy, knowledge, and comfort with each other that can take some couples a good few years or even decades to reach. If this is the case then I take my hat off to you both. However, logic and reasoning override me here and I would say that although you may think and feel you have compounded the first few glorious years together into an eight week nutshell and that you're ready to fast forward yourselves to the moving in stage, I would have to completely disagree with where you think you're at in this relationship.

I do think it is good that you have these things in mind. If it is your goal to be in a serious relationship then there is no point in dating someone who is not also serious. Same goes for wanting to eventually live with someone, get married, kids etc. If, during you're initial dating stage (which you're still in) you are able to express these goals and desires easily and he expresses the same goals and desires then, hurrah, you have an initial match.

As for when this is to happen, well, I would ask you what is the rush?

Are you around 40 years old and worried about your ovaries becoming redundant? If so, then in all honesty this is the only scenario I would think of where it may be more prudent to slightly speed up the milestones of dating and relationships.

If not, then I would suggest the following timeline although much is dependent on what your goals are, your ages, your work, living, and financial situation etc.

The first three dates. At this point you will know enough about this person to know whether you would like to spend more time with them. Mutual attraction, common interests, is there enough between you to continue building on?

The first three months of dating. At this point you will know the intentions of this person. Do their goals match yours? Are you looking for the same things from life? Are their words and actions matching? Can you communicate successfully with each other? Are you dating each other exclusively? Are you happy with physical intimacy? Is he floating your boat? Are there any boxes that are not ticked? Is he a fussy eater? Can he wash and cook and look after himself? Are there differences in outlook, culture, religion, politics, background? How important are these things to you, are any issues or differences deal breakers? Can any be overcome? At three months you have both invested time into each other but nothing is guaranteed. At this point you will know if there is enough to continue dating each other. Sometimes there may be a few doubts or a few areas of concern. After all, for the last three months you have both been on your best behaviour. It has been a honeymoon period and lots may have gone on. This is the point where if there are any major concerns or bad behaviour that you can easily call it a day.

At six months you may have met each others friends and family, spent more quality time together, said 'I love you' and be definate that your goals match. There still may be a few things that need ironing out but at six months the honeymoon period would be over and you would now be in the swing of a committed relationship and enjoying your time together. This is when you really start to see the person.

At one year in you may be taking your first holiday or long break away together. This is ideal because you get to spend a longer period of time alone with each other, 24/7 and will give you a good idea of how you may function together. You may be spending more time at each others places, shopping together, cooking together, planning things together. Doing all the mundane things that you will be doing for the next 40 years. How does that work out? This is where you need to pay attention to the practical side of things. Do you both pull your weight? Do you both clean, tidy, cook, do DIY, laundry, do you leave things around, do you say you'll do something but need reminding? Do you piss each other off? How do you solve disputes? How do you fit with each others family? All these things are important to look at before moving in and making that commitment but this is around the time that would be good to start considering living together. Perhaps have a discussion about it.

18 months to two years is when moving in would be considered good timing. After all, if you have moved through the above stages, give or take the timing, then you will know if this is something you both want and it gives you a chance to discuss how to go about it. Plus, it will give you both the best possible opportunity of success.

Moving in after two months or within six months, in my opinion, is way too soon. My fella moved in with me after about 15 to 16 months. I was 37 and he was 45. He rents his place out. We have lived together for two years come this April.and been together for just over three years. He's a Taurus with Venus in Aries. He knew he liked me from the start and pursued me consistently. However, he wanted a serious relationship but was in no rush and frankly, neither was I as I wanted to move through the dating stages and take my time as I felt I was too old to fuck it up this time round by blindly jumping in because I thought I just 'knew' it felt right. How many times do you think you just 'know' only to later realise you didn't know at all! I couldn't imagine moving in with someone so quickly.

Hopefully this may help you with your perspective and answer your question.

it's a very good answer agentp but i suspect at this stage of peak rose coloured glasses she might not be ready to hear logic at this point.

we've seen this before. a highly confident libra woman who will not and can not listen to reason. they are too busy telling themselves it's a love like most will never experience.
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I heard a quote that said..."red flags are just flags when you wear rose colored glasses"
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Posted by jeane

Posted by AgentP911

OP,

I would agree with you that living together is a great way to see how two people function together. If you're looking for a life partner, let's say someone to be with long term over the next 20 to 40 years, perhaps someone to marry, have children with etc then yes, living together is a smart 'next step' to take after you have both taken the time to build a solid foundation through dating each other.

I do not think it wise to rush through or ignore other key milestones in order to jump to your preferred milestone just because you think all will be well when you arrive there. Bypassing this crucial 'get to know you' stage because you feel that your boxes have already been ticked over a 60 day period is a false pretense, and frankly, a little naive. Even if you had a ten year history of friendship prior to dating it would only go towards building the first layer or two. I don't know what your history is but from your first post you indicate you have both achieved, during the last two months, a level of intimacy, knowledge, and comfort with each other that can take some couples a good few years or even decades to reach. If this is the case then I take my hat off to you both. However, logic and reasoning override me here and I would say that although you may think and feel you have compounded the first few glorious years together into an eight week nutshell and that you're ready to fast forward yourselves to the moving in stage, I would have to completely disagree with where you think you're at in this relationship.

I do think it is good that you have these things in mind. If it is your goal to be in a serious relationship then there is no point in dating someone who is not also serious. Same goes for wanting to eventually live with someone, get married, kids etc. If, during you're initial dating stage (which you're still in) you are able to express these goals and desires easily and he expresses the same goals and desires then, hurrah, you have an initial match.

As for when this is to happen, well, I would ask you what is the rush?

Are you around 40 years old and worried about your ovaries becoming redundant? If so, then in all honesty this is the only scenario I would think of where it may be more prudent to slightly speed up the milestones of dating and relationships.

If not, then I would suggest the following timeline although much is dependent on what your goals are, your ages, your work, living, and financial situation etc.

The first three dates. At this point you will know enough about this person to know whether you would like to spend more time with them. Mutual attraction, common interests, is there enough between you to continue building on?

The first three months of dating. At this point you will know the intentions of this person. Do their goals match yours? Are you looking for the same things from life? Are their words and actions matching? Can you communicate successfully with each other? Are you dating each other exclusively? Are you happy with physical intimacy? Is he floating your boat? Are there any boxes that are not ticked? Is he a fussy eater? Can he wash and cook and look after himself? Are there differences in outlook, culture, religion, politics, background? How important are these things to you, are any issues or differences deal breakers? Can any be overcome? At three months you have both invested time into each other but nothing is guaranteed. At this point you will know if there is enough to continue dating each other. Sometimes there may be a few doubts or a few areas of concern. After all, for the last three months you have both been on your best behaviour. It has been a honeymoon period and lots may have gone on. This is the point where if there are any major concerns or bad behaviour that you can easily call it a day.

At six months you may have met each others friends and family, spent more quality time together, said 'I love you' and be definate that your goals match. There still may be a few things that need ironing out but at six months the honeymoon period would be over and you would now be in the swing of a committed relationship and enjoying your time together. This is when you really start to see the person.

At one year in you may be taking your first holiday or long break away together. This is ideal because you get to spend a longer period of time alone with each other, 24/7 and will give you a good idea of how you may function together. You may be spending more time at each others places, shopping together, cooking together, planning things together. Doing all the mundane things that you will be doing for the next 40 years. How does that work out? This is where you need to pay attention to the practical side of things. Do you both pull your weight? Do you both clean, tidy, cook, do DIY, laundry, do you leave things around, do you say you'll do something but need reminding? Do you piss each other off? How do you solve disputes? How do you fit with each others family? All these things are important to look at before moving in and making that commitment but this is around the time that would be good to start considering living together. Perhaps have a discussion about it.

18 months to two years is when moving in would be considered good timing. After all, if you have moved through the above stages, give or take the timing, then you will know if this is something you both want and it gives you a chance to discuss how to go about it. Plus, it will give you both the best possible opportunity of success.

Moving in after two months or within six months, in my opinion, is way too soon. My fella moved in with me after about 15 to 16 months. I was 37 and he was 45. He rents his place out. We have lived together for two years come this April.and been together for just over three years. He's a Taurus with Venus in Aries. He knew he liked me from the start and pursued me consistently. However, he wanted a serious relationship but was in no rush and frankly, neither was I as I wanted to move through the dating stages and take my time as I felt I was too old to fuck it up this time round by blindly jumping in because I thought I just 'knew' it felt right. How many times do you think you just 'know' only to later realise you didn't know at all! I couldn't imagine moving in with someone so quickly.

Hopefully this may help you with your perspective and answer your question.

it's a very good answer agentp but i suspect at this stage of peak rose coloured glasses she might not be ready to hear logic at this point.

we've seen this before. a highly confident libra woman who will not and can not listen to reason. they are too busy telling themselves it's a love like most will never experience.


I heard a quote that said..."red flags are just flags when you wear rose colored glasses"
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i like that. that's very good.
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Posted by AgentP911

OP,

I would agree with you that living together is a great way to see how two people function together. If you're looking for a life partner, let's say someone to be with long term over the next 20 to 40 years, perhaps someone to marry, have children with etc then yes, living together is a smart 'next step' to take after you have both taken the time to build a solid foundation through dating each other.

I do not think it wise to rush through or ignore other key milestones in order to jump to your preferred milestone just because you think all will be well when you arrive there. Bypassing this crucial 'get to know you' stage because you feel that your boxes have already been ticked over a 60 day period is a false pretense, and frankly, a little naive. Even if you had a ten year history of friendship prior to dating it would only go towards building the first layer or two. I don't know what your history is but from your first post you indicate you have both achieved, during the last two months, a level of intimacy, knowledge, and comfort with each other that can take some couples a good few years or even decades to reach. If this is the case then I take my hat off to you both. However, logic and reasoning override me here and I would say that although you may think and feel you have compounded the first few glorious years together into an eight week nutshell and that you're ready to fast forward yourselves to the moving in stage, I would have to completely disagree with where you think you're at in this relationship.

I do think it is good that you have these things in mind. If it is your goal to be in a serious relationship then there is no point in dating someone who is not also serious. Same goes for wanting to eventually live with someone, get married, kids etc. If, during you're initial dating stage (which you're still in) you are able to express these goals and desires easily and he expresses the same goals and desires then, hurrah, you have an initial match.

As for when this is to happen, well, I would ask you what is the rush?

Are you around 40 years old and worried about your ovaries becoming redundant? If so, then in all honesty this is the only scenario I would think of where it may be more prudent to slightly speed up the milestones of dating and relationships.

If not, then I would suggest the following timeline although much is dependent on what your goals are, your ages, your work, living, and financial situation etc.

The first three dates. At this point you will know enough about this person to know whether you would like to spend more time with them. Mutual attraction, common interests, is there enough between you to continue building on?

The first three months of dating. At this point you will know the intentions of this person. Do their goals match yours? Are you looking for the same things from life? Are their words and actions matching? Can you communicate successfully with each other? Are you dating each other exclusively? Are you happy with physical intimacy? Is he floating your boat? Are there any boxes that are not ticked? Is he a fussy eater? Can he wash and cook and look after himself? Are there differences in outlook, culture, religion, politics, background? How important are these things to you, are any issues or differences deal breakers? Can any be overcome? At three months you have both invested time into each other but nothing is guaranteed. At this point you will know if there is enough to continue dating each other. Sometimes there may be a few doubts or a few areas of concern. After all, for the last three months you have both been on your best behaviour. It has been a honeymoon period and lots may have gone on. This is the point where if there are any major concerns or bad behaviour that you can easily call it a day.

At six months you may have met each others friends and family, spent more quality time together, said 'I love you' and be definate that your goals match. There still may be a few things that need ironing out but at six months the honeymoon period would be over and you would now be in the swing of a committed relationship and enjoying your time together. This is when you really start to see the person.

At one year in you may be taking your first holiday or long break away together. This is ideal because you get to spend a longer period of time alone with each other, 24/7 and will give you a good idea of how you may function together. You may be spending more time at each others places, shopping together, cooking together, planning things together. Doing all the mundane things that you will be doing for the next 40 years. How does that work out? This is where you need to pay attention to the practical side of things. Do you both pull your weight? Do you both clean, tidy, cook, do DIY, laundry, do you leave things around, do you say you'll do something but need reminding? Do you piss each other off? How do you solve disputes? How do you fit with each others family? All these things are important to look at before moving in and making that commitment but this is around the time that would be good to start considering living together. Perhaps have a discussion about it.

18 months to two years is when moving in would be considered good timing. After all, if you have moved through the above stages, give or take the timing, then you will know if this is something you both want and it gives you a chance to discuss how to go about it. Plus, it will give you both the best possible opportunity of success.

Moving in after two months or within six months, in my opinion, is way too soon. My fella moved in with me after about 15 to 16 months. I was 37 and he was 45. He rents his place out. We have lived together for two years come this April.and been together for just over three years. He's a Taurus with Venus in Aries. He knew he liked me from the start and pursued me consistently. However, he wanted a serious relationship but was in no rush and frankly, neither was I as I wanted to move through the dating stages and take my time as I felt I was too old to fuck it up this time round by blindly jumping in because I thought I just 'knew' it felt right. How many times do you think you just 'know' only to later realise you didn't know at all! I couldn't imagine moving in with someone so quickly.

Hopefully this may help you with your perspective and answer your question.

it's a very good answer agentp but i suspect at this stage of peak rose coloured glasses she might not be ready to hear logic at this point.

we've seen this before. a highly confident libra woman who will not and can not listen to reason. they are too busy telling themselves it's a love like most will never experience.
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Say what you want about other Libra’s, Jeane. I am also on the Virgo cusp (hence Virbra), and therefore very logical in how I approach life. This is exactly the sort of answer I was looking for.

I never once said I was trying to rush things with my Taurus, or that I want to move in with him right now. I just wanted a straight up answer about what timeline I could logically be looking at to better prepare myself.

Thank you, AgentP, that was a beautifully detailed and thorough answer to my question. I really appreciate you taking the time to respond.
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Say what you want about other Libra’s, Jeane. I am also on the Virgo cusp (hence Virbra), and therefore very logical in how I approach life. This is exactly the sort of answer I was looking for.

I never once said I was trying to rush things with my Taurus, or that I want to move in with him right now. I just wanted a straight up answer about what timeline I could logically be looking at to better prepare myself.

that's bullshit. you asked the question because you are ready to start counting down the days.

you've already got it arranged it your mind.

- i LOVE everything about him!

- our relationship is already very serious

- nothing makes me feel complete than when i am in a relationship

- (preamble about how cautious taurus is but, this is different because) i was surprised at how quickly he has committed to me

- my Taurus guy didn’t waste any time at all in deciding he wanted to be in a relationship with me.

- I’m stable, reliable, loyal, dedicated, and he is open, honest, comfortable and trusts me.

- ...the next steps, such as moving in together

that you think the next step is to move in shows you don't know that the next step isn't to move together but to actually get to know each other. it's to hit some bumps in the road and see if you can work through them.

nothing in what you wrote is logical.

if you were being logical you wouldn't say you love everything about him. you don't know him yet.

if you were being logical you wouldn't ask strangers about a person's thinking that none of us know.

if you were being logical you would realise that 2 months in is a time of extreme feelings in a relationship and as such not to be relied upon.

if you were being logical you would realise that ticking off an internet checklist of zodiac compatibility is not enough to ensure a long lasting relationship.

if you were being logical you would be cautious about his actions as well.

instead you getting carried away and are picking out curtains already.

don't kid a kidder.
Posted by jeane

Posted by BabyVirbra

Say what you want about other Libra’s, Jeane. I am also on the Virgo cusp (hence Virbra), and therefore very logical in how I approach life. This is exactly the sort of answer I was looking for.

I never once said I was trying to rush things with my Taurus, or that I want to move in with him right now. I just wanted a straight up answer about what timeline I could logically be looking at to better prepare myself.

that's bullshit. you asked the question because you are ready to start counting down the days.

you've already got it arranged it your mind.

- i LOVE everything about him!

- our relationship is already very serious

- nothing makes me feel complete than when i am in a relationship

- (preamble about how cautious taurus is but, this is different because) i was surprised at how quickly he has committed to me

- my Taurus guy didn’t waste any time at all in deciding he wanted to be in a relationship with me.

- I’m stable, reliable, loyal, dedicated, and he is open, honest, comfortable and trusts me.

- ...the next steps, such as moving in together

that you think the next step is to move in shows you don't know that the next step isn't to move together but to actually get to know each other. it's to hit some bumps in the road and see if you can work through them.

nothing in what you wrote is logical.

if you were being logical you wouldn't say you love everything about him. you don't know him yet.

if you were being logical you wouldn't ask strangers about a person's thinking that none of us know.

if you were being logical you would realise that 2 months in is a time of extreme feelings in a relationship and as such not to be relied upon.

if you were being logical you would realise that ticking off an internet checklist of zodiac compatibility is not enough to ensure a long lasting relationship.

if you were being logical you would be cautious about his actions as well.

instead you getting carried away and are picking out curtains already.

don't kid a kidder.
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Posted by jeane

Posted by BabyVirbra

Say what you want about other Libra’s, Jeane. I am also on the Virgo cusp (hence Virbra), and therefore very logical in how I approach life. This is exactly the sort of answer I was looking for.

I never once said I was trying to rush things with my Taurus, or that I want to move in with him right now. I just wanted a straight up answer about what timeline I could logically be looking at to better prepare myself.

that's bullshit. you asked the question because you are ready to start counting down the days.

you've already got it arranged it your mind.

- i LOVE everything about him!

- our relationship is already very serious

- nothing makes me feel complete than when i am in a relationship

- (preamble about how cautious taurus is but, this is different because) i was surprised at how quickly he has committed to me

- my Taurus guy didn’t waste any time at all in deciding he wanted to be in a relationship with me.

- I’m stable, reliable, loyal, dedicated, and he is open, honest, comfortable and trusts me.

- ...the next steps, such as moving in together

that you think the next step is to move in shows you don't know that the next step isn't to move together but to actually get to know each other. it's to hit some bumps in the road and see if you can work through them.

nothing in what you wrote is logical.

if you were being logical you wouldn't say you love everything about him. you don't know him yet.

if you were being logical you wouldn't ask strangers about a person's thinking that none of us know.

if you were being logical you would realise that 2 months in is a time of extreme feelings in a relationship and as such not to be relied upon.

if you were being logical you would realise that ticking off an internet checklist of zodiac compatibility is not enough to ensure a long lasting relationship.

if you were being logical you would be cautious about his actions as well.

instead you getting carried away and are picking out curtains already.

don't kid a kidder.
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Um. Okay. You’re going to believe what you want regardless of what I say.

I didn’t come on here to fight with anyone, simply to ask for a typical dating/relationship/commitment timeline with a Taurus male, which AgentP provided without judgement.
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Posted by jeane

Posted by BabyVirbra

Say what you want about other Libra’s, Jeane. I am also on the Virgo cusp (hence Virbra), and therefore very logical in how I approach life. This is exactly the sort of answer I was looking for.

I never once said I was trying to rush things with my Taurus, or that I want to move in with him right now. I just wanted a straight up answer about what timeline I could logically be looking at to better prepare myself.

that's bullshit. you asked the question because you are ready to start counting down the days.

you've already got it arranged it your mind.

- i LOVE everything about him!

- our relationship is already very serious

- nothing makes me feel complete than when i am in a relationship

- (preamble about how cautious taurus is but, this is different because) i was surprised at how quickly he has committed to me

- my Taurus guy didn’t waste any time at all in deciding he wanted to be in a relationship with me.

- I’m stable, reliable, loyal, dedicated, and he is open, honest, comfortable and trusts me.

- ...the next steps, such as moving in together

that you think the next step is to move in shows you don't know that the next step isn't to move together but to actually get to know each other. it's to hit some bumps in the road and see if you can work through them.

nothing in what you wrote is logical.

if you were being logical you wouldn't say you love everything about him. you don't know him yet.

if you were being logical you wouldn't ask strangers about a person's thinking that none of us know.

if you were being logical you would realise that 2 months in is a time of extreme feelings in a relationship and as such not to be relied upon.

if you were being logical you would realise that ticking off an internet checklist of zodiac compatibility is not enough to ensure a long lasting relationship.

if you were being logical you would be cautious about his actions as well.

instead you getting carried away and are picking out curtains already.

don't kid a kidder.
Um. Okay. You’re going to believe what you want regardless of what I say.

I didn’t come on here to fight with anyone, simply to ask for a typical dating/relationship/commitment timeline with a Taurus male, which AgentP provided without judgement.
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I've not judged you nor am I fighting. I've called out factual inaccuracies in your posts.

You are not being honest.
Posted by jeane

Posted by BabyVirbra

Posted by jeane

Posted by BabyVirbra

Say what you want about other Libra’s, Jeane. I am also on the Virgo cusp (hence Virbra), and therefore very logical in how I approach life. This is exactly the sort of answer I was looking for.

I never once said I was trying to rush things with my Taurus, or that I want to move in with him right now. I just wanted a straight up answer about what timeline I could logically be looking at to better prepare myself.

that's bullshit. you asked the question because you are ready to start counting down the days.

you've already got it arranged it your mind.

- i LOVE everything about him!

- our relationship is already very serious

- nothing makes me feel complete than when i am in a relationship

- (preamble about how cautious taurus is but, this is different because) i was surprised at how quickly he has committed to me

- my Taurus guy didn’t waste any time at all in deciding he wanted to be in a relationship with me.

- I’m stable, reliable, loyal, dedicated, and he is open, honest, comfortable and trusts me.

- ...the next steps, such as moving in together

that you think the next step is to move in shows you don't know that the next step isn't to move together but to actually get to know each other. it's to hit some bumps in the road and see if you can work through them.

nothing in what you wrote is logical.

if you were being logical you wouldn't say you love everything about him. you don't know him yet.

if you were being logical you wouldn't ask strangers about a person's thinking that none of us know.

if you were being logical you would realise that 2 months in is a time of extreme feelings in a relationship and as such not to be relied upon.

if you were being logical you would realise that ticking off an internet checklist of zodiac compatibility is not enough to ensure a long lasting relationship.

if you were being logical you would be cautious about his actions as well.

instead you getting carried away and are picking out curtains already.

don't kid a kidder.
Um. Okay. You’re going to believe what you want regardless of what I say.

I didn’t come on here to fight with anyone, simply to ask for a typical dating/relationship/commitment timeline with a Taurus male, which AgentP provided without judgement.
I've not judged you nor am I fighting. I've called out factual inaccuracies in your posts.

You are not being honest.
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You don’t know me. You don’t know what I’ve been through in life. So it’s not your place to say how I am going to take AgentP’s and others helpful answers to my question.

You assumed that I will not and cannot listen to logic or reason in my state of “peak rose colored glasses”. I can be excited and optimistic about this relationship, while also being logical and realistic about how to proceed.

I asked a question to get an insightful answer and to take something from it. So, that’s what I’m going to do. Thanks.
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Posted by jeane

Posted by BabyVirbra

Posted by jeane

Posted by BabyVirbra

Say what you want about other Libra’s, Jeane. I am also on the Virgo cusp (hence Virbra), and therefore very logical in how I approach life. This is exactly the sort of answer I was looking for.

I never once said I was trying to rush things with my Taurus, or that I want to move in with him right now. I just wanted a straight up answer about what timeline I could logically be looking at to better prepare myself.

that's bullshit. you asked the question because you are ready to start counting down the days.

you've already got it arranged it your mind.

- i LOVE everything about him!

- our relationship is already very serious

- nothing makes me feel complete than when i am in a relationship

- (preamble about how cautious taurus is but, this is different because) i was surprised at how quickly he has committed to me

- my Taurus guy didn’t waste any time at all in deciding he wanted to be in a relationship with me.

- I’m stable, reliable, loyal, dedicated, and he is open, honest, comfortable and trusts me.

- ...the next steps, such as moving in together

that you think the next step is to move in shows you don't know that the next step isn't to move together but to actually get to know each other. it's to hit some bumps in the road and see if you can work through them.

nothing in what you wrote is logical.

if you were being logical you wouldn't say you love everything about him. you don't know him yet.

if you were being logical you wouldn't ask strangers about a person's thinking that none of us know.

if you were being logical you would realise that 2 months in is a time of extreme feelings in a relationship and as such not to be relied upon.

if you were being logical you would realise that ticking off an internet checklist of zodiac compatibility is not enough to ensure a long lasting relationship.

if you were being logical you would be cautious about his actions as well.

instead you getting carried away and are picking out curtains already.

don't kid a kidder.
Um. Okay. You’re going to believe what you want regardless of what I say.

I didn’t come on here to fight with anyone, simply to ask for a typical dating/relationship/commitment timeline with a Taurus male, which AgentP provided without judgement.
I've not judged you nor am I fighting. I've called out factual inaccuracies in your posts.

You are not being honest.
You don’t know me. You don’t know what I’ve been through in life. So it’s not your place to say how I am going to take AgentP’s and others helpful answers to my question.

You assumed that I will not and cannot listen to logic or reason in my state of “peak rose colored glasses”. I can be excited and optimistic about this relationship, while also being logical and realistic about how to proceed.

I asked a question to get an insightful answer and to take something from it. So, that’s what I’m going to do. Thanks.
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Sigh. Yes we are all victims.

At least have the conviction of your words without resorting to trying to illicit sympathy as a last ditch attempt.

"You don't know what I've been through." Smh.
anyway go in peace and love. enjoy your relationship.

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Moving in together after two months is like playing house. You’re shaking up. It’s way too soon. I’d wait if i were you.
Posted by Arielle83

Is this timeline so you know how to speed through to getting some sort of life in order?
No. I’m realizing I should have worded my initial question differently. It was misconstrued that I’m in a hurry to move things along, when I really just wanted to know what I might expect from a Taurus (as opposed to, say, an Aries) in how they progress through stages of a relationship.

I’d read that Taurus are slow with everything they do, so I wasn’t sure what to expect if things were already getting serious with my Taurus guy. But I’ve gotten some great feedback on that already, and won’t be surprised if he really slows things down or distances himself a bit more soon. Either way, I’m letting him go at his own pace.
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Posted by Arielle83

Is this timeline so you know how to speed through to getting some sort of life in order?
No. I’m realizing I should have worded my initial question differently. It was misconstrued that I’m in a hurry to move things along, when I really just wanted to know what I might expect from a Taurus (as opposed to, say, an Aries) in how they progress through stages of a relationship.

I’d read that Taurus are slow with everything they do, so I wasn’t sure what to expect if things were already getting serious with my Taurus guy. But I’ve gotten some great feedback on that already, and won’t be surprised if he really slows things down or distances himself a bit more soon. Either way, I’m letting him go at his own pace.
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You have learned and taken advice from this thread. Very good.

Best of luck!